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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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What are the effects of a broken family on children?
Opinions from some of our contributors:
- Some kids get made fun of and have no friends. It really brings kids down, when you come home and you see your parents fighting. Children of broken families may go on to have commitment issues.
- Children from broken families are nearly five times more likely to suffer damaging mental troubles than those whose parents stay together, government research has found. It also showed that two parents are much better than one if children are to avoid slipping into emotional distress and anti-social behaviour. The findings say that children's family backgrounds are as important - if not more so - than whether their home is poor, workless, has bad health, or has no one with any educational qualifications.
- Very serious especially if the parents don't get along. Insecurity, instability, problems in school, at home, etc. Counseling is always helpful, someone non-biased so the child feels they can trust someone. Children that come from broken families will most likely have a difficult time in life, struggle and turn to drug abuse or other negative behavior. Getting help may be helpful but it won't help as much. The parents are in control. Kids need a mom and dad bottom line. if both parents don't get along, that will have an effect on the children, period. No schooling or organztion can help fully. I see kids growing up as doctors, lawyers or other professional professions because at childhood they were bought up with values and parents took control. Also if i may add, children who come from professional backgrounds can be easliy influenced and most likely to succeeedin there field.
- The child can be withdrawn, sad and even act violently towards minor irritations. Each situation is different - but watch for behavioral changes - at home - at school and with friends. A child in this situation needs A LOT of LOVE and EXTRA ATTENTION.
How do you get someone elses girlfriend?
You don't!
get into the same things as her and flirt with her when your girlfriends not there. If she doesn't cos she doesn't want to hurt her sister then get them to fight with each other and then she might go out with you to get back at her. Or if your gilfriend gets on with her sister then she might go on about how good you are at snoggin! lol good luck...! and what d'ya mean you don't- every boy likes his girlfriends sister! lol
If you still like your ex but your friend does too and he likes her what do you do?
- You have a girlfriend and that is all that counts. Let your ex girlfriend know right off the bat that you are not interested in her other than a friend and then leave the rest up to your friend to ask your ex out. Other than straightening things out with your ex girlfriend stay out of it and just enjoy your time with your present girlfriend.
How do you tell your boyfriend that you need a break?
Be honest, polite and empathetic. Simply tell her the relationship is not working for you and it is best for both of you to part ways. She may be hurt at this time and will possibly cry and try to carry this topic on - breakups can be drawn out, keep it simple, to the point and walk away. Unfortunately it doesn't sound very good and may seem short but there is just no easy way to break up. And this is a females point of view. Good Luck. just say "i dont want to go out with u anymore''
What does it mean when your ex wont give you your things back?
He could be hurt, sad, embarassed where the breakup is concerned and not giving a second thought to your stuff yet unless he has got rid of your stuff. He could also just being ignorant and wanting to be like this as a type of getting back at you. If it is stuff that can be replaced and that you really could live without it then just let it go and let it be - move forward, ignore him and move on. If for some reason you really need this particular stuff then call his home and either leave him a message or talk with his parents if he lives there and let them know you would like your stuff back or better yet even show up at his place to get it back there and then. Personally I would replace the stuff, cut all ties and let it go - move forward and ignore him. Besides if your broken up he really owes you nothing in the way of communication or paying any attention to you and you should not expect it either.
How do you stop someone from breaking up with you?
First off, if your boyfriend wants to break up with you, then maybe you're just better off without him because there IS someone out there who will never want to leave your side. Trust me. No matter how much it may hurt at the time, just let him go.. Just like the saying, "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it was always yours. If it doesn't it never was."
But, if you insist on trying to keep this boy yours, then you have to give him some space, show him that YOU'RE slipping away and hopefully it will make him realize what he's losing and that he's losing something great.. There isn't quite an answer to this question but there are things you can do to try and prevent this heartbreak..
1. Give him space. No texting, calling, facebooking 24/7. Let him do his thing. Be short with him (not in a mean way of course)
2. After some space, talk to him. Try to understand exactly WHY he wants to break up with you.
3. Be patient. If it doesn't work, you will have other boyfriends.. Trust me.
Heartbreaks can be horrible. Surround yourself with good friends and family. I hope this helps <3
How can you get your ex girlfriend back if she hates you and is with someone else?
You obviously have given her reason to hate you.
