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Cheating
This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
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If you find out your wife is cheating with a married man should you tell his wife?
ABSOLUTELY!!! Take it from the sister of a woman who did it constantly. There's nothing more humiliating and convicting to a cheating woman than having this disgusting fantasy she's living become exposed. Right now she's comfortable because the situation is still somewhat in her control. Once the other spouse knows, they will get involved and begging to put a lot of pressure on their own cheating spouse. At this point, your wife looses control because she is no longer the major decision-making factor. Not to mention the fact that YOU deserve this. JUST WHO THE HELL DOES SHE THINK SHE IS to cheat on and expect you to keep quiet about it. Lastly, being a past victim of a cheating soon-to-be-spouse, I had to learn the hard way that you run the risk of it continuing to happen if things are kept quiet. I know you may be thinking "but she loves me too much to do that and now that its in the open, she wouldn't dare". If this is what you're thinking...all I can say is I FEEL FOR YOU!!! Because if this was true she wouldn't have done it in the first place!
This is a very hard question to answer and it depends on the maturity of the people you are dealing with.
Personally, I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me.
AnswerI think it's time you gave your wife some ultimatums and not put up with this one more day. I am sorry you are going through this.If you know the man's wife and you feel she is a down to earth lady, then perhaps it's best, but it could back-fire on you as well and she may possibly not believe you.
For now, I think you should get your own wife under control and if she isn't willing, I'd leave. What she is doing is sneaky, cruel, is hurting two people and quite possibly hurting any children that may be involved. This is called a "me" syndrome and that's one selfish action.
If you are unhappy in your marriage then you should have the guts to talk to your mate, make arrangements to leave each other, custody of any children and visitation rights and part company.
Good luck Happy New Year Marcy
Would you ask your wife to take your children for paternity test if she cheated once?
- You have to tread very carefully with your wife. If possible find out when she cheated the once and you should be able to calculate the birth of the first or last child. If a long while has gone by then it would be best to accept both children and carry on with your marriage. Children are children and it sounds as if you have connected with both children. If it really bothers you and your wife cheated in the last two years then you should be honest and get a paternity test on at least the one child you feel may not be yours.
How can you deal with the painful images of your husbands affair?
- When a husband has an affair on his wife it is normal to find it ugly; humiliating and that you are angry because you once trusted your husband and he broke that bond of trust. It leaves you feeling betrayed and mistrustful of him. No one forgets traumas in their life, but, in time the most painful part of the trauma does ebb. You have a right to be angry so get it out of your system, but wise people turn that anger into a productive way of either saving the marriage by seeking marriage counseling and trying to overcome this affair and again being happy together as a married couple or leaving the marriage and becoming a stronger woman for it and eventually, if the wife chooses to leave she will meet someone else in her future that will make her happy and gives her the respect she deserves. If the husband has only cheated once then 'to err is human' although it doesn't make it right and it is worth saving the marriage, but if the husband has one affair after the other it is best to move on because he has not learned his lesson or is too selfish to care whether these affairs hurt you and the rest of the family.
Do white stains in a woman's underwear mean she is cheating?
She is definitly being aroused by someone else
Not necessarily, she may just have totally normal (every woman has this throught their cycle) cervical fluid discharge. Its a totally natural bodily function that is released from the womans body on a daily basis.
She could also have a yeast infection!
Why does a Married man continue to see woman as friends?
It is important that men and women both have friends of the opposite sex, when you are stopped from doing something it is obvious that the desire to do it is increased and this could raise the risk / likelihood of cheating in your marriage therefore it is best to trust each other and continue your social life in a similar manner to pre-marriage.
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In my own opinion men will always treat woman as their friends even after affairs because they are soulless and will not have the guilt that he used to sleep with her, especially is she have all the benefits.
Is there a law against lying about your age?
well it deppendends on what you are doing like if you wan't to join this site but you need to type in your age and you have to be 17 and your 13 then you can lie but if you are signing something or if the cops ask hold you are then it illegal
What you think the hazards of cheating are?
It depends on individual, but for sure one of hazardous of cheating is the pain that you can give your spouse. It will make your spouse depressed, low self esteem, feeling not good enough, will loose the safety blanket that your spouse has from you. There are a lot of concequences when it comes to cheating.
What should you do if you saw your girlfriend holding hands with another guy?
