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Relationships
Relationships include parent/child, sibling/sibling, friendship, dating, marriage, and lots of others. They can be great, but many times they are problematic and can be unhappy or even abusive. This category is for questions about relationships, both good and bad.
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What kind of man belittles.yells and calls his wife names?
A man who belittles, yells, and calls his wife names is displaying abusive behavior, which is not acceptable in any relationship. This type of behavior can be emotionally harmful and damaging to the victim's well-being. It is important for the victim to seek support and potentially leave the relationship to protect themselves from further harm.
Why do women like violent men?
It is not accurate to generalize that all women like violent men. Some individuals may be drawn to perceived strength or power, while for others it may be due to past experiences or social conditioning. It is important to remember that everyone has their own unique preferences and reasons for attraction.
Why is my friend so controlling over me and gets mad at me for hanging with other people?
It's possible that your friend may have insecurities or fear of losing you as a friend, leading to controlling behavior. It's important to communicate openly with your friend about how their actions make you feel and set boundaries. Encourage your friend to work on their own issues and to trust in the strength of your friendship.
What does it mean when someone is perfectly in sync with other people?
When someone is perfectly in sync with others, it means they are tuned in to the same wavelength, understanding each other effortlessly, and working together seamlessly towards a common goal. It often involves a deep level of mutual understanding, trust, and harmony.
It's simple they are just thinking the same thing. You are all having thought appropriate to your environment and circumstances, so if you are around each other you are having similar thoughts.
Do men crave the sexual act more than women?
There is no universal rule that all men crave sex more than women. Sexual desire varies greatly among individuals, and is influenced by a variety of factors such as hormones, upbringing, culture, and personal preferences. Both men and women can have high or low sex drives, and it's important to avoid making generalizations based on gender.
How do I accept myself completely?
You would first learn to love yourself. Learn to forgive yourself and any mistakes. To do that, you must first admit you make mistakes. You cannot fully forgive someone who cannot admit they were wrong, and the same goes for ourselves. So we have to face ourselves as we are. If we don't like what we see inside, we fix it. We become responsible, gain self-control, learn knowledge and wisdom, become honest, etc. Once we can to all that with ourselves, we can learn to accept others.
What we are thinking of at any given moment or what we commonly know as consciousness is?
Consciousness refers to our awareness of ourselves and our surroundings. It involves the ability to perceive, think, and experience emotions. The exact nature and mechanisms of consciousness are still not completely understood by science.
Women may tease men for various reasons, such as playfulness, flirting, seeking attention, or testing their interest. Teasing can be a way to establish a connection, show affection, or create a playful dynamic in a relationship. It's important to communicate and understand each other's boundaries to ensure that teasing is lighthearted and enjoyable for both parties.
What does it mean if you have a dream your girlfriend is cheating on you?
Dreams are often a reflection of subconscious fears or insecurities. Having a dream where your girlfriend is cheating on you may not necessarily mean that she is actually cheating. It may be a manifestation of your own fears or uncertainties in the relationship. It can be helpful to communicate these feelings with your girlfriend to address any underlying issues.
It means that he would be a handful if you ever started dating him. He is going out of his way to make sure that you notice him. In a way, it is sweet, but he is taking it too far. Do yourself a favor and don't go out with him. He doesn't understand the idea of moderation. Imagine how much he'd bug you if you were dating.
Why are men treated more harshly than women generally speaking?
There can be various societal, cultural, and historical factors that contribute to men being treated more harshly than women in certain situations. This could be due to traditional gender norms, stereotypes, biases, and power dynamics that influence perceptions and treatment of individuals based on their gender. It is important to address these issues and strive for equality and fairness in how all individuals are treated.
What is the thought for the day with an explanation?
one would be "Beauty is not in the face, it is a light in the heart
There are a lot of them. Another one is "Never judge people as there will be no time to love them"! Also "Expect the unexpected"
Why is it that good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people?
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1. Suffering doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. We are only on this world for a brief moment in eternity so what happens here really isn't worth worrying about.
Romans 8:18 - For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
2. Suffering can bring one closer to God. When something bad happens to a believer, the first thing they generally do is turn to God for help and comfort thus strengthening the relationship.