Think of what that was, and ask yourself, if you were her would you want 'you' back? Look at it from her point of view. You have caused her some pain.... it may, or may not, go away.... but the last thing she is going to want is you trying to get her back.
Write her a letter.
Explain what happened and apologise sincerely - don't write if the apology is not sincere.
Tell her, once, that you would like to make it up to her and to see her again.
Don't pressurise her.
If she comes back it will be on her terms and in her own time-scale.
If you just want her back for ego reasons then forget it.
Can you win an ex-boyfriend back from long distance?
If its possible, move closer to them. This shows that you are willing to sacrifice your own lifestyle for them but try to leave it open to whether you return to your home or not, so if it didnt work out, you wouldn't be left looking like a prat! Take a trial run in their area, and see what happens!
I don't think that moving closer to an ex is neccesarily the right idea. Why did you guys break up in the first place? Was it the distance that was too hard? If so, perhaps your relationship just wasn't as strong as you think and you need to face the fact that it wasn't grounded as completely as you thought. If it was jealousy, then those issues need to be addressed rather than the distance itself. I'm not saying that proximity doesn't make things easier, I just think that if a relationship can't withstand miles then maybe it can't withstand a lot of things and you need to reevaluate the strength of what compels you to be together. If you, yourself, feel ready to sacrafice your geography for the sake of another, please please be sure that your partner does to. Don't rearrange your life for someone who wouldn't do the same for you, because then you leave yourself behind for them. Have a conversation about the distance first, about the relocation first...and make sure that the distance taking its toll on your relationship isn't an indication of another, less obvious but perhaps more damaging, strain on you two.
Ansend letters. That always works for me. but seriously if the strings aren't treading then get over it. If you can't seem to let them go, then do something about it. conversation is the key.AN ANSWER
I would not make a move closer unless things were better. It could appear as stalking, or aggressive and then what would you have? Maybe email once a week light letters about what is going on with your life (and live your life), if it is ment to be the Ex might be prompted to want to re-enter your life. Try to havwe zero expectations of them and don't add guilt or sorrow make yourself someone they Want to be with. Hope this helps.
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It's hard having a long distance thing, believe me i know. If you can't do anything to make it work, move on.
well i went to see this guy that i was talking to for about a year and a half,on Skype gmail sending pictures he also he was living his girlfriend he got in trouble i helped him to find an apartment 9me in h|olland he in Oklahoma usa we talked daily for hours he was really faithfull and begged me to go he wanted me needed me was madly in love with me he told me all his history of being abused as a child we were real friends i was teaching him Dutch was more envolved then only love and fysical atraction ! he sent me videos i sent him videos we were really close! the diasaster strikes he got acused of something very bad and had to leave his house directly and go to court .i stood by him talkink on the phone daily i did what i could.he was declared innocent,his life went on but now he was living alone! this was in April and ha said he couldn't live without me anymore,i told him if he was sure he said yes,i told him he neede sometime alone and that i would go in October and we went on talking ,getting in contact everyday as always !in october when i got there to spend 3 months with him 10 hours after i got there he said he wasnt atracted to me,and that our relationship was over.but before this happenned we had sex 2 times and i noticed something was wrong with him.so i asked should i go back to Europe then he said no,we could still be good friends he wanted me to stay ,i did.then he changed completely he ignored me went gaming on the PC when he got home from work and left me there,once in awhile he would stop and make aconversation and then back!i wanted to lkeave i was devasted and confused but i got the flu had fever etc...everytime i wanted to leave he would tell me see you don't get what you want so you leave.........and i stayed also because i wanted to stay in contact with him i loved him i was sad confused and ashamed o go back so soon!istayed 2 months he started telling me if i left he would never talk to me again.......then he started watching porn,flirting when we went to do groceries and direct look at me to see my reaction.........he never hugged me and if i did touch me he said don't do that friends do dothat with each other...........i know now i did let him do this to me....my self esteem is gone i am depressed sad afraid of trusting people again and he wont call me or emailme ! he did 2 times sent me an email saying he didnt want to start conversations with me again but he wanted to know how iwas and he was thinking about me!i sent him one email back and he said he wont nothing to do with me anymore! it has been a yer ago and now he was on skype and told me that he had a new girl and she was just like me only better! then he told me no maybe he was talking to a man and that he could be gay,and now he said was a joke and with that girl was over and that he still don't want anything to do with me........i know i should hate him and i do but i am still not over it is very humiliating what i have been trough and i wanted to help him he works very hard low salary and 3 kids.........he havent any friends he is totally isolated! i know i have to think about myself.....but i still worry about him.........maybe i don't deserve better please don't move out let him go to you!
