Cheating

I'm not advocating dishonesty, but I believe that some things are better kept unsaid, especially if the cheating is over and you've resolved to never do it again and if telling him would hurt him tremendously, which it undoubtedly would. If you feel the need to confess, find someone else to unload the burden, perhaps a preacher, counselor or trustworthy friend. But if certain circumstances have occurred (such as a pregnancy by the other man), then it's probably necessary to tell your husband. In such a situation, allowing him to believe that the baby is your husband's is unfair to him and to the baby's father who has a legal and moral right to be in the child's life (unless he's proven unfit).

Yes a husband CAN love a mistress but he CAN'Ttruly love his wife as well. If he truly loved his wife then he wouldn't need to have a mistress on the side. True love isn't spread around (other than family and friends) but able to be given to one other person and ONLY one other person, otherwise it is just lust.

Although in the end a separate entity has free will your question would be.

'Do I want my wife to have a threesome?' and secondly 'If she wants one anyway would you like to be involved?'

many couples bring a third party intot the bedroom and for many it enhances their relationship. However, a few may find it detrimental or even emotionally unnaceptable.

There is no way to get her deleted messages. I understand the feeling of wanting to know but realistically if she has admitted it as this point it is best to get by it not dwelling on it and trying to find out more what is really unnecessary and possibly hurt you more it really not needed - let it go. If you are trying to get by this and going to possibly try to forgive her then might I suggest going to counselling alone and together to work at this as well as if you are trying to move forward you have to leave this in the past and not bring it up - at all. I realize this all may sound easier said then done but take things one day at a time and go from there. If you find that you just cannot get by this you may have to rethink your position in this relationship.

Dont.

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No one can ever forget the affair. to a man or a woman who cheated, they will never forget it, specially if he or she fell in love with that person. you will missed the time that you spent with another person, those special moment being together.

But to a wife they will never forget it. They will go through denial, pain, hate, and disappointment. It will take time for all the wives to accept it

you can tell when your partner is cheating like this...... if they don't talk to you as much as they use to or if they don't hang aroung you,say their gonna call you back but don't... that's how you can tell if their cheating on you.

Of course keep telling him, in as many words as you can find. More words make playing an act harder, and if you speak them truly he will feel better. As much body contact while telling him will also help. However to believe you 100% you might need need to show facts and not only words. Show him he has all your attention. For example when talking to several people always answer to him first. When anything seems wrong with him show him you care, ask him what's wrong. Even if he seems like he doesn't want to talk he most likely does, but he wants you to ask him about every detail because most of all he wants your attention.

yes

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Yes she can or we can, but it will take time, because of the hurt, betrayal, and trust. Try not to be in a hurry because it will take space and time for you to recover.

The only person he loves is Himself

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Well the man that I married said that he STILL love me. But I don't have no trust and respect towards him right now. I will accept and maybe forgive him for his affairs if it was me who neglected him, or even set him aside, but I never did. I self sacrifice my career, needs, become a good and full time wife, took care of our 3 beautiful children, become his mother, and followed him every where when the Navy ship him in different states or country. I always made sure that he is my number one priority even when I become a mother. And when our children are all grown up ( teenagers) and we retired from the Navy and settle down in Cal. that's when I stop being busy with everything. I thought it will be my turn to be noticed because his not in the Navy anymore and my job is not in between our relationship, that's when he becomes more busy and hardly home.

The man that I married promised me a lot while we were newlywed and becomes a parents, but he never made time for me anymore because he always thought that I will be understanding wife. I always made sure that it was I that fulfill his needs, until one day I finally wake up and told myself to stop

So if he still love me after his affair, I don't want any life with him anymore, and I don't. I can not take him back knowing that he fell in love with the married woman he met on a dating site. I've done my part and more and life is to short, I have my own life with my kids now and he is alone and broke and I don't love him anymore..

I do not know the situation you have with your girlfriend, but for you to ask what to look if she is cheating, why don't you just ask her. Make time to see her and just talk. Communication is a must when it comes to relationship. Ask her if she feels neglected by you, or maybe she feels that you don't have time for her anymore. Finish what you needs to be said and only this way you can find out what's going on in her head.

not sure, but mines cheated with a co worker and he also worked nights and they were on the same shift! If in doubt ring your partner directly not mobile but work number randomly, also make sure you turn up and surprise him with lunch or something from time too time, keep your ears open if all of a sudden a female co worker is ringing his mobile, you will know by his reactions if there is something wrong!

