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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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You and your boyfriend broke up you know he still loves you why wont he come back?
he probably doesnt know you want them to come after you. do you still have feelings for him? if your upset hes not coming after you, then that means deep down you still like him. the break up to him means its time to move on. so what you have to do is that you have to go after him.
Why would a Narcissist never say one bad thing about his ex to his new girlfriend?
He can't. A man can't say anything about a good woman, to do that would be a hypocrite. He knows you were good to him and to say anything bad about you would make him look like the bad one because he let you go or rather you let him go.
AnswerI think the word "narcissist" has been wrongly used in a lot of cases and especially in this case. A narcissist would not only not admit such a thing to anyone else, but is in denial about this to themselves. I think other things went on (each relationship is complex) and you split-up. He obviously still cares about you and admires you. He sounds like a decent enough guy because he sure has had opportunities to bash you and hasn't. This guy is giving compliments. Doesn't sound like the narcissistic type to me.Well, maybe she is feeling like you are smothering her or that you are being to "clingy". Some girls like being the center of attention all the time and some don't. It really just depends on the girl.
Don't take this to heart. Sometimes woman need some time to thereselves, because they want to spend sometime with our family and friends for awhile. Spending too much time together can actually make people break-up because they loose a sense of themselves and feel suffocated at times. Talk to her, tell her how you feel and that if she needs you that you will be right their for her for whatever she needs... and mean it too! I am sure that your just a good guy and that things are going to work out. Just talk to her about how you feel and truthfully, if she is toying with you or is backing away then Buddy, you deserve much better for yourself!!!!
Detailed Caseyeah thats what she says is that she just has alot of stuff on her mind and she needs this time for herself she swears that shes madly in love, and im for her and she doesn't want to leave or break up. she said she just needs this time for her to clear her head ive told her that im here for her she knows that she still calls me everyday and still we end calls with I love you so I just dotn know whats goign on
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"For a week?" Did you consider menstruation? She may be rather uncomfortable to talk about such things, especially with a guy. It seems to me you're both very young and you've been "together" for a rather short time. She may be clearing her uterus, not her head. Slight anatomical error ;-)
Just let her work out her feelings, and when she's ready to talk, be honest and straightforward with each other.
Ahhhahaa, she has doubts about the relationship. So she needs time to sort out how she really feels and she probably has another guy on the side but wants to keep you hanging on just in case it doesn't work out with the last fling with the other guy. So, while your away calling her and saying how much she loves you, she's having a fling with this other guy to see if they are sexually compatible. Cause is this woman really loves you, you can be in her face every minute of the day and it wouldn't matter. Fifty percent of all AMERICAN married couples end in divorce cause they don't know what intimate commitment is. Especially, the younger generations. Even worse is that people from other countries pick up this fast-food mentality and destroy the best things about thier own culture. I've been with several American women but it never lasted. I met one woman from Russia and we've been married now for 8 years. It's an entirely different scenario with American women, the majority of them will jump ship once they see something better. There is nothing sacred in America anymore. Blame it on "White" men ! All they want to do is scr* every women in site and *. Look at what's been proliferated all over the Internet, the most disgusting imagery concerning White men and women of color. Look how white american women are, they're like wh*. Tanya harding is a good example. Pamela Anderson, another example.Then you have talentless women that sell records solely on premanufactured musical marketing techniques, ala Britney Spears. All looks, but nothing is sacred to them, they make love with one guy and all it means to them is an org* ! So to get back to my point, your probably better off with a woman that understands commitment. You let her go off now, and that pattern will become the norm, until one day you find out she's been scr* another guy on those weeks' off. If a woman needs time away from you, to sort her thoughts out, then she's not the one. Sorry kiddo. You seam like a good person, but don't fool your self now for a load of hurt later. bless your heart.
Sorry, I disagree with the above
In reference to the above post, there seems to be a lot of anger involved, which indicates they've been hurt. While some women may be of bad character, it isn't fair to lump all American or all white women, or all women of color, or all women of any kind into a single group, of that one opinion.
Most women are loyal, trustworthy and loving; it's the few who aren't that give the rest of us a bad name. That post also makes "American" seem like a bad thing. America certainly doesn't have the market cornered on infidelity, nor do women. Did they once stop to think that more marriages end in divorce because it's the husband who cheated on the wife, than the other way around? Apparently not.
