Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

Power and control tactics are the main focus in most every abusive relationship...if someone is manipulating their partner to the point where there partner is not happy then yes controlling someone is a form of abuse...

you can tell if your parents abuse you if they're always yelling. constantly hitting or doing something that makes you uncomptrobale. if this is what is happening to you than you should call child protective service or police. you can also tell someone you trust.

I could answer this with a list of wonderful words to CALL THEM :-P however if a person doesn't love you, it's not you they don't really love. It is usually themselves. They are unhappy with who they have become, are unsatisfied with some areas of their lives and don't have the vision to see you for who you are. Regardless of how beautiful you are, how much you love them wholeheartly and how much you care/feel compassion for them it may not change anythingi them. All you can do is walk away feeling statisfied that YOU are capable of feeling love for someone, even thought it may not have been returned.

Surely if you have loved once, you will love again. The next time you give love, this new person should love you just as much in return.

So what to call a person who doesn't love you is clearly - Oblivious.

Domestic violence misdemeanor charges can also have drastic effects, such as: Loss of or change in custody/visitation rights, Decreased ability to obtain employment or housing (many employers and housing authorities require disclosure of domestic violence misdemeanor charges.

1. When she asks how she looks, shrug and say "could be better." This will keep her on her toes, and girls love that. 2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of weakness. If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really hard until she cries (this will impress her by showing her what a strong man you are). 3. Once a month, sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Girls are like dogs; they love to be roughed up. 4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If she is, say "you better be." Repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will show her you care. 5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement, and every girl needs some improvement. 6. Recognize the small things, as they usually mean the most. Then when she's sleeping, steal all her small things and break them, because jewelry is for wussies and Asian ladies. 7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words "**** you" and grab the other girl's ass. Girls love competition. 8. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard. When she starts to get upset, tell her you were just kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something like that, lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear "...because I can." 9. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick." Women love those special nicknames. 10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD. 11. Warm her up when she's cold...and not by giving her your jacket, because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and say "if you don't stop bitching about the cold right now, you're going to be bitching about a black eye." The best way to get warm is with fear. 12. Take her to a party. When you get there, she'll have to go to the bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when the party is dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you all night. 13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet. Kick the pet. Guys always find stuff like that funny...why shouldn't girls? 14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10 minutes, then jump up and scream in her ear. Repeat until she goes home and you can use your arms for more important things (like basketball). 15. Spit often. I hear girls like guys that spit. 16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give her self-confidence, then you can never turn her into the object she deep down desires to be. 17. Every time you're in her house, steal one of her shoes, earrings or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the pair. This way, she'll go crazy. 18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she's about to order, interrupt and say "no, she's not hungry." Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy that speaks for her. 19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then punch her in the face. Girls love a spontaneous guy. 20. Give her one of your t-shirts, and make sure it has your smell on it (but not a sexy cologne smell...a bad smell. You know what I'm talking about). 21. When it's raining, keep asking her if she's crying. She'll say "no, it's just the rain." Ten minutes later, turn to her and just scream at her to stop crying. Girls like a tough man. 22. Titty twisters and plenty of them. 23. If you're listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her no. This way she'll think you're mysterious. 24. Remember her birthday, but don't get her anything. Teach her that material objects arent important. The only thing that's important is that she keeps you happy, and your happiness is the greatest present she can ever get. 25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then, next time you know she's coming over on a trash day, leave the trash can open and have the present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don't like this one that much, but guys think it's funny

• Child abuse should be stopped because children have no control over their own lives and their little voices are often never heard, so it is up to parents or even adults without children to come down heavily on those that make an innocent child's life miserable by physical or cruel verbal abuse.

It mainly concerns physical or physcological evidence.

== Tell a friend. Tell the police. Tell your teacher. == You are only trapped if you are in a cage or in chains. You can also be trapped if you are in mental chains. Are you trapped for financial reasons? Are you trapped because you are afraid of what others will think and say? Are you trapped because of emotional insecurity? Do you have access to dependable social services and programs? Do you have any family, friends or relatives that you can turn to for help? Can you get legal intervention? You should discuss your problem with a responsible and caring person who can provide a solution. == If you have access to means of communication with the outside such as this the computer you are on or a phone, email people, shelters, police etc. or phone them they will come and get you be detailed with what is going on, tell the truth and your exact location. I totally agree with all the above - the bottom line is get out anyway you can, don't worry about your stuff as material things can be replaced and run...go somewhere you can call the police, report this and get hooked up with a local womans shelter, they can offer help from here and guidance in all aspects of your life plus protect you from this person. If you want out you must gather the courage and strength to do what needs to be done for your life and safety.

Working with a person with the centred values reduces abuses because his interests are taken cares of.

A tool is a person who is tricked, paid, coerced or otherwise controlled by others to do dishonest or unpleasant actions that the controller does not want to be seen doing.

Example: The rich college boys didn't realize she was just a tool of the cult leader, luring them into joining his cult.

it is mostly caused by stress level and pure pressuring and drinking ,smoking

A fourth grade boy may be shy around a fifth grade girl. Talk to him about something that he is interested in -- sports, TV, movies, music and see how he responds. You may have to try this more than once. Once he gets over shyness does he seem to like talking to you?

