Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

* Ways to control violence: Keeping children busy in sports or other social activities to keep them off the streets and providing program assistance for the poor children to get involved. Stricter laws. More aid from the government for the poor. Stress is a high factor to create violence. The violent crimes are higher in the summer. Going back to what use to be called, 'Beat Cops' where they patrolled neighborhoods. Special police force for gang wars and trades of firearms, drugs and prostitution. Stricter Immigration Laws.

Sorry, but I laughed and laughed when I saw your post because I just recently went through the same thing. My hubby and I are best friends as well as lovers, but sometimes they can rely on you for their sole entertainment and it drives me wild too. I believe both people in a relationship need head space. I sure do need mine these days. I have told him he needs to get out with his buddies more and either go golfing, fishing or whatever. He just grins and follows me through the house! I swear it's psychological because when we were first married that all he wanted to do was go fishing, golfing, hiking with his buddies every weekend and the argument would start. We had one TV and he watched every hockey and football game known to man and it ruined some of my movie time. Now, when I encourage him to go out with his friends he's plastered to me like a cheap suit. LOL

Well, I fixed that one real quick. I bought him football tickets and he took a buddy this past Saturday. Then I booked him for a guided fishing trip for 2 days and there you have it! I've pulled sneakies and phoned up his best buddy who he has a great deal in common with and say, "Ernie was talking about going fishing, what do you think?" Right away (and according to my plan) his buddy jumps at the chance and then I say, "Well hey, he'll be home at 7 PM so give him a call!" A free weekend coming up for me! Men! It's so easy to fool 'em. LOL

I love him a great deal, but hey, like you, I want to catch up with my friends, do some things around the house I've been putting off and just kick up my feet, put the old fireplace on and veg out!

Good luckMarcy

You don't.

NEVER DO THAT'S THE STUPIDEST QUESTION IVE EVER HEARD U SICK INDIVIDUAL YOU SHOULD LOVE AND CHERISH YOUR CHILD AND SMOTHER THEM WITH KISSES AND HUGS ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!

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Your duty as a parent is to love the child, and help them develop into the person they need to be not to abuse them in any way.

Talk to a counselor at school but do it confidentially. Let the teacher know that you don't want your name to be used. It needs to be reported. If you really give a concern about her talk to someone like an adult and someone you trust and explain to them whats happening and make sure your facts are correct or you will be in trouble and for sure i will do something before its too late cuz life is to short to be waiting for worse to happen and since where all humans i hope that she finds it in her heart to forgive you for doing the right thing. good luck.

why does someone have to kill their husband?, as awful as it is of what he committed a horrible act of cheating and adultrey, maybe anita should have let God take care of him

He has not said why. He remarried to Vanessa Griffin in 1990 and they have four kids.

Most people are afraid of the shame such cases will bring to them. Also fear is a factor, that the partner will harm them more.

There is much controversy over how and why domestic violence occurs. And it happens against BOTH men and women. Each year approximately 3 million women encounter domestic violence. But alarmingly, on the increase is violence against men, increasing faster over the last 2 decades than violence against women. Now each year not quite 1 million men suffer domestic violence attacks from women. Since this question does not target male or female, fair and balanced says we should comment on both.

Violence of any kind can occur for virtually any reason. Some may include: fighting that gets out of control, escalates beyond either parties ability to reason and de-escalate the fight or argument. While many men and women who are the victim can be guilty of instigating or antagonizing the other to violence, it doesn't make it right, whether it's a man or a woman.

Too many people want to pigeon-hole a person into the category of violent offender without looking at its root cause. This can be trauma experienced in the aggressors life, undealt with issues, over-use of drugs, alcohol, feelings of inadequacy, and believe it or not, plenty of aggressors lash out after being berated over and over by the victim, again, this is not right regardless of who starts what.

There is no one reason why violence, whether domestic or general, occurs. Each case, each person, each aggressor, each victim is different and plays a different role in each event.

because when you speak up and stand up for yourself you may feel doomed because it may make you fear the other person is going to get angry and do something I'll use the example when a kid says No to there parents they may feel doomed because they then realize they crossed the line. Hope this helps :)

Domestic violence is as old as humanity. Incidents of domestic violence appear in all the great classics - from the Bible to Homer's Odyssey.

It seems that to abuse the weak and the intimate comes to us naturally.

= Physical Abuse includes the following: = * Slapping * Choking * Punching * Hitting * Kicking * Pushing * Shoving * Pinching * Biting * Spanking * Scratching * Grabbing * Throwing Bodily * Burning * Restraining * Spitting and bitching!!!

