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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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What does it mean when people keep looking at you?
If you have any type of feelings of insecurity or narcisscism than you will always think people are looking at you when infact most times they are not they are just looking in your direction at that moment. Now there may be times someone is looking at you because they see something they like whether it be your outfit, hair, looks etc.
How do you know when a friendship is over or when to end it?
Since you mentioned "life-long" then we need to know more about why you feel the need to split-up. Hope you post under this and give us a little more information. After all, this is a serious thing and we want to give the best advice we can.
How do you break up with your girlfriend?
Just tell her in a nice way. explain everything to her why you want to and what's the reason or problem with your relationship or with her. Remember, don't be a heartless person. Girls are very sensitive.
Do it nicely, don't be rude and don't be an ass about it. Tell her why you're breaking up with her so she has closure, and just be respectful
Anyway Yes, be sensitive, tell her what she does wrong. Like if she cheated on you tell her you found out and you are over. Period. She tries to deny it just walk away. She text you? Ignor her. Simple
just tell her kindly that you don't like her and say sorry and just leave.
Tell her in person, privately, over a school break so she has unpressurized time to deal with your news. Texting, emailing and facebook are not fair.
tell her how amazing she is and how much you like her, tell her that you don't think at the moment you should be dating/going out with anyone. make something up ie; family issues. you could just tell her you don't feel the same way, and don't forget to apologize.
just go up to her ask her if you to can talk alone and tell her you need a break but dont get someone else to do it for you because she will get even madder
you should probably tell her how much you love her and ask her what you did wrong,then say 'whatever happens, i will not make that same mistake again' ask her for forgiveness if she declines then who cares? find someone else that will stick to you no matter what hope this helps :)
How do you know if they still love you?
It isn't possible to know 100%, but you can tell by the way that person treats you. It could be that you have been hurt in the past and have some trust issues. You must feel insecure and afraid of losing this person. He/she could tell you 100% times a day they love you, but if you don't love YOU, then you'll never believe it. Think to yourself "what is the worst thing that can happen?" Yes, possibly this person could leave you and it would break your heart for awhile, but then what? You're going to survive! A smart person always questions their own actions and if they feel they have a problem with something in a relationship then it's time they sought out some help. Many people do and it isn't a sign of weakness at all. If you continue on this way then you may lose this person. Example: I am almost 99% sure that my husband of 33 years has not or will not cheat on me, but there is always that 1%. So, what do I do? Ruin the great relationship we have? My attitude is, we have built our relationship on trust and if he wants to break that trust down the road then it will be him that pays the consequences and not myself. I have become independent, know myself fairly well and know I can survive even if it happens. No, I wouldn't like it and I'd be heart-broken, but I'm a survivor and I'm independent enough to be happy with myself, or if lucky, meet someone else down the road. I would NEVER let one person every shake my trust in the opposite sex. Not all men/women are bad. For all of us, having a relationship is purely a gamble. So, whatcha goin' to do? Sit there and wonder if this poor guy/gal loves you just after he's/she's told you so, or are you going to start realizing that you can't control everything, enjoy your relationship and should a problem come up then deal with it. Good luck Marcy
How can you tell he stIll loveS you?
You know you still love him if...
1. You get jealous when you see him with ANY other girl
2. You find that you don't want to be with any one else besides him
3. Your obsessivly thinking about him and why you broke up
4. Your always wanting to text him/call him
5. When you listen to songs you try and think of how that song relates to you and him.
6. You always wonder if he thinks about you
7. You constantly go through old Texts or look at old notes or cards or presents that he gave you.
8. Compare all new guys to him.
9. Sometimes even 'stalk' him on facebook or twitter to see if he's gotten in a new relationship.
10. And last you always look back at memories and smile or giggle. If you cry then you don't still love him.
What do you do if your boyfriend calls you ugly behind your back?
If your boyfriend disrespects you and insults you then he is no boyfriend at all. No girl deserves that from no guy what so ever. Just like its not right for a girl to do that towards her boyfriend. All couples have their moments at what they say to one another, but there are specific things you can say and there are specific things that are unexceptible to say. This works towards the male and female. The moment he disrespects you and insults you for 1: the respect is gone 2. the question of if he still "loves" you is not even a question at all. I feel if a man disrespects and insults his girl what love is that, that's no love at all. Love is a word with much meaning, and it means alot , so please don't disregard the word love, but it is just a word. Its how your treated and how his actions towards you are to what counts (with all the rest included, but that being just one the top number one's) . What I think you should do is discuss this matter with him. Let it be known that you don't except that and stand up for yourself and be proud of who you are. When a man starts to do this he is trying to chip away at your selfesteem, when its wrong and unexceptible. Why he's doing this only God knows, but one of the major reasons is that he's not happy within himself. This is a red flag and not a relationship for you. Girl stick up for yourself and don't ever be afraid too. God Bless.
