Marriage

Virgo and Virgo

What could be more perfect than two perfectionists together? A relationship between two Virgos has much to attract you both. How could you possibly go wrong with someone who seems to have as much good sense as you? This can be a wonderful partnership if you don't suffer from too much of a good thing.

Because both of you are Mutable Signs, it shouldn't be too hard for you to communicate effectively. In fact, it may be very easy for you to live under the same roof without ever disagreeing on anything. You also share passions of the mind, and will never bore each other. What may be harder is deciding on a mutual direction and goals to work towards... you will need some form of common focus to keep from living in your own separate worlds. Actually, you bring out the very best in each other. You are responsible, sensitive, intelligent, and take love seriously. It would be all too easy to spend all your time peacefully together but immersed in your own separate interests, which is fine some of the time, but doesn't allow for much growth! When you can set goals together and work towards them as a team, there is very little you cannot accomplish.

Source:
http://www.astrologycom.com/astromatch/match.php

Maybe the question should read how much should you know about someone before marrying them. There are so many factors that go into marriage that it's impossible to give a "one size fits all" day/month/year answer to that. In any marriage if you have 2 people who are not looking to change the other person but rather change themselves to become whatever will work in their marriage...it will succeed. So you need to know enough about the other persons values, finanacial habits, and daily living to know whether you can change "yourself" and become compatible with them and if they also have the attitude that they want to become whatever the marriage will require. No marriage will ever work with selfish, prideful attitudes. So make sure you keep these areas to a level you can live with.

Psychologists say the typical infatuation (or "lust") lasts 3-18 months. So,if a total of 19 or more months elapses between meeting and wedding, there's a better chance it's really love.

It is of my observation and belief that marriage goes beyond love. The love of another is not enough to make a marriage work. Both parties must be ready for the long-term commitment of marriage in all aspects, financially, emotionally and in maturity. I thing young people need to know each other longer than some older folks who may have all the necessary qualifications to make this decision without the several years dedicated to getting to know one another.

The main problem I see is amongst the younger generation who use 'marriage' as a kind of committed relationship and divorce is just as easy. When teens and young 20-somethings (even 30-somethings in some cases) are not emotionally stable and indepdendent how can they commit to something as serious as marriage? Marriage is not just about love.. even legally it is a union of economic stature that can mess with you if you need to get divorced. A marriage is an investment as much as a romantic commitment.

Just for the record, I'm 23 years old so I'm not an ageist older person trouncing on young folk... I'm a young folk who's screaming for my generation to PLEASE stop getting hitched because you think your boy is 'swell' or you want to stake your claim in that pretty, flirtatious chick.

Last check on when to get married. If you have ANY doubt WHATSOEVER, wait. If there is a single shread of doubt in your head just stay a committed couple. Live together, sleep together, eat together... but wait on marriage until you're certain.

There's a list of traditional anniversary gifts you're supposed to give to your spouse. Every year, it's a different "material" to theme your gift around. Things like paper, bronze, wood, etc. Check this handy infographic lays out the traditional anniversary gifts for every big marriage milestone from years one to 60 with suggested gift ideas for every kind of spouse.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/09/anniversary-gift-traditio_n_5290878.html

After choosing whatever you think your spouse would like, I would advise you to make your gifts more special to him/her by packing your gift beautifully with a wrapping paper and then putting it in an attractive gift bag of his/her favorite color. Well, I know that gift bags are so expensive these days but there are some online sites who are selling gift bags on affordable prices like http://www.fetpak.com Beside this, there are so many blogs on how to make gift bags or box at home which will surely help you making your gift more special and appealing to your spouse.

No, but you should exchange rings. It is tradition and so is important to the woman, regardless of what she says. You can buy a nice ring for not much money.

You do not need to exchange rings in order to get married. All you need to do is obtain a marriage license in your jurisdiction and then solemnize the marriage before any official who is authorized to perform marriages in your jurisdiction. Regarding rings, that's a personal choice that both men and women today are capable of deciding on their own before or after the marriage takes place.