There is only a very small percentage of men who actually can achieve this. More women will seek out psychological counseling than men. Men feel weak if they do so, and also abusers feel it's everyone else's fault and never their own. Often it's the environment they themselves have been brought up in. If you are the abuser by coming on this board it was a big step for you and there is real hope that you can get over this. The next step is to seek psychological counseling. We all carry garbage tied to our butts through life and you must have some issues to deal with as well. If you are a woman, go to your Abused Women's Center in your town and seek out help. You will get plenty of it there. If you are a man that is abused, there are Abused Centers for Men and everything is highly confidential whether it be man or woman. Good luck Marcy

Most abusive relationships start off pleasant and you think you are in love, but then everything goes down hill when you get use to the person. Not all abusive relationships are from the guys or the girls so be careful and safe!

My mother tried to kill me in a car accident when I was 12 years old because I asked the dry cleaning clerk if I could have a lollipop. My mother became so enraged at me as we drove home from the dry cleaners that she drove through a stop sign and we were hit by a garbage truck. I went through the back wind shield face first and she had to be pulled out of the car with the jars of life. I believe either she was tring to kill me (the car was hit on the passenger side where I was, but evidently I hopped into the back seat) or she was trying to kill us both, or she simply endangered my life (and hers) and it should have been felony child abuse. Maybe she was deliberately trying to kill us both. After the accident she kept saying "you don't remember the car accident, do you?" and it was true that I did not...but I did remember what happened BEFORE the accident, although I never told her or anyone. I should have. The problem is, foster care is sometimes no better. Children are killed in foster care too. In retrospect maybe I should have just waited until I was 18 years old, left home and never went back, never looked back, never grieved for her or the loss of family and tried to build a life entirely without them. One thing leads to another. It has been a series of abusive relationships. The best thing, in retrospect, would have been to go to college, not get pregnant or married until maybe I met someone good for me. That is not what happened. I am 48 and still suffering the consequences. I should have left home at 18 and NEVER LOOKED BACK.

That is not abuse. That is just part of a routine argument... abuse is physically or mentally harming the other person during the argument. So, unless you slammed their head in the door, you weren't being abusive.

People are against domestic violence because of the effect on the family and society. Domestic violence has both emotional and physical effect.

To physically kiss a boy feels like kissing your parents or a family member. The difference is not the physical it is the emotional connection to the person. It is a wonder experience when you are of an age to appreciate it.

You can deal with it by controling your emotions. Consider the harmful effect of your actions before you embark.

Very few states allow minors to be emancipated. In states that allow emancipation the minor must be at least 16 years of age, earn enough income from being employed to pay for housing, food, shelter, medical needs, transportation and must also meet the state's compulsory education age. Some states require the minor's parents to agree to the act all of them allow the minor's parents or any interested adult to contest the emancipation. The court also has the right to rescind an emancipation decree at any time for any reason before the minor reaches. The average costs in states that allow a petition to be filed is $300, if the action is contested legal costs can reach several thousand dollars. The minor is required to pay all legal costs themselves.

No if yhu get a restraininq order or if you let the abuse keep qoinq on....look up an abuse hotline .!

There are four main types of child abuse. They are physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and neglect. Physical is where an adult hurts the child's body. Emotional abuse is where an adult constantly tells the child they are worthless, deserve to die, etc, etc, etc. Sexual abuse can be a lot of things. It can be pornagrophy (taking pictures of the child while they are naked or partially naked), rape, touching the child inappropriately, or selling the child's body for money. Neglect can also be many things. Neglect could be not providing everyday living essentials for the child, not allowing the child to get an education, or locking a child up in a room and leaving them there for a prolonged period of time. Any questions may be directed to me at melaniewhite@gmail.com.

If it is your partner you can ring up your local womens refuge who are fantastic and can offer advice and shelter. Whether it is mental abuse or they hit you it is scary. You may think your going mad, dont know who you are anymore. You are strong but please be careful. They are unpredictable and will do anything to keep you escaping. They may hurt you, plead, threaten suicide etc. Its very serious. Please ring in secret. Do not tell them your leaving and plan your escape. Lots.of.people. Have lost their lives trying to stand up to these bullies. I would say you cant win. They will let you think you have cured them its classic but they will just get worse. If you are away and they.seem sorry dont believe them its just tactics. Be strong and try to stay single for atleast a year so you know you can access help and counselling preventing you from attracting another abuser. I would say the hardest thing.is staying away but if you read books on controllers you will see they wont change without therapy long term and even then it might not work. Even after a few weeks they may be fantastic, attentive everything. I promise it wont last and the abuse will continue in weeks if not days but it will be harder to go next time because you want that person back. Be strong and look after yourself not them.

Violence is NEVER EVER the answer. I mean, use the Golden Rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated. If you would want to be treated like a King/Queen, then treat others nicely.

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