I think that both boys and girls have hard things to deal with. No one can really judge who has it harder. Everyone has difficulties in life. One person's difficulty maybe be seen as a piece of cake by someone else. Yeah, girls have periods, they have to go through pregnancy and giving birth, etc. b…
Edit: Parenting is divine. Have faith. Trust.
this answer is horrible... really if your asking yourself that question, you are not ready.
So You Think You Might be Ready to be a Parent?
Preparation for parenthood is not just a matter of reading books and decorating the nursery. Here are…
"I'd say [start building a nursery] as soon as is comfortable. The larger you get, the harder it is to move things around (even the lightweight things -- you just get tired of carrying them from room to room). Now, at 6 1/2 months pregnant, I'm really not in the mood to move the bookcases that need …
Become a nanny or do a lot of babysitting. If this isn't an option get a dog. I know that sounds silly, but you are better off with a dog than a baby if you are young. Wait until you are older and stable and the baby can have a dad in it's life. You'll be better off.
Listen honey, you only …
Before going to sleep, the body needs to be relaxed and prepared to
fall asleep. A child will fall asleep very easily, but only when
tired or "in the mood." After dinner, try spending some time with
him/her playing a mellow game, watch some TV (with the sound low),
give him a bath, or read him a sto…
Software for children
Notable children's game companies include Brøderbund Software, Humongous Entertainment, Edmark, and Dorling Kindersley.
The following list of software is sorted roughly by target ages, young to old:
BabySmash - Scott Hanselman
KeyWack X - Holy Mackeral (for Macs only)
Children's BooksSee the links to the right for recommendations from
parents collected over the years at misc.kids.
Here are some suggestions for specific books:
Where the Wild Things Are
"I Can Read" Books and "Step Into Learning" series are great
for beginning readers. Check on eBay for huge lo…
Some children just wake up more than others. The reasons can vary with age, but there are usually some simple explanations. Babies need to get into a routine. If you just hear them stirring, or even whimpering a little, it doesn't hurt to just settle themselves back in. They usually will fall back …
Here is advice reprinted from a child care FAQ in the usenet newsgroup alt.childcare: Finding the right kind of child care takes time. If possible, begin looking a few months before your child will need care. Allow several weeks for visiting different child care centers and family day care homes. …
Children cry when they are distressed. They become distressed when they are frustrated in achieving what they need or want. Your children are distressed and most children are at some stage. This can happen if they are refused a treat that they would normally be able to have, or more seriously when t…
Two or three years is a good interval. But, just don't try to have another baby thinking that it will bring you and your husband closer together. Only have another baby if both you and your husband really want another one. Let your husband feel that he can be truthful. Don't make him feel that he ha…
I'd say the answer to your question is going to be rather subjective. I know people from large families who are quite happy with their circumstances and wouldn't trade their many siblings for anything. And I know people who are only children or who have only one sib who were content growing up that…
I have an 8-year old step child and maybe this will help. I would imagine, from what you have described of the situation, that the child has some strong anxiety and concern with having the people she loves be there. Your child is old enough to talk about this, ask the hard ques…
get a nightlight and sometimes maybe let them stay with you!
Add Night lights and dream catchers to room. Also "Guardian Angel" picture or poster is helpful for some children. Reassure them and talk in a soothing manner when they are scared or can't sleep. Make sure they have a regular bed …
Yes. Depending on where you are, you can search for support services in your local phonebook. Even some churches can provide services and housing for teen mothers. Your first stop, though, should be to the local YWCA or YMCA. They will have staff on hand to give you the help you need and con…
My daughter is 10 years old and in fifth grade. Lately she has been begging me to go to the mall by herself, without a parent. She is a very responsible child but I don't feel comfortable letting her go by herself. I am not sure if she wants to go because her 14 year old sister goes by herself or if…
Be very open with him. Tell him boys and girls are different and that's what makes them boys or girls. Look up male anatomy on your computer and explain to him what each part is without shame in your voice. You may have a dr. in your future. Feed his curiosity with the truth. Offer it…
Yes there are books and information you can find online to help your child with moving. It's a difficult task , but make sure the child feels involved in the move. like they are helping out. I was an army brat so I know moving is just the start. Make them feel secure about their new environment and …
Talk to him about it. Ask him why he does it. Offer to help him buy clothes or to have his own so he quits stealing yours or your daughters'. If he is embarrassed and doesn't really want to discuss it, it is probably a sexual thing that he would prefer to keep private, and at least he knows that yo…
Advice from the Q&A community:
Set routine is key
The thing that worked for me was to have a set routine. At a set time (depending on the age) my children had their baths/showers, got their pajamas on and went to their beds with a book. Half an hour later,lights out! When they were small, eith…
Opinions: Don't lock the door. Let your child be secure in the expectation that you will always be available to them when they need you. Allowing your child to sleep with you every night prevents them from maturing properly and causes them to be afraid of sleeping alone.Don't let them stay in your b…
If she hasnt got her teeth yet Then she is probarly teething.If she has her teeth then it is best to give her some gripe WATER OR SOME CALPOL the correct amount for her age. (hope she gets better)
Be upfront and honest. Approach him calmly and at the right time. The right time should be when you know he is calm and relaxed and in a setting you know he will be comfortable. Beyond that it's just a matter of being upfront with him and telling him everything you know.But don't expect him to adjus…
How old is he? If he's only about 2 years old, that would mean he's doing good and will probably catch on pretty soon.