Also, just because a woman says she needs a week to her self, does NOT mean she is up to no good. There could be many, many reasons for her needing some time to herself. Maybe she has a medical problem that has to be taken care of and doesn't want to tell the guy about it, for what ever reason (it IS her body). Maybe she does need a few days to herself to decide where she wants to go with her life. Maybe she has a friend who needs her. Maybe she's just tired and needs a break from EVERY one. The list could go on and on with many legitimate, yet honest reasons she would want a few days to her self. So to say "if a woman needs time away from you, to sort her feelings out, she's not the one" is clearly a biased opinion, and not fair to women in general.
Being a girl myself, I have often felt over-crowded and smothered by my boyfriend. I love him to bits but sometimes he can become a bit too obsessive and I normally sit down and talk to him about how I feel and we try and work things out.
No relationship is perfect and sometimes I go a week without making contact (physically and through phone calls etc.) It doesn't mean that I love him any less, or that I'm cheating on him. I wouldn't dream of it.
Sometimes, if I need to spend time with mum (she has breast cancer), my boyfriend can become jealous because he constantly wants to be around me. That's when I decide to take time out from him.
I have considered breaking up with him but just taking time out seems to improve our relationship and helps him to understand what I really need. I really wouldn't be too concerned about your girlfriend, she most probably just needs some space.
I said that to my boyfriend to a couple months ago. I still loved him but he just wasn't giving me enough time just to let me hang out just me and my buddies. So don't take it personally just give her space.
Another view:
Look bro - I feel ya..... but I too need my own time away from my lady.. my love ... the one that makes me happy just to wake up. The woman I want to be with for the rest of my life yet I am such a coward that I can't tell her that because it may force me into a place that I am afraid of. ............... ya know .... I just may chat w/ her about this ...... when I am sober.
gkasi's view
i think in as much as we can have different perceptions over the case above,its important to realise that the most important thing one can do is to be real with themselves by knowing what they really want in love,a girl asking for time off is welcome so long as its for the good of her and also for the guy.
I am in the same boat bro. I've been dating the same girl for about two years, we had a spell where i was a lil disconnected from her and it made her feel un-loved, she told me she needed some time to think about it, but i didn't give it to her, instead i took her out for a romantic weekend. everything seemed fine till the following week now she says she doesn't know what she wants and she needs time to figure it out again!!!!! I don't know what to think, but I'm staying in a motel room and haven't text or talked to her in three days. It sucks.... I'm pretty sure it's not that she's cheating, she's not that type of girl, the hardest part is the not knowing. I will respect her wishes and give her the space she wants I just hope she makes the right decision..... if not I'll know it wasn't meant to be and I'll move on. as hard as it is I suggest you do the same.
What to do when your boyfriend stands you up on your first date and it is your one week anniversary?
He definitely does not care enough to carry on with this so-called relationship. So I think you should break it off with him because it is not worth your time.
Most men aren't faithful because they like varity. There aren't any strings attached to a "one night affair." If the man is in a committed relationship or married, affairs give him an ego boost. Also, affairs provide a temporary relief from financial trouble, work issues, children & nagging (from the significant other.) I'm not condoning his behavior! When he finally meets the woman of his dreams, karma will be there to greet him!
What does it mean when your boyfriend says he needs time alone?
It could mean he wants to masturbate, look at Porn, or to just have some space. It depends on him.
If you get married in one state but live in another which state's laws govern?
According to the Full Faith and Credit clause of the US Constitution: "Full Faith and Credit shall be given in each State to the public Acts, Records, and judicial Proceedings of every other State. And the Congress may by general Laws prescribe the Manner in which such Acts, Records and Proceedings shall be proved, and the Effect thereof." This is taken to mean that wherever you are in the country, the same legalities about marriage apply, at least for the purposes of what the federal government cares about. So if you live in Wisconsin, but got married during your Las Vegas trip, you're still married in Wisconsin. ==Additional Answer== This is an interesting question. For instance, if two people of the same sex get married in Massachusetts their marriage may not be recognized if they move to another state. Two people of the same sex who travel to Massachusetts to get legally married may not have their marriage recognized at home. If two people who were married in a community property state move to Massachusetts, buy a home and then get divorced, their divorce will proceed under the provisions of Massachusetts law. Generally, the state where you live governs your married life provided that it recognizes your marriage.
