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Cheating
This category contains all questions regarding cheating and everything it entails, whether it is emotional or having physical relations with someone other than your significant other.
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You are married and are having an affair with another married person?
Answer You really haven't asked a question, you've made a statement but if you want an opinion, I just hope for the two of you that no children are involved because if this gets out what will happen to the children because one of you couldn't keep a zipper closed and one of you didn't have the comon sense to keep your legs closed. Personally and this has nothing to do with Wiki Answers, but my personal opinion is that the two of you couldn't care less who either of you hurt as long as you get your jollies. What a shameful way for two adults to act. Shame on the both of you.
What makes a man stay after he caught his wife cheating?
- It depends on the individual man as to why he stays after he caught his wife cheating: This could be the first time she cheated and he may have forgiven her (anyone can make one bad mistake); he wants to work at the marriage and try to save it as they both took their vows when they got married (marriage is hard work at not for sissies); he may have cheated himself and doesn't feel he can fault her in her actions and lastly, he loves her a great deal and want to try to make the marriage work.
What should you do if your wife cheats on you?
If you both want to save the marriage, your wife needs to admit to the affair and end it as of this moment. She needs to have no contact with the man she was having the affair with, even if this means quitting a job.
She needs to explain why she had the affair--what were the issues she had in your marriage that made her decide to be with someone else? She should also agree to marital counseling with you, or at the least some counseling with a priest or a pastor.
If she has no interest in giving up the affair or going to counseling, there isn't a lot you can do to save the marriage.
Answerits almost impossible to please anybody now days and cheaters can go long periods straight but will cheat again .. send her packin and get a hiv test unless your into self punishment then give her another chance AnswerFirst thing you need to do is recognize that there are serious problems in the marriage, and that your "wife" is not the honest, caring, considerate person that she claimed to be. Second thing you must do is immediately talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are, as they vary by state. Third thing you do is objectively evaluate your situation. Are there kids involved ? If you have no kids, then divorce her immediately. Remember women & men are different. Men cheat because of the physical. Women cheat because of the emotional attachment, thus when a woman cheats it is almost always over. If you elect to stay in the marriage it is CRITICAL that you evaluate your financial contributions from this point forward. If you are the primary financial provider, you must, you absolutely must protect your financial interests by declaring a legal separation. Being separated doesn't necessarily mean you are getting a divorce, but what it does mean is that you will not be liable for future financial obligations.Set up separate bank accounts, and make sure she is contributing financially to the household. Have an attorney draw up a QRDO, and immediately divide the 401k. Essentially treat the marriage as a financial partnership, because essentially this is the only way you can possibly save yourself. Next both of you go to counseling and see what happends. Lastly if you even remotely suspect her of continuing the affair, spy on her. Load software on the computer to get her keystrokes. Check the cell phone usage. Chances are if you think she is cheating, then she probably is. Good luck. Keep the faith. AnswerFirst, catch the wife in the act, that way, she doesnt get half of the marital assets nor custody of the kids.Here no matter the reason you go to court for divorce it's a no fault. Though in this state it's on the record that a woman actually served jail time for having sex with another man. Go figure. Unless the couple has a agreement before hand, everything gets split. 50 50. Sorry buddy she gets the billard table you get the shafts I mean sticks.
AnswerOnce a cheater, always a cheater. My Mormon wife cheated on me twice! And she did the same thing to her ex-hubby. AnswerIf you suspect your wife/spouse/partner/lover is cheating on you, even if it is the most difficult thing for you to do, give her the benefit of the doubt. It's not always right or correct, even as being our first instinct, to point a finger and accuse a woman of cheating. Everyone knows that it is scientifically proven that men are 13x more likely to cheat than women, however, there are the few and far-between women that actually DO cheat. Think of it on a positive note, though: if she cheated on you, it wasn't meant to be, and you can go on with your life after a time of which you feel comfortable, and move on to bigger and much better things in your life. AnswerUnderstand that you now have the answer to whether you wife is the cheating type. Two options:1) Stay with her; which is showing her that there is no penalty for doing it. Then wait for the next time, which will certainly be in your future.
