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Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
An abusive relationship is a relationship in which a person is victim to the use or threat of being physically or psychologically abused. Here you can ask questions about abusive relationships such as how to spot it, and how to get yourself or others help.
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Domestic Violence can be broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence has many forms including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.
How much does domestic violence classes cost?
most online classes are free. It can cost from nothing to a thousand dollar.
What do you o if your husband is beating you?
Mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. You might want to discuss this with him if he is unaware of his actions towards you. You might want to seek counseling or shelter to help you understand this is not because of things that you might have done.
Can you please provide me with pictures of abused kids from all over the worl?
* Only for professions such as doctors, psychiatrist, psychologists, etc. It is illegal in the U.S. and Canada to show the face of a minor to the public. Pictures may be shown as evidence in a court case.
How do you fight against bullying?
Well if everyone is bullying you then tell your parents, they can pull you out and go into another school and start a new life there. It would be better for you, since if you stay at that school or whatever, you could get hurt.
What term describes the damage of false statements to a person's reputation?
Libel and slander are terms which describe the damage of false statements to a person's reputation. The first-mentioned designation refers to falsities in writing while the second references those in conversations and speeches.
Who is entitled to the husband's pension the ex wife or new wife?
The answer to that question is both. Most states have held that retirement funds and pensions earned DURING the course of a marriage are equitable assets subject to distribution by the courts. Those pension benefits that accrue after the divorce is finalized are not available to the ex-spouse but rather would be those of the new wife. The main factor is looking what what was (and was not) earned during the course of the marriage.
Addendum:As relates to military pensions, this is somewhat complicated, as the pension is based on the highest rank attained, not as much time served or investment in a fund.Some courts have divided the pension between an ex and current wife by 50/50. Still others have divided it by the number of years each wife was married to the deceased. Still other courts have determined that the only spouse entitled to a military pension is the current spouse. It really depends on the state and the judge who decides.
Why does my boyfriend hide and lock his phone?
He's not hiding the phone (unless of course he fears that it would be stolen), he's hiding something or someone on it.
i think he could be cheating, or just talkin to the other girls. ide be suspicious. if someones got nothin to hide, they hide nothing.
well ask him tell he says an answer same thing happend to me he was cheatin
soooo dont get your hopes up
Cheating is not the only reason a boyfriend would hide/lock his phone,one reason could be is that you are just a girlfriend and are not entitled to an all exclusive stroll through someone elses privacy unless they allow you to...just as you probably would not take to kindly to a boyfriend looking through your purse,your phone,your jewelry box,your dressor drawers, through a box in your closet or through your emails and snail mail...there are areas of privacy that everyone is entitled to have..even among married couples.This is a basic concept that most women have trouble with, they seem to think that they are entitled to know,see,hear,watch and be involved in every single thing on different levels according to their status of girlfriend,live in girlfriend,fiance,or wife.
First, go to a counselor. There are plenty who deal with that kind of problem and unfortunately, there are plenty of violent men around who don't understand the concept of PROTECTING their family instead of harming them.
You'll get advice on how to deal with your mother, sisters and your father when you talk to an abuse counselor. Womens shelters are often a good place to start, even if you've moved out of the abusive home, you can talk to those people and get some good advice.
Remember, we aren't all that way and there are plenty of good men who know how to protect their families. Unfortunately, many women tend to be attracted to men who were just like their fathers and seem to be surprised when they find out that their man is abusive. Drugs, alcohol and sexual perversions are all warnings that too many young women do not heed and they end up in a bad relationship. Be smarter than those young women.
Good luck.