What to do when your girlfriend says she is fed up with you?
Well, just be urself.... that should work for u...
jk!!!!
kay so u need 2 like really embaress her like in public so she does not wanna b cn with u. like sing 2 her in front ov every1 at a dance, or like pick ur nose, or u cud even just hit on another girl....
u get the point...
hey this is kalley dashner and i am a girl but they want boy's to look at them and that is the truth i have been thro a alot and i know everything in the world and somtimes they look so hot boy's do not fall for the trick ok
hey this is kalley dashner and i am a girl but they want boy's to look at them and that is the truth i have been thro a alot and i know everything in the world and somtimes they look so hot boy's do not fall for the trick ok
that is true but why do they want boy's to love them. whell, you girls want to be perfect as posibile for a guy to like you.
How do you tell someone you dont like them?
You don't. Just avoid them, don't flirt, don't laugh at their jokes, and they'll eventually get the picture. Don't be too obvious about it; don't be rude, just boring. But there are always people that just won't give up. As a last resort, you could ask a friend to tell them for you. Have them just hint at it. DON'T have them say "hey, Samantha, Fred told me to tell you that he doesn't like you." And pick someone that is good friends with the person; someone that the person trusts. Another thing you could do is make up an excuse. My excuse that I use often is "I don't date younger girls", which is partly true. Another thing you can do is talk constantly about other girls (or guys) when she's (or he's) around you. Just be like "Wow, that girl (or guy) over there is hot" or "I miss (either your ex or your crush's name goes here)"
How much time should you give her when she needs space?
listen to her, understand what she needs.. let her sort herself out for as long as it takes. if she really loves you, she will come back..
When a guy breaks up with a girl does he have any feelings afterward?
Although all situations and individuals are just that - individual and different. Each person experiences something of their own so there is no specific feeling(s) for one person except what they feel on their own. Remember people are only human man or woman and have feelings specific to that individual.
Is it normal to feel this hurt over a ex getting a new partner who cheated on you?
Yes its okay to feel hurt over an ex boyfriend getting a new girlfriend but you just have to move on and let them know you have moved on. Try to stay friends with your ex even if its hard. You cannot let him having a new girlfriend get to you. Try going out with some friends on a fun night and let them take your mind off him. It really helps if you just be around him with total confidence so he will know that you aren't one of those crazy people who are always around their ex. keep it real :D
Can your ex-girlfriend enter your home without your permission?
If you are Legally separated he cannot - it is illegal. If you do not have separation papers and/or proof of separate residences then although it is wrong you have no legal leg to stand on. If you can show that you have signed and notarized legal separation papers or proof of separate residences then take that info to the sheriff and they will be able to assist you with what the laws are about this where you live.
What do you do when your friend gets dumped?
It depends if they are a boy or a girl.
Girls: Also depends on if they want it to be talked about. If they don't you could try texting them. That will help because they can't do anything to you. If you can talk to them then tell them the usual, he's not worth it, let's do something else. I would try to avoid making them cry. Emotional people are hard to work with.
Boys: Try to keep calm, don't try to hook him up that will TICK HIM OFF! Try to calm him down tell him he will find a new girlfriend in no time at all. JUST WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T TRY TO HOOK HIM UP! Results may vary as it says above emotional people are hard to work with.
What do you do when your boyfriend can't decide if he wants to be with you or not?
He doesn't have the right to make a decision like that. Either he wants to be with you or not. I would say he is not that into you and you need to look in other places and to move on. I would tell him to take a hike.
How do you help someone after a break up?
try helping your friend by saying courageous word like you deserve far better than this and like nothing has happened buddy ... look forward in your life and also that its his/her bad luck that the person didn't get you.
these word help a lot in bearing pain .
also try not making him remember about his/her ex. try to divert his mind away from the matter.
this must surely help.
Don't try to solve all the problems, or have all the answers. This will be much more annoying than helpful. Just be there to listen and to spend time with a friend. In general, follow the lead of your friend.
How do you get over your ex who just left you for someone else?
you just cant sometimes. it also depends on how long you have been separeated for. i seen my ex-boyfriend that i was with for 2 years and have two children by and on my 3 with him, with another female after just being apart for 1 week. it was hard but now i am with the man i was truly ment to be with. you just have to give it time. you will get over him soon. it is like the song "God Bless The Broken Road" if you have not heard that you should lisen to it. it will help you more then anything. it is by rascal flats hope it helps good luck.
