Breakups

really? it means stop being a wuss. or your being immature.

there is no way of ending a friendship nicely, but you can start by cutting down the communication between you and you friend. if you two talk a lot begin to talk less and less you know gradually it will get to the point where almost no communication will occur finishing the friendship but leaving the door open for a future comeback

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It's hard to believe, but there are so many people that just don't understand abuse. At one time I knew about abuse and I helped a couple of my girlfriends get out of abusive relationships, but I didn't actually witness it. Then I volunteered for the Abused Women's Center" and had my eyes really opened. It's an experience I am so glad I went through although it ripped my heart out at the same time. Sometimes we have to see the ugly side of life to really get to the core of problems. We can talk about it, even with those that suffer from certain situations, but until you see it with your own eyes and get involved then a person knows nothing. No! It's not normal for friends or family to think that you, as a victim of abuse is just out to get your abuser. If they were educated in abuse they would realize that most of the time the victim is terrified of her abuser, becomes subservient, withdrawn, lacks confidence and doesn't want to wake up the sleeping dragon (tick the abuser off in other words.) Of course you want your feelings validated. Why not! You've been either mentally/physically (or both) abused. Like small children's voices in the wind .... who will listen? Well, the "Abused Women's Center" does. You DON'T NEED VALIDATION FROM ANYONE! When you can, pack a bag and head for that Abused Women's Center in your area. Tell NO ONE where you are. They will put you in a "safe house" or "transition house" and keep you safe, get you on your feet, and, if need be help you with legal counsel. Hon, listen to your inner self. If you are being abused, then you know it! Run when you can. Don't listen to those that aren't there for you and move on from the whole mess. It isn't that family and friends don't care, but perhaps they simply don't understand that abuse is abuse and slapping, shoving, putting a person down is actually abuse. Rule of thumb to go by ... "When someone makes you feel bad 100% of the time it's time to leave them behind!" Good luck Marcy

Asking for "more time" can be a sign of several things:

1. She doesn't like you but she wants to let you down easy. Take your time

2. She likes you but she doesn't like committed relationships. Take your time

All memories weren't bad ones and you have 32 years of some good memories, old habits and use to having that person around. It's a grieving process of "letting go" and it's normal. In time (on your time) you'll find someone else to love and who loves you so for now, stand up, dust yourself off and go out and have some fun with friends or go on a vacation and meet new people. Take extra college courses or courses of any sort and you'll meet new people. Good luck & God Bless

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The best tips i can give u are , send her flower, write her a letter or pome, bring her out to dinner, I think if u set up a date were she is the centre of attention she will love it.

He wants two things. You and her, but he can't make up his mind. He wants to back to her, but scared he might hurt you, or he made up his mind and picked you at the last moment. In other words, whatever it may be, it's up to you. You need to give him a reason to stay. Fight for it, but play fair.

WHERE DO I START WE WERE YOUNG ABOUT 12 OR SO WHEN I FIRST MET HIM OUR MOTHERS WERE FRIENDS SO WE KNOW A LOT ABOUT ONE ANOTHER...THEN WE GROW UP WENT OUR SEPARATE WAYS BY THAT TIME I WAS WITH MY FURTER HUSBAND HE WAS IN A DOWNFALL RELATIONSHIP MY BOYFRIEND WENT OFF TO JAIL BECAUSE HE WAS STALKING ME AT THE TIME WE WERE SEPARATED FOR A YEAR AND 6MO MY PLAY BROTHER AT THE TIME CAME OVER JUST AS A FRIEND THEN THERE WAS CHALLENGE BETWEEN THE BOTH OF US THAT WAS SET IN MOTION FOR THE NEXT 3 YEARS. MY PLAY BROTHER AND I NEVER WANTED A ONE ON ONE THING AND FOR ME THAT WAS FINE I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 5 YEARS BEFORE THE STALKING BEGIN WITH NOW HUSBAND OF 3 YEARS.LESS SKIP TO PRESENT TIME MY EX-LOVER OTHER WISE KNOWN AS MY PLAY BROTHER JUST GOT MARRIED TO A CHICK THAT HE'S BEEN WITH FOR 3 YEARS NOW ONLY BECAUSE SHE CAME UP PREGNANT. HE HAS ALWAYS SAID TO ME THE WOMAN WHO BARES HIM A CHILD WOULD BE THE ONE HE WOULD MARRIED AND HE DID UNHAPPY. I NEED HLP YOU SEE BECAUSE HE NOW CALLS ME ALL THE TIME EVEN IN FRONT OF HER ASKING FOR AN AFFAIR WITH ME I'V TOLD HIM I DON'T WANT TO GO THERE WITH HIM FOR THE SAKE OF HIS UNBORN BECAUSE I DON'T WANT THEM TO BREAK UP OVER ME...BUT EVERYTIME I GO OVER TO SEE HIS MOM WHOM I CLOSE WITH SINCE MY MOTHER'S DEATH HE SHOWS UP BRINGING ME THINGS ASKING IF MY MARRIGE IS ON THE ROCKS AND TO BE HONEST IT'S NEVER BEEN GOOD BUT WE SEEM TO LIVE WITH IT.SO MY EX LOVER WANTS AND BEGS ME FOR AN AFFAIR HE HAS EVEN TOLD ME WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER I WAS HIS DREAM AND KNOW ONE CAN TOP US WHEN WE WERE TOGTHER HE HAS TOLD ME HE LOVES ME AND IS INLOVE WITH ME I ON THE OTHER HAD HAVE NEVER TOLD HIM I LOVE HIM AND IT DRIVES HIM CRAZY. EVERYTIME I SEE HIM HIM IT DRIVES ME CRAZY I KNOW THERE IS A CONNECTION BUT I'M MARRIED HE'S MARRIED AND HAVE A BABY ON THE WAY.WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Either you or he's wrong. He loved you and that's why he's your husband.

