Cheating

Yes, but you're probably having/thinking of have one of your own; or your partner is giving you something in return - shelter, money, good loving, security - that makes you think that the affair is worth the exchange.

There are some risks to kissing such as contracting viruses (colds, flu, mono, herpes simplex etc.) , STD's (genital herpes/warts, gonorrhea, syphllis etc. ) those are just some examples - I realize it sounds horrible but it is not something to disregard as they are always possibilities not to mention bad breath. Be sure of your partner.

Bad idea. . you're opening up an emotional can of worms anytime you try to get involved with a taken person. It won't turn out the way you've been fantasizing about it--no wife, no kids, and he has all the time to spend with you. You'll end up wasting your time and emotions on a individual who might be sexually obtainable but unavailable committment-wise. Don't fool yourself into believing you will have a "happily ever after" outcome develop from having an affair. NO, what are you trying to accomplish? How hard should it be to find someone who would be willing to give you attention. Just look around and don't try to destroy someone else's family.

Yes you can have a boyfriend but it will not be serious at that age because you haven't hit puberty yet so don't expect too much once your in grade seven then things get serious.

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Sure you can but it should be innocent puppy love.

It's possible, and it depends on what the affair meant for him. Many "slip" once ("it was just sex" scenario) and feel so ashamed that the trauma prevents them from repeating the deed. Others have an emotional involvement, which is tougher. Some are chronic cheaters. Depends on the character, and only the wife knows her husband well enough to know the answer. Confessing is an important step though - I'm not sure I agree that a cheating spouse should confess but I appreciate the gesture nonetheless.

From my personal experience NO. My husband and I went through this few times during our marriage (we are together since 1990 with two children) and after each time he would cry, told me how he loves me, that I was wrong, and he never wanted to do this or hurt me blah blah blah. After all this I am at the point where we are no longer partners but we live this charade of life where we cannot openly divorce because of our children so we live under the same roof but separate rooms and separate lives. I am not sure though for how long we will be able to go on like this.

I really dont think that just because he admitted to cheating that he will remain faithful from then on...he may he may not it really depends on what he wants....

The man's confession cannot simply be the end of it. I say this as a man who has cheated myself- so long as the couple lets the confession act as "the end of the mistake", he can, and most likely will, cheat again. In order for the relationship to survive, both parties need to gain a full understanding of what happened. What led to the cheating in the first place, and how can they both take steps to insure it won't happen in the future. If both parties are willing to seek therapy to gain a greater understanding of what went wrong, there may be a chance. Just remember, though: a spouse who cheated may not necessarily be just an jerk who thought he could get away with it. In my case, I discovered through my cheating that I am a sex addict with anxiety and depression triggers, and knowledge of my addiction was something that was absolutely exploited by the woman I cheated with. Through both individual and couples therapy, I'm coming to deal with all these issues (and more). I'm still working, and my wife and I realize that maintaining our relationship will be an on-going process through the rest of our lives, but we're closer now than we had been in years, and our relationship is considerably healthier.

First of all, sorry to hear about your break up.

Depending on the state or province you live in, civil courts/small claims will accommodate the opportunity for you to investigate whether you can sue for financial loss or damages ensued from the break up. Infidelity and bruised ego can't be used against her, simply because you were not married yet. If you're serious, spend an hour paying for a lawyer and see what your chances are.

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If we sue people that hurt us, we will be rich by now. My husband will get rich if he sue me, and I will be a millioner if I sue my husband, his ex mistress, and his family for wrong doing. When someone promise you something, try not to believe on that person, so at the end you will not be hurt. I know.....

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Well I would probably talk to the husband first. I mean if the wife truly loves the husband she will, reluctantly, give the husband a second chance. But if it ever happens again if I were the wife I would straight away pack up my things and leave without a goodbye or second thought.

Not likely. You deserve more than second place. Assume he will never leave his wife and break up his family. Can you really trust a man who you know firsthand would cheat on his wife?

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Can it?..bless your heart I don't think so. First of all you will help your married lover hurt and ruin his wife. Are you willing to be the part time woman in his life every time he goes home to his family? What about all those special occasion that feels wonderful sharing it with your love ones? It can't be you because he have his own family to celebrate it with. No love messing around with a married man will be heartaches and immoral..

