Breakups

The only reason I would think an ex would want you to lie low is because they are on the prowl for someone else and want to make sure that you don't interfere. Your saying something could 'mess up' what they might be trying to accomplish.

You will have to ask yourself some serious questions here and be honest with yourself or you could be in for a lot more hurt. Sometimes when we get married we are young or immature and the relationship doesn't work out. If you split-up and a few years go by it's quite common for the same two people to rediscover themselves because one of them or both have matured. Was he a good man when you were with him? (Not abusive mentally or physically.) If he was DON'T GO BACK! Write down the good points of what changes both of you have made in your lives and are they for the good. If he cheated on you before, don't expect any miracles now! These types of people seldom change. Do you honestly think he's ready for another go at your relationship? Are you lonely and settling for less in your life? If you feel he's changed a great deal and he is interested in you (you just aren't interested in him) and you've answered the above questions honestly then any relationship is worth rekindling again. Be sure he feels the same way. Good luck Marcy

Abusing was part of what made them felt good. It was a way of asserting power over you and that is an addictive feeling. Most people like to have control over something in their life but some people like to have control over someone else which is wrong. They will eventually give up but dont allow yourself to be put in a position where you feel threatned and in danger. If it gets bad report it to the police. Good luck!

I know what you mean. You have things to say, you need to hear certain things from them, and you can't do either. Depends on what's necessary, but if you think they need to apologize to you, just forgive them now. Don't dwell on it anymore. If the thought comes back, just say "nope, I forgave them for that, and I'm moving on". It takes a big person to forgive someone, but it will help immensely.

The best way to move on though, is do start dating again. Redirect all that you have bottled up in your heart towards someone else. You will be surprised how quickly you forget about the other person. The only thing to replace love with, is love. Good luck to you, stay strong.

Simple answer: No, but he is being cruel. People have different types of integrity for him it may be that lying and listening is not up there with essential stuff that needs to be done. However, if you were faced with a large bear that was about to maul you; if he sacrificed his life for yours then yes, he would have done so out of love.

He's still being cruel though.

Don't go crazy and block off whoever from every website you have...just cut down the texting. Check up on that person every now and then,but don't go overboard. You don't want to have to start the cycle AGAIN! Try to find a new girl/boy friend to make you happy! Do what ever you need to to feel happy!

maybe you should talk to the person they broke up with to see how they feel about the break up and if they are completely done with the person you love then maybe talk to the person you love to ask how they feel about you and if they love you too then do what you want there shouldn't be anyone stopping you

dont do it by text say it to their face ,tell them the truth why u dumped them e.g if they were to clingey tell him and afterwards dont tell everyone you dumped him boys feel less manly is someone asks then you can tell them

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The chances are your ex husband already had problems with drugs when you were together. He may have stayed away from it for a short time, but drug addicts, alcoholics, etc., have difficulties dealing with trauma in their lives and it's easier to dull the pain with drugs or alcohol. Don't blame yourself! He had a choice as to what road he could have gone down. NEVER let anyone hold you ransom for what they have become. Thousands of people in the U.S. and Canada go through bad split-ups and they don't choose to do drugs. He is your ex now and although it hurts you to see him throw his life away this is the path he has chosen. Again, the chances he did drugs before to deaden any pain he may have felt (even before you came along) has once again reared it's ugly head. You must realize hon, that everyone has choices in their lives and we all get hurt at some point in our lives (more than once) but, we deal with the hurt (a grieving process) and then we stand up, dust ourselves off and get on with life. Start going out with friends and don't feel guilty about having a good time (laughter is the best medicine.) Eventually you will meet someone that you will have a loving and healthy relationship with. Good luck!

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• Your boyfriend is vague at best (no communication skills) and he may have things in his personal life that are at loose ends and he feels he needs to resolve problems in his life before he continues on with a relationship with anyone. You deserve a better explanation than he has given you.

This depends on a few factors.

Some times people get terribly jealous. This can make them see ghosts at the brightest day. Quite often these people are jealous for no reason, but because of their behaviour when they are jealous, they push their partner further and further away.

