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Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
An abusive relationship is a relationship in which a person is victim to the use or threat of being physically or psychologically abused. Here you can ask questions about abusive relationships such as how to spot it, and how to get yourself or others help.
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How do you handle a daughter's physically and emotionally abusive relationship?
This is why it may be difficult to "open her eyes" to reality. She may resent you and come to regard yopu as a dangerous enemy, threatening her marital "bliss".
I'm glad somebody asked this question! Unfortunately, it took A LOT for me to open my eyes. I had a sort of epiphany when my dad forced the phone out of my hands while I was crying because my abuser was at it again, and knocked some sense into me. I'm not condoning hitting anyone, just be very, very firm. After this ordeal, I ran away and hid in the woods for a few hours. But when I came out of hiding, my mother was cold and distant, and my father apologized for what he did and tried to be understanding. He told me that he would allow the relationship to go on, and for me to be an adult and make my own mistakes. I took this and ran, and kept talking to my abuser. I told him the next time that we faught, I'd leave him because of the ordeal with my parents. He agreed. And then picked a fight with me two days later, bad mouthed my parents, etc etc. I finally started to realize that I was in denial, and that he was abusive, and in time, I cut my losses and left. There really is no specific way to get your daughter to get out of an abusive relationship, other than to point out to her what is obvious to you, and try to be understanding and patient. In time she will realize what's going on, and let you know, and look to you for support. Make sure you're there for her.
ANSWER: I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. The way i felt, and sometimes still feel, is that he was the only one for me.....that he was THE one. I still have a deep love for him. Because of the love and attatchment that go into these kinds of relationships, especially on the side of the girl, its impossible to force her to leave the relationship. Talk to her about it, don't be in her face, dont be rude. Just explain how you feel. Attacking her decision to stay in the relationship is NEVER a good idea. you have to work with her..and dont forbid contact..my parents tried that, it only made me want to stay with him more. You have to be patient, and you have to be there when she needs you. Eventually, she will see whats wrong.
How can you have more than one wife?
In most modern Western cultures, it is not legal to be married to more then one person at a time. It must be kept in mind however that there are other society's in the world where having more then one wife is not illegal and the number of women you can take as wife is limited to what you can afford. This is not cheating this is just the way it is. even in a biblical sence there is no problem with having more then one wife.
What to do if your mom yells and gets mad a lot?
Then I suggest that you should not try to make her mad and if she abuses you physically or verbally call an a abuse number which I do not have on hand. It seems to me that there may be more going on, could your mom have some emotional problems that you may or may not be aware of. if you can talk to your father,uncle,aunt or grandparent i would suggest that you do that and maybe you all as a family unit can talk to her, but i must caution you that she may percieve that as a confrontaion and or threat. so use caution and if you are being abused seek help thru a school counselor,social worker,friend,priest or even the police department,
Can younger girl beat up a boy like 12 years old 14 old boy or 14 girl 16 year boy?
of course she can
black girls are physically superior over white males
they are simply stronger tougher better than us
an average black girl beats the sh*t out of an average white man any time she want to
Does your husband really love you if he kicks you out of the house?
You have two choices here. You can be honest with yourself and see why he would react in this way, but if he was wrong and you didn't deserve it then it's time you saw a lawyer and had something done about this or you could lose property, kids, possessions as well. The law in most Western countries is you have to split half-in-half and by throwing you out he is breaking the law. If you don't come back to the house within a 24 hour period this could be classed as desertion and you could end up losing everything.
Only you know if you can successfully sit down and communicate with your husband. Give it a shot!
My boyfriend hits me what do I do?
Seek a PPO. Its a Personal Protection Order. You can get one at your local county courthouse, or at the Clerks office, you can also go on-line and check them out considering what state you live in. Personal Protection Orders are designed for domestic (family or relationship) situations. If this gets serious or if you feel the treat to be genuine, you can also call the cops and inform them of said threat. Anytime someone threatens you and you feel that the treat is real, that is an assault, you do not need to get hit for an assault to be warranted. nor do you need a battery (hitting of any kind) to follow along with it. an Assault is when a person makes a threat that the person to whom the threat was made feels in fear of the person making said threat, therefore, if this happens an Assault has occurred, most times when someone say something to the extent of, "I'm going to beat the S#$% out of you," (an Assault) and follows it up it by doing so (battery) it becomes an Assault and battery. But for now if seek A PPO and Call the police within a reasonable time of the treat being made.
