Cheating

It sounds like your husband is cheating. You need to ask him what is going on, then see a counselor or an attorney to decide what to do with your relationship.

• Most people have the capacity of empathy and know right from wrong. Even if at the time of saying or doing something in anger once that individual has calmed down they may realize what they did or said was wrong and they should have feelings of remorse and guilt until they realize that they should have the maturity to apologize to that person they hurt. There are certain individuals who do not have the ability of empathy or remorse such as rapists; murderers, etc. It is in the individual to know whether what they have done wrong and to act on it.

you should just wait until your mum finds out herself......she'll find out in her own time or maybe she does believe you but wishes that she doesn't. just act like nothing has changed until she finds out herself.

So sexy that a boy wants to lick it

• No, it is not wrong that you would be highly suspicious of your partner cheating again. Your mate broke that bond of trust. Humans make mistakes and it is possible your mater has learned their lesson and may never cheat again, but you are running a risk that they will. If you have good communication skills and talk things out so you know what each of you wants in a relationship you have a better chance of making the relationship last.

This is some piece of work your new husband pulled off on you. It appears he knew all about this before he married you. A paternity test (DNA) will tell if this is his child or not. This is the only option you have. If it is his child then it's his responsibility to pay Child Support.

Whether she made several advances on him or not he is trying to squirm out of this difficult situation and placing the blame on her and not taking responsibility for his own actions. All he had to do was open his mouth and tell her he was in love with you and getting married. This problem of his ex being pregnant is not yours, but his and you demand that there is a paternity test done to be sure this child is his. Then sit your new husband down and communicate the fact that this is how things are going to be: Good communication skills, honestly, loyalty and building on your relationship into the future or you'll kick his butt out the door.

There are several issues here. First, whether your husband's ex was pregnant. Second, if she was, is your husband the father. Third, does your husband's ex expect him to pay her child support for the child. Fourth, if "several advances" means romantic advances, how did your husband react; and if "several advances" means demands for money, how should you and your husband react.

Depending upon the relative dates, the ex may have been pregnant as he claims, and she would have no reason to "admit" it except to demand child support or to try to get him back. In either case, you have an interest in the matter. If you don't believe your husband, you should ask her. If it is true, and she wants support, you and your husband should insist on a DNA test to confirm that he is the father. If she wants him back, you should ask him what his intentions are.

If he bosses you around and says "If you don't do it I will do ..."

It really amazes me how much the word "narcissistic" or "narcissist" comes up. You'd swear it was a new trend of disease that everyone wants to get!

Some guys are just jerks and you're trailing on the boxer shorts (or thong) of your true love. You deserve better! It would be the day I would let my husband see another woman (even if I wasn't married and it was my boyfriend) and I'd dump him like a hot rock!

These types of guys aren't worth it. They want their cake and eat it too. Do yourself a favor and let her have him! Let her have the headaches because he'll do the same to her.

I was married to my ex who thought he was nothing short of the greatest lover on earth and he had a mistress. She phoned me "wanting to talk" and I told her right out she could have him! I gave him to her. He did cheat on her, and she married him anyway!

Please, get away from this guy. He's just plain no good and I don't even know why you want him back. Please don't say it's love because people who love one another don't hurt each other in this manner.

You can bet, if you leave him, he'll be burning rubber up to your front door pleading you to rethink your actions. He can't understand in his tiny brain how much he has hurt you and he just wants that "cake and eat it to" and he'll just go right back to the way he was. Run!

Man, tough one! Just be honest with her let her know shes the one and what will it take to get her back. Then do it! Trust, honesty, communication and loyalty are a must. Treat her like you would want to be treated. Get down on your knees and prey! God can fix things!

wat the hell is a cheating pill?

Well quite a bit do. It's mostly guys who want to cheat on girls.

I agree. But to reassure everyone, those relationships are founded on lust and do not last more than 3 or 4 months.

She was having serious family trouble but he didn't tell me he was helping her because I was overly jealous of her. He is also her boss. I understand him helping her but he deceived me for months. He admitted to talking to her daily, working closely with her, going to lunch with her but says he was only helping her since it was affecting her job and just got in too deep. Do I believe him or not. I was the one who discovered it and have had to drag any information out, he hasn't really offered anything on his own but says he loves me and wants to be together forever. He needs to end the relationship now, end contact as much as possible (only business discussions at work), and enter into marital counseling with you. Your marriage won't ever be the same, if you want to stay in your marriage, you will have to learn to trust him again, and he will have to admit to the problems that caused him to turn to this co worker.

