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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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* It's very possible that the guy who spread the lie really cares for you and is trying to split you and your boyfriend up. If you know where this guy hangs out then tell your boyfriend you are willing to take him with you to face this guy who spread the rumors to prove you never did cheat on him in any way. If your boyfriend can't give you that much respect then he's not the man he should be and it's best to move on even though all this hasn't been fair to you.
Hon, you are a little confused about this whole scene. First off, good friends don't take boyfriends away from their friends. Ditch her! She is not a good friend! Secondly, if he loved you he would never have allowed this to happen. Your friend is playing games at your expense and has hurt you dearly. As far as he's concerned, kick him to the curb and consider they deserve each other.
I know it hurts. I have no idea why you would waste your energy going to visit her after what she has done to you. Time to stand on your own two feet, keep your dignity, see what the two are all about (nothing!) and move on.
AnswerI agree with above. But you can make sure you look your best and full of confidence when you do see them. Let him and her know that your life is just fine without them. That will make him realise what a fool he has been. And as for her, she will live a life wondering if he will leave her for one of her other friends because that's what he did to you so maybe he can do it again.You don't need these people in your life.
Good luck, you're better than they are and you can get anyone you want as long as you are confident and believe in yourself.
AnswerHey its me, the one who asked this question! I know you are both right and I am sort of over it! I will explain the whole situation! My ex boyfriend was my best frend for 5 years before we hooked up and then he asked me to be his girl and I agreed! We were playing billiards at the mall and a good friend of mine comes along and she spoke to me then just brushed me off. When she saw him she thought, who is that cute, cute guy and I said he's my man. She smiled at me, walked over to him and introduced herself. All of a sudden he started singing and he looked directly into my eyes and she cut him off by saying, aw, isn't that the sweet and she left! Later on she called up his friend asking for his number and she gets it, calls him and starts chatting like it's normal!I thought it was normal, even when she didn't consult me, but then they started talking for 6 hours a day while he and I talk only 15 minutes in 2 days! She acts emotional all over him so that he would feel bad! Then 5 months passed by and when I tell him I'm sick of it and I asked him to choose and he says he can't because we both the most important women in his life! I took it lightly like it didn't matter but that's when it hit me on the 6th month, my friends called me up telling me that she is trying to mess with my head! Well, I called her up, I told her if she wants him she can have him, I don't mind. She tells him I said that and BOOM there goes a break up!!
The next day I apologized for not trusting him but he said its OK we were then friends for about a week and next thing I find out, she is his girlfriend!!!!
I called him up asked him if it was true and he said yes, then I told him that I never wanted to speak to him again. I still talk to his girlfriend (my close friend!) He and I stopped talking for 2 months and then his good friend thought he was in love with my friend but my friend never wanted to be with his good frend. So he called my friend up and cussed at her and after that I was angry because she was crying a lot. I called him up and cussed at him and I thought of something better to make him stop calling. She and I started talking to him like the way I used to before and all of a sudden he started making me laugh and I went with the flow! GUESS WHAT!!! We're friends again. Now I want to win him back. Lord knows why, I don't love him but I still do care, so I'm not sure if it's revenge that I am looking for or if it's him I want!
How do you get out of a verbally abusive relationship when the abuser is a cop?
Well if you're afraid no one will believe you get a little camera hide it somewhere and if he starts beating you up you will have proof. Then take it to the cops and he will go to jail and you move somewhere far away and start a new life.
Verbal abuse can be as harmful as physical abuse and should not be tolerated by anyone, especially someone who represents law enforcement. But you know that already. The question is, would you stay with him if he weren't abusive? If you love him and want the relationship to get better, perhaps you could think about couples counseling.
Should you listen to your horoscope and dump your boyfriend?
noooooooo0o0o0 Haha..Are you crazy? NOO is your answer..
== == Horoscopes are from interpretations and readings of certain astrologers. If you choose to follow it or not is with in your choice, but the truth is, they do not give answers in life, they only give us guidance. Those readings would only matter depending on how you would interpret them and actually use them in your daily life.
The relationship is over. There is no point in wallowing in misery over what happened in the past. Any urge to confront the person with the knowledge of their infidelity is an expression of the desire to have control over that person, which is meaningless now. Let go of her, and get on with your life. Be glad that you aren't with her anymore. It would have been much worse to have stayed with her and then find out that she was cheating on you. Be glad that your cheating ex-girlfriend is your ex-girlfriend, and not your wife.
