answersLogoWhite

0

Funerals

A funeral is a ceremony that takes place, marking the death of a person. Questions in this category can include things about the ceremony, traditions, and cultural aspects.

1,593 Questions

Should i attend my ex husbands funeral he has a girlfriend and a daughter with her we had no children but were high school sweethearts and married for 7yrs?

I cant see why not. Saying that though, if I pass away before my ex wife I would not like her to turn up at my funeral as we had a bad divorce, not long after we separated she started taking drugs and she is now an alcoholic. If I were you I would get hold of one of his family members and talk to them, preferably one you got on best with. Hope it goes ok.

Can you plant small plants on a grave?

If it is not against the protocol of the cemetery the grave is in, then yes.

What is the proper way to display a military flight helmet at funeral?

Customs often vary by country regarding display of military memorabilia during a funeral. When there is a military funeral within a military cemetery, such as America's renown Arlington Cemetery, a strict protocol is followed, including a pall over the coffin, consisting of the US flag. In this setting nothing may be placed atop the US flag, out of respect.

However, if the funeral is being held in a country such as the United Kingdom, whether it's a burial or cremation, a memorial, such as a flight helmet, framed photo, etc., may be placed centre-point atop the coffin. Coffins are sealed at the Funeral Director's prior to being taken to a crematory or cemetery.

As it's often the custom in the US to have either an open coffin/casket service, or a wake, where the deceased is present, it is acceptable to place the helmet, either at the bottom part of the unopened half of the casket. Or if it's a single lid, then it's appropriate either to place the helmet to the left of the deceased, approximately at hand level, or alternatively, (if space permits), at the top of the left shoulder of the deceased.

There have been instances when a single lid coffin/casket is used where a military hat, or other appropriate memorialisations are placed at the foot of the deceased.

Provided it's not obstructing the flag, there is a degree of flexibility.

During these considerations, it is essential to determine from the family whether the helmet is to be committed with the coffin, either in burial or cremation. Some local and/or national laws prohibit metallic items from going into the cremator.

This is due to the risk of environmental contamination, or in some cases, due to the possibility of the cremator being damaged by the foreign item.

Are thank you notes required for sympathy cards and funeral flowers and memorial donations after the passing of a loved one?

this would be proper, however, when people are grieving it may take some time before Thank-you notes are sent. If it is at all possible, a friend or neighbour may be able to write these for the family.

Is mummification difficult?

Yes.

Getting the organs out, and preserving the body properly is a skill which takes a lot of practise to learn.

Do all morticians own a funeral home?

In a simple word, No. A mortician may be a contractor who travels between funeral homes to do embalming and prep work. In the United Kingdom it is very rare for someone to be embalmed. Therefore, when it is specifically requested, an embalmer or mortician will be booked to complete the service. This saves the funeral home from the cost of maintaining expensive equipment and chemicals, thus providing less costly services to families.

The word mortician can also represent a catch-all term for an undertaker, funeral director, or anyone directly involved in the funeral industry, such as embalmers.

In these modern times the title mortician would most probably represent an individual who works within the industry. It is far easier to say that to someone in the public that other phrases or terminologies.

Additionally, wherever the mortician may be, they may either be a student or an employee of a funeral home, a medical centre, a medical examiner's office, etc. In each case a mortician would be assigned specific tasks to complete under the heading of mortuary sciences.

Can you send a mass card after the funeral is over?

One should distinguish between Mass Cards and Prayer cards. a mass card is specifically an offer for a Mass ( Roman Catholic service in church) to be performed in honor of the deceased. This is not necessarily the actual requiem mass which there would be only one surch service. If someone only found out about the death after the funeral was over- which can happen-look at communications breakdowns following Hurricanes, or other combinations of accidents and communications failures- the proper course of action. One should not confuse- but many do, actual Mass cards with the smaller prayer cards which have usually, the basic facts of the deceased ( life dates, usually sometimes a picture- and usually the 23Rd Psalm or some other prayer, hence the term prayer card. these are mass-produced ( no pun intended) by the Funeral homes ( actually by affiliated printers) and are distributed gratis at the funeral parlors. They usually have religious themes. ( for example a portrait of a historical Nun) or Praying hands, etc, but are not necessarily actual Mass Cards. these things are in no way admission tickets or passes to funeral events, by the way, souvenirs, yes. so get it straight. Mass Cards and Prayer cards are two different entities

What if your uncle died and you cant make the funeral can you still get your bereavment time?