Answer1. LEAVE. Leave now, leave quickly, get to someplace safe and surround yourself with people that truly care about you. Yes, it's complicated. Yes, it can be heartbreaking - but here's two insights that might help; your boyfriend has some issues that he needs to deal with (whether its anger management, his own past childhood abuse, chemical abuse, bipolar disorder or something else), and love does not involve threatening people with anything (little of all death). You do not have the expertise to give your boyfriend the professional help he clearly needs to become stable and a non-threat, neither are you in a safe position to assist him to get that expertise. Relationships based on threats have no trust, no trust means no security nor love, without security or love...why is there a relationship? The answer is out of habit. Habit is not a valid reason for relationships of any kind.1a. You need to get a record with the local police department as soon as possible registering a complaint against him for threatening you. The reason for this is that most state/local laws about stalking or restraint orders require a significant stack of paperwork to show reason why that legal measure would be necessary, and you should have it as a safety net. When you get in touch with the police, be sure to have his car license plate number with you. If he is involved with any minor fender-benders in the near future, the record at the police department should spur an investigation - even if you weren't present and no one was majorly injured.
1b. Seek expert advice about the validity of his threats, and what response is best as far as whether you should live at a safe house for a while or if you should not change any habits (so as not to empower him as per response #1's idea). An expert can ask you questions about the circumstances of the threat, his past history of threatening you, and other such critical pieces of evidence that are too private for the internet ~ and unknowable to any random advice giver (no matter how good the intention is). This leads to number 2 -
2. Locate a good counselor and meet with him or her to talk about your experiences with this soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend so that you can observe any patterns in your life that might create future relationship difficulties with men who will be much more significant to you and much more thoughtful and loving. Most states offer a low income counseling option, if money is an issue - if you are still in high school talk to your school counselor. Many cities have "survival" groups that are free. People who share related experiences meet in these (mostly open membership) groups to work through issues and yes, have fun. Joining a "abuse survival" group might be a good experience for you, even if you were never physically abused - mental abuse (such as a threat that causes so much anxiety that you resort to posting an annonymous question on the WikiAnswers website) is also abuse. If money isn't a concern, get the counselor who has the most experience in the area of relationships, abuse, etc. If all else fails, buy one of those recent books by Dr. Phil. Seriously. Not that his threat to you is in any way your fault - rather, it is important for your safety that you can identify characteristics about this soon to be ex that make him dangerous, so that you avoid others like him in your future. After all, part of resolving this question of yours is how you will heal after this experience. (Note: another expert that might be of assistance to you if you are inclined to do so, have the money to do so, and would feel more secure doing so, is a lawyer while you are at it. Select this lawyer by word-of-mouth (ask trusted friends) the yellow pages is just not a good way to judge which lawyers are good or not. I doubt you would need a lawyer at all...but hey, its an option.) But...back to the nice warm and fuzzy part - see point 3 below.
3. The good news is - the future is yours. It's all yours and it is a nice loooooong future. You will get wrinkles and grey hair, you will have more grandkids than you know what to do with. Someday ~ in the distant future. And the sooner you safely get out of the relationship you are in (by involving police and other experts) the sooner this nice future will have its first, promising days. It wont be easy, nothing is, staying would be far harder. The past is just that, it is gone. The present is what you can change. The future is yet unwritten. Your future should be filled with security, safety, and loving people who wish the best for you. Reach out to those people, and take your first steps toward meeting the one's you don't know yet. Leave. ASAP.
AnswerHey buddy!Relax. People who issue these kind of threats are usually like dogs who just know to bark and not to bite. So,don't you worry. He comes across as an abuser no doubt. But, don't you be scared of him. I will advise you to involve your parents in the issue if you can and if not then take help of a very reliable friend and report the matter to police immediately. He will be taken to task. And at no point show yourself to be a weak person. Leave him immediately and also you can tell him that you are not scared of his threats and he can do whatever he feels like and that you have already informed a few good people about it (threats, so if anything has to happen to you he won't get off scot free).
And friend, next time try to judge a person well and give yourself sometime before you commit into a relationship. Good Luck!
How can you Make yourself cute?
