Marriage

• The first problem is it is apparent neither of you have good communication skills and because of that your marriage has become weak in different areas and neither of you know what was going on because you both never sat down to talk about any problems rearing their ugly head in your marriage. Most women are romantics; need to feel loved and appreciated by their husband such as the husband buying her flowers every so often; telling her she is pretty or taking her out on dates such as a romantic dinner. Often people who have been married for a couple of years or more begin to feel the pinch of boredom and this is where good communication skills come in. If your wife is having one affair after the other she is searching for love in all the wrong places. If you love her then sit down and talk to her and listen to what she has to say in a calm manner and then express your feelings. Then consider getting marriage counseling (this is not to blame one spouse or the other) but you will be given tools in order to help you deal with problems in your marriage. It is time that both of you grew up and certainly time that you made a better effort in considering your wife's feelings.

yes

An hour or so - with penetration lasting for around a third to a half of that.

Bigamist

IKR

WHATT

No

Because he is shallow. I've been married for 15 years and never has my husband pointed out any of my flaws and belive me I have many after having children and just due to aging in general. He could also be insinsitive. I have been married for 25 years now, and my wife and I constantly say things about our physical flaws (of which we both have them, in abundance) - however both my wife and I know this is the result of getting older and we think it is funny. So don't think he is doing it "just because of *reason*" tell him it upsets you and ask him to stop; then you can define better why he is doing it.

Nooooo.. there like in there 20's and i think he went out with her.. and rumored i think they did it you know.. but that's kinda gross.. but anyways no there not married

No.

Try to get to know her and what she likes stuff like that.Treat her nice, then you should expect niceness back. If she doesn't and is still treating you bad then talk to your dad and tell him to talk to her about being nicer. She shouldn't just show up and then be rude!

Talk to your dad. You might hate her on principle and find out that she isn't a total meany. But if you have a legitimate problem, then talk to your father. He might not know.

Get to know her. You could turn to her and tell her so she would understand that she is not your mom and that your mom is real but is no longer with us. No other woman, especially your step mom, would ever replace your mother!

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Answer Did you ever consider asking your husband why he's not affectionate towards you, as there is no way we could possibly know what is going on inside his head.

his wife's name is Penelope and his sons name is Telemachus

It's too bad you didn't get a "prenuptial agreement" when you both got married (since you were married the 2nd time.) Your problem happens to a lot of women. Usually when the husband passes away the house and most monies and other properties goes to the wife and the husband may have specified other things go to their children, or even a percentage of the monies left. Give it a shot and ask your husband if other arrangements couldn't be made, such as you keeping the house and a percentage of monies left to the son instead. If he is firm on the way he has his Will then I would certainly seek out a lawyer to see what your rights are. It isn't fair that you helped pay for this house (hope you can prove it) and NO you shouldn't help out with your annuities and stash it away for yourself. I have no idea if your husband is aware of the fact that you really should get the house and it's not fair to leave it to his son and you may be out in the street. See that lawyer! Good luck Marcy

Hi Friend,

I am not sure why he lies to you and till what extent. Can you please elaborate?


In general, lot of people have tendency to walk out of a problem by lying so they do not have to face the problems. and if it happens again and again then the person is addicted to it.
You might seek professional help or
You have to ask him "why he lies to you" you have to comfort him that he can tell you the truth no matter how bad it is. If you confront him on a lie he might have said in the past or fight with him he might lie even more next time.

It really depends on the age of the children. It is my opinion that the matter of an affair is the business of the parents, and them alone until the kids are old enough to understand certain things.

If the kids are young, I would use a metaphor.

For example: You know your favorite doll, the one you never are without? Well, pretend you made a promise to that doll to NEVER play with another doll as long as you had it. Well daddy/mommy broke the promise to his/her doll, and is very sorry.

But like I said, it's really the business of the parents. Your kids will forgive you in time. That's what it takes, time. You can't rush forgiveness, you can't make it happen. Accept responsibility and condemnation for what you did as we must do with all our mistakes and move on the best you can. Your children love you and will understand things in time.

Matrimony.

No, but they happen anyway.

Mixed marriages have to endure extra pressures because of the differences. It's not usually a healthy environment for raising children in.

if u still love her you should defend for her

no

2 things either he likes his wife better than you or hes an idiot. its simple really

No you do not have to have a preacher .First check with you states law when you get your marriage licence . But some of the people who can perform wedding ceremony are judge's, justice of peace, mayor, city clerk and notary public to name a few.

Yes.

This is not an uncommon problem at all and so many women do complain about this. As we know men and women are different. Most men have a tendency to keep their feelings to themselves, and what bothers us, may not bother them. Bedtime and having sex is not the time to discuss problems (even after sex.) My husband use to be the same way, but I learned a long while ago that communication is everything, and men are bright enough to communicate if they so choose as long as it's a reasonable problem and just not nagging or gossiping. I got my husband to communicate properly by letting him come home from work, have his shower and then he'd either have a wine or tea with me. I shut the TV off! I'd ask him about his day and listen and help where I could, then I started to tell him about my day and, if there were any problems we both put our heads together to figure out the best solution we could to the problem at hand. It took a few times before it worked, but, in time it worked and we use this method today. Oh no, it's not magic and we still have some communication problems as we are both busy. This just isn't a perfect world. I think your husband loves you. Instead of constantly bringing up the fact he refuses to talk to you then ask yourself what you are saying to him and what problems you want to talk to him about and make sure they are important problems. Women that constantly nag over anything (may be important that day, but not that serious and is soon forgotten) or gossip are not going to get a man's attention (I'm not accusing you of nagging.) Mix communication skills in slowly, but also, have a nice dinner for him when he comes home and one weekend go out together and just have fun. Life doesn't always have to be about problems and sometimes forgetting about them for a couple of hours is the best thing for partners in marriage (or even couples living together.) Good luck Marcy

They clearly stop talking to the mistress because they feel the need to get closer to their wives & make up for it. Even though they shouldn't have been cheating in the first place, it's best if they don't talk to the mistress. That would be awful if the wife were to find out that they still talked.

ANSWER:

The big answer is right in front of you, " got caught" Did you think that the two of you can stay friends after the affair the two of you did. But let say that this married man didn't stop talking to you while he is making amends to his wife, you will become his " Friend with benefit" And if every time the two of you meet, he might think what the two of you had together. What you need to do is leave him alone, let him correct all the bad things he did to his wife. Maybe you can ask your self this, what did this woman did to me that I help his husband ruin her life?

From there on you can see the pain that you gave to his wife. You can't even say it wasn't you that started it.