2) Be hurt,betrayed,and sad that she ruined the relationship built on trust. Talk out you feelings with her to get things out for both of you. Then tell her you understand her explanation, you still care about her, and accept what she did. Then tell her you hope she understands now, just like she said she did when you got married, that you can not be with someone that you cannot trust. If she "learned her lesson" or "mistake", remind her that now she knows the consequences, when she finds someone else. Then offer to help her pack.
AnswerAs a Muslim, this is punishable by death! You see people, God gave us the Ten Commandments so we can live righteoulsy. If we all abide by these, there's no need for counseling, no expensive lawyers to pay, and above all no plague on this world. But man wants to create his own set of rules in life. Not a good idea..because no one can ever beat the Laws of God. It is perfect in every sense. If a wife cheats, she'll burn in hell for all eternity. This is a fact and you must always remember this. How could you enter Paradise if you had cheated on your husband!!! This is insane! Shame on those cheating wives. You had made a lifetime commitment to your husband, and you should never cheat on him.If ever this happens to you, may God forbid... tell her this straight into her eyes; " May God have mercy on you on the Day of Judgement".
All shall feel the wrath that awaits those who cheat! May God the Almighty have mercy on your souls.
AnswerSins of the flesh. The flesh is weak. SEX is a basic instict in all. Though I personally beleave in a couple mantaining the basics of a relationship won't be shocked when a affair is discussed first. "open" relationships or swingers fear no pain from having sex with others. Watching is fun & builds a closness like nothing else can.In PA. adultery is punishable up to 3 years in prison if proven in court (1997 women servered time-3 months). Death now hmmmm. I am thinking to myself that her life is less than my own. A woman is to be treasured...shared if need be. Depends on the person/people. If you allow yourself such rage & selfishness to want death because your ego your frail feelings are hurt than you can have that 'god'. My GOD forgives & allows mistakes or growth. But in the end if you can't talk to your mate about fantasy or outside relationship sex as a release.. I.E. Roll play her another woman as she's blindfolded. Call her the name aloud. If you can't be honest & state needs... I need to explore sexual more with you. He should help....not push her away. Anyway I see it like this: 56% of American are divorced. Over 70% cheat on their spouse. LIEING about it the entire time. Caught on video & still deny it too. This country will never grow as a strong nation if the families aren't able to stregthen the next generation by using example as a teaching tool. Watch parents rationly solve issues like infidelity or even minor ones like compromising on financial investing. One year use her plan. Next use his. See which is working for the growth of/to wealth. I would not hide the hurt & distane from partner but I wouldn't allow it to KILL a part of myself. Couples that marry are YOKED!
AnswerYou need to talk to her about it. Tell her it has to stop and then suggest going through counseling, together and separate. If she doesn't want to end the affair, you will probably have to leave her, or just deal with the affair. It will be healthier for everyone if you and she separate if she isn't willing to stop though. This is a very tough situation and you need to do what you think is best for you. AnswerTell her you know, and tell him you know, make sure he understands you wont put up with it.Answer
Give her an ultimatum: Either immediately fire her secretary, end the affair, and go to marriage counseling with you, or you'll take the kids and leave. If she refuses to stop, pack up and leave. Tell her you won't come back until she stops and agrees to go to counseling. You don't deserve to have to put up with that sort of thing.
How to search my husband's computer to see if he is cheating?
First off, what has caused you to believe he's cheating? Phone calls, more "overtime" at a job? Ask him casually who was on the phone, or after one of his extended absences from you, ask him how his co-worker/buddy is doing. Check phone bills, credit card statements, mileage on his car for discrepancies. If you're that desperate to know, you can hire a private detective agency (they can be expensive). You can confront him, but more than likely he will retort with denial, anger and possibly accustations, "you're crazy," "maybe you're cheating,". So be prepared for that and make your decision about the future of the relationship beforehand.
What do you do if your boyfriend calls you ugly behind your back?
