Breakups

write a song or do something realy romantic for them :

Doing something romantic is a good idea but you need to be careful of how you do it. You ex girlfriend will not be interested if you appear to be crawling back to her.

What you need to do is concentrate on yourself, making sure you project a confident attitude. Be well groomed, dress well and show you can be independent.

Your self esteem is more than likely low after the breakup and you need to work on building it up. Go out with friends and family and have fun. If she sees you out and about she will start to wonder what she is missing.

Keep in contact with her but don't overdo it by harassing her with constant SMSs and phone calls. When you do contact her be understanding, listen to what she has to say (you might find out why you broke up). Be sympathetic, helpful and above all don not put pressure on her to do anything.

just say your not ready if they really love you the will understand

like any relationship, dating other people is just the attempt to replace the feeling of wanting from one person to the next. you build a relationship because you have a connection with someone, even for moment. take a break, be alone for a while and sort things out. figure what is it that made you guys break in the first place. then try dating again and try not to compare your ex with that person. do different things that you didnt do with your ex at first then eventually do the same thing you did with your ex with the new person. basically you'll slowly replacing certain memories that you'll last relationship will be an phantom.

To me I think it is just rejection because you have hurt their heart once and they don't want hurt again but that is just my opinion............

End it and try for somebody else. It's a really hard thing to do if you have very strong feelings for them, but once you get over the bad feeling you will get happier and when you can look back on it later you will be glad that you ended it, especially if you can find someone who values and appreciates you and what you do. Don't waste yourself and your emotions and energy on someone who isn't prepared to respond, a relationship should be a two way thing, and should be energizing, it should not drain your energy and leave you feeling exhausted. Good luck.

If you feel he is really trying his best then you have to give it time. He's hurt you, so you aren't going to get over those hurt feelings in just a few weeks. In time, and if he keeps trying it will come naturally to you to forgive. Remember, many good people make mistakes and it's when we learn from those mistakes that counts. You just never know when you might make a serious mistake that he may have to forgive you for. Good luck Marcy

Where can I find a stupid person who has no self esteem?

well a boy really wouldn't be jealous of you he is probably going to be jeaalous of the person you are with ( a boy ) you could tell by if he is always staring at you two are trying to start probelms ,

Its unfortunate that you have come to feel this way but there is room for both of you in his life and you also have to realize the love and feelings are different for both of you. Don't try to be overbearing or needy when it comes to his mother - she won't be around forever and family is important. Try to get along with everyone and not cause yourself unneeded stress, you are making yourself second best as for some reason you seem to be jealous of the time he spends with her or that they are important to one another - that is his mother, spend time with your family/friends when he is with his and then reconvene later, compromise and you will see things will get better. If you find you just cannot deal with this or get by it you are going to have to rethink your relationship, what is really important to you and decide if you should move on.

Keep on loving her but think about why she shut you down. Woman never do anything that will harm them emotionally with out an exceptional reason as to why. Woman do not do things that they believe they will not be able to get through. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart . Start by thinking at the outer most branches of your problems together, if she'll allows it, and work your way into the root of why this happened. Remember, that the real issue may not be about you at all. But if the reason why she shut you down can not be mended then begin the process of slowly letting go and allowing the both of you to heal.

Then get a life. Yeah. I agree with the above response. Get a life. Seriously.

it means that you give it up to him in either a sexual way or emotional way too easy and loosley....he does this little "I kan have any girl i want< watch!..." MOOD when you guys fight he goes out....yes he might get some sleezy chick to throw it in your face but he will never get better then you and that's fo sho...what you need to do is stop giving it up to loosley and start makin him beg for you back make him remember what he had and you are not JUST a hook up! YEE

This great feeling is called infatuation and this does not mean it is love. Love is when you can't live without someone and each and every small thing affects you for him or her.

really? it means stop being a wuss. or your being immature.

there is no way of ending a friendship nicely, but you can start by cutting down the communication between you and you friend. if you two talk a lot begin to talk less and less you know gradually it will get to the point where almost no communication will occur finishing the friendship but leaving the door open for a future comeback

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It's hard to believe, but there are so many people that just don't understand abuse. At one time I knew about abuse and I helped a couple of my girlfriends get out of abusive relationships, but I didn't actually witness it. Then I volunteered for the Abused Women's Center" and had my eyes really opened. It's an experience I am so glad I went through although it ripped my heart out at the same time. Sometimes we have to see the ugly side of life to really get to the core of problems. We can talk about it, even with those that suffer from certain situations, but until you see it with your own eyes and get involved then a person knows nothing. No! It's not normal for friends or family to think that you, as a victim of abuse is just out to get your abuser. If they were educated in abuse they would realize that most of the time the victim is terrified of her abuser, becomes subservient, withdrawn, lacks confidence and doesn't want to wake up the sleeping dragon (tick the abuser off in other words.) Of course you want your feelings validated. Why not! You've been either mentally/physically (or both) abused. Like small children's voices in the wind .... who will listen? Well, the "Abused Women's Center" does. You DON'T NEED VALIDATION FROM ANYONE! When you can, pack a bag and head for that Abused Women's Center in your area. Tell NO ONE where you are. They will put you in a "safe house" or "transition house" and keep you safe, get you on your feet, and, if need be help you with legal counsel. Hon, listen to your inner self. If you are being abused, then you know it! Run when you can. Don't listen to those that aren't there for you and move on from the whole mess. It isn't that family and friends don't care, but perhaps they simply don't understand that abuse is abuse and slapping, shoving, putting a person down is actually abuse. Rule of thumb to go by ... "When someone makes you feel bad 100% of the time it's time to leave them behind!" Good luck Marcy