Beautiful or pretty? Beautiful? Of course! Being beautiful means BEaUtiful (be u) and maybe if you want, You can always put makeup or Workout. You are beautiful every day. No words can't bring you down! Remember that! No matter how much scars you have, don't be afraid to show it. Scars just show how strong you are. How Much you went through and survive it. I hope this helps:)
Do you really want to live your life like that with things prrogressively getting worse and you progressively getting weakened by his abuse? Tell him that you won't put up this disrespect anymore and the next time he calls you a bad name or verbally abuses you, you leave him. What other option is there? Get out while you still have the strength. Look after yourself and your inner child.
Why do men abuse women and children?
Because unfortunately darling we live in patriarchal society that promotes male authority and promotes the idea that men should and can behave in whatever way they see fit. The way are society is formed is truly flawed and it depicts women as subjects; people who are meant to do as there told. While this answer may seem harsh it is sadly the reality that many women live in on a day to day basis. If you know someone are you yourself are being abused by someone, mentally or physically, I urge you to seek help, no one should live their life in fear. You can find more information at Joyful Heart Foundation, they are a great organization that can help and educate you more about domestic violence.
Is someone controlling another person a form of abuse?
Power and control tactics are the main focus in most every abusive relationship...if someone is manipulating their partner to the point where there partner is not happy then yes controlling someone is a form of abuse...
you can tell if your parents abuse you if they're always yelling. constantly hitting or doing something that makes you uncomptrobale. if this is what is happening to you than you should call child protective service or police. you can also tell someone you trust.
What do you call a person who doesn't love?
I could answer this with a list of wonderful words to CALL THEM :-P however if a person doesn't love you, it's not you they don't really love. It is usually themselves. They are unhappy with who they have become, are unsatisfied with some areas of their lives and don't have the vision to see you for who you are. Regardless of how beautiful you are, how much you love them wholeheartly and how much you care/feel compassion for them it may not change anythingi them. All you can do is walk away feeling statisfied that YOU are capable of feeling love for someone, even thought it may not have been returned.
Surely if you have loved once, you will love again. The next time you give love, this new person should love you just as much in return.
So what to call a person who doesn't love you is clearly - Oblivious.
What are the domestic violence charges in The US?
Domestic violence misdemeanor charges can also have drastic effects, such as: Loss of or change in custody/visitation rights, Decreased ability to obtain employment or housing (many employers and housing authorities require disclosure of domestic violence misdemeanor charges.
How do you get your wife back into the realtionship?
1. When she asks how she looks, shrug and say "could be better." This will keep her on her toes, and girls love that. 2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of weakness. If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really hard until she cries (this will impress her by showing her what a strong man you are). 3. Once a month, sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Girls are like dogs; they love to be roughed up. 4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If she is, say "you better be." Repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will show her you care. 5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement, and every girl needs some improvement. 6. Recognize the small things, as they usually mean the most. Then when she's sleeping, steal all her small things and break them, because jewelry is for wussies and Asian ladies. 7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words "**** you" and grab the other girl's ass. Girls love competition. 8. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard. When she starts to get upset, tell her you were just kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something like that, lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear "...because I can." 9. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick." Women love those special nicknames. 10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD. 11. Warm her up when she's cold...and not by giving her your jacket, because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and say "if you don't stop bitching about the cold right now, you're going to be bitching about a black eye." The best way to get warm is with fear. 12. Take her to a party. When you get there, she'll have to go to the bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when the party is dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you all night. 13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet. Kick the pet. Guys always find stuff like that funny...why shouldn't girls? 14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10 minutes, then jump up and scream in her ear. Repeat until she goes home and you can use your arms for more important things (like basketball). 15. Spit often. I hear girls like guys that spit. 16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give her self-confidence, then you can never turn her into the object she deep down desires to be. 17. Every time you're in her house, steal one of her shoes, earrings or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the pair. This way, she'll go crazy. 18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she's about to order, interrupt and say "no, she's not hungry." Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy that speaks for her. 19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then punch her in the face. Girls love a spontaneous guy. 20. Give her one of your t-shirts, and make sure it has your smell on it (but not a sexy cologne smell...a bad smell. You know what I'm talking about). 21. When it's raining, keep asking her if she's crying. She'll say "no, it's just the rain." Ten minutes later, turn to her and just scream at her to stop crying. Girls like a tough man. 22. Titty twisters and plenty of them. 23. If you're listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her no. This way she'll think you're mysterious. 24. Remember her birthday, but don't get her anything. Teach her that material objects arent important. The only thing that's important is that she keeps you happy, and your happiness is the greatest present she can ever get. 25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then, next time you know she's coming over on a trash day, leave the trash can open and have the present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don't like this one that much, but guys think it's funny
What do the girls think of boys?
