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Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
An abusive relationship is a relationship in which a person is victim to the use or threat of being physically or psychologically abused. Here you can ask questions about abusive relationships such as how to spot it, and how to get yourself or others help.
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How long has domestic violence been in society?
Domestic violence is as old as humanity. Incidents of domestic violence appear in all the great classics - from the Bible to Homer's Odyssey.
It seems that to abuse the weak and the intimate comes to us naturally.
What is an example of a physical abuse?
= Physical Abuse includes the following: = * Slapping * Choking * Punching * Hitting * Kicking * Pushing * Shoving * Pinching * Biting * Spanking * Scratching * Grabbing * Throwing Bodily * Burning * Restraining * Spitting and bitching!!!
According to the U.S. Department of Justice, between 1998 and 2002:
- Of the almost 3.5 million violent crimes committed against family members, 49% of these were crimes against spouses.
- 84% of spouse abuse victims were females, and 86% of victims of dating partner abuse at were female.
According to the World Health Organization, between 1983 and 2010:
- 1/3 of women around the world are affected by domestic or sexual violence by their partner.
- Almost 40% of women killed were killed by their partners.
Can another woman change a man who abused his first wife?
There is only a very small percentage of men who actually can achieve this. More women will seek out psychological counseling than men. Men feel weak if they do so, and also abusers feel it's everyone else's fault and never their own. Often it's the environment they themselves have been brought up in. If you are the abuser by coming on this board it was a big step for you and there is real hope that you can get over this. The next step is to seek psychological counseling. We all carry garbage tied to our butts through life and you must have some issues to deal with as well. If you are a woman, go to your Abused Women's Center in your town and seek out help. You will get plenty of it there. If you are a man that is abused, there are Abused Centers for Men and everything is highly confidential whether it be man or woman. Good luck Marcy
How does Abusive relationships start?
Most abusive relationships start off pleasant and you think you are in love, but then everything goes down hill when you get use to the person. Not all abusive relationships are from the guys or the girls so be careful and safe!
What is one way to prevent child abuse?
My mother tried to kill me in a car accident when I was 12 years old because I asked the dry cleaning clerk if I could have a lollipop. My mother became so enraged at me as we drove home from the dry cleaners that she drove through a stop sign and we were hit by a garbage truck. I went through the back wind shield face first and she had to be pulled out of the car with the jars of life. I believe either she was tring to kill me (the car was hit on the passenger side where I was, but evidently I hopped into the back seat) or she was trying to kill us both, or she simply endangered my life (and hers) and it should have been felony child abuse. Maybe she was deliberately trying to kill us both. After the accident she kept saying "you don't remember the car accident, do you?" and it was true that I did not...but I did remember what happened BEFORE the accident, although I never told her or anyone. I should have. The problem is, foster care is sometimes no better. Children are killed in foster care too. In retrospect maybe I should have just waited until I was 18 years old, left home and never went back, never looked back, never grieved for her or the loss of family and tried to build a life entirely without them. One thing leads to another. It has been a series of abusive relationships. The best thing, in retrospect, would have been to go to college, not get pregnant or married until maybe I met someone good for me. That is not what happened. I am 48 and still suffering the consequences. I should have left home at 18 and NEVER LOOKED BACK.
If you slam a door or kick a door during a disagreement Are you really abusing someone?
That is not abuse. That is just part of a routine argument... abuse is physically or mentally harming the other person during the argument. So, unless you slammed their head in the door, you weren't being abusive.
Why people are againt domestic violence?
People are against domestic violence because of the effect on the family and society. Domestic violence has both emotional and physical effect.
What is kissing supposed to feel like physically?
To physically kiss a boy feels like kissing your parents or a family member. The difference is not the physical it is the emotional connection to the person. It is a wonder experience when you are of an age to appreciate it.
How do you deal with passive aggressive?
You can deal with it by controling your emotions. Consider the harmful effect of your actions before you embark.
Can you get emancipated from your abusive father?
Very few states allow minors to be emancipated. In states that allow emancipation the minor must be at least 16 years of age, earn enough income from being employed to pay for housing, food, shelter, medical needs, transportation and must also meet the state's compulsory education age. Some states require the minor's parents to agree to the act all of them allow the minor's parents or any interested adult to contest the emancipation. The court also has the right to rescind an emancipation decree at any time for any reason before the minor reaches. The average costs in states that allow a petition to be filed is $300, if the action is contested legal costs can reach several thousand dollars. The minor is required to pay all legal costs themselves.
Do abusive boyfriends continue abusing others after a breakup?
No if yhu get a restraininq order or if you let the abuse keep qoinq on....look up an abuse hotline .!
What are all the types of abuse?
There are four main types of child abuse. They are physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and neglect. Physical is where an adult hurts the child's body. Emotional abuse is where an adult constantly tells the child they are worthless, deserve to die, etc, etc, etc. Sexual abuse can be a lot of things. It can be pornagrophy (taking pictures of the child while they are naked or partially naked), rape, touching the child inappropriately, or selling the child's body for money. Neglect can also be many things. Neglect could be not providing everyday living essentials for the child, not allowing the child to get an education, or locking a child up in a room and leaving them there for a prolonged period of time. Any questions may be directed to me at melaniewhite@gmail.com.
Who do you tell if your mentally abused?
