Cheating

• In most States when a couple are getting a divorce each of your lawyers would want you to come to an amicable agreement as far as who keeps the house and the husband paying perhaps spousal support and certainly child support if your children are minors which is under the age of 18. Each case is different. Because of these changes you may have to revise your Will. Once divorced and a settlement is agreed too with your ex wife then you would draw up a revised Will and you do not have to leave anything to your ex wife or children because you have already settled things when applying for a divorce.

You can fuss, moan, gripe and complain about him and to him.. Chances are, it won't do any good. Or you can figure out what problems you have with him and work with him to change the issue. Frequently our "problems" with husbands are the result of our being over tired and frustrated with our own daily problems. That same husband who will slay dragons and leap to the moon for you... doesn't remember that the garbage must be taken out on Tuesdays and Fridays before 7am. It's not his fault, he's built to solve problems, not run a household. That one is our job..his is to love us and wonder what makes us happy. Husbands work best on the "kill this, pay that" operational system. They love clear simple directions. Let's face it, we as women over analyze problems. Men don't usually do that..."kill this, pay that"! If you develop a plan to get things done on this principle, you'll be much happier and so will he. Truly, men do not need OR WANT to relate to you in everyday matters on a deeper level. They really don't care that the roach needs to be killed because it spreads germs, they just want to know that you need it killed. So figure out what he needs to do for you...and tell him! He's not a mind reader, even after all these years. Since the question isn't entirely clear on this point... If your husband is malicious, demanding, hurtful, and/or abusive, seek help immediately. You are a valuable person and these behaviors are not love, they are power tools to control you. Abuse is never love, it is control by force. You deserve a life of love not abuse, so seek help for both of you. Right now, today!

No. A married man will often say he wants to leave his wife for you just to make you feel special. If a married man does not leave his wife within 6 months after meeting you, chances are he'll never leave his wife for you.

• The first time he cheated you should have taken this opportunity to seek marriage counseling and if he refused to go then you should have separated from him until he either got his act together or you came to the conclusion he will never change his cheating ways. You are enabling his behavior and he's cheated a second time. You need to take control of the situation and tell him he either goes to marriage counseling with you or he can pack his bags and get out and you will file for divorce.

Quite simple, his trying to flirt with you.

• Some men (and women) cheat because there is something lacking in their marriage and the communication skills in that marriage is poor. Some men will cheat because they find it exciting while other men may cheat because they feel their youth is slipping away quickly and they want to feel like other women are still attracted to him. Sometimes getting older is difficult for some individuals. No, it is not easy for a man who has been friends with a female for five years or more; then has an affair (love is about friendship and being lovers,) but sometimes friendship can be mistaken for true love. It's more of an emotional affair between the two when one or both parties are having a difficult time in their life. Considering your husbands ex mistress works at the same company as your husband this makes it even more of a challenge for your husband. If he was caught cheating by you then he either does not want to lose you or, he feels threatened and trapped. If he openly admitted to the affair to you and said it was over then he probably means it. Still, it is possible the affair could still pick up where it left off. It is important that the two of you sit down and communicate each of your feelings without arguing and also seeking marriage counseling to learn the tools to resolve problems in your marriage.

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Well.... as i woman i wouldn't sleep with my husband after knowing that he cheated on me. Partners are suppose to love, trust, and respect each other, and cheating on someone is disrespecting and insulting this person. If you cheated on your wife with another woman you can try to apologize an start all over (if you are truly sorry).

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From my own experience, it was hard. I know every wives are different, every mistress are different as well. But to know how the man that I married felt towards his mistress, it was very hard for me, because I'm not sure if he is making love to his mistress and not me. This part of my relationship with the man that I married was damage. It stays in my head and it didn't help me for a long time. Finding out that his mistress was carrying STD, it adds up, I felt so dirty, humiliated because I found out that he didn't used protection during sex with her. It all depends on the husband if he can really be honest and help you.

Since we're talking about first impression, it's important that you look, smell and sound nice:

* wear clean clothes * clean nails are a must, please don't chew on them either * shower regularly and don't use tons of perfume. Girls/women like discreet fragrances, the ones that make you want to get a little closer to the guy, in order to feel his smell a little better. If they can smell you a mile away, that's exactly where they're going to stay. * your eyes and smile are very important. A nice, friendly smile will make her feel at ease and trust you. I would advise against winking. It can be considered offensive (but not by all). * don't try to look cool. It'll make them laugh. * be natural, but never forget your manners. * if you're nervous, just think that she's not as composed as she looks, either.

These are just some of the prerequisites...

It would be a rotten and under handed thing to do and the person trying to split the couple up would become the loser in the end. Forget about them and move on.

