Cheating

I have had a real bad experience when it comes to relationship.... it was really a bad moment when i found out my ex is cheating on me..... thanks to the help of phackers483 @ gmail.... reddit introduce me to him and i seek his service to get to know what is going behind my relationship... i was really glad to know the truth and was able to stay away from bad relationship

First off you have to ask yourself if he's worth having back! I have no idea what the problems were between the two of you, but obviously neither of you tried hard enough to work them out. Still, this is no reason for either partner to cheat because if one or the other or both is tired of the relationship then the option is to move on and cheating shouldn't even enter into it.

There isn't much you can do, but you should get on with your life as best you can. It's not as dismal as you think. More and more women are becoming independent and not always relying on men 100% and it's a wonderful feeling. Don't sit around and fret and worry over this guy because he may not be worth it. Don't take 100% of the blame for it either, because it takes two!

Hang in there and know that you are stronger than you think. Let things be, and if you two are meant to be together then you will be. Meanwhile, get out there and get living!

Good luck Marcy

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Ms. Marcy is right, and I don't know the situation of your relationship with your husband. But I will tell you about mine, and I'm not sure if it will help you. Right now your heart is broken and you feel some revenge towards the other woman. But before you can really do this which I think if you do it will give you closure, but, I know there's a lot of BUT. Clear your mind and ask yourself who did it first, who started it first. If you can answer that you will open all the answer that you wanted to know.

Before your husband's affair, do the other woman exist in his life? Do they know each others for so many years or it just happen? It is not the other woman's fault why your husband had the affair. It wasn't the other woman who look for your husband or even search for him. She doesn't even know your husband then, so it can't be her fault.

If there's someone to blame it is your husband, not the other woman. Don't get me wrong it happens to me too. my husband fell in love with the other woman he met on a dating site. Ditto! right.. If you want you can hate the other woman, but blaming her will not solve what your husband did to you. The only thing that this other woman did wrong was she didn't say no to your husband. It was your husband who pursued her until she gave up. It was your husband who didn't stop. It was your husband that didn't take no for an answer...

You can't. That is pretty much on you, as far as how much trust you have in him. Just remember, it is not your fault. He decided to go outside of your relationship, and if you want to continue, then I would suggest some relationship counseling, not only for him, but for you as well, to help you get through your issues with his infidelity. Good Luck to you. Trust yourself! Let yourself be vulnerable & willing to improve both of you in the whole relationship. Don't deny your emotion. Sure it's a contaminated mess...your mind. that is. Stop asking why! Let it go for awhile. If your gut still naggs ya then P.P.P. Plan protect PROOF. Ultimatly all these answers confuse you more. Ask yourself is his effort lifting our relationship higher? Is he putting me before his needs? Can he provide a emotional bond with me? Will he trust in you enough to be honest? LIES are just friends we haven't meet yet...

It is possible, but in many cases it is not the case.

Often when a girlfriend cheats on her boyfriend with another woman, however, the boyfriend continues to love the girlfriend and accepts that his girlfriend can love other women, too.

• Often it is a wake up call that something is missing your marriage either by your spouse; yourself or both of you. Marriage takes hard work and some marriages end up with one; both spouses having affairs and if they truly love each other marriage counseling does help and since both of you took your marriage vows you need to realize people are just human and if this is a first affair then the marriage is still worth saving. However, if the spouse continues to have affairs then it is the death of the marriage.

• If you have proof they have cheated then confront your husband (he is mainly to blame because he is an adult and knows better) and tell him that he and your sister in law have a week to tell her husband or you will and if he does not break up the relationship with her then you are filing for divorce. You husband and sister in law have created a situation that has hurt you, her husband, any children they may have, but also hurt the rest family as a whole and cause two brothers to end a possibly good relationship.

California is a no-fault state.

Most people think it's better to wait until you have proof, but I myself have been cheated on and looking back I felt it was obvious.

Men distance themselves when they know what they're doing is wrong. Many girls dont realize this factor but it's proven in mainly men. Even when cheating the man usually understands what he's doing and tries to remove the problem by distancing himself from you. Signs are also obvious like lying, missing important dates, making excuses (or always having one), or you feel a sudden lack of trust with them.

Forgiving is easy. Wanting to forgive is the first and usually the only step needed. Trust and forgetting are different issues. You can't forget, and the trust must be earned.

To clarify: I can forgive you for wrecking my car, but that does not oblige me to let you drive it again.

Ask her. If that doesn't work, then have someone follow her to see what she's up to. This may sound like you are invading her privacy, but I'm a woman, and I say find out any way you have to. AnswerBe sure you aren't overly jealous. Some signs of a wife cheating are: going out constantly and not telling you where she is going; staying out all night and saying she is staying with a girlfriend (this could be true to a degree depending on where she and her girlfriends are going, because if one plans to drink more than usual, staying at a girlfriend's house is a good idea, but she should leave you the phone number in case of an emergency); not contacting you if you work shiftwork and call home and she's never there. hiding her cell phone; lots of instant messaging.