If your boyfriend disrespects you and insults you then he is no boyfriend at all. No girl deserves that from no guy what so ever. Just like its not right for a girl to do that towards her boyfriend. All couples have their moments at what they say to one another, but there are specific things you can say and there are specific things that are unexceptible to say. This works towards the male and female. The moment he disrespects you and insults you for 1: the respect is gone 2. the question of if he still "loves" you is not even a question at all. I feel if a man disrespects and insults his girl what love is that, that's no love at all. Love is a word with much meaning, and it means alot , so please don't disregard the word love, but it is just a word. Its how your treated and how his actions towards you are to what counts (with all the rest included, but that being just one the top number one's) . What I think you should do is discuss this matter with him. Let it be known that you don't except that and stand up for yourself and be proud of who you are. When a man starts to do this he is trying to chip away at your selfesteem, when its wrong and unexceptible. Why he's doing this only God knows, but one of the major reasons is that he's not happy within himself. This is a red flag and not a relationship for you. Girl stick up for yourself and don't ever be afraid too. God Bless.
hey this is kalley dashner and i am a girl but they want boy's to look at them and that is the truth i have been thro a alot and i know everything in the world and somtimes they look so hot boy's do not fall for the trick ok
hey this is kalley dashner and i am a girl but they want boy's to look at them and that is the truth i have been thro a alot and i know everything in the world and somtimes they look so hot boy's do not fall for the trick ok
that is true but why do they want boy's to love them. whell, you girls want to be perfect as posibile for a guy to like you.
How would you know that your wife won't cheat on you again?
- If your spouse has only cheated once then realize that people are only human and they can make mistakes, but can also learn from their mistakes and if they confess without being prodded to the cheating or they feel remorseful and want to save the marriage then seek marriage counseling to learn tools to strengthen the marriage. If your spouse has cheated more than once then they probably are non committal and will cheat again no matter what they promise. As humans we do not even know ourselves 100% so we cannot be expected to know another person 100% and by being together it is a risk, but time will tell.
What does it mean when a guy looks to me for approval before kissing his girlfriend?
COULD BE THE MOST OBVIOUS THAT HE LIKES YOU OR KNOW SOME HOW YOU LIKE HIM (IF YOU DO). BE CAREFUL IF YOUR INTENTIONS ARE NOT OF DESTROYING THAT RELATIONSHIP THEN PERSUE YOUR FREINDSHIP OR ASSOCIATION WITH THAT GUY VERY CAUSIOUSLY. IF YOUR NOT INTERESTED THEN TRY NOT TO LOOK WHEN HE KISSES HER. THE FACT THAT YOU KNOW HE LOOKS AT YOU WHEN HE DOES THAT IS BECAUSE YOUR LOOKING AT HIM AT THAT MOMENT AND THAT CAN BE WHY HE LOOKS. NOT LOOKING DEMONSTRATES TO HIM A LACK OF INTEREST AND MAYBE IT WON'T HAPPEN ANY MORE. IF YOU LIKE HIM AND WANT TO KNOW IF HE'S INTERESTED IN YOU, IT'S PRETTY OBVIOUS THAT HE IS. KNOW ASK YOURSELF THIS, UP TO WHAT POINT DO YOU WANT TO BE THE ONE LOOKING OR BE THE ONE BEING KISSED. JUST REMEMBER DON'T DO ONTO OTHERS WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO ONE DAY HAPPEN TO YOU. GOOD LUCK BYE BYE.
Should you call the person you suspect is cheating with your spouse?
No, talk to your own spouse follow the "chain of command" Think about it, are you wanting to mend fences or ruin trust irrevocably? What good would come of it?
Yes you should, it will, if nothing else - put an end to it. You maybe surprised at what information his wife may have. I had to do that with my situation - call the girl's husband. Come to find out, this guy had already hired a detective and had way more info than I what I had. Anyway, it ended at that point. Once it hits his home, he will no longer want to deal with your wife.
Thats a definite yes. That way you can gang up on them or maybe catch them in the act. Then they can't lie their way out. OR, even better, if she is hot maybe you could arrange for the two of them to walk in on the two of you...