Look, it's not like you caught them in flagrante delicto, but it's pretty close. Let's face it: she's got feelings for another guy. If you still like hanging with her and she with you, fine. Leave it alone. Just understand you're not the love of her life and she could be gone tomorrow. But if you're not comfortable with that, if it's gonna eat you up and make you all (bad word removed) when you see her, then break up with her and move on. Take it from the other side, i held hands with the guy i liked even though i was dating another guy and he knew i liked the guy. My boyfriend just asked me what was up. That is the best way to sort things out, communication I just said that I liked him but i still liked the other guys too. My boyfriend just asked if i wanted break up and i said i would back off the other guy. if your girlfriend is anything decent then she'll back off the other guy. Nicely tell her that you saw her holding hands with another guy and it bothers you. If she really likes you, she will understand.
Can a female with chlamydia be asymptomatic for months and then get symptoms?
It's possible to develop symptoms after having chlamydia for a long time.
What does it mean when your boyfriend starts saying thank you a lot?
If a person's significant other says that they appreciate them, it is a very good thing. This means that they enjoy having their spouse around, and are grateful for the things he or she does.
If a married man takes his mistress to meet his parents is that a sign that he loves her?
If that's how far your looking to find the love in the relationship, its likely that it might not be there. Dont forget that hes MARRIED. If he ever was to leave his wife for you whats to stop him doing the same to you as his former wife? Walk away from this. Adultery is never the way to go because it always ends in tears. Just face up to it that even though there may be a chance that he loves you theres nothing to say that it will last. Sometimesthe best option is to go, in the long run it may save you alot of pain. Good luck Anita xxxxx
AnswerHe probably does love her. Unfortunately, unless he divorces his wife, he cannot ever give himself to her 100%. It is sad that he would cheat on his wife (even if she is the cause), he should have the courtesy to give her a divorce and let her find someone who deserves her. Also, a mistress should kick this cheating guy to the curb, if he cheats on his wife....he will cheat on her eventually (when she gets boring to him).How do you tell a woman you are having an affair with her husband?
Personally I think it should be him telling her, or at very least a family friend or pastor. In any event she should be told, but it would be better if she had to be told that he had ( past tense) an affair. The 'other woman' is the worst person to be informing her ... her wellbeing is of paramount importance in this situation, as she is the one being cheated on. Put her first.
What should you do if your girlfriend flirts with other guys?
Answer: If your girlfriend is flirts with other men then there is something she is not getting from you, proberly love and attention. (Romance)
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What kind of help is available for sociopaths?
That is an interesting topic though. Can people be taught to have a conscience?
I would be interested to know if that is actually true, that they are a lost cause. I tend to have hope that all human beings can get help and evolve. Granted, it may take A LOT of work, a lot of conditioning, but aren't people essentially malleable and able to be affected, thus changed? We still don't know what creates a sociopath. There are theories. But I've heard people say sociopaths or ASD is caused by abuse in childhood and I tend to doubt that. Is there any research to back it up? It could just as easily be neurological disorders. Who knows. Perhaps there will be viable treatments in the future once they understand the cause of their condition. The more important question may be what can You do to help yourself if you are living with a sociopath. My father is one, so I speak from first hand experience when I say it's true they will Never feel remorse for the abuse they dish out. If they do apologize it is always insincere and has an ulterior motive. It is incredibly difficult and unhealthy to live with a sociopath. They will behave abominably and blame you, and you will either have to learn to put up with it..or leave. Simple as that.
AnswerTrue sociopaths are a lost cause. All we can do is avoid them. AnswerAvoid them like the plague! They are emotional parasites trapped in permanent emotional childhood. They cannot learn from experience, they have no conscience, they are immensely destructive; they make life a misery for others and cause nothing but suffering. Many who have been involved in close relationships with sociopaths would say that the the word 'sociopath' is essentially a medical term for an evil and depraved person.Another viewpoint:
Sociopaths, along with other "hopeless cases" like people with Alzheimer's disease, Down Syndrome, Asperger's, ADD, ADHD, autism, and the schizophrenias, along with more common disorders such as depression and addiction, and so on, are a mystery, but scientists have a way of hammering away at mysteries until they unravel them, and they are well on their way to the core of this one.
If one says that sociopaths aren't worth helping, one rather misses the point, after all. The price the world pays for not being able to help these unhappy people is incalculable.
But it also shows the hopelessness that sociopaths/psychopaths and their behavior make many people feel, itself a mirror-image of the emptiness and meaninglessness that hide always within the psychopath.