Answerstop thinking about him he moved on now its time for u toYou just do.
Answersometimes it is hard to get over your ex. but what you should do is go and hang out with a bunch of your friends and just have a night to have fun with you and your friends AnswerObviously not your idea to become an ex. But it is what it is. He is your ex. It's not going to change; move on, get interested in someone else. Life is too short and there are many more guys who would be happy to date you. Deal with reality - he's got his life and you've got yours. AnswerI want to start off by saying that people who say he is an X for a reason don't know what love is.Love is unpredictable!Don't ever lose hope or stop fighting for someone you love because "he is an X for a reason" and "it wouldn't work".It MAY work, you never know.Sometimes we find the right person at the wrong time.My point is,if you and him are true lovers, there will be a time when you guys get together again.But this doesn't mean you should wait around for him.Let him go for now.Continue living your life the way you were.Remember you are a free person nothing to hold you back...Letting go doesn't mean not thinking about him ever again, these are feelings, there is no on or off switch, so you will always think about him, trust me!But time will heal it, and slowly but surely you will think less and less about him.Now, this girl he is with now...it has been a YEAR since the break up let me remind you.I went through the same thing..so I know..If YOU have his HEART than SHE will mean nothing to him.You have to learn ONE thing about feelings; when it comes to people's emotions, they fear of being vulnerable against someone else, so more than likely they will either deny or hide their feelings.This may come from not knowing what they are feeling and being scared of what they are feeling...So, him being with someone else doesn't mean anything.He may hide and deny his feelings like I did (remember I had the same thing happen to me).From experience, I liked my ex of over a year for all the time after the break up.I ignored him and stopped talking to him altogether in hopes of getting over him.I never mentioned my feelings to anyone after the break-up.I went on with my life.No one knew I still liked him!Whenever people asked, I would say no, it was just something that took place in my life I didn't care much about.Complete LIE.I thought about him 24/7!I both denied and hid my feelings for him for over a YEAR!So, he may still care deeply about you but not say it.There is hope, if you truly love this guy, be nice to him and his new girlfriend.It will be hard but it can bring his feelings out for you all over again.He may realize what he is missing out.Be his friend.Be nice, he was someone you cared a lot about (and probably still do).Be patient and kind.Do as your heart desires..Don't listen to what I have to say or anyone else has to say.YOU know what is RIGHT for you.I agree with previous post. If he loves you it wont go away because he is with someone. Sometimes that can make you want the ex even more as you compare and the new person doesnt measure up. You learn you cannot replace someone special and you miss what you had with that person. You miss their genuine qualities that makes them who they are.I wouldn't wait around for him though. I also wouldn't hang out with him and his girlfriend. I would just go on with life and if its meant to be it will be. I truly believe that. Time will tell.
Well, if they looks at you longingly they probably still has feeling for you. If they look at you madly, they are probably really mad for yalls breakup.if Sometimes they look at you when they are with other people,usually on a date, it means they still like you and are trying to make you jealous!
Can you be friends with an ex that cheated?
No it is extreamly dangerous for a boy to be friend with his ex-girl friend when she has no interest on you. you will feel depressed with her words and her actions. It is highly not advisable.
What to do if he still has feelings for his ex?
If your boyfriend is true to you it doesn't much matter what she thinks. He's her ex and now he's your boyfriend. If it really bothers you because you have concerns then start maturing and sit down and talk it over with your boyfriend. Don't let his ex ruin a possible great relationship that you have. Good luck Marcy
How do you tell a friend you cant be friends anymore?
You could say politely "I don't think we have that much in common anymore, therefore I don't think we should be friends anymore."and make sure you dont be mean to her and try to find a new best friend that really cares about you and understands you. HOPE THIS HELPS!
Disadvantages of relationships?
This is a very broad topic. There are no particular disadvantages of relationships--those are determined by the people involved, their expectations, their actions, communication between the parties, etc.
The general consensus seems to be that when trust is gone, the relationship is finished.
You used the term "boy" so I assume both of you are fairly young. It takes practice to know how to ask someone out on a date, how to act on a date and sometimes some boys are shy and don't communicate well and don't keep in touch, while others can be clingy. The best thing to do is communicate with him and don't hurt his feelings. Just say you aren't ready for a relationship right now and it's best to part company. If he says he wants to remain friends with you then tell him that you would prefer not as it only complicates the situation. Be careful, some guys can be stalkers and not even know it themselves. When you break this friendship up then do it in a crowded cafe or somewhere where your school friends are nearby.
