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Abusive Families
An abusive family is one whose member or members may be suffering physical, psychological mistreatment and even sexual abuse inflicted by other members of the family. Sadly, some children grow up in these families thinking that such atmosphere is normal.
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How is media spoiling your new generation?
The media is corrupting the minds of innocent youngsters who get addicted to the Idiot Box. They fall prey to the misleading advertisements and ask the parents for al those being advertised the TV, and addicted to Junk Food. At young age, their brains are tuned to manipulations, criminal thinking and violence. There more serials that spoil the children than the ones carrying any social or worthwhile message.
Why do people hate their family so much?
Added to This Opinion:
Although there is not one clear cut answer for hating families, hate passed down from generation to generation.
In addition to generations passing down a "spirit" or attitude of hatred, other issues that add to it is:
- Drug or alcohol abuse in the immediate family.
- Physical abuse.
- Verbal abuse.
- Divorce.
- Constant arguing in the family.
- Personality conflicts. Within the immediate family two siblings could be totally different in personality and have serious conflicts between the two of them. The same can be seen with a parent and one or more of their children.
- Witnessing abuse as a child.
- Marriage partner can add to families not liking each other.
- In many cultures, divorce will divide families.
Another Opinion:
- Divorced mothers or fathers stealing a girlfriend or boyfriend from their daughter or son (this happens more often than many people know.)
Another Opinion:
i had hate my family for always getting in my relationships and the issues with my kids and for the actions the choose to do towards me and my little family i have for the verbal abuse for the abandoning and not caring for me but i have forgave my family but i have not yet to forget about all of the pain and suffering they have cause .
How many children in the us are subjected to emotional abuse from their parents?
Estimates suggest that millions of children in the U.S. experience emotional abuse from their parents or caregivers, although exact numbers can vary. According to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System, emotional abuse is often underreported, making it difficult to determine a precise figure. However, studies indicate that a significant portion of children face psychological maltreatment, which can have lasting effects on their mental health and development. Awareness and reporting mechanisms are crucial to addressing this issue effectively.
What is the cause of verbal abuse?
* There are many causes for verbal abuse. Some people have grown up in the environment of a verbally abusive parent or parents and the chain continues in many cases onto the children (learned behavior); a person who feels they are insufficient in the eyes of society and have not succeeded; a person that has had a lot of bad luck and feels they are judged by their peers; a person that hasn't had the opportunities others have and feel cheated; lack of confidence; over-confidence to the point of having a high ego within themselves and they feel other people don't stack up to what they feel is on their intelligence level; medications can cause a change in personality; different diseases can change a person's personality; Alzheimer's and Dementia (sister to Alzheimer's) can change a person's personality as well as traumas such as rape, losing a loved one to murder, physical or emotion abuse including partner physical and emotional abuse.
How do you prove custodial parent is abusive to kids?
- If in the United States you can call Child Aid and your name will be kept confidential. They will then check out the custodial parent and decide if the children are being abused or not. If in Canada it would be Child Welfare. Even if you have a hint that a child or children are being abused mentally or physically you have a duty to report it or you are enabling the parents behavior. You also must remember that in some States the spanking law is still in and be aware of what physical abuse is: slapping a child in face; twist their arms; punching; kicking; striking a child with a belt or other object; not making sure they are fed properly; not getting proper medical attention; not going to school if of school age.
What are some possible reasons fathers may abuse their children?
The father may have had some issues of harassment in his past so he may do the same to his children so they can suffer through the same pain. Another reason may be because he never wanted to have children in the first place or maybe even they might have been crying and he didnt know how to shut them up so he beats them up.
Actually this situation goes further into depth. The father may never have had a history of harassment in his past at all. This goes into genetics and childhood. Some things about people are determined before birth, of course there's hair color, height, etc..., but other things such as how aggressive a person are determined also. There have been studies in an effort to understand why people behave in ways that don't reflect their pasts at all. The person may just have an aggressive or impatient nature, something that they were born with.
"Boundaries define limits, mark off dividing lines. The purpose of a boundary is to make clear separations between different turf, different territory
"The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us.
Setting personal boundaries is vital part of healthy relationships - which are not possible without communication.
Resource:
joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm
What were the worst things david pelzers mother do to him?
She was often locked in a closet and denied food, etc. when she was young. She was told how she was hated. She then brange that down to Dave and Richard Pelzer, who were brutally beaten by their mother, Catherine Pelzer.
How can you relieve yourself from a messed up past?