OK, then he's a bit behind the curve, but still has time before kindergarden. What seems to be working for my grandson is a simple bribe. They bought a set of a…
AN Most head "bonks" are harmless, unless the child falls from a high level, or lands on a hard surface/ object. If she bumps her head, and then seems lethargic, vomits, the pupils of the eye(s) do not respond to light stimulus, etc. she needs to be examined. As far as stopping her from her explorin…
We all know that parents have their favorites where their children
are concerned. Usually, the favored child is the most like the
parent (personality-wise) who favors him or her, or quite simply,
it may be the child who gives the least amount of trouble to the
parent(s). However, it is not advisabl…
I had a step-mum and loved her, but i had a best firend who didnt like theirs, epecially when she was expecting a new baby. She felt that everyone would be more occupied with the baby and forget her. Or her dad would love the baby more because its with the partner he really loves.My advice is: Go ou…
A: Maybe your nine year old has some secret that she has been
keeping from you or she is troubled by something or someone.
Advice from the parents of the Answers.com Q&A community:
Normal Development and 'Readiness'
He will stop when he is ready. Help him learn to calm down when he
is nervous or unhappy and eventually he won't need his thumb. Keep
him active and using his hands, you can play baseball, fingerpaint…
Does your daughter tell you in what way is her teacher mean to her?
Does the teacher pick on her? Does she say mean things to her? Does
she physically hurt her? You need to ask your daughter these
questions. If your daughter is crying in the morning, not wanting
to go to school and it is because of …
Opinions from Contributors:Opinion You must reinforce the concept that they are not entitled to do whatever they want to do and whatever they want to have.Know where they are at all times. If they say they will be at a friend's house call to check in with their parents. At this age, they are frequen…
Your local schools should have tests that your child can take to
see if he or she is academically ready. However, many children are
academically ready, but not emotionally or socially ready. You can
talk to a counselor or a friend about your child's social skills
too, but trust your instincts. You k…
First, I suggest making the bedtime the same every night. When you put her to bed, allow her to watch a movie. Since you know that she is coming into your bedroom, then you could keep the door closed (if it was open), or once you notice she is there, move her back to her bed. It's better if you don'…
There is probably a deep reason of why your son does this, however confronting him could make him feel uncomfortable, so try to ask questions that wouldn't seem as though you were meddling with anything, because if you do, he will be even more secretive about it. Maybe you could find a way to see mo…
Experts on child care almost unanimously agree that physical punishment should not be used to discipline children. Children with Down's have limited understanding and logistical skills. It would not be acceptable to administer physical punishment at any age. In every study done on child discipli…
Its changed a lot over the years. Theres more sex, violence and
disrespect. Children learn how to swear at their parents, friends
and family. The music teaches children how to be sex icons and to
have lots of sex because thars the thing to do and also how to
treat the women of America. Especially bl…
Maybe one of these will help:The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle: A Tour Through the Predatory World of Judges, Lawyers, Psychologists & Social Workers, in the Subculture of Divorceby Robert Seidenberg, et. al.Custody for Fathers : A Practical Guide Through the Combat Zone of …
No. They should have a signed and notarized statement from you giving permission for them to leave. Call a Customs office for details.