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God is all powerful, thus in control of all things; bad things happen to good people; therefore God allows this to happen;
The problem with this statement is that it affirms the consequent. There are several other assumptions made in the statement as well. The qualitative use of the words "bad things" when referring to negative events in itself is purely subjective. Of course, there are a whole range of possible events that could happen over the span of one's life that a majority of people would agree to be negative. The question is what comprises a truly negative event? Assuming the universe is not completely random a devoid of casual order, every event has an inevitable outcome on subsequent events. The higher the impact the event has on a person will, in general, have a higher impact on not only them, but everyone that in affect with that person, and in turn everybody in affect with those people, and so on and so forth. In an egocentric, or self-centered, model of justice an event that is perceived as "bad" to one's self is purely negative. On the other hand, in an altruistic, or unselfish, model an event perceived as "bad" does not necessarily imply the event was wholly negative. For example, a mother's son dies in an accident involving a drunk driver. Of course from the mother's point of view, this would be a life altering tragedy, but does this imply a purely negative event? The Madd organization is an excellent example of an altruistic resolution to "bad" events that happened to real people. This hypothetical situation can not possibly cover the entire spectrum of human suffering, but the argument of potential positive effects in a negative situation cannot be wholly quantified either.
The second assumption is of human nature, and the fact that "good" people do exist. The biblical position of human nature is that it is corrupt. The sermon on the mount gives the solemn warning that to even look with lust is to commit adultery in your heart, and there are many other examples within the bible that point out these disdainful aspects of human nature. For example, try evaluating yourself with the Ten Commandments. When measured with even the simplest version of biblical morality standards, our best attempts to attain these criterion are abysmal failures. I am not suggesting one deserves all the bad things that happen over a lifetime, rather that we may not deserve all the good things we receive.
I hope this has been helpful to encourage some looking for answers, and encourage all to find meaningful truth within their own lives. I would also like to encourage you to test these concepts out for yourselves, who could believe electrons could pass through wires to bring you this webpage were it not for the empirical data that developed the technology. A concept which we now accept by faith.
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. For by it the elders obtained a good report. Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.
God gave humans free will and unfortunately people choose to do with that will bad things. God is not into controlling people's lives. If God was merely to control everyone's actions, feelings and responses that would make God a liar.
I get my belief from the Holy Bible and the only truth I know that has proved itself time and time again in my own life.
God takes our struggles, pain and trials and can change them around as a testimony of his goodness by being willing to step in and change the situations in our lives.
If you refuse to acknowledge God then why do you demand Him to show up and fix your messed up life? It isn't until we ASK that we can receive anything from God.
It seems self-righteous and self-centered to judge God. Who are we to demand that God fix what he never broke? Can we make people do good and right? What makes us think God can? Are we all just puppets to be controlled and manipulated? If so, then God wouldn't be good or just.
Have you ever tried to make someone love you and obey you even though you knew what was best for another person? God gets involved because we want His involvement. If we don't then He is content with those who do.
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I believe the answer is in 1 Peter 5:10
10 However, after you've suffered for a little while, the God of all care - the One who through the Anointed One called you into His glory during the age - will restore you and make you firm and strong. 11 May He be mighty throughout the ages. May it be.
and Romans 8:20
20 For the creation was subjected to futility, not by its own will but through him that subjected it, on the basis of hope
The Holy book here states that God himself subjected the creation to futility, meaning mankind, but on the basis of hope, and that the reason for that is that is his wish that we experience this sufferings so that we get trained and become firm and strong, until the time comes for the restoration of all things. He is the God of all care, and through Jesus, the Anointed One He will restore all things and resurrect good people, to life and wicked people for judgement.
Acts 24:15, Dan 12:2
God is almighty, and there is no possibility of rebellion among his creation, neither gets trapped into legal technicalities, as many suggest while reading the account of the garden of Eden. He is the one who defines good and evil, and no one could oppose him and succeed.
He is the Creator and He will be what He will be. So, if things happen is because he wants it to happen. But He is also love, and cares about every creature he has produced, so we can be confident that if He created mankind with the sense and desire for eternity, that He will grant it on His terms. 1Jo 1:8
For us suffering and death seem like a mountain, for him is just a temporary circumstance.
