Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

Well, when people get bullied they usually think of negative stuff.. like for example wanting to kill themselves... They give there values away to people like for instance their friends. They do bad things like drugs and alcohol...

But for me, they should really stick up to themselves because it really works.. It did for me.

Everywhere unfortunately.

Sadly the two can overlap. Kids are in a captive audience in the school system and things go on normally, that dealing with an adult audience, would be laughed out of court! Kids can be subjected to various forms of physical( corporal) punishment that would be unthinkable outside of say the B-Block in the Big House. Imagine getting Knuckle soup for a parking violation! There are some things called status offenses ( Hooky, underage smoking,etc) that would not even be considered CRIMES if done by adults. Finally there are certain academic situations that are virtual hot-beds for child abuse, such as music classes. Practice rooms are usually sound=proofed and often in basements well away from windows. Kids usually have these classes on a personal basis- no witnesses! really a sour chord.

• Man doesn't so much destroy nature as takes the space that the nature we know exists now for his/her own activities. Nature will go on regardless of what man does whether the result of our handiwork is good or not.
• The people burn forests, throw garbage and pollution around and do crazy stuff.
• Well that's what happens when the top predator dominates the kingdom.
• We haven't completely destroyed nature. Man was meant to be made this way. I mean if bears were the top predators I'm sure they would do the same to us. We can take over habitats because well, we are by far smarter than any species on Earth.
• Man is destroying nature by depleting natural resources and polluting the environment with waste materials.
• Man is not content with taking what he needs but all over the world man has exploited nature. Logging of natural forests and overfishing are good examples. In many cases what has been taken has not been replaced, again logging is a good example.
• Many species of animals are extinct because of man's activities. Hunting animals for sport and destroying habitats are examples.
• Humans are destroying nature by cutting down trees and using the land for pasture, also people capture endangered animals and sell them on eBay or other sites on the Internet that sell things if you do see an endangered animal on eBay please alert Greenpeace, WWF or another wild life saving service. Do some good for mother nature.

You should definitely try to talk your boyfriend into seeking professional help first and foremost.

Secondly, do not blame yourself, he is apparently going through some type of inner struggle and you are not to blame for anything because you did nothing wrong.

Talk with him about his problems (if he cares to talk about them) be supportive and understanding. If he starts to take it out on you, try to explain to him that you are not the one to blame, and he should find a professional to talk to, to find out why he is having these feelings.

We've all got problems, things in our lives that we are dealing with emotionally/mentally.

Sometimes we all need a little help, and there is no shame in seeking that help from a psychologist/therapist or support group.

In fact it makes you a stronger person when you face your problems and realize and understand that you need help.

And you yourself also need to consider a support group or just sharing your feelings with your friends and family if you already haven't.

Being in a relationship with a person that has a mental disorder and that's often suicidal is extremely difficult on many levels.

Best of luck to you, and your boyfriend.

There are too many to count. We need to teach society about behaviors and what to watch for.

the male power in society lead sexual abuse is male dominant.

Communicating with your abuser is an art form. It is called "walking on eggshells".

If you think the relationship is getting emotionally abusive no need to talk...best to walk and do it fast.

Once the abuse begins in the cycle, it is hard to get out. The longer the cycle has been spinning the more difficult to leave.

well what kind of abuse?

for instance verbal abuse could be recognized by someone distancing themselves or becoming depressed, or even violent.

physical abuse, could be recognized by bruising, scarring, or even long clothing, which could indicate that the person does not want their marks to be seen.

substance abuse is commonly recognized with, hyperactive behavior, or short attention spans, or even look for symptoms of withdrawl in case they go without.

hope i helped!

Just dont think of her. sometimes when u love someone alot u cant just let them go and even though you may not be happy in a reletionship you feel you can make it work but you know that deep down in side u cant so it hurts you alot but sometimes the things that seem to be the best are the worst things in life you just have to find it in you to let it go you can still love the person but it just cant be the love you want it to be just be freinds with the other person Because you love her for eveything she is with good and bad..

It depends on where you live. Most cities will have designated safe places. You can go to them and tell them what is going on and they are supposed to help you. Some McDonald's support this. The department of Health and Welfare will get you help. The police, firehouse, or hospital are all places people could go. In most cities there are also shelters for families or people who have been abused that helps them get back on their feet. There is also a hotline that can be called, and they can send people help. I'm not sure what it is, but it's probably easy to find on the internet or in the phone book. I don't know, but I think the best place to go would be the Department of Health and Welfare or a shelter for people who've been abused.

Abusive relationships are some of the most difficult ones to resolve. THis type of relationship assumes that one partner is abusive and continues to be so because there is no response to the abuse. The difference here centers on "self-assurance." The abusive partner continues his or her behavior because there is no response. I can not suggest how the abused party should respond because in most instances they feel diminished. This situation can only be resolved through extended counseling, if at all.

relationships should never be about control they should be about give and take, sharing your ideas wants and beliefs. If you are like that then there is no need for control. A need to control in a relationship has some under lying issues and should be spoken about with councilor.

Narcissists like to brag about their past and they also collect "victims!" Without actually saying how rotten they were to their former ex's they want you to know how important they are and I bet he/she made sure they added that THEY left their ex. It's about control! When I dated if a guy talked about his former girlfriends in a bad way (unless it was an abusive relationship) I kicked him to the curb because that part of his life should be private and he should think enough of his past ex's to keep it private. I never asked about any of my boyfriends former ex's. I heard a lot of stuff from my N about his ex. According to him, he was a saint and she an evil woman. He told me of some domestic disputes involving the law where SHE was (of course) at fault. I did some investigating after I broke up with my N. It turns out that all the things he accused her of doing were actually done by HIM! Not very pleasant stuff either... Now that we have broken up, he is telling everyone that I cheated on him...(?!) It is not true (of course). Makes me wonder what HE had been doing! People may believe him once or even twice, but anymore than that and people get the picture ... it's him! Just move on hon and thank your lucky stars you are rid of him. You're one smart girl!