AnswerMy father did this too. Not so much to my sisters and mother as much as myself and one of my 3 other sisters. Its awful. It ruins any chance at any self esteem, I can fully understand that. You HAVE to understand it is NOT you, it has never been you. It is there own fault, they were brought up around it, they think it is normal. It is not normal. What happens next, and I then did this too, is you end up with men who treat you the same way. You make poor choices or no choices because you don't think you deserve anything. At my worst I lived with a man so abusive I thought I was going to be killed. I "slept" with a loaded gun and a loony in my bed. I had panic attacks. My hair started falling out. I have 3 children with 2 different men because I cannot deal with life. What finally worked for me was an old friend. One I hadn't seen since high school. He told me I was beautiful, that I was funny, that I was smart. I didn't believe him, but I thought after hearing these things so much, I must not be THAT bad. After a year of this I finally realized it was NOT me. I was not that bad. I may not be truelly beautiful, but I wasn't that ugly either. You HAVE to find a source to talk to. Many is great, but atleast one. A councilor if you haven't got any close friends, or both. You are not a bad person, but until you truelly feel this way any friendship and relationship will only break you down more. You will continue to gravitate toward people who take advantage of you until you realize that you have great value in the world and you opinion counts. It is imparitive that you see that you are wonderful and it does not make you concieted at all, you live only once and you need no regrets.Can you force the truth out of anyone?
In my past experiences i have found that in order to get the truth out of a cheating partner or spouse you have to already know a good amount of the truth. True cheaters never reveal their methods unless caught in the act.
What happens when someone chokes you by putting their hands around your neck?
- When someone squeezes you by the throat tight until it hurts it is physical abuse and you need to get out of that abusive relationship or the next time the abuser may finish off what they started.
Is there a statute of limitations on domestic abuse in Alabama?
Most felonies are set at 5 years in Alaska. If it is considered a violent crime, there many not be a limit at all. The limit can be tolled for up to 3 years if the perpetrator is out of the state.
What to do when you witness abuse in care home?
If you witness an elder being abused call the helpline 1-800-677-1116.
What can one do to help someone who you know is in an abusive relationship?
Start be getting information from this person about the signs and affects of the abuse. See if there are any meetings in your area to take this person to so they can hear first hand about the emotional, physical and mental scars that are left on a victim. Stand by them and support them and ask them how they would like to go about getting away from the abuser and what you can do for them. Do not however let this take over your life. By wanting to help is a wonderful gesture but this person also has to want help. Show them clippings from the newspaper, I just had two in mine today of woman that were abused by ex's and murdered. Sad but true..
AnswerYou could find someone better for your friend in the abusive relationship. Call the police on that abuser. Talk to her and let her know how speicial they are and how they deserve better because their worth more than what they put up with. or last but not least pray for them to see the light and get out of that kind of unhealthy lifestyle.How do you know if a man was abused as a child?
I dont think that there are certain signs that you could look for as they are different in any person. How people react to pain or abuse like i stated before is different in each person. I think the best way to find out is by asking. But make sure you are not crossing her comfort zone when you ask just make sure she is comfortable talking about it. Otherwise it could be extremly upsetting for her and you both.
How do you handle a daughter's physically and emotionally abusive relationship?
This is why it may be difficult to "open her eyes" to reality. She may resent you and come to regard yopu as a dangerous enemy, threatening her marital "bliss".
I'm glad somebody asked this question! Unfortunately, it took A LOT for me to open my eyes. I had a sort of epiphany when my dad forced the phone out of my hands while I was crying because my abuser was at it again, and knocked some sense into me. I'm not condoning hitting anyone, just be very, very firm. After this ordeal, I ran away and hid in the woods for a few hours. But when I came out of hiding, my mother was cold and distant, and my father apologized for what he did and tried to be understanding. He told me that he would allow the relationship to go on, and for me to be an adult and make my own mistakes. I took this and ran, and kept talking to my abuser. I told him the next time that we faught, I'd leave him because of the ordeal with my parents. He agreed. And then picked a fight with me two days later, bad mouthed my parents, etc etc. I finally started to realize that I was in denial, and that he was abusive, and in time, I cut my losses and left. There really is no specific way to get your daughter to get out of an abusive relationship, other than to point out to her what is obvious to you, and try to be understanding and patient. In time she will realize what's going on, and let you know, and look to you for support. Make sure you're there for her.