Those who endure this time of sufferings and prove themselves faithful even when facing death, are promised immortality.
Rev 2:10
10 Do not be afraid of the things you are about to suffer. Look! The Devil will keep on throwing some of YOU into prison that YOU may be fully put to the test, and that YOU may have tribulation ten days. Prove yourself faithful even to death, and I will give you the crown of life.
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And so that we experience not to do bad things in other person. It also helps when another bad things happen we become stronger and stronger coz we believe in Him.
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A family are on the way home. They have a car accident, and one member of the family, the driver, is killed in the accident, caused by a drunk driver (Free will allows him to get drunk and drive his car.) of a second vehicle. The deceased family member is a "good person". They do all the right things according to their religion. Random chance (the will of god) caused the air bag to fail to go off, causing their death. People ask "why did god allow them to die (as god is all powerful "Why did god kill them) by making the air bag fail?"
Turn back the clock.
A family are on the way home. Random chance (the will of god) causes them to get a puncture/flat tyre. They pull over to the side of the road, and change the wheel. The drunk driver successfully navigates his way home. The family arrive home, all alive.
Some time later the "dead" family member takes their partner out for a meal. They consume excess alcohol (free will allows them to get drunk and drive). On the way home they crash the car, killing both of them. Several years later their child commits suicide (the free will thing again) as they could not cope with the loss of both parents.
The other drunk driver carries on drink driving, and eventually crashes into a bus load of school children, killing many. He commits suicide in prison.
Conclusion.
We have free will. God knows what will result from our exercising this free will. God sees that he can allow free will to kill one family member or free will to kill all the family, and many others.
The best outcome is to kill the driver while he is still innocent of any crime, and allow the other 2 to live. At the same time the drunk driver will get a "sharp shock", and stop drink driving, letting the bus load of school kids to go on to a full life.
This in conjecture, as no one can roll back the clock, and see an alternative outcome, but it is plausible. While God may be all powerful, he gave us free will.
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Is it the same God that discriminates against those who don't follow his prescribed doctrines and the attendant dictates of the religious leaders?
Is this the same God that punishes anyone who dares to challenge his absolute and dictatorial authority with eternal damnation in a dungeon called Hell?
Is this the same God who also creates numerous disasters and plagues to annihilate those who do not find his favor? But he makes no effort to eradicate the scourge of vicious criminals who continue to terrorize good people in society. Is it the same God who blames the evil on his most powerful rival he calls Satan?
Do you mean the God that unjustly punishes some unfortunate children on this earth with disabilities, Aids, and other diseases or like those that he condemns to lives of poverty and desperation? I guess that God must have created them as some sick kind of entertainment. Is this the same God who was so arrogant that he punishes all humans for the sins of two? What kind of tyrant is he?
This God inflicts harsh unjust punishment like tornadoes, volcanoes, floods, tsunamis, earthquakes etc. against innocent children and helpless animals.
A true God would first deal with the vicious criminals and terrorists of the world. He would deal with the criminals who exploit poor people and those criminals who deceive gullible people in order to satisfy their personal greed. He would deal with the multitude of white-collar criminals in business, law, media, sports, medicine, religion and politics. He would deal with the criminals who practice bigotry and oppression against honest and righteous individuals.
The concept of God's Mysterious ways is a convenient excuse of religious fanatics for creating Fairytales. It is no different from parents who make up stories in response to their children's questions about the Tooth Fairy and Santa Claus.
If God can't help you when you are in need then why waste time? If you call your parents for help, they respond. If you call your friends for help, they respond. But this great and powerful God leaves so many innocent victims to suffer and die at the hands of vicious criminals.
Jesus was a simple human who was sacrifice because of the greed of a bunch of fanatical bigots. They tortured and murdered him for challenging their religious lies. He was promoted to the status of Messiah after his death, for political expediency.
The idea of something being good or bad depends upon the situation. If something is done as an act of deceit to unjustly cause hurt or pain to others, then it is definitely bad. But if it is done to promote the greater welfare of an individual or society then it is good.