Does your ex girlfriend think about you?
Would your ex girlfriend still be thinking about you? Maybe! It all depends if she is thinking if you are going to apologize and ditch the new girl and go back to her.
That is what she is probably thinking! Or if it's the other way around she may be thinking about taking you back.
How can you forget about a girl?
Think about other things. Talking about it to a parent or close friend helps. Just focus on work or school to take your mind off it. Sooner or later the bad thought will go away!
After seven years are you legally separated and or divorce?
No. A separation legal or otherwise does not constitute a legal dissolution of a marriage. The couple or requesting party will need to file a dissolution of marriage (divorce) petition in the state court in their county of residence.
How long does it take an ex to come back?
what did you do for that to happen? me and my ex dated 3 years we broke up for the first time he says he wonts to give it a try but were starting to fight alot and sometimes its because of me and my insecurity's about being broke up and he tends to act like he is okay with it but at times it shows. what should i do what did you do for your ex to see that's he or she misses you?
what did you do for that to happen? me and my ex dated 3 years we broke up for the first time he says he wonts to give it a try but were starting to fight alot and sometimes its because of me and my insecurity's about being broke up and he tends to act like he is okay with it but at times it shows. what should i do what did you do for your ex to see that's he or she misses you?
What are the signs to look for that your long-term boyfriend is gay?
Ask him. :) If you and your boyfriend go to the movies and there is a guy sitting between you two, then that would be a pretty good indication!!
a lot of time men who r gay paint there nials and things like that but if you go to the movies with friends and your boyfriend just happens to be sitting next to a guy then that does not awlays mean that he is gay
What does it mean when a guy says i feel like you belong to someone better then me?
to many people that i know say that it means that the guy isn't
worth staying with and that he is somone that doesn't deserve a good women which he does deserve one
What do you do when a guy breaks your heart and you still love him?
you be mad at him and ignore him when he texts talks calls sends a friend to talk or passes you a note. and cry until he apologizes
Answer improvement::
You can do that, like ignore him and all and cry cuz when you get your heart broken of course you will cry, and when you ignore him he will realize what a mistake he did. but if you want to move on, get rid of everything that reminds you of him, stay busy, have fun with friends and dont think about him ok hun
Another answer improvement:::
confront him about how you feel...guys like to see a girls sensitive side... tell him everything that he did that hurts you and breks your heart!!! he might even fix your broken heart,and if he doesnt, then hes a jerk,and you dont neede a guy like that in your life!!! im here for you, girl.. my username is ' ilovehimmm ' contact me if ya want.
Another answer improvement:
get rid of everything that reminds you of him, talk to friends, hang out, flirt, and dont let any guy get you down!
if your Ex-Girlfriend is calling, answer, but try not to act very "can we go out again." Just be yourself, but don't have this phone call get in the way of another relationship. Remember that you two broke up before.
simple DON'T DO IT if you can't work it out with the person call them and be like he i love you but i think we should just be friends and maybe they will appreciate the fact that you had the guts to call instead of send a stupid text!!!
What does it mean if you dream about your ex a lot?
That your thinking on him too much, and some kind of how you still feel something deeply for him and most of all you don't want to admit it. On the other hand if am not right about that then is a warning some thing you should warn him about.
You DON'T! Once he has moved on with someone else, you honor the respect for another person and consider him off limits! If he should become single and available again...then you could start emailing or corresponding to show him that you are not clingy as he once thought...convincing him of change. But of course, if you ARE clingy, then you need to accept that you are not the ideal mate for him if that is what he does not like! Step 1: Stop being so clingy. Your problem would then be solved with no Step 2 because then you would no longer be (A) stalking an EX (B) stalking a guy that lives too far away to support a relationship and (C) stalking a guy who has a girlfriend. I'm sorry if that was a bit harsh, but I think the best thing for you is to get hit over the head with a wakeup call on just how extreme your question was. Dealing with a clingy issue in a relationship *OR* wanting an ex back *OR* pursuing a long distance relationship *OR* wanting a guy that is already taken are each pretty problematical. The problem here isn't how to get the guy back, the problem here is that you causally dumped all four together and even asked the question. You're past the "just get over him" zone, you're fast heading into the obsessive & lost-touch-with-reality zone.
Can a narcissist be friends with another narcissist?
Probably not, they would fight over mirror time. ;)
pink is noahs favorite color
uh i think pink or purple????............