To counter that hopelessness, please know these two incontrovertible points: (1)no, the sociopath who hurt you isn't genuinely happy; (2) yes, the massive population of sociopaths the world over will be able to be treated before long, and possibly the first threads of that are already starting now.
If one says that sociopaths aren't worth helping, one rather misses the point, after all. The price the world pays for not being able to help these people is incalculable. Euthanasia isn't the answer. There are people (whose consciences I really must wonder about) who suggest that all the sociopaths that can be located and diagnosed by the authorities should be gathered up whether or not they've done anything wrong yet, and killed en masse (shades of World War Two, but with a different group of people). This is appalling, for reasons I hope I don't really need to explain!
But it also shows the hopelessness that sociopaths and their behavior make many people feel.
To counter that hopelessness, please know these two incontrovertible points: (1) no, the sociopath who hurt you isn't happy; (2) yes, the massive population of sociopaths the world over will be able to be treated before long, and possibly the first threads of that are already starting now.
True that most if not all sociopaths are firmly within the definition most everyone else has of "evil" -- but also true that it is a neurological problem to start with; over the years from infancy to adulthood, a person born this way learns nothing about connecting with people and everything about manipulating them. Empty and unable to change that circumstance, sociopaths drift aimlessly around, occasionally colliding with other people and causing damage. They return again and again to new people, but cannot get anything satisfying from their parasitic contact (they'd make lousy vampires if such things existed!), and so, drift on...
But "society" -- specifically, some neuroscientists -- may soon be capable of changing that, of freeing sociopaths from that trap and sparing the people who would otherwise get hurt by them. First of all, the parts of the brain that are silent in sociopaths and not in normal people can be awakened, although the resulting maelstrom of response would have to be carefully managed in a controlled setting. Secondly, it's been proven now beyond the hint of a remaining doubt that the patterns learned in early life are not as "fixed" in the adult brain as was once thought: even people in their sixties and seventies can change the courses taken by information in the brain, as work with stroke survivors has proven.
What no sociopath can do on his or her own, not too far in the future, neuroscientists can do.
But this would entail a lengthy in-patient stay.
With no knowledge of how to cope with the emotions the rest of the world has been dealing with all their lives, the recovering sociopath would be rendered as vulnerable as a baby. Which makes sense, because some of the most basic aspects of the human mind would be developing from the primordial stasis in which they had remained since birth!
A person thus treated would never be fully normal, but the human brain is amazing in the way it adapts and continues to develop all through life.
And given the utterly joyless and meaningless existence a sociopath leads, any genuine improvement is better than none.
But until neuroscientists can alter the thinking of a sociopath remember this: "No life is ever a total waste; it can always serve as a bad example." Anna Valerious.
How do you confront the girl your boyfriend is cheating with?
make her feel guilty eg talk about how sad you would feel if someone cheated on you with someone else, the ask her questions like: my boyfriend would never do that would he? then if she doesnt answer just tell her you know about her and your boyfriend. improvise from then on. i did and it went great! xD
They tell their husband they're going out with some girlfriends, thenthey sneak away with the guy. If you mean, What does cheat mean? It means you are going out with two people at the same time, or having men/women relationships with more than one person.
Your boyfriend tells you to shut up?
I guess that is never very pleasant. However, one wonders about the context.
If you are expressing an alternate opinion, and in a nice manner, and he flat out says "shut up", that would be bad. On the other hand, if you are upset with him, and screaming obscenities about him and his mother, then perhaps we could forgive him for saying that.
NO. They usually do NOT leave their wives. I think it's something like 3% of women who actually get to have a relationship with a man who leaves his wife. Men will often keep 'the other woman' stringing along for YEARS, lying and making promises that they know full well they will never keep. They want to have their cake and eat it too, so they will keep a mistress along for as long as she will put up with it.
How do you know when a teenage boy is cheating on you?
You might always suspect, but you may never know for sure. (Cheaters usually like to try and keep it a secret.) But more importantly, if you're in a relationship where you suspect cheating, perhaps it's time to evaluate the relationship itself and why you're still in it. Is love for him (or her) enough?
Should you confront your husband's mistress?
I agree- don't contact the mistress. There's nothing good that can come of it. Maintain your dignity; don't become the next Jerry Springer guest.
However, with regards to this so-called "Woman's Code."