ANSWER: I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. The way i felt, and sometimes still feel, is that he was the only one for me.....that he was THE one. I still have a deep love for him. Because of the love and attatchment that go into these kinds of relationships, especially on the side of the girl, its impossible to force her to leave the relationship. Talk to her about it, don't be in her face, dont be rude. Just explain how you feel. Attacking her decision to stay in the relationship is NEVER a good idea. you have to work with her..and dont forbid contact..my parents tried that, it only made me want to stay with him more. You have to be patient, and you have to be there when she needs you. Eventually, she will see whats wrong.
How can you have more than one wife?
In most modern Western cultures, it is not legal to be married to more then one person at a time. It must be kept in mind however that there are other society's in the world where having more then one wife is not illegal and the number of women you can take as wife is limited to what you can afford. This is not cheating this is just the way it is. even in a biblical sence there is no problem with having more then one wife.
What to do if your mom yells and gets mad a lot?
Then I suggest that you should not try to make her mad and if she abuses you physically or verbally call an a abuse number which I do not have on hand. It seems to me that there may be more going on, could your mom have some emotional problems that you may or may not be aware of. if you can talk to your father,uncle,aunt or grandparent i would suggest that you do that and maybe you all as a family unit can talk to her, but i must caution you that she may percieve that as a confrontaion and or threat. so use caution and if you are being abused seek help thru a school counselor,social worker,friend,priest or even the police department,
Can younger girl beat up a boy like 12 years old 14 old boy or 14 girl 16 year boy?
of course she can
black girls are physically superior over white males
they are simply stronger tougher better than us
an average black girl beats the sh*t out of an average white man any time she want to
Does your husband really love you if he kicks you out of the house?
You have two choices here. You can be honest with yourself and see why he would react in this way, but if he was wrong and you didn't deserve it then it's time you saw a lawyer and had something done about this or you could lose property, kids, possessions as well. The law in most Western countries is you have to split half-in-half and by throwing you out he is breaking the law. If you don't come back to the house within a 24 hour period this could be classed as desertion and you could end up losing everything.
Only you know if you can successfully sit down and communicate with your husband. Give it a shot!
My boyfriend hits me what do I do?
Seek a PPO. Its a Personal Protection Order. You can get one at your local county courthouse, or at the Clerks office, you can also go on-line and check them out considering what state you live in. Personal Protection Orders are designed for domestic (family or relationship) situations. If this gets serious or if you feel the treat to be genuine, you can also call the cops and inform them of said threat. Anytime someone threatens you and you feel that the treat is real, that is an assault, you do not need to get hit for an assault to be warranted. nor do you need a battery (hitting of any kind) to follow along with it. an Assault is when a person makes a threat that the person to whom the threat was made feels in fear of the person making said threat, therefore, if this happens an Assault has occurred, most times when someone say something to the extent of, "I'm going to beat the S#$% out of you," (an Assault) and follows it up it by doing so (battery) it becomes an Assault and battery. But for now if seek A PPO and Call the police within a reasonable time of the treat being made.
Answer1. LEAVE. Leave now, leave quickly, get to someplace safe and surround yourself with people that truly care about you. Yes, it's complicated. Yes, it can be heartbreaking - but here's two insights that might help; your boyfriend has some issues that he needs to deal with (whether its anger management, his own past childhood abuse, chemical abuse, bipolar disorder or something else), and love does not involve threatening people with anything (little of all death). You do not have the expertise to give your boyfriend the professional help he clearly needs to become stable and a non-threat, neither are you in a safe position to assist him to get that expertise. Relationships based on threats have no trust, no trust means no security nor love, without security or love...why is there a relationship? The answer is out of habit. Habit is not a valid reason for relationships of any kind.1a. You need to get a record with the local police department as soon as possible registering a complaint against him for threatening you. The reason for this is that most state/local laws about stalking or restraint orders require a significant stack of paperwork to show reason why that legal measure would be necessary, and you should have it as a safety net. When you get in touch with the police, be sure to have his car license plate number with you. If he is involved with any minor fender-benders in the near future, the record at the police department should spur an investigation - even if you weren't present and no one was majorly injured.