No--you should think about how to deal with your marriage? Do you want to stay married to your wife or get a divorce? This man can screw up his marriage by himself--don't get involved in someone else's private business.
Be angered at the man you wife is having an affair with, but don't drag his wife or children through the mud. His wife may turn on you and blame you as the bearer of bad news, or she may already know about her husband's affair and not care.
YOU SHOULD NOT definately. You ask why? Well if ur marriage is being ruined by some other man and YOUR WIFE(dont forget this), you should not try to revenge and destroy his wife marriage coz you will be worst then him! If you are that mad then face him in person and do something if you belive its worthy. But its never worthy belive me (coz you can do something that you will regret afterwards)! If you wanna keep the marriage try to talk to your wife, and if it doesnt work just finish it. But dont forget, if u try to ruin his wife marriage you will be worst then him and you will face much more consequences. Keep your dignity up! Dont let them pull you down!
No, dont tell her. Just seduce her and get revenge ... hehe.
yes you should tell her! how do you feel right now knowing she cheated on you and what happends whe he goes and gets aids with some other girl you might be saving his wife life, would you tell of bridge being out or would you watch the car fall of the bridge ??
What many people do not understand is any of the people involved might have the legal grounds to file a civil actions against any of the other parties. Unless the evidence is indisputable as to the infidelity, numerous legal difficulties can arise.
Yes! Exposure kills most infidelities especially if the families and friends of the cheating participants are well informed. The cheaters will not get any support for their adulterous behavior. Affairs need secrecy and ignorance to thrive so exposure and knowledge of its existence will destroy it.
The answer is up to you and what you want. Do you want revenge, do you want to pump up the drama or do you want to find a way to resolve the issues with the marriage. If you want revenge and more drama, yes then calling the man will start that fire. Any satisfaction from confronting him will be short lived and resolve nothing. Otherwise, you will be better off dealing with the real culprit, you wife. The marriage needs help and she is half of that. How you two work it out is up to you two, not three.
Why doesnt he leave if he is cheating?
Often times a cheating boyfriend will not leave because he feels a sense of comfort with you. He may not be happy, but he knows that you will always be there. The real question to ask here should be why would you not leave your cheating boyfriend. Feelings of helplessness may be to blame. However, it is important to accept the situation for what it is and to move on...without him.
Is it normal to feel this hurt over a ex getting a new partner who cheated on you?
Yes its okay to feel hurt over an ex boyfriend getting a new girlfriend but you just have to move on and let them know you have moved on. Try to stay friends with your ex even if its hard. You cannot let him having a new girlfriend get to you. Try going out with some friends on a fun night and let them take your mind off him. It really helps if you just be around him with total confidence so he will know that you aren't one of those crazy people who are always around their ex. keep it real :D
Why does your boyfriend get mad when you ask about things people say about him?
Depends what your asking him if you are asking him like personal questions about them or stuff about them doing stuff they shouldn't then most likely he is just standing up for his friends but if your just asking normal questions i would say probably he might be hiding something... maybe
What Percent of married women has affairs?
A percentage of men have been doing exactly the same thing for centuries! Unfortunately, some women take it too far to the right wing. Their attitude is "if a man can do it so can I." Not all women have lengthly exit affairs and some that do are either still in love with their mate, but frustrated over certain issues and there is a lack of communication, or, they are too scared to end the relationship for fear of being lonely. There is a low percentage of women that love to have their mate around for security, but still play around on him. That's called having your cake and eating it too. If this is happening to you then YOU have the control to stop it! A woman can only play this game if you allow it. Sometimes it's just drama, to demonstrate to everyone how much they cared about that person and how difficult it is to be moving on. Other times it's ambivilance, unable to make up her mind. Other times it's just handy to be able to go to somebody to satisfy an emotional need. Or how about, "it's better the devil you know than the devil you don't." What you're describing can have many causes. First, she needs to know herself.
Is it illegal to cheat on someone when you are married?
