Breakups

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The chances are your ex husband already had problems with drugs when you were together. He may have stayed away from it for a short time, but drug addicts, alcoholics, etc., have difficulties dealing with trauma in their lives and it's easier to dull the pain with drugs or alcohol. Don't blame yourself! He had a choice as to what road he could have gone down. NEVER let anyone hold you ransom for what they have become. Thousands of people in the U.S. and Canada go through bad split-ups and they don't choose to do drugs. He is your ex now and although it hurts you to see him throw his life away this is the path he has chosen. Again, the chances he did drugs before to deaden any pain he may have felt (even before you came along) has once again reared it's ugly head. You must realize hon, that everyone has choices in their lives and we all get hurt at some point in our lives (more than once) but, we deal with the hurt (a grieving process) and then we stand up, dust ourselves off and get on with life. Start going out with friends and don't feel guilty about having a good time (laughter is the best medicine.) Eventually you will meet someone that you will have a loving and healthy relationship with. Good luck!

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• Your boyfriend is vague at best (no communication skills) and he may have things in his personal life that are at loose ends and he feels he needs to resolve problems in his life before he continues on with a relationship with anyone. You deserve a better explanation than he has given you.

This depends on a few factors.

Some times people get terribly jealous. This can make them see ghosts at the brightest day. Quite often these people are jealous for no reason, but because of their behaviour when they are jealous, they push their partner further and further away.

On the other hand, many boys are just playing around with girls, having one girlfriend after another, and this is likewise not good at all.

If you don't feel safe together with your boyfriend, then I would suggest that the boyfriend you have is not the right one for you.

If you however feel safe with him, but don't like some of his actions, then I suggest you have a talk with him about it.

All in all, however difficult, you have to use your gut feeling for such a matter. Internet and internet answers causes more heartache than it cures because many people who "try to be helpful" are not mature enough to see both sides of a problem.

True love is about a deep feeling for each other. The moment one start flirting and the other one start doubting, this deep feeling is not present.

Be polite, calm, empathetic, honest and straight forward - keep it simple and to the point.

You might have to leave while he's away if you think he will become violent. Go to a womens shelter. They will put you and your three kids up for a while. They can also help you with the legalities of your situation and provide counseling for you and your kids. The most important thing is to get your kids out of the unstable enviroment. If you don't, then this thing can come back at you, making you responible for your children.

Sure. You are use to that companionship and if there was sex, you are use to the sex. Keep yourself occupied. If you wanted it to end and ended it, you were ready for it and soon you'll be feeling up to your usual self again.

Most will have felt this way, many relationships don't work out, but that doesnt mean you have to hate the person to split up with them. You will probably find that a year or two down the line you would like to see how the person is doing in life just to know that they are ok, simply because you care.

you just need time to get use to that perrson not being there. You were use to spending time and maybe shareing with some other person if you new in your heart it was what you wanted to do than you did the right thing. being with someone is how you find out if you were with the right person if you didnt try you would not have found out

== == * There are no set rules... There are no time frames... If you went right into another relationship it was either something you were thinking about doing long before you did it or, you are too insecure to be alone or, you got REALLY lucky and found someone really special and the timing just happened to be quickly after you broke up. The only other answer is, you never really loved the first guy anyway, so it didn't take a "mourning" period, and you didn't need to fuss with the relationship. The only right answer is, look deep within yourself. You know why you did what you did. Be honest with yourself about your reasons and evaluate if the reasons were healthy. If you are relationship jumping because you just have to be with someone and can't stand to be alone, you need to be alone for a while. If you can look at yourself in the mirror and know for a fact that this was just something that happened, and you are truly happy with where you are, then don't fight it, and put down the stopwatch, trying to time everything to an "appropriate amount of time." The idea that there is this set time only makes us try and wait out our appropriate time, and never really feel what is going on in the moment. == * Fools rush in! I am now married, but when I had a boyfriend and it didn't work out for one reason or another I would take a break from having a serious relationship again to learn from the first relationship. Everyone (and ourselves) makes a good or bad imprint on our lives. It's time for reflection and to better yourself, gain strength, know what you want in a relationship. If you have known this other young man for sometime and are in love with him and left your other boyfriend then that's a different story. == == * Yes. That could cause a lot of problems. Who knows; you may start to feel a certain way when ever that person comes around, and the current person that you are with are totally invisible. That is a sign of you didn't kill the feelings that you had for that person. The best advise is to wait, it's not safe nor smart to jump into a relationship after you just ended one.