This is a tough question without having more information. If you and your husband are getting along fairly well, but have a few problems, then try working them out. It's so easy to complain about each other, pass off blame, and grumble over a marriage rather than to sit down and start learning to communicate. By communicating we often are surprised just how that other person feels. In our fast-paced modern society it can be tough to find time to really sit and listen to your mate. My own opinion ... make the time! As we know while racing around every day life can slip through our fingers.

I've been married 33 years to a wonderful man, but, I have to be honest when I say there have been many times when I have thrown up my hands and wanted to walk out that door. It isn't into another man's arms, but I want peace and freedom. Then I get thinking about it all and I feel like slapping myself a good one, because "going wife deaf", not cleaning up after he shaves; gobs of toothpaste left in the bathroom sink; not replacing toilet paper; not putting the toilet seat back down, etc., is hardly room for leaving and I realize now these are some of the things I'd really miss if he should pass away on me. Oh yes, I can still get annoyed, but then I am so lucky to be with such a fine man and I do know I love him. No one said marriage or even a relationship would be easy.

If you feel the magic has gone out of your marriage, that he doesn't give you enough attention (no cuddling, etc.) then look at yourself as well. It's just not up to the man/woman to drape all over the other ... both must try.

The grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener! Sit and really think of this and realize, that if you leave your husband for someone else you will more than likely hurt him so deeply you could well lose him for good. Then there is no going back.

In every marriage I am sure most of us feel that weak moment when things get us down that we would like to throw up our hands and leave to meet someone new and feel that old excitement we use to feel when we first met our husbands. Unfortunately, it doesn't matter who you end up with, that first part of excitement attached to a new relationship never lasts and something else (if we are willing to see it) the next phase in the relationship can be just as exciting, but more down to earth happens.

You don't even know how this other person feels and if they are married, back off! We are all in control of our own lives and we all have responsibilities and the one responsibility I don't often see out in society is caring about someone else's feelings.

You are the only one that can decide if you have tried in your marriage, made an effort to communicate your feelings to your husband and both of you have tried to make it work. If he's not willing or the both of you aren't then leave ... but don't drag another into your small world of irresponsibility until you have faced yourself and start to conquer your own short comings.

Usually when we want to leave a husband there are obviously some deep rooted problems we haven't dealt with and we have to be brutally honest with ourselves. If your husband is good to you, doesn't abuse you, has made every effort he possibly can then you are one lucky woman. You might not be so lucky the next time.

The decision is in your court.

Marcy

All relationships go through changes, some good some bad. But all relationships go through hard times and easy times.

I myself know what your wife went through. I don't know her situation, or how things happened with this other man, but I can tell you having an affair is not easy or a picnic. Im sure she doesnt feel good about herself. And with Lying to you, the family, the money issue, etc, Im sure she is really beating herself up about everything.

I think individuals have affairs for many reasons. Maybe she felt ignored, not loved, bored, unattractive, maybe it started out as an emotional affair and turned more. I don't know. Each situation is different.

For me, I have been married 24 years. I have 4 great kids who I love and adore and wouldn't want to hurt them for the world. Two years ago, my marriage was following apart, things were tough at home, and I was being accused of having an affair when I wasnt. My husband accused me of talking/seeing an ex boyfriend of mine from high school that I hadnt seen in 22 years. I was sick of his accusations, and I did exactly what he thought I was doing, I called the guy.

I have never forgot about him, always thought "what if" regarding him. And with all the stress and so on going on in my life I called him. We reconnected, and it was like time stood still. I do love him, but I also love my husband. I don't want to hurt anyone, break up my family, but I do wish my husband would give me what I need in our relationship. Im in this marriage til the end, but don't make it a long death sentence. I want to feel loved, appreciated, told nice things, felt loved, and I want romance. That is one thing I have learned in my adventure down memory lane.

My advice to you...if you love her, show her...tell her..if you want it to work with her don't take her for granted..