On the other hand, many boys are just playing around with girls, having one girlfriend after another, and this is likewise not good at all.

If you don't feel safe together with your boyfriend, then I would suggest that the boyfriend you have is not the right one for you.

If you however feel safe with him, but don't like some of his actions, then I suggest you have a talk with him about it.

All in all, however difficult, you have to use your gut feeling for such a matter. Internet and internet answers causes more heartache than it cures because many people who "try to be helpful" are not mature enough to see both sides of a problem.

True love is about a deep feeling for each other. The moment one start flirting and the other one start doubting, this deep feeling is not present.

Be polite, calm, empathetic, honest and straight forward - keep it simple and to the point.

You might have to leave while he's away if you think he will become violent. Go to a womens shelter. They will put you and your three kids up for a while. They can also help you with the legalities of your situation and provide counseling for you and your kids. The most important thing is to get your kids out of the unstable enviroment. If you don't, then this thing can come back at you, making you responible for your children.

Sure. You are use to that companionship and if there was sex, you are use to the sex. Keep yourself occupied. If you wanted it to end and ended it, you were ready for it and soon you'll be feeling up to your usual self again.

Most will have felt this way, many relationships don't work out, but that doesnt mean you have to hate the person to split up with them. You will probably find that a year or two down the line you would like to see how the person is doing in life just to know that they are ok, simply because you care.

you just need time to get use to that perrson not being there. You were use to spending time and maybe shareing with some other person if you new in your heart it was what you wanted to do than you did the right thing. being with someone is how you find out if you were with the right person if you didnt try you would not have found out

== == * There are no set rules... There are no time frames... If you went right into another relationship it was either something you were thinking about doing long before you did it or, you are too insecure to be alone or, you got REALLY lucky and found someone really special and the timing just happened to be quickly after you broke up. The only other answer is, you never really loved the first guy anyway, so it didn't take a "mourning" period, and you didn't need to fuss with the relationship. The only right answer is, look deep within yourself. You know why you did what you did. Be honest with yourself about your reasons and evaluate if the reasons were healthy. If you are relationship jumping because you just have to be with someone and can't stand to be alone, you need to be alone for a while. If you can look at yourself in the mirror and know for a fact that this was just something that happened, and you are truly happy with where you are, then don't fight it, and put down the stopwatch, trying to time everything to an "appropriate amount of time." The idea that there is this set time only makes us try and wait out our appropriate time, and never really feel what is going on in the moment. == * Fools rush in! I am now married, but when I had a boyfriend and it didn't work out for one reason or another I would take a break from having a serious relationship again to learn from the first relationship. Everyone (and ourselves) makes a good or bad imprint on our lives. It's time for reflection and to better yourself, gain strength, know what you want in a relationship. If you have known this other young man for sometime and are in love with him and left your other boyfriend then that's a different story. == == * Yes. That could cause a lot of problems. Who knows; you may start to feel a certain way when ever that person comes around, and the current person that you are with are totally invisible. That is a sign of you didn't kill the feelings that you had for that person. The best advise is to wait, it's not safe nor smart to jump into a relationship after you just ended one.

Unfortunately she has moved on and so should you.

it is possible to love at 15, but most teenagers and young adults havn't learned to respect the felling of others (even those they feel very close to)...spend time together...get to know each other's feelings.

move on you can find a better guy

It means exactly what she says: You are a slob. Period. Maybe not to the extent you would notice, but certainly to the extent SHE does.

if you loved her and it hurt to let her go that's common. what you have to ask yourself is she truly the only on for me. when you were with her did it seem like you were always looking for someone better, something better to come along? If you find that you do really wanna be with her then go get her back. but you have be able to realize that if she didn't wan't to be with you that you have to accept that, and if it was truly ment to be then she'll eventually come back to you in the end.

You can't tell hi m anything other then how you feel about him and try to discuss how each of you feel about each other. If you both love each other then you should be able to work together and keep your relationship.

yes. but it's all up to you. you have to decide what you want and then just go for that. And of course you have to hope he is still willing to get back together with you. but hopefully the feelings are mutual and he will want to.