Because it is instinct to make as many kids as possible and move on, animals do it and it is genetic instinct, don't blame them.

This happened to me. I was cheating once with a woman that had a partner, turns out that she got caught out because she tried to teach him some of my little tricks that she liked. So if she or he suddenly gets better in bed this could be because they have a better teacher. Well, ive heard of that when theres a sudden decrease in the sexuall activity on the other persons behalf or sexuall drive, when they were active before, it could be also an indicator. Some men tend to either feel bad about what they just did and dont want to touch there partners because of that or some just tend to feel a certain turn off to there partner because they compare and tend to like better the third person and dont touch there partner. Be carefull if u suspect that your partner is in another relationship to the point of sex, protect your self be certain and stay away. Good luck. SELAH!!!

If you have some good evidence and you know that his lying to you, approach him and tell him what you have. Ask him why he needs to lie.

This is an extremely hard one because some people can be very evasive and sneaky about it and cover their tracks well. People who have to travel in their jobs have much more freedom to cheat on their mate, but not all people do cheat even after given the opportunity.

Here are some signs of possible cheating (these are the tried and true rules):

Working a lot of over-time and you can never get them by office phone or cell.

Forgetting important dates with you or special events in your life.

Always being late for dinner and never phoning to let you know they will be late. If anything this is a lack of respect for your time.

You can never get the person no matter where you phone.

The person cheating becomes distant and their minds seem to be on other things (constantly!)

Then their is the older .. the smell of perfume on their clothing or lipstick on a piece of their clothing.

Now, before you read the above and accuse your mate of cheating, be sure you can either validate or not they are not working late. Some men especially are terrible at remembering birthdays, anniversaries, etc. If they are abscent minded they can have a lot on their mind regarding work.

The best policy is to sit and communicate with your mate. If they are cheating and refuse to admit to it then they know you are onto them, and you may get a reprieve from this, but old habits are hard to break.

As I say, catching someone cheating is very hard, so tread carefully and keep your ears and eyes open and be sure you have evidence before you accuse your mate. If not, and your mate really isn't cheating then you have broken a bond of trust with them.

It use to be men, but the stats show women are running almost neck in neck with men.

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Statistic from what I had read and research when it comes to infidelity, married men who do cheat is at least 65%, and for those married women is at least 45 %, so you see no matter what the reason is or problem between a couples, it will be the man who will go to that direction.

Throw him back! If he is not on the same page as you, the relationship is not going to develop into a longterm thing. You can't change another person's feelings. I would say, have a fling with him, but he may leave you with an STD or worse, so you'll need to be cautious.

only you can answer that think well...do you really love your wife?

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Good question. Why don't you let your wife go, divorce her so she wouldn't have this pain. You just don't ask the question how can you control yourself from cheating. A married man who supposed to love his wife in front of God and their family wouldn't cross the path of infidelity. You're proving that you can't be satisfied with only one woman, you need to have more. Your wife do not deserve your betrayal.

Parents cannot consent to illegal activity. It is not against the law as there are no laws about what age you have to be to date, there are laws about sexual activity depending on the state. That is way too young to risk even a hint of impropriety, it could ruin the older one's life. And there really isn't a reason for someone in high school to be dating someone that young. In most places you have to be at least 16 to consent, if not 17 or 18.

To prove perjury you will have to convince a jury that some sworn evidence provided was knowingly false. You will need therefore to have access to evidence that contradicts the sworn testimony, and...

Honesty is the only way to go. Just don't start making a sandwich and pop your little surprise. Arrange for an evening along and then talk to her and explain how you feel and how sorry you are, but you had to be honest with her so she could be free to pursue someone else. It doesn't matter how well you put it you'll break her heart, but by staying and saying nothing it would only make things worse for her. If you have children tell her you'll pay child support and if you have a home, hopefully you'll let her stay in it with the children. Sometimes people just fall out of love. There is a warning attached to this though. 6 out of 10 men (or women) think they have fallen out of love with their mates and go ahead with their lives only to find that they miss their mate, want them back and it's just too late. The grass on the other side of the fence is seldom greener!