I'm sorry about what's going on to you, but if your husband still won't discuss what happened and admit to the affair, there are going to be a lot of problems and resentments in your marriage. My husband admitted to an emotional affair, but for two LONG years adamantly said they were "just good friends" - my response was always the same - you can't be "just good friends" with the opposite sex if you are already in a relationship.

What was the result? He has just admitted to me he is in love with her and doesn't know how it happened - although he still loves me too. Men (and women) are more vulnerable than they think - people in this situation think they are so strong and "would never let this happen", but it snuck up on him, and like others, found himself in this predicament.

Closeness eventually creates intimacy, and because both married parties (the friends) think they have boundaries - ie, "we are married therefor we know we won't fall in love" become closer and closer until it's too late.

Sirach Chapter 36:25 writes "A property with no fence will be plundered." or "Where no hedge is, there the possession is spoiled."

You and your husband must establish boundaries within your life to protect all that you have. Take it from me, an emotional affair is an affair. He is obviously getting something from her he isn't getting from you. If she didn't mean anything to him, he wouldn't have let this go on for so long. Being involved with her, regardless if there wasn't/isn't any sex, he still was giving her emotional support,time, needs and so forth. He was giving her what he should have been giving you.

Tell him how you feel about everything. And ask him to stop being there for her. He needs to be there for you.

An emotional affair is an affair. Fifty percent of emotional affairs turn physical.

Good Luck. My heart goes out to you. Emotional affair is still an affair.

I don't know. I'm going through the same thing. He says they were just friends and he needed to talk to her about me. He gave her more time than me and told her intimate details of our marriage. He won't admit it was an affair but I disagree. I would like to know how to trust him again also. I can't believe anything he says and I am hurt and angry and feel he is not doing his part to help make this work. He says he loves me and wants to stay married to me. I just don't see it. We need help. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Matthew 5:28 "I say to you that everyone who keeps looking at s woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." No such thing as just being friends when your are married. He is really just being UNFAITHFUL!!!

Answer: Mutual trust is vital to marital happiness, if that is missing, there is hard work to do. Lies, half-truths, and even silence undermine trust. So you need to speak openly and honestly with each other. Anyone can you make their marriage honorable. You need to avoid behavior that will damage the marital arrangement. In addition, you need to take steps that will strengthen the marital bond. God's basic instruction for marriage: "A man will leave his father and his mother and he will stick to his wife." (Genesis 2:24) Of course, those who marry still respect their parents; however, it is God's arrangement that their foremost obligation is to their spouse. To be unfaithful to a mate is not normal. It is betrayal. In real life, disloyalty and betrayal cause pain and suffering. Some practical suggestions are as follows for marriage mates: They should (1) be honest with each other; (2) work as a team; (3) replace old habits with new ones; and (4) know when to let go of resentment, seeking to heal the breach. Only you can decide if it is time to move on. See Jehovah's Witnesses for this and many older olders to help married couples.

Answer also: A successful marriage requires giving exclusive devotion to your mate. Your marriage mate has first claim on your time, attention and emotional energy. Any relationship that takes what rightly belongs to your mate and gives it to someone else is a form of infidelity, even if no sexual activity is involved. An emotional dependency with someone of the opposite sex can grow and communication in person, by telephone, or through online chat could become a betrayal of trust. Marriage mates expect that certain topics will be discussed only with each other and that their confidential talk will be kept private. Beware of rationalizing that no romantic feelings exist when in fact they may. The heart is treacherous says Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate. Who can know it?" If in a close relationship with someone of the opposite sex a person should ask themselves: "Am I defensive or secretive about the relationship? Would I be comfortable if my mate overheard our conversations? How would I feel if my mate cultivated a similar friendship? An improper relationship can lead to marital disaster, since emotional closeness paves the way for eventual sexual intimacy. Even if adultery does not result, the damage caused by loss of trust can be extremely difficult to repair. What can help all married persons is the following: Keep friendships with members of the opposite sex within appropriate boundaries. Do not ignore the presence of improper feelings or rationalize impure motives. If you sense that a relationship threatens your marriage, act quickly to limit or end it. The Bible says "Shrewd is the one who has seen the calamity and proceeds to conceal himself. - Proverbs 22:3. (see 4/09 Awake article Marital Fidelity - What Does it Really Mean? on Jehovah's Witnesses official website)

The guy is married! He may be too shy to tell this person that he only thinks of her as a friend and has a good time with her. Many women can have male friends in the workplace, but it doesn't make them into a living, breathing affair. My guess is, he loves his wife and wants to keep it that way. If he wanted to go further with this woman he would have asked her out by now, but since it seems he's having a good time at work then I would consider that friendship and nothing more.