Asking for "more time" can be a sign of several things:

1. She doesn't like you but she wants to let you down easy. Take your time

2. She likes you but she doesn't like committed relationships. Take your time

All memories weren't bad ones and you have 32 years of some good memories, old habits and use to having that person around. It's a grieving process of "letting go" and it's normal. In time (on your time) you'll find someone else to love and who loves you so for now, stand up, dust yourself off and go out and have some fun with friends or go on a vacation and meet new people. Take extra college courses or courses of any sort and you'll meet new people. Good luck & God Bless

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He wants two things. You and her, but he can't make up his mind. He wants to back to her, but scared he might hurt you, or he made up his mind and picked you at the last moment. In other words, whatever it may be, it's up to you. You need to give him a reason to stay. Fight for it, but play fair.

The best tips i can give u are , send her flower, write her a letter or pome, bring her out to dinner, I think if u set up a date were she is the centre of attention she will love it.

WHERE DO I START WE WERE YOUNG ABOUT 12 OR SO WHEN I FIRST MET HIM OUR MOTHERS WERE FRIENDS SO WE KNOW A LOT ABOUT ONE ANOTHER...THEN WE GROW UP WENT OUR SEPARATE WAYS BY THAT TIME I WAS WITH MY FURTER HUSBAND HE WAS IN A DOWNFALL RELATIONSHIP MY BOYFRIEND WENT OFF TO JAIL BECAUSE HE WAS STALKING ME AT THE TIME WE WERE SEPARATED FOR A YEAR AND 6MO MY PLAY BROTHER AT THE TIME CAME OVER JUST AS A FRIEND THEN THERE WAS CHALLENGE BETWEEN THE BOTH OF US THAT WAS SET IN MOTION FOR THE NEXT 3 YEARS. MY PLAY BROTHER AND I NEVER WANTED A ONE ON ONE THING AND FOR ME THAT WAS FINE I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 5 YEARS BEFORE THE STALKING BEGIN WITH NOW HUSBAND OF 3 YEARS.LESS SKIP TO PRESENT TIME MY EX-LOVER OTHER WISE KNOWN AS MY PLAY BROTHER JUST GOT MARRIED TO A CHICK THAT HE'S BEEN WITH FOR 3 YEARS NOW ONLY BECAUSE SHE CAME UP PREGNANT. HE HAS ALWAYS SAID TO ME THE WOMAN WHO BARES HIM A CHILD WOULD BE THE ONE HE WOULD MARRIED AND HE DID UNHAPPY. I NEED HLP YOU SEE BECAUSE HE NOW CALLS ME ALL THE TIME EVEN IN FRONT OF HER ASKING FOR AN AFFAIR WITH ME I'V TOLD HIM I DON'T WANT TO GO THERE WITH HIM FOR THE SAKE OF HIS UNBORN BECAUSE I DON'T WANT THEM TO BREAK UP OVER ME...BUT EVERYTIME I GO OVER TO SEE HIS MOM WHOM I CLOSE WITH SINCE MY MOTHER'S DEATH HE SHOWS UP BRINGING ME THINGS ASKING IF MY MARRIGE IS ON THE ROCKS AND TO BE HONEST IT'S NEVER BEEN GOOD BUT WE SEEM TO LIVE WITH IT.SO MY EX LOVER WANTS AND BEGS ME FOR AN AFFAIR HE HAS EVEN TOLD ME WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER I WAS HIS DREAM AND KNOW ONE CAN TOP US WHEN WE WERE TOGTHER HE HAS TOLD ME HE LOVES ME AND IS INLOVE WITH ME I ON THE OTHER HAD HAVE NEVER TOLD HIM I LOVE HIM AND IT DRIVES HIM CRAZY. EVERYTIME I SEE HIM HIM IT DRIVES ME CRAZY I KNOW THERE IS A CONNECTION BUT I'M MARRIED HE'S MARRIED AND HAVE A BABY ON THE WAY.WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Either you or he's wrong. He loved you and that's why he's your husband.

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This is a standard phrase for many husbands and wives that want an excuse. If you google marriage restoration sites, you will see that ones that say this never meant it, and you will also read some uplifting testimonies of reconciliation.