If it is your partner you can ring up your local womens refuge who are fantastic and can offer advice and shelter. Whether it is mental abuse or they hit you it is scary. You may think your going mad, dont know who you are anymore. You are strong but please be careful. They are unpredictable and will do anything to keep you escaping. They may hurt you, plead, threaten suicide etc. Its very serious. Please ring in secret. Do not tell them your leaving and plan your escape. Lots.of.people. Have lost their lives trying to stand up to these bullies. I would say you cant win. They will let you think you have cured them its classic but they will just get worse. If you are away and they.seem sorry dont believe them its just tactics. Be strong and try to stay single for atleast a year so you know you can access help and counselling preventing you from attracting another abuser. I would say the hardest thing.is staying away but if you read books on controllers you will see they wont change without therapy long term and even then it might not work. Even after a few weeks they may be fantastic, attentive everything. I promise it wont last and the abuse will continue in weeks if not days but it will be harder to go next time because you want that person back. Be strong and look after yourself not them.
Is Violence the answer to everything?
Violence is NEVER EVER the answer. I mean, use the Golden Rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated. If you would want to be treated like a King/Queen, then treat others nicely.
Should you tell a narcissist he is a narcissist?
You can't!!! You can't tell him that he is a narcissist, because a narcissist is unable to define his own faults, much less try to fix them. I am in the process of leaving my 6 year relationship with a narcissist because he just drained the life out of me. 6 years and I finally was able to put a finger on what his problem was. I just learned this now.
Amen Sister! He will not admit any wrong doing on his part. The blame will aways go on you or another. They see themselves as perfect. Gorgeous, available ( even if married) They are opportunists. They manipulate EVERYONE and thing. They have affairs due to the sexual attention and the Madonna/Whore Syndrome. They want everything they cannot have. Someone playing hard to get is an obvious target. They feel the need, desire to conquer that woman/person. They cannot love you. It is all an act. They suck you in, and when they think they have captured you, then you become a burden and a bore, and they must move on to the next captivating victim. They NEED you at home for secondary attention. They need constant adoration. The world cannot contribute that to them all of the time. So, they need a significant other to fulfill that void. (When the World is to busy for them) We, as a wife, only serve a purpose to them. When we fall in love with them in he beginning, it is all an act. When they think you are trapped in their love, then they do not see you as a sexual being. That is where the Madonna/Whore Syndrome comes in to play. They feel the urge to chase the sex, and you are now the nice, caring being (not sexual) the Madonna. You will be hurt so much with the constant affairs and abuse. These people DO NOT CARE about NO ONE but THEMSELVES! You, or NO one else will ever change them because they don't think that they are doing anything wrong. They think that they are owed happiness, self-satisfaction. The "Feel Good" concept. That is ALL they care about. They hate rejection ...It's like, HOW dare you not give ME what I WANT? They always have to be the loudest, center of any gathering and attention. "People person" (so they can flirt with every woman), Life of the party! They act like they deserve a fan club. Sorry for being so long winded with this. I had to get it out of my system. I am just getting through this with my husband now. It is hard, and I have a long way to go to retrieve my lost, everything! He has drained me in every way possible. But, I love God, and asked him to reveal everything to me, and that I knew how painful that this would be. I needed to save the rest of my future. I have wasted 9 years on him. Now it's MY turn to live...
To finally breath again... God Bless ... Regina reginabates66@yahoo.com
How do you control anger when someone is said that they know pushes my buttons?
In our lifetime we will have a lot of people pushing our buttons. If this is happening very frequently it is better to confront the individual politely and let them know that your not pleased with what their doing. Not all situation is the same. If the individual continues, you can report it to someone higher in authority.
How does domestic violence affect the economy?
Domestic violence can cause unemployment for many reasons. Ones that come to my mind immediately are:
The victim can not come to work the next or subsequent days because of physical ailments that would either embarrase them or physically keep them from preforming their duties.
The victim's opinion of themselves changes, negatively and they are emotionally unable to perform their duties. They can become very unsure of their abilities and second guess most things they do. They loose confidence in themselves and their abilities and frankly are not worth what their employer was paying them in the past.
Hopefully, the unemployment is caused because the victim decided to remove themselves from their abuser and didn't show up for work because they were at the local police station, lawyers office or safe house.
Ladies (or men) if you are the abused person, leave- and take your children with you. Being an abuser is a personality trait. If you are not there, the next best will do.
Is a narcissist capable of murder?
Absolutely. Narcissists are capable of murder. Narcissists are focused on themselves and their goals, so if someone is blocking them from getting what they want, they may kill the person they perceive as being in their way.
Is there a law for verbal abuse?
It can depend entirely on which jurisdiction or state you live in. Some states have laws against "Curse and Abuse," or "Fighting Words," while others do not and consider such non-physical verbal attacks as a manifestation of "free speech."
What should you do if you feel like you always get the blame?
When people are wrong and guilty a lot of times they will try to put it on another person. If someone is doing this to you the first step is to realize they are the ones with the problems and the issues not you. You know when you have done something wrong and if someone is trying to make you feel guilty all the time it's probably because they are abusive.
How many women get out of abusive relationships?
You can find some statistics.
There are no true stats on this because many women never report abuse. They are extremely fearful in most cases and the laws have taken a long while to protect women from abuse.
If you or anyone you know is in an abusive relationship, head for the closest "Abused Women's Center" in your area, and if you can't find it in your phone book, then phone "Mental Health" and they will put you into the right direction.
to tell you the truth, in a relationship women are commonly abused (i mean look at the chris brown and rihanna incodent)
Why would as narcissist marry a narcissist?
It is a contest of wills when a narcissist meets a narcissist. As in the case of my parents, Daddy out-narcissisted Mommy. Mommy then tortured me. As in the case of my neice and her husband, it was a 6-year row resulting in two very angry, resentful narcissists who eventually went their own way.
