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Marriage
Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged by a variety of ways, depending on the culture or demographic. Such a union may also be called matrimony.
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yes. She got married at The Grove hotel in Hertfordshire in August 2004.
How do married men deal with their mistress breaking up with them?
It could go either way. He could be heartbroke. Its according to each situation. But if the man didn't leave his wife for the mistress then he is probably glad it's over.
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This is good and impressive question that happens all the time, between man and a woman. In my own opinion and from experience when married men get rejected by his wife, girlfriend, and yes his mistress part of their self esteem goes down. Their dignity is been injured by a woman. Men never wanted to be rejected, it makes them feel like a looser. For them, they rather be the one who can reject a woman.
Would an exile's life be as miserable today?
exile from what? miserable as when? garbage in, garbage out.
First ask your husband why is he so jealous all the time, if he denies it let it go. You can try being the jealous wife so you could show him how it feels. If he has a ladyfriend ask him why he was with her instead of coming home with you. Soon he'll realize how annoying it is and back off.
When it comes to the other woman is it perceptions or realities?
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I guess when it comes to the other woman, one will never know if it is perceptions, but surely realities. It is realities because the married man has another life outside his marriage. His making time for both, the life with his family, and time for his mistress.
There's no 'answer' to this question, but I think it's a good and important question at least to discuss. One good place to start (in my humble and non-professional experience) is with Dr. Gary Chapman's "5 Love Languages". Fivelovelanguages.com can offer you some insights into how good relationships can suffer when the partners involved express love and receive love in different ways. Your husband may not perceive your needs as needs or he may have needs of his own he feels aren't met. And he may be expressing love to you in ways that you don't see or perceive as being loving. That's very frustrating for both sides. Again, based on just a question there is no way to really advise you. If you are being controlled or abused, you should seek professional help. If your relationship is just in need of support and nurturing it's important for both of you to want that to happen. I wish you the best of everything in getting your relationship on track.
Can you use either last name in a hyphenated last name?
- Yes a person can use a hyphenated surname (last name) which would be the woman's maiden name hyphenated with her married name. Example: Jane Doe-Smith. Often famous people or people known by their surname in a business they are running will keep their family name hyphenated with whomever they marry, but keep both the maiden surname and married surname is becoming more common practice. In ways keeping both names comes in handy if one is into genealogy.
How do you cope if you know your husband is going to leave you at some point?
First of all you need to find out if this is really true. Why does he want to leave you? Is he having an affair. If there are problems in the marriage then it might be advisable to seek the help of a marriage counsellor. However, the most important starting point is to talk and discuss each other's feelings.
If he has already stated that he is going to leave you, then it is advisable to get the help of lawyer to find out what your rights are, what his rights and responsibilities are (both towards you and any children you have). Also all aspects of your family life will need to be decided (financial, custody of children, joint assets, the family home, coping emotionally with the split, preparing the children to cope etc). That in itself will take alot of emotional energy.
Then you can think of re-building your life separately from him.
How can you get your wife to stop putting her mother first?
This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!
This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!
This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!
This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!
This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!
This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!
If she was a social woman, you may want to try Facebook; if you can't find her on there, you'll likely find a friend or family member of hers who may be willing to pass word that you're trying to get in contact with her. I'd like to add that no one's happy marriage ended in divorce & if she hasn't spoken to you in nearly a decade, it's probably because she doesn't want to i.e. it's no accident that you haven't seen her. Good luck!
It's certainly possible, but if that happens, in general, the love and/or attraction may have been suspect in the first place. In my opinion, since everyone is physically, emotionally and intellectually unique, no one is average. If the man in the question considered his wife 'average' he either was attracted to her averageness OR there were other things about her he admired enough to love and marry her. In that case, the 15-20 lbs we are talking about might not compute into what made her attractive to him. Bottom line is this: If you marry a face or a body or parts of a body, time will pass and you will eventually find yourself bitter or disappointed. You should find those things in another person that you can admire, love and be attracted to forever. If the question asker is the wife in the question, I would ask her to look at the big picture. If you feel your husband is losing attraction for you, it's not necessarily because of your weight or appearance. So much more goes into a relationship and there has to be good communication and both sides have needs that need to be met - and often, neither individual is really aware of what their needs specifically are. One good book that really looks at relationships from the aspect of basic human needs is Gary Chapman's "Five Love Languages". I have recommended this book a lot because it is simple and intuitive.
Should your husband go out with another women for coffee?
sure if your wanting a divorce, that's like leading a cat to a fish fry
Is there such a thing as forever?
In my belief there is because i believe in God and heaven and in heaven you live there forever. If you are athiest though you might not because to you people just die and sit there in graves. So you question has a diffrent answer for whatever religion you are.