I'm not precisely certain in what context you're asking this question. If a loved one has passed away and you're unable to attend the funeral, many people still celebrate their loved one's life at a similar time. If you're a person of faith, you may wish to celebrate through reflection and prayer at your local parish church.

If you are not a person of faith, but possibly a spiritual person, you can set aside time from your day where you turn off the mobile phone, not answer the door and light a candle - candles reaffirm life, and read a selection of either your or your loved one's favourite passages or poems.

If you're Anglo/Catholic, you may request a private Mass from your local priest. Sharing the Eucharist affirms life and the faith one holds in the new life to come.

Alternatively, if you're referring only to 'visitation,' where you come to a funeral home or facility to view your uncle, the laws and customs vary from country to country. In the United Kingdom, the right of visitation on viewing remains with the next of kin - that being the one who has signed the contract for the funeral. However, in many circumstances, provided your family is close, it may take as little as a phone call for the funeral service to arrange a private time for viewing. It can be challenging for the funeral director as there may be numerous other funerals and services taking place, where all the chapels or viewing rooms are occupied. Additionally, a number of funeral directors do not do 'casketing' (placing the loved one into the coffin), until just before the scheduled wake or funeral. This is to ensure preservation and protection to the often very expensive coffins. Therefore, it may not be possible for those reasons.

If in doubt, first ask. Go directly to the head of household and ask whether they mind. With their permission, then either they may contact or you may contact the funeral director, explaining the challenge you're facing over not being able to attend the funeral, and ask whether they could arrange fifteen minutes for you to be with your Uncle. Do not be upset if they agree but state that they must remain in the room with you. This is for legal reasons and should not be thought of as being disrespectful to you.

Finally, it may be that the head of family either decided to, or were advised to not provide an open coffin for any wake or funeral. There are many reasons why this is best for families, ranging from physiological changes to the body, trauma, or certain illnesses which required radioactive therapies.

Who has says where a person is buried?

Usually the next of kin makes the decision. In some cases the deceased has already made arrangements for a burial plot or where they want their ashes interred. They may also specify in their will where they are to be buried and how the funeral is to be handled.

How long can a body be kept before it has to be buried?

the body can be kept for a least 6 days before it starts to rott and the body turns purple and blue.

What does a funeral director do?

A funeral director basically takes care of the funeral in regard to the family's wishes. The tasks include preparing the body for viewing and burial, scheduling the funeral and viewing and communicating with other parties, such as the cemetery, flower companies, honor guards, life insurance companies, death certificate providers, etc. and mourners who need information about the funeral. We strive to take the burden of dealing with the details off of the bereaving family.

My mom died and my sisters won't let me go to the funeral can they do that?

I'm very sorry that your mother's died- please accept my sincere Sympathies. You'll have enough to cope with at the moment without having to deal with the added unpleasantness of sibling conflict as well. But to answer the question , no- they can't legally prevent you from attending the funeral of your next of kin, and it would be very difficult for them to actually physically stop you from being at the funeral ceremony or the burial / cremation (the only way they could do this would be to hire minders or security guards, who would be unlikely to be willing to be involved in such a situation). There's nothing to stop them from being unpleasant to you at the funeral, trying to humiliate you in front of other mourners, making a scene, getting abusive etc. etc., though this would reflect badly on THEM were this to happen. It all really depends upon whether you are prepared to run the risk of this possibility, and how you think you'd cope if anything like this did happen. My own recommendation would be for you to try and come to some sort of compromise agreement with them, i.e. agreeing not to attend any reception, social gathering etc. if they will just let you go along to the funeral service and the interrment.