Depends. Though not an expert, I'm rather certain it depends on your custody status. The man being your ex-husband alone doesn't necessarily mean he either …
That depends on whether it is stated in your parenting agreement as to who has the right to make religious decisions. Is it addressed? Is decision making joint? If this issue is not addressed then, yes, he/she can have the child baptised. My question to you would be...why does it really matter? If…
The answer seems rather obvious (to me anyway). There is no reason to believe that the batterer would not vent their anger and abuse on the children. Being a battered wife is nothing shameful nor does it make you a bad parent. I believe you would benefit from counseling to help you resolve any issue…
Don't quote me on this, but unfortunately, I don't believe there is a LEGAL ramification but EMOTIONAL/MENTAL distress to the child definitely. I would think it is a tremendous NO NO in the eyes of the Court, toward the offending party (in other words, the person who tries this). My ex husband tried…
Courts can enforce child support orders. But, they cannot "force" a parent to have a relationship with a child(ren). It is reasonable to assume that if a parent has to be "dragged" into a relationship with their children, it would not be a pleasant experience for anyone. Children should know they ar…
It's a court order. You could go to jail for contempt if you don't comply.For more details see brandeslaw.comor steveshorr.com
You do not need a lawyer, but most family lawyers charge outrageous
fees. I am a lawyer, and I for one am outraged at the prices they
affix to such simple services. Unrepresented parties are considered
pro se parties.
The answer is: yes, a parent can seek an order awarding him or her
a sole physica…
What is in the BEST interest of the child?3020. (a) The Legislature finds and declares that it is the public policy of this state to assure that the health, safety, and welfare of children shall be the court's primary concern in determining the best interest of children when making any orders regard…
The court is concerned with the welfare of the children. Many single parents work, leaving their children in the care of family members, child care facilities, etc. It is also a given that people need time for themselves. Unless the children are neglected and/or endangered it would not be relevant.
We homeschool our children. At the beginning of the school year each year we sit them down and talk to them to make sure they are still happy with homeschooling. It is a choice we make as a family and it will never be pushed or guilt tripped onto them. You should respect the parents decision in fron…
Well, I'm in the process of trying to get homeschooled as a freshman right now. This site really is helping as I read it because I hate my school right now. I'm actually trying to make a PowerPoint on why I should be home schooled and from reading all these other topics, it really does make me feel …
It is not likely the court would grant custody to a parent with no means to support the child(ren). Unless there are unusual circumstances in the situation. One of the main concerns of the court is the children are adequately provided for in terms of shelter, food, clothing, medical care, etc. As we…
In my state (Louisiana), once you are 17 you are no longer considered a juvenile, and can no longer be listed as a runaway. Basically, you can leave and the cops can't do anything about it. However, you still can't sign a lease or open a bank account, which severely limits your independence. I'm in …
As the saying goes, 'From 3-7 a child is learning to read, and from
7+ he is reading to learn.'
No, they cannot move out without parental permission. The key here is the age of majority (adulthood) in Michigan, which is 18. If they are an adult, the parents are no longer responsible.
It is normal for a new father to be anxious and a bit fearful regardless of his age. Having a child is a big responsibility, but the rewards are immeasurable. You will feel more secure and relaxed as time goes on. By the way, new mothers experience the same insecurities. It is perfectly normal for h…
Im 14 and popular and to me, its not all that important as long as i get my school work done im fine....I think its because if a certain child is not their "style" they wont hang with them just because of the whole popularity thing. I hang with everybody so i really don't know i was just trying to g…
She can if your under 18. And she also can if he's like four years or three years older than you and you are under 18 and he's 18 or over because that's statutory rape. She can get him locked up if you guys are still having sexual relations. But he has the right to see his kid and when he goes see h…
It depends on the state I think. In Indiana, for example, there
are no laws concerning that. You can homeschool your children even
if you did not graduate from High School.
It is new information for me that parent's education matters for
their kids enrollment. There would be some laws for s…
Removing an uncontrollable 17-year-old from your home would depend on the laws in your state, which may vary from state to state. It's best to seek the advice of someone who knows your state laws before taking that action.