Hi Jonna
The other poster said it in a nutshell.
I know you aren't going to like what I am going to say next, but I do hope to take my thoughts into consideration.
Marrying your boyfriend just to get away from your parents is not the solution. It will only make matters worse. You need a good education to get on well in this world and both of you are so young.
I have no idea what your situation is at home, but if you are not abused sexually, physically or mentally, then I'd say you have it pretty good. If your parents argue and it's a high stress level then I suggest you try living with either your grandparents or another relative. Just don't race off and get married! You have a whole life ahead of you.
If you should be pregnant, then you have no alternative but to work with your parents on a solution or give the baby up for adoption. I know this sounds cruel, but a 15 year old and a 17 year old with a new babe on the way just can't make it and the stress is incredible.
Please think about what I have said very carefully.
Good luck Marcy
Married 8 yrs , together 15 yrs , 6 yr old son . I'm 36 shes 33 , together long time how could i not not love her , many yrs of our lives . things are OK , but meet 41yr old women , and think she is the perfect one . we have falling in love ( have not cheated other then hugs , and mind ) she is in new relationship but wants to be with me too . here's the thing , how to tell them ? we really don't want to hurt anyone , but this is hurting the two of us. And yes there has been no sex !! This is killing me . so please help
OpinionIt seems to me that the hard part of your dilemma is not how to tell your wife, it's deciding whether or not you really want to abandon a relationship with a woman you love and have spent 15 years of your life with...not to mention your 6 year old son! For what? You think this woman is your "perfect match," but then, that's what you thought about your present wife 8 years ago when you married her. What makes you think your relationship with this woman will last even 8 years? And then what? Another "perfect match?" A lot of people, both men and women, have put (notice I didn't say "found") themselves in this situation and have made both choices. Some will tell you that leaving was the best thing they ever did...and others will tell you that staying and making it work was the right decision. No one can predict how things will work out with you, but considering the fact that you seem to love your wife and son, leaving seems to me to be the wrong choice at the wrong time. Leaving because your relationship with your wife is irreparably broken is one thing...leaving because the grass appears to be greener...well, that's entirely something else. I would urge you to think this through as it is not only your life that will be affected, but your wife's and, more importantly, your son's. If, however, you decide to leave, the best way to tell your wife is to be up front and honest with her. Anything less will only increase and prolong the pain...and it almost certainly will make it harder for you to normalize relations with her which will be necessary in order to reestablish your relationship with your son. Best of luck in whatever you choose to do.
AnswerEvery marriage goes through a "stale time". This means you are so use to each other like a pair of old slippers. The routine is boring and both of you have not sat down and communicated well in your 8 years of marriage. It takes more than sex and producing babies to have a good marriage and you can never stop working on it. Many people at sometime in their lives feel the "call of the wild" to walk on the wild side and are actually looking for someone whether they realize it or not. Things just don't happen! You were looking and this new lady friend of yours was looking as well! Instead of finding greener grass on the other side of the fence start working on your marriage. If your wife knew you were even interested in another woman it would devastate her and your child as well.
Remember, your wife has had to put up with you all this time and you and your new gal friend are bright, shiny and new to each other, but if you leave your wife you'll just have another set of problems. It's your call! Something to remember ... YOU TOOK MARRIAGE VOWS!
answerAre you a christian? If you are, read proverbs 5. You will surely reap what you sow. In the beginning it is so sweet, but it leads to despair. God has his ways to show you, and you know what, it's in his hands, no matter what you feel. It is wrong. on the other hand, making your marriage work will be rewarded. that means get completely away from this so called perfect woman. As the world would say what goes around, comes around. If you aren't a Christian, do as you please, the Devil will not correct you. He will applaud you, but guess what, his way is death for sure. If you proceed with this so-called wonderful, meant to be relationship, remember this post, later when you are devastated.
OpinionI totally understand the situation you are in. There is no need for people to keep pushing their views across so firmly. Can we leave religion out of this problem? I do not know if I will affect you in any way. Why not take a step back and review the whole situation? For all you know, you might be happier in either route you finally choose in the end. Live for yourself as well.
AnswerFor the poster above, for those that got married in a church in front of a Minister, Priest, etc., it is meant to be in the eyes of God! You are taking vows to each other and even some couples will make-up their own vows and it always undoubtedly says, "I'll grow old with you and love you forever!" I would think even two adults in love would know that no one can make that promise. If you don't believe in the vows in the church then why marry in a church!