Unfortunately she has moved on and so should you.

It means exactly what she says: You are a slob. Period. Maybe not to the extent you would notice, but certainly to the extent SHE does.

it is possible to love at 15, but most teenagers and young adults havn't learned to respect the felling of others (even those they feel very close to)...spend time together...get to know each other's feelings.

move on you can find a better guy

yes. but it's all up to you. you have to decide what you want and then just go for that. And of course you have to hope he is still willing to get back together with you. but hopefully the feelings are mutual and he will want to.

if you loved her and it hurt to let her go that's common. what you have to ask yourself is she truly the only on for me. when you were with her did it seem like you were always looking for someone better, something better to come along? If you find that you do really wanna be with her then go get her back. but you have be able to realize that if she didn't wan't to be with you that you have to accept that, and if it was truly ment to be then she'll eventually come back to you in the end.

You can't tell hi m anything other then how you feel about him and try to discuss how each of you feel about each other. If you both love each other then you should be able to work together and keep your relationship.

I think the only thing you can say is that simple "I'm doing fine, how are you?". I am currently facing the prospect of this again because I am going home during the Uni term holiday and will be facing my ex, who after 3 years together cheated on me in front of a lot of my friends, and then thought I wouldn't find out. He broke my heart, but now I have finally turned a corner and am over him. I found out from the last time that I saw him, the worst thing you can do is make a scene. You have to rise above it, hold your head high and treat them with a courtesy that they denied you.

This way, not only will you get a sense of satisfaction by letting them know they are not getting to you, but also that everyone has sympathy for you and sees them in a bad light.

Its going to be hard, but you will feel better for it.

Just remember, your not the first to go through this horrible situation, and you certainly won't be the last.

Good luck! And I hope the waste of space (I would use something more offensive, but this won't allow me) gets their comeuppence :)

a dream ends when you expect everyone to see it the same way you do and wait for their acknowledgement , rather than to go forward and make it come true

I ask myself this question every day. To be honest, I really don't know the answer. I guess it's because you felt so strongly for the person. You woke up every morning knowing that seeing them would make the rest of your day perfect. Realising that they were the only person you could ever dream of being with, and even though you may never be what they want or need, you still keep hoping hat one day they would feel the same. I think it's hard because you can't come to terms with the fact that you loved them and they didn't love you in return. I guess I just answered my own question too. Maybe now I can move on as well?

ANSWER:

This issue are real and it always happen. could it be the husband is taking for granted of his wife. It could be the husband doesn't have anymore time for his wife. It could be that this man feels comfortable about his marriage that he forgot that his wife also needs him. Or her husband is abusing her that he can't take it anymore. Or her husband is having an affair.

No, it doesn't mean you have to stop loving them. Simply put, it means that you stop dwelling on the past and move forward with your life. You may always have love for that person, but you can't stop time.

Don't jump into another relationship just to make someone else upset or to not be alone. Usually when you jump from relationship to relationship you could be getting the "name" that you don't want.

It's possible that he may have dumped you because he decided he liked this other girl better. What do you do? Let him go. You'll eventually find the right guy, one that won't go kissing other girls, even on a dare.

^^^All That Is An Option .. Or You Could Try And Play Hard To Get And Mke Him Want You Bak . That's What I Done And ... It Worked So Who Knowss ?

Try It And Then If That Dont Work Do The Other Option At The Top . ! :D

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Sorry to tell you, but sounds to me the your ex is a jerk since he just CAN"T sleep with another woman and tells you he loves you. If you still have any feelings for him, my best advice is to get rid of them because it isn't fair to you and to the other woman. I mean if he still loves you, then why does he sleep with another woman, its just wrong, and to tell you, i hate men/boys telling you they love you, but doesn't actually show you that he loves you or has someone else. I know that (if you still have any feelings for him) its not easy getting rid of feelings for somebody, but just remember that no one can love someone if they're sleeping with someone else, it just means that they're a two-timer and a jerk.

• What the two of you are doing wrong is not communicating with each other properly. You need to ask her why she feels she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and if she gives you a reason then you will have to respect her wishes no matter how you feel. You can express how you feel, but unfortunately, this may not change her mind and it is time you took control of the situation by backing off for awhile. Sometimes when you try too hard to get someone or something back you never do, but, if you start going out with friends and dating again this may be a big enough jolt for your ex girlfriend to sit up and take notice and she may realize she loves you. Trying to force her to love you will not work and begging and pleading never does either.