How do you get your ex back if he does not hav a girlfriend?
First, call him and tell him how you feel. Then, ask him can you work things out. Eventually, if he has feelings for you he will take you back.
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Keep in touch. When he no longer has a girlfriend and if you are still available, give him a call. Usually, going back to an ex doesn't work out in the long run.
I think this very much depends on why he is with the new girlfriend and did you break up because of her?
You got together in the first place because you saw something in each other you liked, I think the key is to identify this and try to reproduce the behaviour you displayed at that time. If you don't know try to find the reason your relationship failed.
Calling him or chasing him without a plan is a waste of time, you need to show him you are still the person he loved. Be sympathetic to his situation and listen to what he has to say.
Good Luck
Kev Pola
That just depends on them but I would not waste your time thinking about them. It is time to move on and leave that situation and him in the past. I realize it may be easier said than done but this is time you can take for yourself keep busy, hang out with friends & family and enjoy doing things that interest you. Things do get better!
Your ex you are his ex both married with children still in love don't know what to do?
My husband and I have been married for just about 4 years. We've been together since 19..we had a break up about 7 years ago due to at the time him not working and being a typical "kid", I met my ex at work. He was nothing like my (husband now) career oriented, kept himself together nice, smart, and he loved me (we dated for 7 months). That seven months left more of an impact on me than the last 9 years with my husband. I broke it off with him because I felt as if he wouldn't except my disfunctional family (my insecurities)..he tried his hardest to get me back, gifts, calling, but I just didn't see it and went back with my now husband.
We now have two toddlers. My husband loves me, but I am the decision maker in EVERYTHING that we do...I feel as though I have THREE children. I think we've just grown apart (even though he doesn't feel this).
Recently, I've decided to meet up with my ex for dinner...we couldn't get enough of each other, such a connection (as he expressed as well). We can't go one day since then without emailing or talking on the phone or meeting up. He got married two years ago and has a daughter now too. We are still in love with each other and what I wasn't ready for at 20 I am ready for now. He has told me twice that he loves me and always will..I feel the same. I didn't make a mistake because I have two great kids out of my relationship with my husband and a learning experience. I am only 27-love can't just stop here can it??
My question...if we are both unhappy in our marriages because we want to be with each other, which will be felt by the children and even arguements eventually, is it worth sticking it out? Don't we only go around once..and should we always follow the "plan"? We are both thinking of our children and "what's right"...but..what is "right"?
How do you win your ex boyfriend back after several problems?
yes sometimes it is best to move on but then again it never hurts to try... my boyfriend and i went through a phase where we would just fight almost everyday we had a lot of problems going on in the relationship but sometimes what a lot of couples tend to do is they stop communicating to each other and trust me you will never get anything solved like that talk to him .. tell him how you feel and also allow him to talk to you about his feelings and don't get mad at each other while doing this cause then that doesn't help anything kinda defeats the whole purpose so sit down have a long talk and talk about the good times yall had with each other... and try to work things out but go with your gut instinct 99.9% your gut instinct will be right:) good luck!!!
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Yes, you can try to talk to someone and see how they feel... but you can't force someone to love you. You can trust your good instincts, but if things don't work like you anticipate, hope or desire, that it is when it is best to move on. Also, I don't necessarily agree that your gut instinct "will be right." Sometimes our guts are filled with toxic substances {good feelings that don't match reality, and bad feelings that do}.... I don't necessarily believe that it will be wrong either... sometimes are guts are filled with honey {nostalgic or happy feelings, real or imagined}... Your feelings are yours, and your ex-boyfriend's feelings are his. Its important to know this, not just from a logical perspective, but in your heart too. To fully take ownership of your own feelings, you have to accept the fact that other people may not feel the same way as you. This doesn't mean that a relationship isn't salvageable, though... but it also doesn't mean that you can't decide to move on... but, that decision has to be yours. Sometimes this happens gradually, sometimes it happens quickly. [By the way, many guys have a problem talking about their feelings because they don't always fully understand why they feel a certain way, or even what they are feeling... Some guys are more in touch with their emotions than others, but you just have to know which type of guy your ex is.] If you are desperate, it is probably better to understand that this is not true love... desperation for reconciliation is a selfish motive to attempt a relationship. When reconciliation is no longer a factor, moving on is a better option... when reconciliation may be possible, you can try to communicate, but you can't get a wall to talk you... if he talks, fine... if not, search your heart, and search your motives. Try to talk, if he is willing... if not, then look deeper. By the way, moving on, doesn't have to mean "look for a new relationship." Sometimes the single lifestyle may be what some people need for a while after a relationship. It helps us reground ourselves into who we are, not as part of a couple. If couple-ship defined who you were, then you weren't really the whole you even while you were in the relationship. I am saying this, because this was my experience. I am learning who I am outside of a relationship, becoming a full person... Everyone is different... so search your feelings, yes... but also whether you reconcile or not, the best piece of advice I can give you is for you to make sure that you find your complete self, whether you are in a relationship or not.