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This is a standard phrase for many husbands and wives that want an excuse. If you google marriage restoration sites, you will see that ones that say this never meant it, and you will also read some uplifting testimonies of reconciliation.

This depends on the circumstances. If you're willing to work on the issues that caused you to split, and try not to make the same mistakes again, then it shows committment, which can lead to a deep love. But if you get back together just because there is nobody else around to date and you don't want to be alone, then it's for convenience. If there is no growth in the relationship, and you keep breaking up only to get back together, it would be better to stay apart, sort out your problems, work out what you really want from a relationship and then start looking for a new one!

Ok these are some signs: 1.when he laughs at you but in a good way.

2.when he walks he looks at you

3.when he talks to you a lil bit good luck

SAY NO!! He cheated on you. By saying no, you are telling him that he can't keep coming back to you after something like that. He hurt you, now tell him that you're over him, and have moved on.

Yes most definitely, because when you move on to be with someone else (This goes for both men and women) they might feel offended of you are constantly talking about your ex, or even bring them up in a conversation, they will feel like you shouldn't even be thinking of them because of the simple fact that they are there now. you need to let go and shake it off.

Probably the most used and tired expressions used would have to be "Its not you, its me". Its supposed to leave the other person feeling good about themselves even if they have just been dumped but along the way its come to lack sincerity as people use it instead of telling the truth.

Respecting her decision to separate when she says it's over should always be your first step. You should agree with her that you need time apart. Don't go overboard and tell her that you think it's a great idea. Just tell her that some distance would be good for you both and you'll use the time to think. That one statement alone will do wonders when it comes to getting her back. Whenever a man says he needs to think, the woman in his life starts to imagine what it's about. If you seem in control and fine with the break up, it's going to eat at your ex.

Remember relationship is shared by two people to make it last. If only one person is eager to cling on then, I think, you should start moving on.

that depends... are you seeing anyone? why did you break-up? what do you want to come of this?

i do not know but her name is spelled Melina Perez.

Say, "Hey! I'm back cattle ack!"

He could have well had this girl in the background I'm sorry to say. That's pretty fast, so it's a high possibility he was cheating on you. As much as it hurts you, you'll come to realize eventually that it's best to get rid of this jerk now and not waste more time on him. You deserve better!

I just want to offer my sympathy. I'm going through the same exact thing. It has been really tough for me so I completely know what it is that you're going through.
Stay positive and focus on what you learned from the relationship. Think about the things that you can take with you into the next relationship....Boy do I need to listen to my own adivce.
Chalk it up to that two sets of eyes were viewing the relationship differently. Be thankful that you didnt go 10 years with this immature person. Who is 100% sure of anything, people change with the days and if he had given it more of a chance he probably would have wound up having a great relationship with a great gal, his loss. You do something nice for yourself every day and you let yourself see you with another MAN!

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Generally that statement refers to something like a boy friend takes a trip and is gone for 2 months and you start to miss him and your heart burns more for them because they are important to you.

"My trust and confidence in you has been broken and ruined ."