Cheating

If she does not call often then that should be your big red flag. She's "just not that into you". Don't even worry about her cheating, its time to forget about her and move on.

Whatever floats your boat.

That may be female logic, but it is not male logic. If a man is going to cheat, they will do so regardless of whether there is a baby involved, or not. As they say, once a cheater, always a cheater.

I am not defending or making excuses for men, I'm just doing my best to tell it like it is. But, at the same time don't blame the men, they have their own issues to deal with that can be very confusing. So maybe they are not doing the right thing by sticking by their woman, but they have such strong urges to reproduce that often they do not even understand their own actions.

So, you women out there with men in your lives, if you want to keep them, my advice is that you make sex so interesting that they don't have a moment to spare to look in another direction. Confuse them in the one place they are most vulnerable, their sexual urges. If you control them by making sex so unpredictable and interesting, rest assured that you will never have to worry about your man straying again.

First of all you do not play the spit game with your boyfriend. He will think that you are weird. Second of all that is just nasty. Never ever play the spit game with your boyfriend.

My Guess, and it sounds theological, would be something akin to Unmerited Grace, a divine gift as opposed to a reward or merit thing- stretching things a bit- Divine Luck! It could also apply to many of Christ"s miracles which cannot be explained rationally such as the Transfiguration, celebrated on August 6. I once heard a Priest declare it was held in the seminary that (Nobody could come up with a good sermon topic on the Transfiguration) The event could be used, of course to rally for coexistence and cooperation between Christians and Jews, or to explore the Judeo-Christian linkage. This is, sadly, rarely done.

She is with someone else. She doesn't return your calls over a period of a month or longer. She drops off a box of your personal effects, or gifts that you have given her on your doorstep. She has a restraining order against you. She calls the police to tell them that you are vioationg the terms of the restraining order every time she drives be your home. She never has anything nice to say about you. she does not speak to you.

you talk to her about it... then if she's all "what if he's right" you divorce her. Women communicate with women friends differently from the way they communicate with men/husbands. Think about all the conversations you've had with guy friends-- that you thought were private. Did you ever say a single thing that your wife might have been hurt by had she heard it? Also, do you have any women friends? Yes, the email must have been shocking. But from the question, it seems that your wife did not say "I want to dump my husband and be with this man". Soul mate is a very charged term, but it does not necessarily have anything to do with sex, or a committed relationship, especially for a woman. Men are the ones who tend more toward interpreting this kind of thing sexually. In fact, men tend to interpret everything sexually... The first responder is right about the need to talk about this, and by the way, be prepared to explain how the email got into your hands. Stay calm, stay the course. You know that a committed relationship is not a walk in the park.

Do not leave the current marriage too soon. Break it off with the other guy entirely and embrace the second chance with your husband. As always, there are different choices in life, but you will not be sorry if you honor your committment to this good man who is willing to work with you. Statistically, if a man cheats on a woman, he will cheat on her if she becomes his wife. Let him go.

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Most of the times yes big time. The rest he is trying to get out of it...

NO : My husband is as honest as can be. Only YOU can tell if your husband is s big, fat liar. We are not the psychic hotline. Do you have more info for us to go on ?

his guilt makes him need to belittle you so he can feel better about himself....does his word vomit make you feel better?

Those who do not like to discuss politics are typically invested in their own political belief system and do not want to consider the other side of the argument.

For example, a liberal may not want to discuss politics because he or she does not want to acknowledge that everything that the government provides to people ultimately comes from the taxes that are collected.

A conservative may not want to discuss politics because he or she might not want to acknowledge that society may benefit when government agencies provide assistance.

Discussing politics helps people recognize when either side becomes too extreme. There is a balance between the political philosophies that is not easily attained. Extreme taxation shuts down industry and too many entitlement programs reduce the motivation to provide for ourselves.

Too little government involvement results in lawlessness and more crime, and ultimately more individual suffering.

Tell your friend who doesn't like to discuss politics that he or she should read political books that challenge his or her attitudes. Political apathy or rigid political thoughts are counter-productive and end up being the cause for election of inept politicians.

A psychology professor once pointed out that political outcome can quite accurately be predicted based on who has the better smile. If that's the case, our election process is little more than selecting the homecoming queen.

Oh dear, this can happen once the children have grown up and are leaving home and can come as a shock.

Whatever you do not shout at your wife or get angry no matter how betrayed your may feel. If she really wants to leave, you do have a right to ask her to explain why - she may be very unhappy or she may have found someone else she now wants to be with - she may find this very hard to do because she will not want to hurt you, but you do need to understand the reason or you will find it very hard to accept what has happened.

This will be a hard journey for you but if your marriage is indeed over, you are not the first person that this has happened to and you will get over it and have a life after it. If possible try not to let things get bitter.

are u sure your lover is cheating on you? or maybe you are just so much in love that u don't want to lose him/her and are insecure about it..

anyway if that is not the case and you have solid proof that he/she is cheating on you, you should confront the person with the proof and ask for an explanation...

i think siphiwe tshabalala earn enough to look after himself

Because they're his friends.

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Two things, it could be that he is trying to talk to his friend who's cheating and telling him what will happen if he don't stop. Or maybe, and I mean maybe his wondering how it feels betraying the wife of his friends. No one knows except him, but give him the benefit of a doubt, and talk to him..

Just a friend? How naive does he think you are. Where is the respect the trust? It's gone correct? If there is any hope for this marriage, you BOTH need to seek out a GOOD marriage Councillor, Now. You need to start helping yourself repair any damage this has done inside of you, to salvage your own dignity and any self esteem you have left. With some good hard work ahead of you both, time may heal, with the help of a good councillor. Both of you have to want it!

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Just friend is the scenario of married man when they get caught, and this include to the man that I married. If you ask your husband if he is cheating on you and he quickly answer you with the words " were just friends" you can be sure that they are more than friends. Is there hopes to rebuild your marriage, maybe but you are the only one that can answer this one. Every woman who got betrayed by their husband has different reason and problem. If you still trust your husband and willing to forgive him then do the right thing. But you also need to be careful.

It some cases the mistress is just being used and there doesn't tend to be feelings involved however, if you are trying to give him another chance and are forgiving him for doing such a thing then you should trust him and what he says about how he feels for her now and don't bring it up anymore - if your forgiving him to save your marriage leave the past in the past and move forward.

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When it comes to our husbands and their mistakes, we were given a test whether we are strong enough to handle problems that we never ask for. Because of these our world change, we need to be the stronger one, we as wives needs to be the understanding one, and when it comes to love, we supposed to forgive because of our emotion.

For you to see or even feel if your husband had feelings for his mistress, your the only person that knows your husband before he had his affair. You can use your senses that was given to you. Never doubt your instinct, its like our guardian angel. As a woman and a wife I do know how you felt, been there, done it, and even I lost at least its not me who made the mistakes. If your husband didn't love the other woman he will not be with her for months.

fess up. And don't do it again.

Obviously he wants his cake and eat it too - and now that you know and he is not willing to give the other woman up you have now become the other woman. Don't let him treat you like this - you deserve better. I realize it may seem easier said then done but when a man cheats or abuses you in anyway the only thing you leave behind is smoke - meaning get out of there quickly and don't look back they are not worth it. You can do it!!

Ask them straight out, and watch the reaction. Straight forward is always the best idea. Chances are good, you won't believe them anyway!