When children lie about abuse, they are usually asking for attention. Also if the lie is against a step parent, the child is usually trying to break up the parents relationship;Trying to get their own parent to choose them over the new step-parent. Or the child is thinking, if they break up the current step parent relationship, their own parent will get back with their own mom/dad. Try to communicate with the child, build a trusting relationship, so that they won't try to break up the current relationship.

They can be but some of them can control their anger.

The potential for violence is many times greater, (100x or more), with someone who is angry than with someone who is not.

Violence is always caused by anger, especially when it is used against someone who is not threatening voilence themselves, (such as a girlfriend/spouse)

women look for a man that is attractive, kind, caring, sensual, passionate, a good worker, strong, and that is financially stable..

any. I would say the worse would be verbal. There are so many different kinds of abuse.

Some men aren't very good with feelings, whereas all women usually wants is a fairy-tale. Women tell their partner that they care for them either because they want their partner to know how much they care for them, or they want to know how their partner will respond. Usually, when a woman tells her man she loves him, it puts an awkward vibe on things- not that all men are insensitive, they're just different from girls. Once you carry on saying these things, it will become less and less awkward, because it will become more common, so if you try to say 'I love you' to your partner on a regular basis, he'll soon learn that it's normal to say that in a relationship, and, he may say it back.

Almost immediately. Many abusers are narcissists and crave narcissistic supply.

Very quickly! Sometimes before he ends his relationship with you. This way, he can toss you aside and his new source of narcissistic supply is ready and waiting.

The "N" in my life had several relationships going at the same time, including the "special" one w/ me. This was revealed only after I finally removed myself permanently from the abusive situation. This way the "N" could ensure his constant supply, making sure he wouldn't be without at any given time should the "other players" unknowingly involved in his game choose to opt-out.

Immediately - If Not Sooner!!! I begged my abuser to find someone else - knowing that historically he never left one without having another one ready. He started looking for his next VICTIM before I broke up with him. I left him over 3 months ago and I can tell that he is floundering and desperate for supply. He is still trying to control, abuse and intimidate me from afar. He's a monster!!!

Don't be surprised when you find out he didn't 'wait' at all. My experience is that the abuser has plenty of fish on the hook.

My abusive ex was in another relationship within weeks of our formal separation and I was shocked when I found out. He made it sound like he had been with her for years and all of a sudden I didn't count for anything. He changed his phone number and put a restraint order on me filled with lies. His intentions were to discredit my reputation in his retalition from my rejection. Everything in the restraint order about me were dirty lies and in reality he was doing those things to me. I didn't follow the advice of my family and friends when they suggested that i file a stay away order on him because he might do something bad to me. Whats more he lied to the police and told them i was 100 feet away from him, and i was lucky that i was able to convince the police that i was innocent and that he was a liar. Otherwise i would have went to jail for 3 months. He had been calling my mother for months and finally after 8 months we spoke on the phone. He left me about a dozen messages, crying and pleading with I love you and want you back so bad. After all those messages he called the next day and and said he didn't love me but that he loved the other lady and did I want to hear them making love. He literally changed his mind over night about me. I could never do that to anybody the way he did me.i just couldn't believe he could be so cruel after all those years of love and loyalty i gave to him.

Some abuser take years to get over a relationship depends how the perosn values himself

Depends on the person. Some cant let go and are obcessed. Some move on quickly. If he or she see there is some potential left to control you, they will come back. Once they see that you are not going to be controlled they will move on. They love a challange, but not too much, they want a person that resists their control but in the end will eventually allow them the control. If the victim refuses all control and contact they will move on. But actually my ex husabnd will still harass me and its been two years...since i kicked his sorry..$%%$ out....he said he has a girlfriend...he may be bored with her and or he had an easier time controlling me so hes living in the past of when he had me under his thumb. Some of these types do expereince regret of losing someone but usually its related to the fact that they are having a harder time finding a more passive victim.

From my experience, very soon. In fact, he took up a relationship with a girl he had cheated on me with a few days after I left. It was mostly to try to get a rise out of me, so I ignored it. He was abusing her when she was a friend while we were dating, so it wasn't at all a surprise. He won her pity by playing the victim. Typical.

The narcissist i was with probably never ended anything. She kept it going with others in various ways and had a stash of douchebags ready to go if the need arouse. id say the moment your narcissist thought it was time to dump you or sooner.

No. Narcissistic people are not crazy. They merely have an admiration for theirselves. It's better to love one's self rather than hate, right? But there may be a matter of how much someone may love themselves, which may go beyond the usual limit. There are people who look in the mirror everyday and are like "I'm so beautiful and so forth" They are not ashamed of themselves and they love who they are and what they look like, of course this is not the case for many others. Many can't stand to look at a picture of themselves or stare in the mirror. I believe it's best to love one's self. So no, narcissitic people are not crazy.

I hope I explained for you.

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Iv grown up without any parents, and alot of abuse & neglect through childhood. Iv also lost alot of people.

Its difficult for me to make friends because im so with drawn and things get akward. I can only be myself around those that havent given up on me.

Depends how you define "relationship". Friends and lovers never batter each other. Codependence is not love.

If the abuser realizes his problem and seeks help in getting control of his anger and actively seeks to prove to you he is open to resolving the problem and you seek help to overcome your fears that have inevitably had an effect on your perception and feelings for him. if both take action to work on these areas of the relationship it can be salvaged. But realize it will not be easy for either of you.