1b. Seek expert advice about the validity of his threats, and what response is best as far as whether you should live at a safe house for a while or if you should not change any habits (so as not to empower him as per response #1's idea). An expert can ask you questions about the circumstances of the threat, his past history of threatening you, and other such critical pieces of evidence that are too private for the internet ~ and unknowable to any random advice giver (no matter how good the intention is). This leads to number 2 -
2. Locate a good counselor and meet with him or her to talk about your experiences with this soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend so that you can observe any patterns in your life that might create future relationship difficulties with men who will be much more significant to you and much more thoughtful and loving. Most states offer a low income counseling option, if money is an issue - if you are still in high school talk to your school counselor. Many cities have "survival" groups that are free. People who share related experiences meet in these (mostly open membership) groups to work through issues and yes, have fun. Joining a "abuse survival" group might be a good experience for you, even if you were never physically abused - mental abuse (such as a threat that causes so much anxiety that you resort to posting an annonymous question on the WikiAnswers website) is also abuse. If money isn't a concern, get the counselor who has the most experience in the area of relationships, abuse, etc. If all else fails, buy one of those recent books by Dr. Phil. Seriously. Not that his threat to you is in any way your fault - rather, it is important for your safety that you can identify characteristics about this soon to be ex that make him dangerous, so that you avoid others like him in your future. After all, part of resolving this question of yours is how you will heal after this experience. (Note: another expert that might be of assistance to you if you are inclined to do so, have the money to do so, and would feel more secure doing so, is a lawyer while you are at it. Select this lawyer by word-of-mouth (ask trusted friends) the yellow pages is just not a good way to judge which lawyers are good or not. I doubt you would need a lawyer at all...but hey, its an option.) But...back to the nice warm and fuzzy part - see point 3 below.
3. The good news is - the future is yours. It's all yours and it is a nice loooooong future. You will get wrinkles and grey hair, you will have more grandkids than you know what to do with. Someday ~ in the distant future. And the sooner you safely get out of the relationship you are in (by involving police and other experts) the sooner this nice future will have its first, promising days. It wont be easy, nothing is, staying would be far harder. The past is just that, it is gone. The present is what you can change. The future is yet unwritten. Your future should be filled with security, safety, and loving people who wish the best for you. Reach out to those people, and take your first steps toward meeting the one's you don't know yet. Leave. ASAP.
AnswerHey buddy!Relax. People who issue these kind of threats are usually like dogs who just know to bark and not to bite. So,don't you worry. He comes across as an abuser no doubt. But, don't you be scared of him. I will advise you to involve your parents in the issue if you can and if not then take help of a very reliable friend and report the matter to police immediately. He will be taken to task. And at no point show yourself to be a weak person. Leave him immediately and also you can tell him that you are not scared of his threats and he can do whatever he feels like and that you have already informed a few good people about it (threats, so if anything has to happen to you he won't get off scot free).
And friend, next time try to judge a person well and give yourself sometime before you commit into a relationship. Good Luck!
How can you Make yourself cute?
Beautiful or pretty? Beautiful? Of course! Being beautiful means BEaUtiful (be u) and maybe if you want, You can always put makeup or Workout. You are beautiful every day. No words can't bring you down! Remember that! No matter how much scars you have, don't be afraid to show it. Scars just show how strong you are. How Much you went through and survive it. I hope this helps:)
Do you really want to live your life like that with things prrogressively getting worse and you progressively getting weakened by his abuse? Tell him that you won't put up this disrespect anymore and the next time he calls you a bad name or verbally abuses you, you leave him. What other option is there? Get out while you still have the strength. Look after yourself and your inner child.
Why do men abuse women and children?
Because unfortunately darling we live in patriarchal society that promotes male authority and promotes the idea that men should and can behave in whatever way they see fit. The way are society is formed is truly flawed and it depicts women as subjects; people who are meant to do as there told. While this answer may seem harsh it is sadly the reality that many women live in on a day to day basis. If you know someone are you yourself are being abused by someone, mentally or physically, I urge you to seek help, no one should live their life in fear. You can find more information at Joyful Heart Foundation, they are a great organization that can help and educate you more about domestic violence.