It's obvious the person asking the question is in conflict and I admire him for coming forward and considering his wife's feelings which tells me a lot about the character of this man. It's good! He has a conscience yet he needs something further in his life. How do you know that they do or don't communicate well and the fact is, marriages can grow stale and it's up to the couple to communicate well with each other to see how they can rectify problems and often times they can. There are very few that actually fall out of love (the fact is they were never in love) and find someone else, and if this is true in this case then by all means he should be honest with his wife and move on. However, it doesn't appear there has been any communication and this is the man's life and each of us should give our best opinion on this whether it be from a religious point of view or any other view and let him decide on his own what to do after reading these posts. There are also children involved here so it's not about just his needs or his wife's needs but also the needs of the children. Children take separation or divorce of their parents extremely hard, so this man has to think hard and clear what the ramifications of his actions could do.
OpinionYes, I agree that offering help to the person asking the question is good. Hope I am not being argumentative about this. I am very new to this site, I had thought and still think that this site is for everybody. For the record, I am Asian and I an married for 5 years but not in a church. Why I say I understand him is because I am in the exact same situation as his except I have no kids. I have a conscience, but what good does it do? I had told the other party that I am bound by my responsibility as a husband and I cannot be with the other party. But I do not know how to put the pain that I am currently feeling in words. It was me who allowed the mariage to take place. My wife loves me and that I know. What can I do? I have talked to her about this and I had also tried COMMUNICATION but it do not seem to work. I realised that at this point in time, everybody had told me to work things out for the marriage, and that having a wife who really loves you is truly a blessing. But why am I feeling so miserable? Is loving somebody better than being loved?
OpinionThere are no answers to a question like this one. The only way to know what to do is to search your heart, write, live it out for a while, and when the time is right you will know what to do. I am in a similar situation. While I am not pleased with thinking myself a "cheater", I am in love with another. Someone very dear to me that was ripped away in adolecence. I have a bond with her that I never had with my spouse. Marying her was what was right at the time. But, she and I have been down different roads of recovery and mine is leading away from her. I am always thinking of the children. And it is for that reason I will make a final decision soon. There is no good role model in a father that is depressed and angry because some promise to a higher being trumps all. God is right here on earth today and he lives in our decisions and choices we make with what he gives us. Let yourself be at peace with this terribly tragic and difficult decision. God will give you exactly what you need when you need it. Don't let anyone force you into a corner. You are the only one who will have to live with yourself and your new arrangements. I will pray for you. This is not fun. This is not something new and exciting. This is troublesom and heartbreaking. Be at peace and all will come to light.
OpinionHere are some concrete questions and things to consider before leaving. For those of you who insist on bringing religion into the topic--the question isn't should I leave my wife. The point I want to make is that we all fail, we all face challenges that are too much for us. Do not be so judgemental to those who struggle with this--marriage vows are made on both sides and they are impossible for any human to fulfill them every day. My opinion is that if you are in love with another person and are tempted to leave, you need to sit down and review all the consequences. Divorce is terrible pain, no matter the reason and no matter whether you love the person or not. I didn't believe those who told me this and even though I don't love my ex anymore, I still suffered immense pain as did he. If you are going to leave the marriage--much better to do so in honesty and before you have cheated. If its going to happen, do it the most respectful way and be absolutely sure what you are doing. Consider whether the relationship with the new person is a REAL one--do they only fulfill one thing you miss in your life? It can be misleading since your relationship with that person may be meeting one need your spouse isn't providing, but your spouse is still providing others that you haven't realized this person is missing. I agree--if you are just in a "the grass looks greener" position, then it is certainly better to stay for your child and family, but if you are truly in misery and have tried counseling and everything with your spouse (after breaking contact with the lover) then that's different. I would say that in order to fully make this decision you must distance yourself from both people. Move out of the house and be by yourself for a month. If you can't live on your own and be happy, then your own insecurity is obviously a factor in any relationship. If you can, you are making a decision while having no contact with either party and will truly be able to see what choice you can live with. If you don't do this, you are simply playing both sides of the street and that is very wrong. An emotional affair is even more dangerous than a purely physical one--don't fool yourself. Hope that you are able to put a lot of thought and consideration into this decision. But the sooner you decide the better for all involved.
Argentinian soccer great Lionel Messi isn't married. However, his longtime girlfriend is Antonella Roccusso. The couple have a son together.
What if your husband says he broke ties with his mistress but continues to text her?
If he told you that he broke ties with his mistress, but then continued to text her, he didn't break all ties, did he? He has lied to you! If you hope to reclaim your husband's exclusivity and save your marriage, you are going to have to confront him with the fact that he has lied to you. Modern marriages have to be based on trust and mutual respect to be successful. The truth is, you may never trust him again, but that is for you to decide, but nothing will change until you discuss it with him.