Answer The first thing you have to do is ask yourself what made you love the first man in your life? What is happening between the two of you that would make you fall in love with someone else? Is your husband mean to you or are you fickle. By fickle I mean you can't make up your mind as to whom you should give your love and there-fore you tend to fall in love easily and maybe for all the wrong reasons. Is this a sexual thing and you have the two things mixed up. One man gives you good sex and you think from that, that true love has happened, what will you do if another man comes along, fall in love with him too? Not wishing to be rude and trying to answer your question with no background is hard as there are always two sides to every story. Perhaps if you went and saw a professional you would get better answers than you will find on here. Good luck to you, and don't be too quick to jump into another relationship before you understand why you want to leave the one you are presently in.

Now I know that I am not you, but if my boyfriend said that to me I would dump him! Even if he says that he was drunk if he really loved you then he would know better. Plus, do you really want a boyfriend who is going to be drunk? So think about that I can't chose for you, but the chose is pretty obvious.

You haven't been honest yet about cheating, how dare you even answer this question about honesty.

In order to live in a healthy, loving relationship it is always best to be faithful (among many other things) as well as honest - honesty is always the best policy.

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I think confessing is the right thing to do, before it goes bad and hurt lots of people. This will also help you to know if you confess to your love one of what you did and really be sorry about it, he or she will forgive you. Love can make your world different..

I know I should be more honest with my wife.

If you feel confessing is the right thing to do before it hurts; obviously your wife; if you already know or think she will forgive you by confessing, and she loves you, you have already done something wrong.

You would not have said you should be more honest with your wife if you haven't done something you already feel guilt for. Guilt will eat at you and do more to destroy a relationship than just being honest about what you did.

Tell her the truth. In the end if she loves you, she will forgive you and you will have a stronger marriage based on honesty and truth.

Advice; be faithful in ALL ways, be honest in ALL ways, ALWAYS tell the truth.

• In most States when a couple are getting a divorce each of your lawyers would want you to come to an amicable agreement as far as who keeps the house and the husband paying perhaps spousal support and certainly child support if your children are minors which is under the age of 18. Each case is different. Because of these changes you may have to revise your Will. Once divorced and a settlement is agreed too with your ex wife then you would draw up a revised Will and you do not have to leave anything to your ex wife or children because you have already settled things when applying for a divorce.

You can fuss, moan, gripe and complain about him and to him.. Chances are, it won't do any good. Or you can figure out what problems you have with him and work with him to change the issue. Frequently our "problems" with husbands are the result of our being over tired and frustrated with our own daily problems. That same husband who will slay dragons and leap to the moon for you... doesn't remember that the garbage must be taken out on Tuesdays and Fridays before 7am. It's not his fault, he's built to solve problems, not run a household. That one is our job..his is to love us and wonder what makes us happy. Husbands work best on the "kill this, pay that" operational system. They love clear simple directions. Let's face it, we as women over analyze problems. Men don't usually do that..."kill this, pay that"! If you develop a plan to get things done on this principle, you'll be much happier and so will he. Truly, men do not need OR WANT to relate to you in everyday matters on a deeper level. They really don't care that the roach needs to be killed because it spreads germs, they just want to know that you need it killed. So figure out what he needs to do for you...and tell him! He's not a mind reader, even after all these years. Since the question isn't entirely clear on this point... If your husband is malicious, demanding, hurtful, and/or abusive, seek help immediately. You are a valuable person and these behaviors are not love, they are power tools to control you. Abuse is never love, it is control by force. You deserve a life of love not abuse, so seek help for both of you. Right now, today!

No. A married man will often say he wants to leave his wife for you just to make you feel special. If a married man does not leave his wife within 6 months after meeting you, chances are he'll never leave his wife for you.

• The first time he cheated you should have taken this opportunity to seek marriage counseling and if he refused to go then you should have separated from him until he either got his act together or you came to the conclusion he will never change his cheating ways. You are enabling his behavior and he's cheated a second time. You need to take control of the situation and tell him he either goes to marriage counseling with you or he can pack his bags and get out and you will file for divorce.

Quite simple, his trying to flirt with you.