After a lot of research into the various religious beliefs of the highly commercialized regions of the world, I have come to the rational conclusion that God was created in the image and likeness of the rulers of that particular geographic location.
These rulers, through their advisors, created religions that targeted the fears of the people at the particular time. These advisors were similar to the marketing consultants and advertising specialists of today. The wealthy people found creative ways of keep the working-class people (slaves) obedient to their whim and fancy.
The working class people were threatened with eternal damnation for disobedience to the divine laws and instructions of an invisible authority called God. This God has created you in his image and likeness to obey and serve him with blind faith. This God choose special servants to be his messengers to his humble and obedient subjects. This God also commands that his loyal slaves must kill all those who do not obey his commandments.
The creators of a God in their own image and likeness also created a greater villain as every great thriller novel. Satan was a villainous character, created for the convenience of having someone to blame for the pains and suffering experienced by the workers/slaves. Satan was depicted as the great punisher (Hangman) of God. Those slaves who transgressed against the imperial rules of the established religious doctrine were deemed to be servants of Satan and thereby condemned to eternity in Hell.
In my opinion, the Devil exists only as an excuse for the vicious, evil, greedy, selfish and sadistic qualities adopted by individuals as may suit their convenience.
Just as the power of fire can be used for good or evil purposes you don't blame the fire for it's natural qualities, you blame the user.
Absolutely no individual involved in organized religion has a conclusive answer to the question of proving the existence of God! Many religious zealots will venture to market their particular brand of theology in an attempt to create a convincing argument that their dogma contains the only credible proof that the God-Fantasy is true.
Religion has a very powerful influence in economics and politics. If you study the historic formation of various religions with an opened mind and a probing spirit, you may discover some very revealing truths about the world in which we live.
You may be able to discover like I have, that religion can be a very effective and rewarding tool in the hands of shrewd individuals. It can be used to enrich oneself financially or spiritually. It can also be used to manipulate and control others for good or evil ends.
It has been used as an effective political and commercial tool as evidenced by the many historic records of religious wars.
Religious leaders have used their dogma to oppress, victimize and terrorize those who refuse to subscribe to their particular brand of bigotry.
Jesus and John the Baptist were classic victims of tyrannical bigotry from greedy selfish religious charlatans.
Religions and their Gods, has had more to do with human selfishness and greed than with righteousness, piety, compassion and spirituality.
The evil, vicious, and greedy individuals enjoy success and prosperity from the exploitation of the weak. But the weak and less affluent individuals are fooled with false promises of a paradise called Heaven, which can only be accessed after death.
The source of love is within every individual. The source of greed, envy, lust, selfishness, hate and evil also exist in the same place as love. The source of all human emotion is the same the difference is only in the choices that people make.
Good and evil originated from the same source. If one of the powers of fire is to burn then could you tell me if it is good fire that cooks food and provides energy for mechanical machinery and evil fire that destroys and kills?
Is it not curious how God is never around when good, honest and righteous people call for his help in terrifying situations? He hides from every one except the crooked charlatans trying to exploit gullible simpletons. The Internet is doing a better job than him. Doctors and scientists are adding more value to society than he and his cult of religious bigots.
If something exists then it can be realized/experienced and proven. For something to be discovered it has to exist.
Human suffering is alleviated by the hard work of caring, compassionate, righteous and dedicated individuals.
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I believe that God has forsaken us, as Jesus said while hanging, the bible says that. But I believe there is a reason for everything. I believe every process of creation produces a degree of destruction and waste, God is currently creating, he is not done with us. That is the message of the bible.
If I, as a human being make someone die, I am a murderer, but if God does it, he is not, because he has the right to do that, because he is Creator, and can re-create, we cannot. If we acknowledge the existence of a Supreme being, we have to deal with the fact that he has the right of doing things his way.
As you said, good and evil are relative terms, but God is not relative, He is absolute, so he determines what is right and what is wrong. He provides an explanation for bad things that happen to good people, saying that He has subjected mankind to futility, not blaming the devil or any other creature or being. He says in the bible that he creates good and he creates calamity or evil. So, the bilbe is not an hipocrate book, and God does not evade responsibility for what happens in the world.