But if you really want to...You have to learn the art of sabotage. Sabotage is a great way for people to play tricks on people. Now the reason you might be doing this are...

*You want your parents to get a divorce.

*The Boy/Girl You want to go out with goes out with someone else

*You just want to do it for fun

*You want a fun way to split up with your boy/girlfriend

Now the art of sabotage is jokes and stuff like cutting holes in your t-shirt and spreading rumours. Sabotage should be fun and if you get caught you can be in well bad trouble. Try not to get detected and these are some suggestions you could use.

*Cut holes in the victim's gym kit or best top

*Spread a rumour about him/her cheating or if you go out with someone spread a rumour about him/her cheating then when you hear it again look like you feel horrified and dump them.

*Take some worms and slugs and put them down his/her back

*Take their deoderant and hairbrush or clothes and towels when they are in the school showers.

Hope these help you and happy sabotaging.

No. The Greeks placed much stigma on cheating, if and when it was discovered. Punishment included disqualification and exclusion.

Usually people that seek out married people like the game of "winning over" that person and also these people are afraid of real committment. It's easy to go out with a married man because deep inside you know you'll have fun, keep the magic in your relationship (but only for so long until he grows tired of you ... and he will) then to be mature and have a relationship with someone who is single and actually work for the relationship that you want. You love this man simply because you can't have him. It's human nature. Did you honestly think this guy had any intentions of keeping his promises to you? Most married men love the thrill of another younger woman thinking he is pretty hot stuff, then the novelty wears off or the wife finds out. Having a relationship with a married man is a disaster in most cases and a very low percentage ever work out. There is always that question, "If he cheated on his wife, will he cheat on me?" The answer is, most likely! A smart woman is independent and has pride, and she knows what it would feel like to have her hubby or boyfriend cheat on her with another woman. The "other woman" usually never wins, and the poor wife is left with a jerk! Start getting out with friends and start dating single guys. It would be a good thing if you decide to concentrate on yourself and ask why you feel you need to date a married man. What is missing in your life? Why do you need a married man, and more so, why do you want this guy when it's obvious he had his fling with you and has gone back to his wife or onto another woman? All of us makes mistakes during our lives and hopefully we learn from them. Give it time, the hurt goes away. You'll meet someone new (hopefully single) and be glad you didn't settle for second best.

Depends on the man, Some men think about it all day, others just think about it with one person, often the one they love. If you have any doghts go threw therapy with a SHRINK. It help's the woman feel "able to trust him" and the man to feel "I was stupid to cheat". This will also help find the true answer that led him to cheat and offer a solution to the cause...

Sure, by asking him. The prison will not give out this information. You might try a FOIA request to your state's Department of Corrections, but it is unlikely they will release the info.

Kiss the ground! Feel lucky you found out now and not when you're married with a couple of kids. I know it hurts you a great deal, but don't give this person another chance .. they broke that trust!

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It depend if it was my fiance who told me personally, I will be hurt for a while, but I will be more smarter because he did it when were not married yet. And I will loose most of my trust in him because of that, but at least his man enough to come to me and tell me himself.

Unfortunately this happened to me a long time ago, the man I married had lied and kept something from me. He thought I do not have the rights to know what he did when he was away, his reason was we weren't married yet and he can do what he wanted to do, after he promised me that he will never look for another girl as long as he knows I will be waiting for him till he gets back. I found out not because he told me personally but I caught him by asking a simple question that I saw in the picture. I guess God gave me that day to test us if the man I married will be truthful and loyal to me. But unfortunately I lost my trust with this man who supposed to be my husband..

Talk to him .. See what does he does Need to have a better marriage , Make Him love you , Do everything he wants and don't say no , Show him that you love him alot .. Take care of him and don't talk about his job or any thing you should'nt talk about and men dont like their wives to talk about , then he will maybe understand that you love him and then stop cheating.

Bi-Polar disease is a physiological mental illness that can be treated with a multi-discinplinary approach of medication, therapy , and behavior modification , and the bi-polar person learning to recognize his cycles of euphoria or depression. This is a lifetime , ongoing process, and certainly a dedicated partner helps tremendously. Even doing all the right things will never be a guarantee of fidelity. If he is getting all this treatment, you may decide to try to help. If he was diagnosed before your marriage and did NOT tell you , you are not legally or morally obligated to stay. One thing I can say for sure is that you can not " love " someone out of this condition. This absolutely requires professional help.

Well it depends who it was: Was she famous?

Was she a past friend?

Was she someone you knew?

Was she just some girl?

It could depend on any number of reasons.

• Vows were taken in a marriage to love and honor and the couple are expected to stay together for the rest of their lives. When a spouse cheats they break this bond of trust and it is extremely difficult to gain back if the spouse being cheated on doesn't ask for a divorce first. Cheating is sleazy; selfish and hurts not only the husband or wife; but any children they have and perhaps members of both sides of the family. When a spouse cheats they are not only cheating, but they are lying to their spouse.