• Some men (and women) cheat because there is something lacking in their marriage and the communication skills in that marriage is poor. Some men will cheat because they find it exciting while other men may cheat because they feel their youth is slipping away quickly and they want to feel like other women are still attracted to him. Sometimes getting older is difficult for some individuals. No, it is not easy for a man who has been friends with a female for five years or more; then has an affair (love is about friendship and being lovers,) but sometimes friendship can be mistaken for true love. It's more of an emotional affair between the two when one or both parties are having a difficult time in their life. Considering your husbands ex mistress works at the same company as your husband this makes it even more of a challenge for your husband. If he was caught cheating by you then he either does not want to lose you or, he feels threatened and trapped. If he openly admitted to the affair to you and said it was over then he probably means it. Still, it is possible the affair could still pick up where it left off. It is important that the two of you sit down and communicate each of your feelings without arguing and also seeking marriage counseling to learn the tools to resolve problems in your marriage.

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Well.... as i woman i wouldn't sleep with my husband after knowing that he cheated on me. Partners are suppose to love, trust, and respect each other, and cheating on someone is disrespecting and insulting this person. If you cheated on your wife with another woman you can try to apologize an start all over (if you are truly sorry).

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From my own experience, it was hard. I know every wives are different, every mistress are different as well. But to know how the man that I married felt towards his mistress, it was very hard for me, because I'm not sure if he is making love to his mistress and not me. This part of my relationship with the man that I married was damage. It stays in my head and it didn't help me for a long time. Finding out that his mistress was carrying STD, it adds up, I felt so dirty, humiliated because I found out that he didn't used protection during sex with her. It all depends on the husband if he can really be honest and help you.

Since we're talking about first impression, it's important that you look, smell and sound nice:

* wear clean clothes * clean nails are a must, please don't chew on them either * shower regularly and don't use tons of perfume. Girls/women like discreet fragrances, the ones that make you want to get a little closer to the guy, in order to feel his smell a little better. If they can smell you a mile away, that's exactly where they're going to stay. * your eyes and smile are very important. A nice, friendly smile will make her feel at ease and trust you. I would advise against winking. It can be considered offensive (but not by all). * don't try to look cool. It'll make them laugh. * be natural, but never forget your manners. * if you're nervous, just think that she's not as composed as she looks, either.

These are just some of the prerequisites...

It would be a rotten and under handed thing to do and the person trying to split the couple up would become the loser in the end. Forget about them and move on.

But if you really want to...You have to learn the art of sabotage. Sabotage is a great way for people to play tricks on people. Now the reason you might be doing this are...

*You want your parents to get a divorce.

*The Boy/Girl You want to go out with goes out with someone else

*You just want to do it for fun

*You want a fun way to split up with your boy/girlfriend

Now the art of sabotage is jokes and stuff like cutting holes in your t-shirt and spreading rumours. Sabotage should be fun and if you get caught you can be in well bad trouble. Try not to get detected and these are some suggestions you could use.

*Cut holes in the victim's gym kit or best top

*Spread a rumour about him/her cheating or if you go out with someone spread a rumour about him/her cheating then when you hear it again look like you feel horrified and dump them.

*Take some worms and slugs and put them down his/her back

*Take their deoderant and hairbrush or clothes and towels when they are in the school showers.

Hope these help you and happy sabotaging.

No. The Greeks placed much stigma on cheating, if and when it was discovered. Punishment included disqualification and exclusion.

Usually people that seek out married people like the game of "winning over" that person and also these people are afraid of real committment. It's easy to go out with a married man because deep inside you know you'll have fun, keep the magic in your relationship (but only for so long until he grows tired of you ... and he will) then to be mature and have a relationship with someone who is single and actually work for the relationship that you want. You love this man simply because you can't have him. It's human nature. Did you honestly think this guy had any intentions of keeping his promises to you? Most married men love the thrill of another younger woman thinking he is pretty hot stuff, then the novelty wears off or the wife finds out. Having a relationship with a married man is a disaster in most cases and a very low percentage ever work out. There is always that question, "If he cheated on his wife, will he cheat on me?" The answer is, most likely! A smart woman is independent and has pride, and she knows what it would feel like to have her hubby or boyfriend cheat on her with another woman. The "other woman" usually never wins, and the poor wife is left with a jerk! Start getting out with friends and start dating single guys. It would be a good thing if you decide to concentrate on yourself and ask why you feel you need to date a married man. What is missing in your life? Why do you need a married man, and more so, why do you want this guy when it's obvious he had his fling with you and has gone back to his wife or onto another woman? All of us makes mistakes during our lives and hopefully we learn from them. Give it time, the hurt goes away. You'll meet someone new (hopefully single) and be glad you didn't settle for second best.