I would think you would need to prove it in court. Whatever area you think they are unfit, you will need physical proof, not just hearsay, for example: drug addiction, mental illness, sexual abuse, neglect or abandonment. I would talk to your local Social Services and ask them what steps need to be …
Children from Narcissistic families are no different than any other children who have been abandoned. As the child grows up and is old enough to trace their parents some do, while others are angry or quite comfortable where they are. However, if possible it is a good idea to locate your biological p…
Im 10 years older than my sister. I have an older brother aswell. She Loves us to bits! She can copy us, and i have also managed to help her with her ABC'S numbers, shapes and also trying to teach her Spanish. I think its good to have an older sibling, as it helps them.. "mature" and also it means t…
If you are scared to tell your parents, then talk to another
responsible adult - one that will tell you WHY YOU ARE VERY WRONG
TO EVEN CONSIDER IT. This is not trying to preach to you or judge
you - it's just looking at the cold, hard facts. Having a baby at
14 is an extreme risk to your health - it…
Ok first things first,what in the world are you doing under the age of 18 and pregnant and second if they cant have children then I guess no but if it is ok with their parents then yes.
The previous two answers are great but I just wanted to add that sometimes children have vision problems that are not solved by glasses. Sometimes the problem is because they can't change focus from looking at something far away to looking at something close by quickly. They can have this tested by …
Yes. No, it's not normal because the more nine year old boys do this the more likely they are to have anger in them. Scientific experiments say people who are slow to anger live longer. The Bible says anger is rottenness to the bones.
Fish don't do the birds and bees thing. Momma lays several hundred unfertilized eggs in a cluster and poppa deposits his sperm on them. Fingerlings hatch and grow with no parental supervision.
Actually , the answer previous to mine is not entirely correct. That person forgot to take into ac…
by now, add/adhd is such a widely accepted disorder and is by no means difficult to diagnos. if you believe your child has add, hopefully you have educated yourself in a responsible manner.If not, you might search "Google" for articles, tests etc. specifically ones writen by medical researchers, doc…
Many doctors don't have current knowledge about ADD. If I were concerned about my child, I would take him to a doctor who is known in the field of ADD or to a clinic that is known in the field. Ask your local chapter of CHADD (Children & Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder) for suggestions in…
Libraries have lots of books listing tons different scholarships. Just some of books that some libraries might have are College Board 2010 Scholarship Handbook, Peterson's Scholarships, Grants, & Prizes, The Ultimate Scholarship Book, and Scholarships: Billions of Dollars in Free Money for Colle…
if you will email me with some idea of your experience, abilities, investment available, equipment to work with, Ill try to give you a few possibilities. One thing is certain, Dallas is crowded with repo companies so you better be ready to hustle. No, I don't sell anything.
This is a good question. The answer depends on what your are making
the beneficiary designation for. That is, an estate, trust, life
insurance policy, IRA or retirement account, bank account. Also,
what is the total amount of your assets, are you in a community
property state? Finally, what do you w…
Yes,life insurance can be obtained by any one for anyone.Its kinda sad.
Sounds like a yes to me. Check with your CPA. For more details see www.steveshorr.com/life.htm
Our eyes are always the same size from birth, but our nose and ears never stop growing.
your eyes grow throughout your whole life
An infant's eyes are between 65 and 75 percent of their adult size.
Yes, If they got their divorce in the U.S., their divorce decree should state certain rules each must follow concerning the children. For example; whom ever has physical custody cannot move within a 35 mile radios from the father Or mother, another example; Cannot leave the state without the other p…
I believe that relationship problems can almost always be solved. The problem is with your attitude. It's not something external to you.So, you could have saved your marriage, if you wanted to. If you want to hold on to your new relationship you'll be able to do that too. But if you are searching fo…
The age of consent varies by state (and country to country). Even if the girl says she consented to have sex with him, if she was below the age of consent, it is statutory rape. Anyone can report him and the state press charges. If either the man or the girl admit that they had sex before she reache…
In the United States you must be 18 to marry, or have parental/guardian consent.
--Not entirely true. Some states allow a 16/17 year old female to marry without consent if she becomes pregnant.
I'm not sure what you're asking. Do you mean who would get custody of the girl--her parents or her husband. Neither. When a minor *legally* marries they emancipated.And, in order to marry her, you would need parental consent, and even with that consent, most states will not allow it.
A notarized affidavit from two persons who swear to the fact is usually sufficient.