Often there is a lot of pressure on the mistress, especially if the man left his wife FOR the mistress. Sometimes it's too much, and the family is not accepting of the new woman. Like any relationship, it might not work.

yes if you like your friend at all then you owe it to them to tell them that ttheir boyfriend is cheating on her YOU CANT LET HER GO THREW THE RELATIONSHIP NOT KNOWING THAT HER BOYFRIED IS OUT WITH ANOTHER GIRL BEHIND HER BACK.EVEN IF SHE DOSE NOT BELIVE YOU WELL THEN YOU HAVE TO PROVE IT IF YOU ARE A GOOD FRIEND YOUWILL FIND AWAY TO GET HER OUT OF THAT SITUATION.

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Sometimes but not always, women have a low self-esteem and they seem to think that they can't get another man to love them because their former husbands, the pricks that they are, filled their heads with this stupidity. Most women never get over being called fat or lazy and so with time they take back their worst enemy, just to say that they have a man in their life. That doesn't mean that they guy won't cheat anymore, probably he will cheat more because he knows he can get away with it and no matter what you will always take him back. Don't be a pushover for a looser. Go out in the world and find yourself a nice guy who will love you for you and the heck with the other guy who never was any good anyway. Its easier to run then to deal. That is where both men and women are concerned. Lets face it. If there was something not awry in the relationship prior to the cheating then most likely the cheating doesnt happen. If this person still choses to cheat when they have all the things that a happy person should appreciate, love, family, peace and yes the material things are a bonus, then they are a fool to cheat. Most of the time someone is being selfish when they cheat and think they are entitled to more or should be getting all they can. They are the fools and the pigs, both men and women and arent worth a damn. They get everything they deserve includeing STD's.

* No, it's call bigamy and an offence and it's more likely a man will marry twice without telling either of their mates.

you might fall for married men because you know you can't have them and maybe you know they can make a commitment?

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Because married men knows the trick when it comes to treating woman special, but it's not the wife but the other woman. Married men knows what needs to be done

when it comes to being passion, affectionate, and loving, and this are what makes women weak and easy to fall.

I am so sorry this has happened to you and of course it's a shock. However, this is not uncommon. Spouses that have children wait for the children to leave home before separating or deciding on divorce. While rearing children sometimes the couple doesn't balance out the time for each other and when the children leave home the couple are left looking at each other as if they were total strangers and this is where trouble can rear it's ugly head. There isn't much you can do at this point. Try communicating with him and ask him why he wants to leave the marriage. Don't yell or scream, but try to find out what is going through his head. Generally it's because some men or women want to recapture their young or feel there are more things in life they want to do as they know they are rapidly getting older. These thoughts happen to most of us. There is always health programs on women regarding peri menopause to menopause, but little on men's Andropause which is actually a type of menopause like women. Men can get hot flashes, depression, mood swings. If he is 40 plus then you can bet he's going through something. Some men will deal with it, others will only have a few symptoms and think nothing of it and some men will want to recapture their youth and may change their hairstyle, dress differently trying to recapture that youth they once possessed. Women can go through the same thing. Divorce can take awhile. You could pack his bags and tell him 'there's the door.' Let him know you love him. This is a good time for you to reflect on your marriage as well and you may find you do not love him as much as you think (you both may have fallen out of love.) There is nothing to be frightened of. By law you will get monies, etc., to provide for yourself. You also would have the freedom to do things you may have never had the chance to do. You could go back to college (I did when I was older) go to work or take courses in something you enjoy and then go back to work. If you are working then take a vacation to think things out. Sometimes people need the freedom from each other, but often 'the grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener' and your husband needs to find this out. Unless your husband is wealthy then any young girl he may date will only hang around him for a short time because he won't be able to keep up and money speaks volumes! If you read 'relationships' on this board you will find out that often a man or woman will leave the marriage only to realize they had given up something precious and really do love their mate, but unfortunately sometimes it's just too late. Don't stop him, pack those bags of his, don't shed a tear in his presence, tell him you love him and let him hit the bricks. Let him experience what reality really is about. He may enjoy his new found freedom for awhile, but that will wane soon. It always does. It can be lonely out there. Meanwhile you have a good cry, quit blaming yourself, get up and dust yourself off and get moving! Continue working or find a job. Keep busy and go out and have fun with friends and make new friends along the way as well. You just never know, you may find another man that is better suited to your personality (it happens all the time!)

Check for STD's if she is the only one you have been sleeping with and you have one then you know whom to ask about it. Other then that you can hire a detective but that would be expensive. If you don't trust her now it will only get worse in the future.