What kind of woman turns marriage into a cage? I know there are men out there who cheat no matter what the state of their marriage, no matter how wonderful a wife they have...but let's get off our high horses, WOMEN. To those women who have taken their husbands for granted, who've decided that sex is just an imposition to them that they don't wish to accede to...what kind of a woman are YOU? If you're married to a man, and they ask you to change things, if they tell you what they need, if they beg you to give them the things they need to feel loved...sex, affection, respect, appreciation...and you refuse, for years on end...If you refuse to look at yourself, if you refuse to seek help from a marital counselor or a sex therapist with him, what do you expect will happen?
If you refuse someone food or water, is it their fault for finding somewhere else to eat and drink? Or should they die or starvation? I told this starving man yes, despite my reservations about getting involved with a married man. It's one of the best decisions I've ever made.
To my mind, I stole nothing. She'd left her husband out on the curb, with the garbage. Her neglected trash has become my one-in-a-million treasure.
Screw this "Woman's Code." It's just a pile of garbage to keep neglectful wives feeling as if they have some sort of moral high ground they don't deserve.
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"Hi..this is where I differ from the other answers.... First! Lets face this fact: It comes right down to this decision: A man can stray, a man can look, a man can touch, a man can.... BUT it is the WOMAN - who can say NO - It is a WOMAN that can BE A WOMAN TO STOP & SEND the Man back home to face being a MAN!!! I am just a believer that a Woman can start it and a Woman can stop it!! And if shes from the same cloth or code of MOST ALL WOMEN then I would have No Problem to have a chat with the Lady? But just be prepared....But if it will make you feel better to confront her then go for it!!!!Be a Woman!!"
What do you do when you get an STD from your husband?
First off NO SEX WITH HIM, Then get your self to a Doctor PRONTO!- most of the time when you confront your spouse of what they giving you they will " sometimes" confess to having a affair-- Your spouse need medical help also
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All you can do is pray that your husband didn't transfer the transmitted disease to you. Go see a doctor to make sure that you are clean, otherwise hell will break loose. And after you have seen by a doctor, this is when you need to question your husband. And tel him that he needs to see a doctor or you will kick him out no question ask.
From my past experience, the woman that my husband had an affair for two months caught STD from her boyfriend. Instead of being concerned whether he caught STD, he turned around and told me that I also need to be seen. I wasn't surprised that my husband is not concerned, he knows that his mistress is a good christian, kind, and will never betrayed him.
My boyfriend got another girl pregnant what do i do?
Walk away, don't fight with him, or argue, because he is not good enough, first off he cheated with someone else, and he will more than likely do it again. Secondly, it is too big a situation to be involved in. Life has a lot of good things to offer, that you dont need this kind of hassle in your life. It may hurt to walk away and stay away at first, but once you have gotten over the heartache you will look back and be so glad you moved on. Trust me, you may feel like going back to him because you miss him and all of the loving feelings you get, but write down what he did on a piece of paper, along with the other things he may have done to hurt you or disrespect you and every time you feel like taking him back READ IT. There is someone out there much better and honest and reliable for you, you dont want to miss out by being with Mr Wrong. And not having a boyfriend for a while is also a really good thing, it will make you a more confident stronger person, and you will have your own personal time to find out what you want and who you are.
How does a woman prove she is not having an affair?
You dont know... you just find out over time... she may be faithful and thats why you will never find out... but if she isn't faithful then you will find out... you'll know if she's nervous talking about it or tries to avoid the subject... you'll know if she acts different around certain male figures or even female figures that may know if she's dont something... you have to have faith hope and belief that she still loves you enough not to go there... trust that she doesn't do anything no matter how tempting the situation may be cuz she more scared to lose you than she would be of getting caught... if you keep looking for a sign than eventually you will find one but it might not be a real sign... it may just be you wanting something so bad that you made it something in you mind by reading to much into it... but I dont think its important to read into it and look out for real sign that may come pass your way but dont start making them appear... if she's unfaithful the signs will come to you... I know if your asking this you may be upset cuz im a man just looking for answers and I cant find any... not here... so I thought I'd answer my own question... how can you know? You wait... and eventually everything will fall into place as it should... I hope this helps you...
P.S. just take some time to cool down from whatever rage your in and just let it go... review later after you've cleared your head its important that you dont jump to conclusions when your still upset... it can cloud your mind to a point that will ultimately make you decisions that are completely in your mind alone...