Children were dressed like little adults and, in fact, treated like adults in that they were (in the lower classes) expected to go to work as early as 5 or 6. They were probably more serious than our children; working in a dangerous factory will knock lots of foolishness out of a child. There was no…
A budget is simply an analysis of how much money comes in and how much money goes out. Start by listing your income from all sources. Then, list your "fixed" expenses - those that are the same each month - such as your mortgage payments or your rent, car payments or insurance premiums. Next, list …
Your son is likely to encounter narcissists in his future. In a way, he will be better prepared to cope with them, more alert to their existence and chicanery and more desensitized to their abuse. For this you should be grateful. There is nothing much you can do, otherwise. Stop wasting your money…
The study of narcissism is a century old and the two scholarly debates central to its conception are still undecided. Is there such a thing as HEALTHY adult narcissism (Kohut) - or are all the manifestations of narcissism in adulthood pathological (Freud, Kernberg)? Moreover, is pathological narciss…
The narcissist knows to tell right from wrong. He is perfectly capable of anticipating the results of his actions and their influence on his human environment. The narcissist is very perceptive and sensitive to the subtlest nuances. He has to be: the very integrity of his personality depends upon in…
Overweening, smothering, spoiling, overvaluing, and idolizing the child - are all forms of parental abuse.This is because, as Horney pointed out, the child is dehumanized and instrumentalized. His parents love him not for what he really is - but for what they wish and imagine him to be: the fulfilme…
Give up. Achieve closure. He doesn't deserve more than what you have already given him.The word "love" is understood by the narcissist to mean "dependence", "neediness", "ability to provide narcissistic supply", "becoming the narcissist's extension and property".In these - distorted and sick - sense…
Narcissism is the personality trait of selfishness taken to an extreme level, and like any personality trait, it can be slowly changed through great effort or at least blunted with behavior modification techniques. While it is possible for children of a narcissist to suffer some emotional issues due…
Ben Franklin had a son who was once the Governor of New Jersey. However, he was thrown out of office directly before the Declaration was adopted.
As long as your children see, experience, and live, with healthier influences, they have as good a chance of growing up to live happy fulfilled lives as anyone.
The narcissistic condition emanates from a seismic break of trust, a tectonic shift of what should have been a healthy relationship be…
Studies have shown time and again that a child who grows up in an abusive environment will most likely grow into an adult who will perpetuate the cycle of abuse unless he or she seeks counseling of some sort. A child needs a positive role model in most cases to demonstrate t…
The outcomes of abuse depend on numerous factors and are often not predictable. Heredity (genetics), peers, the other parent, family, teachers, society, and cultural values all play a role.
anger and rebelion are feelings i fostered, growing up with a verbally abusive alcoholic mother. The …
Does the person say things that makes you feel bad and low? Does this person call you names and/or tell you that your no good for anything? Are you ever left in a room crying after your partner has said something so hurtful that you can't help but feel like less than nothing and burst into tears an…
Another answer I too was abused for 10 or 20 years, please do not spend the next 30 years dwelling on it. Read self help books, on happiness such as "Being Happy" and "How to Snap Out of It". Now that the abuse is in the past, go ahead and enjoy your life. Break free of the mental chains that have …
Consistently - like never or constantly? Yes, of course, in my book! That was what I got in my relationship - No love, No respect. But, sometimes, it is understandable to just be tired from the stresses of trying to live in todays's society that could make someone less attentive that way. Put your a…
It depends. If, at the time of death, the child was functioning as a source of narcissistic supply to the narcissist - then the narcissist will mourn and grieve. Otherwise, he is likely to remain indifferent (though he may pretend otherwise in order to maintain his standing in society and his relati…
Yes, it is possible if you both make an effort to do so. My father and I are slowly repairing a relationship that had been destroyed as a child. it has taken many years, but I can understand more on why he was the way he was. It doesn't make it right, but it helps to understand.
Heck, yes that is abuse. Verbal and emotional.
Be assertive and tell them that it's your life and you will do what
you want with it, you're not hurting anyone. If they don't like it,
then they can, well, ya know where to tell them where to go.
Don't believe them. It is a form of control-don't buy …
Indeed, financial dependence is one of the main reasons why victims stay in an abusive relationship!
Figure out a budget with what you can personally afford--hopefully, you presently have a job. Life is much easier before the settlement if you have done this, since you have not put yourself into …
Being smothered, doted upon, and spoiled are all forms of child abuse. Many of these children grow up to be abusive adults.
"Can someone who was spoiled and over protected as a child become an abuser?"No. This is crazy. How in the world did you arrive at this one?
Firstborn seem to be more more vulnerable to certain mental health disorders. No one is sure whether this has to do with genetics.