How do you get over an ex you loved that hurt you?
we cant get over with someone abruptly. it takes time... focus your attention to other things or aspects of your life
What are three characteristics of a healthy relationship?
- You can be your true selves with each other.
- You feel comfortable sharing your deepest thoughts, fears, and emotions with each other.
- You rarely lie to each other, but you also refrain from being brutally honest.
- You give each other space and/or "Me time."
- You make it through rough times as a couple without splitting up.
- You agree (or genuinely agree to disagree) on financial matters.
- You treat each other the way you would like to be treated, not necessarily the way you feel you're being treated at the moment.
- You and your mate completely deal with your problems, refusing to leave them unresolved until resentments form.
- You forgive each other for mistakes.
- You don't tell each other what you should or shouldn't think/feel.
- You both listen without interrupting.
- You respect each others' privacy.
- You speak each others' Love Language, even if it's different from your own.
- You willingly make sacrifices for each other.
- You share mutual interests and activities.
- You respect each others' individuality and make the most of your differences.
- You act as each others' backbone, providing loving support without guilt.
- You share spiritual beliefs or a spiritual connection.
- You show sensitivity to each others' needs.
- You discuss and negotiate instead of fighting.
- Each partner takes responsibility for their own thoughts and feelings.
- There is mutual trust and dedication.
- You have a strong friendship.
- In addition to loving each other, you genuinely like each other.
- You don't judge or force your opinions on each other.
- You take quality time to nurture your relationship.
- Both partners maintains his/her own set of boundaries and respects the boundaries of the other.
- You are both attentive to the needs of yourself and the other.
- You enjoy physical contact (hugs, kisses, cuddling, sex) together.
- You show appreciation for each other.
- Hardship, uncertainty, and disagreements are accepted as a part of life.
- You communicate openly and meaningfully with each other.
- There is equal power between you and your mate.
- You keep your expectations of each other in check.
- You genuinely apologize to one another when feelings are hurt.
- You and your mate speak up assertively instead of expecting the other to read minds.
- You both eliminate passive aggressive behavior (ignoring, silent treatment, eye rolling, stomping, hanging up the phone) as much as possible.
- You have a strong sense of interdependence (mutual responsibility) to each other rather than dependence or co-dependence.
- You avoid going to bed mad.
- You CAN live without each other, but you choose each other over every alternative choice.
Your boyfriend asked you for a break but says he does not want to lose you what does this mean?
This means your boyfriend (or ex as it may be) is keeping you on the hook. "The Hook" is a term most recently used in a popular American sitcom, "How I Met Your Mother", and in essence means that they boyfriend/girlfriend in question likes you, but does not want to make a commitment.
The best way to handle this situation is to establish a friendship boundary, in which both parties agree either to remain friends and discontinue seeing other people, or that both parties will continue to see others as it so suits them.
THE OPTIMISTIC POINT OF VIEW: If this was a serious relationship of a year or more, then you will have to trust their words to some degree. Give them their space and respect their wishes. Maybe they just have some personal growing to do before they can commit. Absolutely under no circumstances should you call them, contact them, cry to them, or beg them to get back together. This only makes things worse and prolongs your heartache. They will be so annoyed and only thinking negative thoughts rather than missing you. They have to realize it for themselves with no persuasion on your behalf.
Otherwise, if you do get back together with your ex, they will have the ultimate power over you. You will be relieved that you are back together. However, after some time, you will feel like they are only with you because you forced them, and they will end up resenting you for that. This will cause major problems and fights. Believe me; you do not want to feel this way. Ultimately, you will want to be with someone who truly wants to be with you, and you should not compromise that feeling for no one. The best thing to do is to be strong. Improve yourself physically, intellectually, and mentally. Even if you don't end up getting back with your ex, you will be a better person. This relationship could be a stepping-stone and a learning experience to prepare yourself for the one you are truly supposed to be with, even if that person is your ex.