Take this answer with an open mind, because if you are defensive, it will not help you. Every decision we make has an an effect on future events and other decisions we will have to make in our future. You and only you are in control of this process. Life is 1 % what happens around you and 99 % how we react to it. If someone is in a bad mood, will you allow them to steal your joy and pass that bad mood along to you? Hopefully not. The same thing applies to how you begin your day. You have the choice to 'decide' if you are going to be in a good mood or a bad mood. This decision will reflect the other decisions and the moods of the people you meet. This also applies to whether you continue to let that something that happened in your past to be a weight like a ball and chain that you feel you need to carry with you possibly for the rest of your life. Some people wear their pain on their sleeve like a badge and show it off to everyone looking for some sympathy but this gets old fast and like the saying goes misery loves company, you will run out of listeners. You have to decide to cut that umbilical cord which still causes you pain. I was told this by a friend. Take a piece of paper, or more as needed and write down what is painful that you want to put in your past. When done, place it in an envelope and seal it. On the outside, write the date of which you have 'sealed' your past behind you. Place it on your mantle, or a place where you can view it in plain sight every day. Know in your mind and heart that what is inside that pandoras envelope as it were, is now in your past and cannot live past the date which you made the conscious decision not to let it effect the rest of your life. You may feel like you are the only person that has gone through this type of thing. You are not alone, believe me. People you meet every day who may not show it are or have gone through similar issues and they either have controlled it, or let it become a controlling factor in their lives. The question for you is which one will you be.
I have a lot of favorite sayings, I collect them in fact. My favorite is: I regret not my past. I live for today. I will make my tomorrows. Broken down it means:
I regret not my past: At no time should anything that you have experienced in your past which may not have ended on a good note should effect your life today other than to know that to experience pain is normal. It teaches us not to do those things again. We were not born as adults. We have to learn through experience. To err is human, and I could be an instructor in that area.
I live for today: This means that at no other point in your life will you experience or be able to experience this moment again, so make the best of it. You can either choose to be happy, sad, angry or many other emotional choices. I Have been through all of them and in a good mood feels the best. Yesterday is history, tomorrow, a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why its called the present. If you are dwelling on the past, you miss the present.
I will make my tomorrows: If you don't plan your steps, they will be random. If you plan to do nothing tomorrow, the odds are nothing will be done. Get a notebook and paste pictures of items and accomplishments you want like furniture, cars, a house etc. Add to this as often as you wish and also list accomplishments that you have achieved, no matter how insignificant it may seem to you at the time. It can be your journal to refer to when you have doubts about your abilities or want to review your accomplishments and levels of maturity. Ghandi said 'You have to be the change that you want to see in the world.' As a former paremedic, I was blessed to see some people who looked deep in their hearts and found the will to say no to death. Every day, you can die a little or live a little. The choice is yours, and yours alone.
!!!!!!!!...... (Just remember) ....you never know how long you may live your life, so why not make it worth living? There is no point in remebering what happened in the past and upsetting yourself. It happened! and there is nothing in the world that could change the past... ! Think about your future and go for the things you love to do in yourlife .... !!!!!!!!
Can daughters be sexually attracted to fathers?
There are always deviants from the norm so yes, it happens.
How do you live with family abuse and cruelty?
When you are living with an abusive person, it is best to know;
1. What type of abuse is it? Emotional, verbal, physical or any form of abuse.
2. Who is the abuse targeted to? Is it only to you, or it is also the same behavior to other people.
3. What causes the abuse? It is because of it is a personality trait or is it because of someones dislike or envy of you, is it because they think you are intruding in their life or they do not like your behavior or is the behavior learned, maybe from the parents or peers?
4. Solve the underlying problem. Talk to the person about why they treat you that way. Do not be harsh or interrupt when they are talking. If they do not want to tell you, encourage them by suggesting an answer e.g does me watching the tv make you angry?, do not start by blaming them as this will only cause them to be defensive which can lead to further abuse, Forgive them for all they have done and ask to start again, do not remind them of there bad deed.
5. Have patience, people do change but they cannot change overnight. If they agree to stop the abuse, be patient and correct them lovingly. Avoid harsh reactions. Advise them to seek counselling or therapy as well.
6. Encourage them if they accept to. If they don't, ask if they can make themselves better and if so what is their plan of action.
6. Stay away from them, even if you are close together, give them their space so that they will have no one to abuse or lash out to.
7. Have a safety plan. What will you do to prevent or avoid or be safest when the abuse is imminent? Who will you call? Do you have a back up plan for you or the other abused.
8. If the abuse gets more serious or is life threatening e.g child sexual abuse, incest, rape, battering, SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY for yourself or the abused and get out of that situation.
What can you do if your boyfriend's mother hates you?
When you find yourself in a relationship with someone whose mother hates you, several options present themselves:
- Avoid all contact with her until she dies (this may take decades, though!).
- Get a new boyfriend.
- Start dressing identically to her, and manner your speech patterns and gestures to resemble hers. They say imitation is the sincerest method of friendship-forging!
- Scrutinize your own modes of behavior to determine if perhaps she has legitimate reasons for hating you (i.e. you visit her house and drink 3 bottles of her Chardonnay and go to the toilet in her vegetable garden in plain sight of the neighbors).