Is the humans who have tried to discredit God and give a false representation of him and his promises.
Jesus did not start a new religion, he just spoke the truth, he said he was going to sacrifice, and he did sacrifice. That sole act has made possible for millions to endure this time of suffering and put their hopes in Gods promises. People with no hope is always in the way to corruption and more suffering. We need hope, God, through Jesus gave it to us.
He does not promise heaven to everyone, and hell doesn't exist in the bible. The only thing he says is that at the end justice will be made, everyone will have a fair oportunity to repent and follow his law, and those who do not obey, after all the efforts made to save them, will be exterminated forever. Simple. No eternal suffering, ieo remediation for all suffering through the resurrection and a fair opportunity for everyone to repent.
He has given us a timeline to follow and the time when the re-creation will take place. For him 1000 years mean 1 day, so, our current lifetime will not allow most of us to see that happening, and it is hard to have faith if you see all what you describe happening. For the simming ant the pot is an ocean, but for us its just a pot, and we can save the ant in a second.
The scriptures say that he has created many worlds before ours, and archaeology and anthropology agrees. And he has destroyed those worlds for they don't exist, any more. The present world or age is about to come to an end, after that the restauration will start, and when it is finished, only then, we will see the finished product.
Until that, we have to understand that he is not obligated to intervene in favor of anyone, Jesus said that! But if we believe and pray continuously he will help us and protect us. Keep asking, and don't sop crying, for he will wipe out your tears.
Believe in God, for every created thing needs a creator, every house was made by someone, and God is the creator of all things, and his name is "I will be what I will be".
He says he is Holy and Love, so why not believe him? He has provided a warranty.
He has given us hope, why not embracing it?
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Entire books (such as Job) have long ago been written about the existence of suffering. Suffice it to say that Judaism sees the existence of evil as a test, and/or the result of our own (humans') bad choices, and/or a warning (such as pain, which shows you what part of your body needs repair) or a message (Genesis 42:22), and/or mere misinterpretation (such as the bee's sting, which to a child is unmitigated evil but which adults recognize as a protection for that insect which pollinates all fruit-bearing trees).
What makes up total personality?
Total personality is comprised of various factors such as genetics, environment, upbringing, experiences, attitudes, beliefs, values, temperaments, and behaviors. It is the unique combination of all these elements that shape an individual's identity and how they interact with the world around them.
What is the basic premise of behavioral theory and how is aggression modeled?
The premise of behavioral theory originates from a study conducted in the mid 20th century on apes. It was concluded that many earthly things can contribute to our behaviorism. For example, cake is a powerful influence over our behaviour, it can trigger extreme. Aggression modelled on frustration against free will. I recommend reading "The Great Ape Study" by D.Watkins
Why is learning that love is respect important?
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You cannot truly love if you have no respect for yourself or for others. You cannot possibly love someone whom you do not respect. If someone thinks that they can, they are fooling themselves. If you are in a relationship and there is no respect for each other, I do not believe that true love exists in that relationship. So...learning that love is respect is important because love or any kind of relationship cannot survive if respect is not present on both sides.
Men and women are obviously different. The biggest difference is communication. Men do not understand that hooting and hollering does not make a woman feel complimented, it's annoying. If you are not cosmetically challenged, consider yourself lucky.
But ask yourself, are you really being harassed or are you lacking self esteem and when men notice you, it makes you feel extremely uncomfortable?
I think I understand what you are saying, but if you are at the point of not being able to leave your home because you do not want the attention you are getting, it is an internal problem.
It sounds like a counselor would be your best advisory in this case. Not all men are harassing you. Men do not communicate the same way women do, and if you are unable to function on a daily basis due to these unwelcoming compliments, I strongly suggest you seek professional help.
Everyone is entitled to live freely. If you feel so trapped that you can not function, you need to look inside yourself and ask why?
I say I understand because I have been told I am pretty. I do not see that. I am ok with it. I feel "spongebob cute". That's it..
So, when I hear the "hootin' and hollerin'", I giggle and laugh. I don't see it, but if that's the way men do, I can't change their perspective. It's mine I have to work on. So, the best way to deal with it, and to do what I have to every day is to laugh.
