Breakups

This is so strange, because my girlfriend's daughter is going through the same thing. She was going with a really nice guy who had 2 teenage daughters (the daughters liked his new girlfriend.) This girl does not have children of her own and was honest in telling her new boyfriend that she wanted children in the future. He had no problem with this at the beginning, but after 4 years she wanted an engagement ring on her finger and plans for the future. The guy couldn't handle it and broke the news to her that he didn't want anymore children. They separated and he did call her back and wanted to take her out for dinner, but she stood her ground and told him unless he had changed his mind about starting another family with her she was not coming back to him. To date, they have not been in contact and that's 2 months ago. Sometimes a trial separation will benefit you because each person can take the time to reflect on what they want in life. Children aren't for everyone. Some men are terrified of starting a family. Be sure you let him know that you just don't want to rush in to rais a family, but do want children eventually. There is that old saying ... "If you love something set it free and if it doesn't come back to you it wasn't meant to be." I know you must feel heartbroken and it is a great risk, but, it's best to find out now than later. Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy

• Girls once loved and had good memories with their then boyfriend and now he is her ex. They may have had the same friends so she may not feel she is welcome and that some people are siding with the ex and some with her so it is normal that she should have mixed feelings towards her ex and good friends.

Because men are strange, ungodly creatures from Harry Potter.

Commenly known as, mythological creatures, a hippogriff is a fine example of a "man".

what is a mutual bond

If you show this boy that you are desperate he will have no respect for you and you will end up having no respect for yourself.

You miss him and it hurts, but you cannot force him to return. Your best strategy is to show him what he is missing. Don't jump into a relationship or get intimate with anyone else, but make sure you socialise with your friends - go out, have fun and do not talk about him at all. Word will get back to him and he will find out how well you are coping without him, - this might cause him to rethink. Showing that you can have fun without him will make you feel more self-confident.

It isn't easy, but you can do it, - be strong!

The lady is telling you that she is not romantically interested in you. She may want to be friends with you, and nothing more, or she may just be saying that to ease your disappointment.

If he has cheated on you more than once that you know of then keep walking! If this is the first time he's cheated, people make mistakes and give him a chance, but don't make it easy for him to slide back into your life or he won't respect you. Believe it or not you are in total control of this situation. Make him work his butt off by gaining your trust back. Never make it easy, but also learn when enough is enough so you don't discourage him. Meet with him and say, "You have broken a bond of trust between us, but I realize people can make a mistake. I don't trust you 100% so you're going to have to earn it. Meanwhile, I'm going to just go on with my life and if you want to date you phone me like anyone else!" It makes men crazy when you say this because they never quite understand where a woman's mind is coming from. It's simple really ... it means that you are willing to date him, but you don't trust him 100% and you aren't going to commit to him fully until he proves himself to you. This also means that you are free to date whomever you wish to date. Nice position to be in girl! Give it all you've got! Good luck Marcy == Just keep a safe disatance and be "just friends" with him. Date other men. Hang out with other people. This actually happened to me years ago. Caught my fiance screwing around on me big time. Wrote him a tactful letter not so nice that basically said as far as jerks go he takes the cake. I let him go and got involved with someone else who just happened to be his best friend. It hurt him big time but i wasnt about to go back because i found someone better. And like an idiot i let the better guy slip away several years later.

Try to think of something happy...try your best and have the person you love so much before you let him/her go have them talk it over before you do anything....If you have already broken up try and meet new people...don't sit on the couch all day watching t.v., playing video games, turn down your friends when they ask you to go some where with them, eat ice cream in bed.....just meet new people Hope this helped your problem

He sounds inconsiderate and full of crap, besides the fact that he cheated on you. You're only worth contacting when he needs sympathy or attention, so is it worthwhile to pay any notice to him? Keep him out of your life.

by telling him how u truly feel First off I think your a little young to be fretting about a boy but here is a suggestion. Ignore him. If you look desperate then he will make you look like a fool. Just be you and if you happen to see him out dont be rude but dont dote on him. Say Hi and walk away. YOu should make him want you back all on his own, not forced because how would you know he really likes you. Let him come to you and show him how much fun you can have without him and how other people are interested in you.

mind game and control over you

If he had already resolved his issues and the both of you still love each other, there's still a possibility of you two getting back together

yes or he will love him and only one can marry him

Guys want to get back together because it isn't until after they break up with you that they know what they're missing.

you should live your life..act like you...never copy people..let them all like you do what eer you like...BUT it should be a good thing...never get jealous try to be cute all the time...study...practice whatever you like....PRAY(BE A MUSLIM)......act normal......spend time with family...spend less time shopping and spend less time with friends in the malls......just do what ever make you happy...ITS UR CHOICE you should live your life..act like you...never copy people..let them all like you do what eer you like...BUT it should be a good thing...never get jealous try to be cute all the time...study...practice whatever you like....PRAY(BE A MUSLIM)......act normal......spend time with family...spend less time shopping and spend less time with friends in the malls......just do what ever make you happy...ITS UR CHOICE

Find someone who will treat you right and who is worthy of your attention. Ask yourself if you think you will EVER be able to trust her again.

Find peace in yourself. Learn to love you insted of another. Be friends, but don't hope and dream of renewing love lost. Make yourself a better person for you. Take it one day at a time.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you? you will never feel loved and there can be no good from a relationship like that. You need to move on and find something to occupy yourself with while you try to get over it.

not if your able to keep in contact and see each other often no it does not have to be over but its up to you if you want to make the effort

bill crosby

You should move on from him since he obviously doesn't have a problem with using you. That's not someone you should want in your life regardless of feelings you've gathered for him. Unless he is willing to change his way, work something out, and not simply use you as an item for sex, you should focus your attention of other guys who'd really care for you.

Your question is contradictory.

"What if you love someone and she loves you back but she doesn't?"

...Clearly the answer would be that she doesn't really love you, and you know this, as you stated "but she doesn't."

Many men get jealous extremely easy. If you did a lot for him, he is even more going to realize how much he misses you.

Your going to have to respect his wishes and give him some space and time. Unfortunately in most cases this relationship is over and you are going to have to come to terms with that as he has made his choice. Take this time for yourself, sort out your feelings and allow yourself the time to get over this to move on. Move forward with your head up and think of this as a new start. Don't jump into another relationship any time soon, just take this time and find yourself - learn from this relationship and be thankful of the time you did have with this person. People come and go throughout our lives and they will all leave us with something whether it be negative or positive and we learn from these situations.

You break a lot of hearts, most of the time not caring about it after.

Good luck!