No. The primary purpose of dating is to find a mate. Many cultures still have parents serve in this role, but typically not in the United States. An 11 year girl in any culture is not physically or emotionally mature enough to deal with searching for a mate - especially in the United States. Many have not started menses and if they have, it is very early. In addition, the boys involved are typically older - 13 to 15 years old, and they are also not in the stage in life to find a mate, nor are they physically or emotionally capable of engaging in our "American mating ritual" in a healthy or balanced way.
Unfortunately, American culture and parents have neglected providing the guidance and healthy boundaries that children need. Our society has taken the creed out of context - that everyone, even our children, have the independent right to peruse happiness. Yet, teaching a child to delay gratification is actually essential to being able to be a heappy, well-adjusted adult. Not to mention, their desire for a boy-friend is probably motivated by external media hype and pressure from peers. Allowing real boy-friends does not help prepare the child for the challenges of adolescence or adulthood in our sexually charged society.
Is there a way to stop child abuse?
- Child abuse should be stopped because children have no control over their own lives and their little voices are often never heard, so it is up to parents or even adults without children to come down heavily on those that make an innocent child's life miserable by physical or cruel verbal abuse.
What is the punishment for child abuse in Ohio?
It mainly concerns physical or physcological evidence.
What do i do if i am being emotionally verbally and now physically abused?
== Tell a friend. Tell the police. Tell your teacher. == You are only trapped if you are in a cage or in chains. You can also be trapped if you are in mental chains. Are you trapped for financial reasons? Are you trapped because you are afraid of what others will think and say? Are you trapped because of emotional insecurity? Do you have access to dependable social services and programs? Do you have any family, friends or relatives that you can turn to for help? Can you get legal intervention? You should discuss your problem with a responsible and caring person who can provide a solution. == If you have access to means of communication with the outside such as this the computer you are on or a phone, email people, shelters, police etc. or phone them they will come and get you be detailed with what is going on, tell the truth and your exact location. I totally agree with all the above - the bottom line is get out anyway you can, don't worry about your stuff as material things can be replaced and run...go somewhere you can call the police, report this and get hooked up with a local womans shelter, they can offer help from here and guidance in all aspects of your life plus protect you from this person. If you want out you must gather the courage and strength to do what needs to be done for your life and safety.
How does workingvwith person centred values reduce abuse?
Working with a person with the centred values reduces abuses because his interests are taken cares of.
What does it mean to be a tool?
A tool is a person who is tricked, paid, coerced or otherwise controlled by others to do dishonest or unpleasant actions that the controller does not want to be seen doing.
Example: The rich college boys didn't realize she was just a tool of the cult leader, luring them into joining his cult.
What can domestic violence cause?
it is mostly caused by stress level and pure pressuring and drinking ,smoking
How does a 5th grade girl know if a fth grade boy likes her?
A fourth grade boy may be shy around a fifth grade girl. Talk to him about something that he is interested in -- sports, TV, movies, music and see how he responds. You may have to try this more than once. Once he gets over shyness does he seem to like talking to you?
What does it mean when he only looks at your mouth when you talk to him?
One possibility is that he would like to kiss you at some point, but is being extremely careful about protecting himself from sexually transmitted diseases. So he is interested in being physical, but is also smart and careful about his health. Don't take it personally.
What countries abuse women the most?
Any country where women believe they have the right to speak, act, or think without express permission from a man will have a high rate of abuse to women.
Also see Sandwhich Islands
Sincerely apologize. Ask for God's forgiveness. Realize that you are a human being just like the rest of us and we all make mistakes. Don't continue to make the same errors. Once you've asked for God's forgiveness, let it go and don't ever bring it up again. It is over with at that point and God promises us that he will never bring it up to us again once we repent and seek forgiveness. A sincere apology goes a long way. Even if someone doesn't forgive you, you will be able to forgive yourself. Give yourself a pass but be very careful not to continue the behavior that caused the guilt in the first place.