Accusing someone of cheating without proof is dangerous ground. If you have good reason to think your wife is cheating then I suggest you do as the above poster recommended and hire a detective to follow her. Better yet, follow her yourself. I did this with my first husband and caught him red-handed! I find women harder to figure out re cheating than men. After all, women have more excuses, such as meetings regarding school-age children, or perhaps a club she has joined or shopping or going out with the girls for the evening, etc.

You will never know for sure unless you see it for yourself but he will give off signs that he might be. Such us randomly not being able to see you and not really having a good excuse why. Texting another girl a lot and putting loads of Xs or hearts. Not letting you see his phone cos of he has nothing to hide why wouldn't he let you see? Him starting to see another girl more than you. but all of these or just signs and if someone says he is confront him ad ask and see if he is lying but never go fully on what a friend has said cos they might have got it wrong. You will only know for sure if he is if he tells you himself or you see him kiss another girl etc :) hope this is helpful x

He can't right now ... because his wife is standing next to him? I'm wondering which role you are playing. Are you the wife or the mistress?

If the husband decides not to see the mistress again then the words are quite simple. "I can't ever see or speak to you again" That is all it needs. Anything longer than that suggests that it is not over.

An open relationship, as opposed to a monogamous relationship, simply means that one or both of the partners are not required to be sexually exclusive to the other. The exact nature of the rules regarding outside sexual partners varies from couple to couple.
An open relationship is often defined as two people who are romantically involved with one another yet still allow an open sexual relationship with other people.

It's probably true that they are just friends. If you're that worried about it, let him go and sneak in to the movie to watch what they are up to. I don't advise it but sometimes a girl just feels like she has to know. I think you'll wind up feeling terrible because there will be nothing to find.

If you 'make' a girl have intercourse, that would be considered rape. You could be looking forward to 1-10 years in prison and a lifetime as a registered sex offender.

It is possible for a man to have a woman friend and also for a woman to have a male friend and it happens all the time. I have male friends and there are times I will discuss certain things with one of them, but, I always go to my husband if I feel we are weak in an area of our marriage. My husband also has a couple of female friends (he met them long before he met me as I did my male friends.) We have had them over for dinner and there is absolutely no problem. Marcy It appears there is a big lack of communication in your marriage and both of you need to sit down and start working on that. Whether living together or married your mate should not only be your lover, but your best friend and you should be able to go to each other and talk over any problems you may have at the time. Men having women friends and women having men friends is just fine, but, he should be coming to you for advice and not flying off to his woman friend every time he hits an obstacle. My husband has a couple of women friends and I have male friends and we ask them over for dinner. They are fun to be around, but neither of us run to them for any advice on our marriage. Every day my husband and I take an hour out of our day and talk over each other's day. If we have a problem we put our heads together to come up with the best solution to the problem we can. It's a great feeling to know your best friend is your mate and that you can trust them. Just because your husband is discussing things with this woman friend doesn't mean he's having an affair with her. If you want to keep him, then sit down and discuss with him that both of you have got to start communicating more in your marriage. Good luck Marcy why does he need a woman friend? I think something is going on. Having a woman friend as in couples as friend is different than having just a woman friend. Why would you need a male friend? Why would you go to him instead of your spouse/lover/ or mate? Something is going on. Either on both parts or just his.

* Many people flirt in their own way, but take it no further. If your wife is hanging off a man or several men and dancing or talking with them throughout the party or if at a pub and spending little time with you, then that's going overboard with flirting and you should let your wife know that her actions are not acceptable. However, there is nothing wrong if she wants to dance and you don't and she asked someone else to dance or they ask her to dance.

when someone has cheated or is cheating on you just say that it is time we start seeing other people and maybe just be friends. It may be that they will come clean and say i think we should start seeing other people to and just be friends.

This happen to me in 2005. I do't know how long your husbands affair went on but my husbands went on for 8 months. At first he tried to tell me it was a mistake,but as we all know something going on that long is in no way a mistake,it was in fact something he chose to do. The affair had nothing to do with you and it wasn't your fault. Some will disagree with me on this. But like I said he chose to do it instead of coming to you and telling you how he felt and sitting down with you and try to work the problems out. I like yourself had a hard time forgiving my husband and felt a deep hurt inside until just a few months ago. I made my mind up that I wasn't going to wallow in self pity or feel unsecure about it anymore because I know I'm a good woman and realized I was just wasting my time,energy,self esteem and sleepless nights and the other woman was winning by me letting it torture me. You can't watch him day and night,you have to trust him if he says he loves you. He is still with you is a sign that he loves you and if he had loved her he would had left you for her. My husband and I have had a rocky 2 years since this happen but we have a stronger marriage and are happier than before. We made a vow to each other to be open and honest about everything. I promised him I would go more places with him as I hadn't before because I felt he didn't want me around. He felt I didn't love him anymore. You can see what I'm talking about here. We just weren't talking to each other and the problems kept piling up until the affair happen. Just give him a chance to prove to you that he is sorry for what he has done,its hard I know. Keep your eyes open,we all get to comfy in our marriages. Sometimes we forget to keep the romance going. If you try everything you know how after 6 months or so and you don't see that he is trying to really get your trust back then don't waste anymore of your time. My husband would call me to let me know where he was at,even brought home his overtime sheet so I could have a look at it without me even asking him to do so. Before this I could never get him on his cell,he would be gone for long hours and would never spend time with me on his off days and I found out several times he would tell me he would be one place and end up 30-40 miles away at a supposed freinds house when he was in fact with her. Good Luck