How long do i have to keep my exs belongings after he moved out?
If the divorce court did not specify who gets to live in the house, the ex is a legal tenant and has a right to use of the property. If the house was granted to you, you will need to lawfully evict the ex.
Hi there
Thanks for being so candid about your relationship. What are some of the differences she is referring too? First off, many good relationships work out because "opposites attract!" I have no idea what this girl expects. YOU DO NOT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR ANYONE! You are you and there must have been a great deal she liked about you to go steady with you. What's changed? That's what you have to ask her and yourself.
Some young women can grow weary quickly in relationships (just as some young men can) and they feel the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. I still don't think you should wait around for her.
I think if you stop accommodating her wishes as the other poster put it, and started dating other girls she would soon make up her mind more quickly. Love doesn't come easy and although it's magical and fantastic at first, as time goes on it takes a lot of work and communication to keep the sparks flying. It appears you are willing to do this, but she is too immature to try.
Move on and start dating. There is a good possibility she will come running back to you, but beware ... she may just not want another woman to have you. Make her work for your attention and don't try pleasing her so much. She is and I say it again "she IS" taking advantage of you and hurting you in the process. If she wasn't being immature and selfish she would simply tell you it's over and she'd continue on with her boyfriend.
Good luckMarcy
You sure are a brute for punishment! When you say the word "ex" anything it means it doesn't exist in the future as it did in the past and this relationship of yours is no exception. I don't know how you can respect her or yourself when she is cheating on her new boyfriend and both of you know full well it's wrong. There are choices! You either love someone or you don't. This girl is having a field day feeling pretty darn important with two guys wanting her. It's time to grow up and tell her to make up her mind right now! Either she loves you enough to come back and she has the compassion and guts to face her boyfriend and tell him she's going back to him or I'd dump her for good. If you don't both of you will get what you deserve. There is an old saying, "The head of the snake will turn around and bite you on the butt!" You'd better believe that quote is true because I've seen it in action often during my many years on this earth.
Marcy the ex girlfriend here was a girlfriend 3 days ago so there has not been much separation and the feelings are still there she is just unsure if she is in love but does care deeply for me and could be in love the new boyfriend just came about he has been talking to her for a little because she was unsure but she was always with me but feels are differences are too much,unlike him whom is more similar,but I don't think differences mean much we can grow to like the same things in time,she does love me and I love her and want her to be in love with me like I am to her. It hurts me thinking he doesnt have to try as hard to be similar,I give 100percent to like her views and she knows that,but is unsure.
AnswerShe is cheating on her new boyfriend. What makes you think she won't cheat on you? Break it off. Tell her good bye. As long as she does not have to make a choice, she won't. Until she does, why do you want to be involved.What do you do when your boyfriend's ex keeps calling and wants to get back with him?
* Ask the phone company to make your phone number unlisted, or change your phone number altogether.
* To stop an ex from calling you, you should at least have a clean breakup in the first place. Start by letting your ex know why he or she should stop calling you. Tell them your primary reasons first and ask them to respect your space. Changing phone numbers and using subjectively hurting ways to avoid their calls would not be the best way for they will keep calling and wondering what has happened to you. Talk it out and make the break really clean.
* Honesty is the best policy, even though its much easier to take the easy way out.
* If it's harassment, get an order of protection from the court. If you have children, you have to try to work something out, so ask the court to appoint a mediator.
* He/she will stop eventually. Just give them time to relax about the situation and let them know that it is over and they should try and move on. Other than that, there really isn't much you can do without being nasty. Just let them know outright that you're trying to move on and you don't want to hurt them, but you can't keep taking calls from them.
Is it over when your boyfriend hasn't called in two weeks?
If it isn't it should. why would you date someone who doesn't bother to call you in two weeks...
What to do when your ex wants to get back with her ex?
If your ex is trying to get back with you after a relationship, you have to think about it. Try to remember all the good and bad times if the good times over weigh the bad ones you may want to consider him again. If its the other way around than most likely dump him again. If your moving on while he's not, don't fall back into his traps, get over with him. Tell him that its over and you don't want him, do this nicely so that this doesn't make a big scene. Once you tell him your finished just walk away don't stay with him and try to comfort him that will just give him a chance to be vulnerable and make you feel sympathy making you fall into a bigger trap than before.