Ignore it.
If it is TRUE harassment, call the police and make a report. If it's just men noticing how beautiful you are, it should make you feel good. It has nothing to do with your sexuality. It's cosmetic.
I hate when people look at me. I really do. So, I have learned to walk with my head held high and look straight forward. I will go into the store and get what I need, ignoring what I hear and tune it out. If I catch someone's eye, I will politely say hello, then continue walking on. I had to make myself learn to do that. And it says so much about you, when you don't walk looking at the ground. Look straight forward and tell yourself you have a job to do (whether it's going to the post office, or grocery store, or even taking your car to the dealership where you know there are herds of men) but it's the way you present yourself and the react - or don't react.
It's your life.. Don't let anyone else control it.. especially strangers.. (and even more especially - men.. ). You deserve to be happy, but it comes from inside.. not the outside..
I have found I get more attention when I don't wear make up. That is the funniest thing I have ever heard. But, to each their own.
So, pretty woman, try to think of them as giving you compliments but if it's actually interrupting your life, please seek professional help. No one ever deserves to feel trapped in their own home, for fear of being noticed.
Get help if you feel you can't accomplish daily tasks, because what you think may not be reality. It may be how you feel about yourself, and what you think others are doing, when in truth, it's your own lack of self confidence and self esteem that trap you.. We are are own worst enemy.
Learn to be your own best friend and then you might see the world in a different way.. But I feel 99% confident it's the way you are perceive things, than the way it really is..
Good luck..
What does it mean if you cant stop thinking about your boyfriend?
It likely means that he is on your mind frequently, which is normal in a healthy relationship. It could indicate strong feelings of love and attachment. However, if it becomes overwhelming or affects your daily functioning, it may be helpful to find ways to manage these thoughts.
How do you know if your crush does not like you back?
You can't know unless you ask.
So, ask.
Just be prepared to be let down, or built up. It simply depends on how that other person feels. Again, you cannot know unless they tell you, and they aren't likely to tell you unless you bring it up.
What would your spouse say is your biggest weakness?
My spouse would say that my biggest weakness is being too critical of myself and taking on too much responsibility.
It's possible that the interested guy may feel a pang of jealousy seeing you interact with another guy. However, it's important not to jump to conclusions just based on that observation. Engaging in open communication with the interested guy about his feelings could help clarify the situation.
What you do when intoxicated friend refuses to pick up?
I assume that you mean picking up on the phone, in that case if they are intoxicated then they may not realize you are calling them in the first place, or that since they are drunk they may be sleeping it off. Dont
worry for a day or so, try calling them when they are sober.
Why does my boyfriend becomes more affectionate when I'm on my period?
He may be smelling your hormonal flow, It is different when you are on your period & odds are that he doesn't even know it. That's the way we are made, other animals often use hormonal signals to excite the males to action.
Why do I have to always wait for my friends?
If you are waiting for your friends because they are constantly late, it's because they may not know the correct time or same time as you; are late on purpose to seem cool; is perhaps in their nature, or they just don't want to be the first one showing up.
If you mean it in a different sense, please explain.
It's more like they always take 20 minutes at their locker and then they except me to wait for them and then they sit down with me and then they say they have to go someone where else anyway and they always wait for each other ad help people that they have nothing to do with and then they want me to wait for them which I have been for the last year and it's very annoying. And then I always ask them instead of talking at the locker they should come sit down with me to talk but they don't and then it's my fault if they don't sit with me because Yeah.
Let's say to sum it up, I always wait for them and never get anything back. And I'm sick and tired of it and we have been friends for 2+ YEARS
ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE!
Someone told me years ago to remember this rule: "You get the behaviour you reward, you discourage the behaviour you tax". If you wait, they know you will wait & so.... they are comfortable making you wait, because you rewarded it last time by waiting. If you give in every time a girl cries, you will have a controlling, manipulative person on your hands that KNOWS how to cry!
If you let someone owe you money & listen to their excuses, they will pay everyone else & let Mr nice guy wait!
okay so do I sit with them or not. Because I had a go at them the other day. And sort got really angry and just yelled.
People who use you are not your friends.....