Sometimes people need to experience life on their own and realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side. I do believe that people get back together. However, you need to give it a sufficient amount of time. And this does not mean two weeks because within that time you are only thinking about the breakup. Sometimes it could take months. If a lot of fighting occurred, you will want to begin again on a clean slate and get rid of all the built up anger inside.
If and when they come back around, do not make it easy for them to walk back into your life. If you do not feel strong enough to do this, then you will need to keep your distance until you truly feel you are able to resist them. You need them to chase you. If they love you, they won�t give up. Re-enter with a clear mind so that you can make rational decisions. Without this levelheaded state of mind, you will find yourself back in a downward spiral all over again. Just take your time and be careful. It will be hard, but this may be the only way to save your relationship. Nonetheless, if nothing progresses after six months, let it go.
The point of my response is to give the person the benefit of doubt, do not lose hope too quickly, and remember, �Everything happens for a reason.�
Answer"Taking a break" means he wants to break up with you. It doesn't feel good to hear that, but it is the truth.It's best for YOU to assume that the break up is permanent and that you won't ever date him again. It's hard to get on with you life if you keep hoping he'll change his mind, because often that doesn't happen. Even if he did, the problems that caused you two to break up will resurface again.
What does it mean to be a fairy princess?
Dreams communicate through symbols, which are unique to each dreamer. So there really needs to be more information than a single image: a "fairy" could represent any number of things, from freedom and magic to one's opinion of homosexuality.
Why would your ex-boyfriend still flirt and tease around with you if he has a new girlfriend?
maybe because he's hoping to play both sides of the fence. This guy thinks he's a pretty hot commodity and you need to inflate his balloon! He's your ex and you should be moving on. Don't lose your self respect over the likes of this type of guy!
What is a break in a relationship?
A break in a relationship is when both parties take a physical, mental and emotional time out from eachother. be sure to discuss what a break means to both of you to be exactly sure what to expect. potentially a break also means u will eventually get back together
How does a guy feel when he is cheated on?
Unless his heart is as hard as a rock (which could be the very reason one would cheat on him), it's going to be a mixture of these things, which do not differ much from what anyone would feel:
*Surprise/Shock - Getting hit by a freight train - Wind knocked out of you
*Betrayed to the utmost (More wind knocked our of you)
*Heart-Broken
*Sadness/loneliness/anger
*Any/all stage(s) of the grief process
Depending on the guy, your end result:
Heart as hard as a rock, Bitterness, Apathy, or, possibly, forgiveness, openess to a second chance (tread lightly as trust has to be rebuilt from the start again)
How do you make your ex want you?
Apologize for what happened,be a gentleman to her and try and build her trust again then ask her for days out together and then things will get better and she may develop feelings for you again.
What to say to a friend who got dumped?
The most important thing is to be there for them. Show them your support and love. And try to keep their mind off it. But remind them it's fine to cry. Always be patient, it can take time to heal, but can happen much quickly with friends around.
How do you tell if a girls mad?
Well odds are she wont be all nice and sweet she will look at you than look away and get all sadish when you are around so talk to her i would want to be talked to rather than somebody being mad at me and not having any idea. To overcome it, you could first, comfort her, then talk through her problems with her, take her out to get her mind off it, and then say what all boyfriends should say I love you
I think that people break up due to bad relationships, trust, friends, etc. Me and my ex-boy friend broke up because he supposedly said that he was getting into too much trouble with the law; and he didn't wanna bring me down. I still don't believe him though.
Because they don't like each other
People brake up for many different reasons, main one is the feeling for you is no longer there or they have found someone else.