here is how you tell when she calls and tells a huge lie that is unbelievable , goes out for untold hours , doesn't spend much time with you and she spends more time going out of the house I am a girl but you can either go to cheaters.com or call cheaters what they do is they follow her around with a hidden camera and if she is having an afair or something they will let you know and show you on camera and then you get to confront her on TV

cause he dont want u 2 break up wit him

While not easy at times, you just have to attempt open, honest, and direct communication, at a time where there are no distractions. Try to understand the reasons that might have led to the perception that you are cheating on him, and attempt to change future behavior that may have caused this. Yes, many would say, "but I didn't do anything!" Well, what we are trying to do is eliminate future problems. On the other hand, he must work on his own insecurity. He may have some self esteem issues which can lead to jealousy and insecurity. Still, if you really love him, work with him. Build up his self esteem through encouragement and praise. If you are true to him, you have nothing to feel guilty about. It is he who needs the help. If you love him, you will help him.

While not easy at times, you just have to attempt open, honest, and direct communication, at a time where there are no distractions. Try to understand the reasons that might have led to the perception that you are cheating on him, and attempt to change future behavior that may have caused this. Yes, many would say, "but I didn't do anything!" Well, what we are trying to do is eliminate future problems. On the other hand, he must work on his own insecurity. He may have some self esteem issues which can lead to jealousy and insecurity. Still, if you really love him, work with him. Build up his self esteem through encouragement and praise. If you are true to him, you have nothing to feel guilty about. It is he who needs the help. If you love him, you will help him.

While not easy at times, you just have to attempt open, honest, and direct communication, at a time where there are no distractions. Try to understand the reasons that might have led to the perception that you are cheating on him, and attempt to change future behavior that may have caused this. Yes, many would say, "but I didn't do anything!" Well, what we are trying to do is eliminate future problems. On the other hand, he must work on his own insecurity. He may have some self esteem issues which can lead to jealousy and insecurity. Still, if you really love him, work with him. Build up his self esteem through encouragement and praise. If you are true to him, you have nothing to feel guilty about. It is he who needs the help. If you love him, you will help him.

While not easy at times, you just have to attempt open, honest, and direct communication, at a time where there are no distractions. Try to understand the reasons that might have led to the perception that you are cheating on him, and attempt to change future behavior that may have caused this. Yes, many would say, "but I didn't do anything!" Well, what we are trying to do is eliminate future problems. On the other hand, he must work on his own insecurity. He may have some self esteem issues which can lead to jealousy and insecurity. Still, if you really love him, work with him. Build up his self esteem through encouragement and praise. If you are true to him, you have nothing to feel guilty about. It is he who needs the help. If you love him, you will help him.

While not easy at times, you just have to attempt open, honest, and direct communication, at a time where there are no distractions. Try to understand the reasons that might have led to the perception that you are cheating on him, and attempt to change future behavior that may have caused this. Yes, many would say, "but I didn't do anything!" Well, what we are trying to do is eliminate future problems. On the other hand, he must work on his own insecurity. He may have some self esteem issues which can lead to jealousy and insecurity. Still, if you really love him, work with him. Build up his self esteem through encouragement and praise. If you are true to him, you have nothing to feel guilty about. It is he who needs the help. If you love him, you will help him.

While not easy at times, you just have to attempt open, honest, and direct communication, at a time where there are no distractions. Try to understand the reasons that might have led to the perception that you are cheating on him, and attempt to change future behavior that may have caused this. Yes, many would say, "but I didn't do anything!" Well, what we are trying to do is eliminate future problems. On the other hand, he must work on his own insecurity. He may have some self esteem issues which can lead to jealousy and insecurity. Still, if you really love him, work with him. Build up his self esteem through encouragement and praise. If you are true to him, you have nothing to feel guilty about. It is he who needs the help. If you love him, you will help him.

There are many reasons: * Problems in the marriage and he doesn't know how to deal with it. * Lack of communication in the marriage. * The wife is seldom around. * He's egotistical and feels he deserves better. * He simply likes women. * He is immature and doesn't like responsibility. * He is trying to recapture his youth and feel that freedom of bachelorhood again. Not all men are cheaters and the same applies to women.

There might be a number of different interpretation of this dream depending on the dreamer's situation and other factors within the dream. One possibility is that the other person represents the dreamer herself, and the dream is thinly disguised wish-fulfillment. Another possibility is that the dreamer has different expectations for the relationship than the boyfriend has, and the dream is alerting her to her unrealistic hopes.