== == == == No just the sorry ones ANSWER about 98 percent do and the other 2 percent are gay yes they do

I was walking on a sidewalk and tripped on a stone.And hit my head on a stone wall.I did it because I was little.

Ther can be many reasons one might become vulnerable to an affair like feeling they are not receiving enough attention or love at home. Perhaps their partner is cold or indifferent or doesn't know how to become sensitive enough to show or give necessary emotions. You must be careful who you marry. Make sure the person loves you and marries you for that reason. Marrying someone simply because they are good marriage material or have ways like your mother or father is not enough. Remember you have to have sex with this person on a regular bases. I know a woman who married a man who did not love her but she married him anyway because he was so fine and good looking. Although they have been married for almost four ty years he has never seen her for who she is and he never touches her sexually.

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In scale of 1-10 I will say 9% of married men will say it's their wives and this includes the man I married. It doesn't matter the kind of problem couples is, including mine, but most married men will say it's their wife. They were forced to do it, or most of issue is about sex.

Typicaly guys dont ask alot of questions unless they think something is going on or something is wrong.

Maybe he thinks she's been foolin around and he's trying to find out, and her paranoid behavior because of the questions is making it worse?.

To prevent pregnancy.

Yes, you can trust that they will cheat again.

Only you can answer this however, I realize this must be upsetting but you have to ask yourself do you trust him to go out on his own knowing he may be drinking? I do have to say as well drinking/drunk is absolutely no excuse for cheating if you are in a committed relationship.

Unfortunately, sometimes its not always "just one time" it just happens to be the only time you know/found out about. If you do decide to forgive him don't let that be a license to walk all over you. If you do decide to part ways move forward with your head up and remember just because one person has done that don't let them wreck it for the possibilities in your future. Weigh your pros and cons and do what is best for you - Good Luck.

I would realize this is a man who wants what he doesn't have, and does not appreciate what he does have. I would understand that he places his feelings and desires above anyone he claims he cares about and discontinue any relationship with him until he sees his flaws and seeks to change himself.

I would also apologize and repent for taking advantage of someone elses relationship with him though it had been done to me by someone else.

I am so sorry you are going through such a mess. Men are not too bright in this department and think they can have an affair; leave it up to the woman to deal with birth control and then the men are in shock when they find out they are going to be a daddy. There are several things to consider. You didn't mention if you had children of your own. You need to sit down with your husband and ask him why he had this affair in the first place. Then you are going to have to decide if he's worth keeping around. We all make mistakes and we all go through emotional ups and downs in our lives and it's important we learn from those mistakes. Hopefully, your husband made a mistake having the affair, got out of it and doesn't go down that road anymore. The only way you are going to get these answers to so many questions is from him. If you don't like what you hear kick him to the curb! If he is truly upset, admits to a mistake and looks you in the eyes and tells you it has only happened once and it will never happen again, then I'd give him another chance. The child is the innocent one here and your husband should be a man and take some responsibility for this child, but not until he is tested to finalize the fact he is indeed the father of this child. Good luck Marcy nothing. if you love him you love him. even if he has another child. but it is not up to others it is up to you and what you feel in your soul. good luck to you and be strong. It's hard enought to get past an affair. While the child is one of the innocent parties in this mess (along with you and any children you have), the whole situation can't be put in the past, they way some affairs can be. What if your husband decides to have a relationship with this child? While he should at least support this child financially and hopefully emotionally, it's not going to be a Brady Bunch blended family--there is going to be a lot of hurt and resentment about what has occured, even if you never know this child. If you decide to divorce him, do it now. Discuss the full situation with a lawyer, and make tough decisions about child support. If the child's mother demands, and wins child support in a court decision, you, not just your husband, will be expected to dole out monetary support. The reality is, this support will come at a cost to your children. Obviously this is a situation your husband brought on himself, but it still will affect other people's lives. Sadly, a lot of people, including your children and this child, are going to suffer for the stupidity of your husband and this woman.