Yes it can. Sometimes our expectations are too high and we think the magic we feel from the first time we date and start our relationship will last forever. Well it doesn't. There are several stages in a good marriage. You meet and fall in love and you think you're walking on air. You can hardly wait to see the person. If lucky you agree to marry and start making plans and share your hopes and dreams for the future. What we must realize during this period of time is some of the hopes and dreams will happen, but not all. You are married, you settle in and for the first couple of years all seems to go well. You may both work, may make good money and have fun. Then it's time to start a family. Manuals don't come with raising children so people can tell you how wonderful it is and some of the pitfalls, but one has to really experience it. When you and your husband see that wee babe for the first time something magical comes over the parents. It's a loving bond for them and they have created a living human being between the two of them and that's a great expression of love. They want to protect that little baby and swear upon each other's heads that they will raise that child 100%. This is well-wishing and parents simple do make mistakes raising there children, but most thankfully are good parents. You have that first baby and the mother usually stays home with the baby. Most first-time mothers are nervous, edgy and SOME may suffer from post partum blues (hormone dips that can cause a woman to feel depressed and anxious.) If lucky you husband will help you out and if he doesn't then you have to light a fire to get him started so he can take half the responsibility of raising the baby and that means getting up at all hours of the night and pacing around the room with a crying baby, feeding and also changing dirty diapers. The magic will soon go out like blowing out a candle at this stage and the mother is tired, tries to get her housework done (or perhaps is trying to work from home or catching up on classes at college by computer) and finds little time for herself. She may crave wanting to see adult friends and feels all alone taking care of the baby. It's a big adjustment, but it can be done with the understanding and willingness of the husband. The husband should give his wife time away to be with her friends every so often and there is no reason he can't babysit. Usually other children come along and by then the mother is more use to raising children, but, it's still a hectic life. Finding a good Day Care if she wants to go back to work and also being there when your child is sick, taking them to doctors, pre-school, etc. It's all worth it if both participate in rearing the children. Before you know it the children are gone and on their own and mother's will often feel that "empty nest syndrome" and is in the stage of her life she would like sometime to herself and perhaps go back to college or go back to work. This is also the time for husband and wife to make plans to go on small or large vacations (whatever a person can afford) and having the freedom to visit friends and have some fun. Before the parents know it grandchildren start coming into their lives and usually the husband and wife are quite over-joyed to participate in the grandchildren's lives, but, if smart, they also take time out for themselves and not be constant baby-sitters. A woman can go through her peri menopause and also menopause (stopping of periods) and can be cranky, edgy, have hot flashes, night sweats, but there is help out there. There may be a slight parting of the ways between husband and wife during this time, but if the wife is smart she'll educate her husband about what she is going through. Men also go through male menopause and some men can be grouchy, have hot flashes, gain weight and both can certainly feel like they are getting old far too fast. They have regrets as to things they could or should have done and mistakes they have made, but the smart husband and wife will also get over this as well. This is a time when the couple still really love each other and it's a comfortable kind of love. It should be a feeling of knowing each other well and trusting each other and spicing things up with some fun in their lives and no, sex doesn't end at this age. I have been married to my husband for 34 years and we love each other a great deal. We've been through a lot together in those 34 years and we know we can count on each other 100% and because of this strength and bond we have we love each other with comfort and also passionately. Yes, the years have left us with a few gray hairs, a few wrinkles, but when we look at each other we see each other as we did when we were in our 20s. I really wanted to explain these phases of life to you, because the question you asked couldn't be answered in a simple way. Some people are lucky and end up together for the rest of their lives, but sometimes, people want more or they feel neglected so divorce is high and cheating is too. It all depends on the couple. It's easy to give up, hard to stay at times, but sure worth it in most cases. Marcy
What to do if the girl you like is in love with her x-boyfriend?
Sit down talk to her. Tell her you guys are in a relationship. If she persists let your boyfriend contact the police. Be positive your boyfriend is not in love with this woman.
That doesn't make sense to me. I would talk to the boyfriend to discuss how you each feel. There is no relationship without communication. Whatever the outcome of a discussion with him, it's how he feels that matters (who cares how the girl feels) and it's best you know that.
Bring her roses, compliment her, apologize for whatever you did,
How long does it take to get over someone?
There is no exact time. But you will eventually get over him/her, who knows it might take days, months, and even years but you will get over them. It took me 4 yrs to get over the person I really loved. XxPearlxX You never get over someone you love. I have to disagree. You do get over someone you have loved. I have loved three men in my life. Im over them all. I rarely even think about them and if I do there is nothing attached to it. The people you loved will always have some sort of deep underlining connection to you throughout your entire life - to ignore that and thnik it will never happen is just plain silly and somewhat immature, so becarefull to not leave a true love an a bad or sour way. Each person you love in your life will have the same profound impact on your heart, yet, it will be different when you look back on it later - Each Love will be as different, and as unique as we all look to each other in this world. You'll never truly get over a true true love but you will learn to live with out them in your life. You will even fall in love again.