- Endure it.
What are some statistics on abusive men?
What are the effects of verbal abuse on children?
the verbal abuse is a very serious matter for instance if a young child acidentilly spills a glass of milk a parent or both parents may start calling the child stupid and cursing and putting the child in a depressing stage feeling like sucide ,or cutting the wrists,maybe even bulling other people or peers around them.
the vebal abuse is such as cursing really not being called fat or lazy but those words are very upseting to kids making them feel not wanted or not loved.
im here to tell u im going to be 13 and took care of 3 younger siblings while my family slept and and did nothing, to help, my sister a year and a half younger than i helped me with our lil sister and brother of course they could both go to school thankfully and i was happy 4 that and i struggled with househlod chores . my grades went from a's to c's and d's . i also begain to complain to my grandparents about my struggles and they let me live with them . i now make straight a's and am living a better cleaner invironment. but while i was getting each child ready for school plus myself if i messed one thing up and my parents found out i was cursed at and that's considered verbal abuse . if it's effecting your health,grades ,and self estseam .. contact someone
verbal; abuse is very serious in court and can be held against parents if u want to go that rought !!!!
How power can be used and abused in care setting?
- The elderly who are very ill have little control of what happens to them. Some elderly may have suffered a stroke or are too ill to speak and have suffered abuse either by one or more of their adult children or even some nurses in nursing homes (more common that one thinks.) If an elderly person has not been proven to be of sound mind (and they may well not be of sound mind) family; some lawyers or people of power can fool an elderly person to sign over finances they may have or property and the elderly person is not aware of what they are signing. If at home either the caregiver; some cleaning people; even some nurses who come into the home may steal jewelry or money from that elderly person. Not all caregivers; nurses or any other professional is bad, but there are some out there that consider an elderly person is closer to death than not so why not get what they can from them.
Domestic Violence can be broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence has many forms including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.
What to do if your mum smacks you?
Or you should switch schools to avoid shame or assert your right not to be treated in such a disrespectful way.
ask her with respect to please not spank you,and just talk to you.,i mean there isn't much else because she is your mother and you can't really tell her what to do..
Can an adult survivor of child abuse sue the abusive parents?
Going to the trouble of suing for past parental actions is not going to be a positive move toward your own mental health. Even if you had a positive outcome, it would not be enough repayment for pain and suffering in that an apology or regrets would not be included. Look instead for good things in your current life; hopefully you have found a "mother of the heart" and have others who provide love and kindness.
How do you get your dad to stop abusing you physically emotionally and mentally?
It's not up to you to stop your father from abusing you physically and emotionally. His abusive behaviour is not about you; it is not a reflection of your character. It is solely about his own mental and emotional state. Your duty is to get away from the abuser, to find a safe haven, and to report him to the authorities. Let the courts and the healthcare system deal with your father. It's not your fault, nor your responsibility. Your job is to get out of there alive.
How do you get a dad to stop being a jerk?
sorry you cant change the way he is, i would know, try talking to him
Would children abuse their own children if they were abused?
NO i don't think that children should get abuse because that will make it hard on them and make them run away like most other kids!!!!!!!!!!!!
They should not because it will effect the learning of your children and it can give them a brain tumer.
Abuse at a young age can cause unforseen problems at a later age...most rapists and murderers had problems at a young age that made them turn to crime. Look at Kerry Katona.
I think is abuse called abuse for a reason. Parents who hit their children need to find an alternative way of discipline.
Why do people abuse their own children?
maybe because the parents were abused when they were a child and now, as adult, maybe they think that its okay abusing their own children. Sometimes, when problems stacks up, they intend to take it all upon their children, they're gonna start blaming them for everything. They don't want to admit that its their own fault and they need someone to blame, and so they blame their childrens. When the child gets on his/her parents' nerves, they shouts at the child and when the child starts crying because of fear, then the parents panics because they don't want anyone to hear the child cry and so they tend to use physical abuse or some parents doesn't even care and just hits them. When a woman gets pregnant, sometimes, they tend to be really depressed and when their child grows up in 5 years, it'll change their whole life and when things go bad, they'll blame them and start treating them someone as a filthy kid. Or fathers/mothers beat them up just for fun, because their angry, they think that they should've never kept the child cause the child just gets in the way, or how the child looks or how the child is isn't what they want, and so they get angry at the child. And no, i don't knowhow i know that, i mean I've never been beaten up cause I'm like only at middle school
Is it illegal for parents to emotionally abuse their kids?
- Not on a general basis, but if one partner wants to get a divorce from the other they can use 'emotional abuse' as a way to get that divorce. If one is emotionally abused, it is just as bad as being physically abused (you just can't see the scars) and the victim should leave their abuser.