It's very simple. You miss him. It's understandable.
You met your ex boyfriend on the street and he just stared at you what does that mean?
- Most individuals who have had break ups and then run into their ex often feel very uncomfortable and are afraid their ex will cause problems or perhaps they are unsure of how to handle the situation. It is also possible that your ex 'may' still care about you and if so all he has to do is give you a phone call and if he does not then you have your answer. If you should bump into him again just smile, wave and keep moving.
What are signs he really cares about you?
Men display very particular and notorious signs that they are interested or care about a woman. One of the most obvious is, he would want to be near you, to spend time with you; the second one could be he laughs at what you say, doesn't matter if it's not very funny; a third one: He listens to you, men are not very prone to listen to women unless they are interested in them at some level. Another sign: He will take every opportunity to touch you, even the slightest touch is important. And, finally, perhaps the most telling sign: He gets nervous when talking with you, he can't avoid it nor hide it, you have a quite evident influence in him.
Why do women leave good men for trashy men?
I dont really know for sure. Maybe that good guy has been rude and unpleasent to fine woman. Maybe she has been with this good guy for a while and she thinks hes holding her back. OR maybe hes just not good in bed! They're many many different explanations and comments you could make up. But the true way to find out is to ask her. Answer Some women like the thrill of the "bad boy". They will either get over it because they realize it's not what they thought or they keep going for the trashy men because inside they are basically trashy too.
Go talk to an attorney. You can file for divorce even if he doesn't want one.
Believe it or not this has all the makings of a good relationship. Both of you seem to communicate well and are respectful and honest with each other. As hard as I am sure it was for you, you took the chance and set him free to experience being with other women. Sometimes a person doesn't have enough experience with the opposite sex and perhaps didn't date much and they want to be sure that if they stay with the person they love that it true love and with luck they won't cheat later on in the relationship. I am sure if he wants to give it another try with you he has found out the 'grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.' Communicate with him again and tell him that this time there has to be some commitment attached to your relationship and that he is not going to be ping ponging back and forth from you to other women because you are a one man woman and will walk away if he should want to repeat his actions at a later date.
Is picking someone up considered physical abuse?
No, it is not considered physical abuse unless it is done in a rough manner that can leave bruises.
It means that he likes to be your friend and he's comfortable with being your friend but he doesn't want to be anymore than just a friend, that's why whenever you start talking about certain feelings you have for him he probably tries to change the subject or stop talking.
he's creating a border, which is perfectly normal.
Is it better to get a divorce when children are younger or older?
Answer It is better when the parents are no longer able to set an example of a good, loving relationship and when there is more arguing, negativity, etc. than not. IT'S BETTER TO GET A DIVORCE WHEN THE CHILD IS YOUNGER BECAUSE WHEN MY MOM AND DAD DIVORCED I WAS YOUNG AND IT DOESNT REALLY EFFECT ME BECAUSE NOW IM USED TO IT, I LIVE WITH MY MOM AND EVERY OTHER WEEK ME AND MY BROTHAZ AND MY SISTER GO TO OUR DADS HOUSE...WE STILL LOVE HIM BUT IT JUST DONT EFFECT US IN ANY WAY... IF YOU DIVORCE WHEN THE CHILD IS OLDER THAT WILL EFFECT HIM/HER.
hatred is a disease and love is its cure
Introducing energy to an atom will make atoms happy. They will move around until they change their original composition entirely.
Why did declan galbraith and his girlfriend breakup?
Because his girlfriend cheated on him.
Declan found out that she was cheating on him so they broke up...
She bought her a necklace, but when they broke up, she gave it to him.
This was actually like 5 or 4 years ago.
The worst break up to me is the ppl that do it in person i guess that is suppose to be the best but it hurts way to much but a txt,call,letter that doesnt so what would you guys say would you like a call txt or letter or other or in person let me know guys! -Dimples-