One possibility is that he would like to kiss you at some point, but is being extremely careful about protecting himself from sexually transmitted diseases. So he is interested in being physical, but is also smart and careful about his health. Don't take it personally.

Any country where women believe they have the right to speak, act, or think without express permission from a man will have a high rate of abuse to women.

Also see Sandwhich Islands

Sincerely apologize. Ask for God's forgiveness. Realize that you are a human being just like the rest of us and we all make mistakes. Don't continue to make the same errors. Once you've asked for God's forgiveness, let it go and don't ever bring it up again. It is over with at that point and God promises us that he will never bring it up to us again once we repent and seek forgiveness. A sincere apology goes a long way. Even if someone doesn't forgive you, you will be able to forgive yourself. Give yourself a pass but be very careful not to continue the behavior that caused the guilt in the first place.

* Ways to control violence: Keeping children busy in sports or other social activities to keep them off the streets and providing program assistance for the poor children to get involved. Stricter laws. More aid from the government for the poor. Stress is a high factor to create violence. The violent crimes are higher in the summer. Going back to what use to be called, 'Beat Cops' where they patrolled neighborhoods. Special police force for gang wars and trades of firearms, drugs and prostitution. Stricter Immigration Laws.

Sorry, but I laughed and laughed when I saw your post because I just recently went through the same thing. My hubby and I are best friends as well as lovers, but sometimes they can rely on you for their sole entertainment and it drives me wild too. I believe both people in a relationship need head space. I sure do need mine these days. I have told him he needs to get out with his buddies more and either go golfing, fishing or whatever. He just grins and follows me through the house! I swear it's psychological because when we were first married that all he wanted to do was go fishing, golfing, hiking with his buddies every weekend and the argument would start. We had one TV and he watched every hockey and football game known to man and it ruined some of my movie time. Now, when I encourage him to go out with his friends he's plastered to me like a cheap suit. LOL

Well, I fixed that one real quick. I bought him football tickets and he took a buddy this past Saturday. Then I booked him for a guided fishing trip for 2 days and there you have it! I've pulled sneakies and phoned up his best buddy who he has a great deal in common with and say, "Ernie was talking about going fishing, what do you think?" Right away (and according to my plan) his buddy jumps at the chance and then I say, "Well hey, he'll be home at 7 PM so give him a call!" A free weekend coming up for me! Men! It's so easy to fool 'em. LOL

I love him a great deal, but hey, like you, I want to catch up with my friends, do some things around the house I've been putting off and just kick up my feet, put the old fireplace on and veg out!

Good luckMarcy

You don't.

NEVER DO THAT'S THE STUPIDEST QUESTION IVE EVER HEARD U SICK INDIVIDUAL YOU SHOULD LOVE AND CHERISH YOUR CHILD AND SMOTHER THEM WITH KISSES AND HUGS ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!

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Your duty as a parent is to love the child, and help them develop into the person they need to be not to abuse them in any way.

Talk to a counselor at school but do it confidentially. Let the teacher know that you don't want your name to be used. It needs to be reported. If you really give a concern about her talk to someone like an adult and someone you trust and explain to them whats happening and make sure your facts are correct or you will be in trouble and for sure i will do something before its too late cuz life is to short to be waiting for worse to happen and since where all humans i hope that she finds it in her heart to forgive you for doing the right thing. good luck.

why does someone have to kill their husband?, as awful as it is of what he committed a horrible act of cheating and adultrey, maybe anita should have let God take care of him

He has not said why. He remarried to Vanessa Griffin in 1990 and they have four kids.

Most people are afraid of the shame such cases will bring to them. Also fear is a factor, that the partner will harm them more.

There is much controversy over how and why domestic violence occurs. And it happens against BOTH men and women. Each year approximately 3 million women encounter domestic violence. But alarmingly, on the increase is violence against men, increasing faster over the last 2 decades than violence against women. Now each year not quite 1 million men suffer domestic violence attacks from women. Since this question does not target male or female, fair and balanced says we should comment on both.

Violence of any kind can occur for virtually any reason. Some may include: fighting that gets out of control, escalates beyond either parties ability to reason and de-escalate the fight or argument. While many men and women who are the victim can be guilty of instigating or antagonizing the other to violence, it doesn't make it right, whether it's a man or a woman.

Too many people want to pigeon-hole a person into the category of violent offender without looking at its root cause. This can be trauma experienced in the aggressors life, undealt with issues, over-use of drugs, alcohol, feelings of inadequacy, and believe it or not, plenty of aggressors lash out after being berated over and over by the victim, again, this is not right regardless of who starts what.

There is no one reason why violence, whether domestic or general, occurs. Each case, each person, each aggressor, each victim is different and plays a different role in each event.

because when you speak up and stand up for yourself you may feel doomed because it may make you fear the other person is going to get angry and do something I'll use the example when a kid says No to there parents they may feel doomed because they then realize they crossed the line. Hope this helps :)