No it is never okay to cheat on your spouse!! However it is okay if you marry some one and then talk to the person you marry and decide that you want to cheat on each other or something like that TOGETHER but other than that no it is not okay, ever!!
How do you end your husband's emotional affair?
* Ending an emotional affair is difficult because there is no physical contact between your husband and the other woman and the mind is free to think as that individual allows it. If your husband is willing you should seek marriage counseling so you can learn the tools to communicate with your spouse and they you and if your husband will have nothing to do with counseling then be blunt in saying you are not wasting your life on him if he continues to have this emotional affair and will at least get a separation from him in hopes he will see how hurtful he is being to you and if he does not snap out of it divorce will be your next step. By allowing him to do as he pleases and staying with you then you are enabling this emotional affair. Often humans want what they cannot have and this may well be where your husbands thoughts are now.
Can you be friends with an ex that cheated?
No it is extreamly dangerous for a boy to be friend with his ex-girl friend when she has no interest on you. you will feel depressed with her words and her actions. It is highly not advisable.
People say his cheating and he says his not how do i know if he isor not?
The best thing to do is to tell the truth whatever it may be and find out what exactly is making him suspicious if you are not cheating. Then try and talk through this and reassure him (assuming your not) but if you are the only thing to do is be honest.
Why is it considered more acceptable for men to cheat than women?
Men cheating is NOT more acceptable than for women who cheat in these modern times. Both are wrong! At one time men did cheat more often than women and there wasn't the programs and other places for women to go too for help (if married) and as long as the husband kept bringing the pay checks home and behaved themselves at social gatherings that's all many women use to care about. Now that is no excuse for a woman to stay married to a man that cheats and vice-versa. Over a hundred years ago women in high society had their children with their husbands because it was expected, but after that the women had little interest in sex (sex wasn't as open back then and women weren't suppose to know too much about sex and basically any showing of taking the lead in love-making was frowned upon) so it was accepted that the husband have a mistress and it was simply done discreetly. This also went for Southern plantation owners and it is from the genteel part of society. Today women are more open about sex and realizing they have the right to enjoy sex as well, so women cheating is neck-in-neck with the men.
I am Married and pregnant with another mans child can i give the child my husbands last name?
That's between you and your husband.
Do you know for sure it's not his?
Does he now know it's not his?
Has he forgiven you?
If you've told him, and he's forgave you, he may choose to have his last name on the child and raise it himself. (Of course, the biological father should have some say in this.)
Or he may choose to withhold his name. In which case you can give the child your last name, or talk with the biological father - he may want it to be his last name.
Disadvantages of relationships?
This is a very broad topic. There are no particular disadvantages of relationships--those are determined by the people involved, their expectations, their actions, communication between the parties, etc.
The general consensus seems to be that when trust is gone, the relationship is finished.
Can married men be happy and still cheat?
Sweetie, if married man or married men are happy with their marriage, do you think they have reason to cheat and betrayed their wife? Some will do because it's their nature. They can not be satisfied with just one woman or a wife. Some married man will take a while before they end up having affair, reason is for his selfishness. There's a lot of happy marriage that husband have affairs, not only the one who's having problem. But if you put all this together, men do make their own bed and they also lay on it.
What if your significant other cheats?
if ur girlfriend cheats on u pretend that u r really sad and dont talk to her for about a day or to then u say why r u cheating on me if u and me r giong out babe it will come to her and just sat that u luv her very much and that she completes u p.s. take her out to eat or to the movies or wher yall first met
Dump her.
How can you make a lie seem believable?
A man needing help was walking around New York City. He stopped an older gentleman and asked him "Excuse me... how do you get to Carnegie Hall?" The gentleman replied... "Practice, practice, practice..."
What to do if a girl cheats on you with another girl?
- When a girl has cheated with you with another girl then this makes her bisexual (liking both sexes) and this could cause you more problems than you probably would want to deal with. Whether she cheated on you with another boy or girl it is still cheating. It would be wise of you to stop seeing her and start meeting new girls and eventually you will find someone that is more loyal to you.
