Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

Because they like to play cat and mouse games with both old and new toys. The new supply may be temporarily unavailable, or they just want to test the waters to see if they can get you back into their sphere of influence once again. They dont ever want to let any source get away. It's bad for their ego. So they will try, and try again to get you back into their box of play toys. They can never have enough. They are voracious and determined to control all around them. It's sick and evil but it is the nature of who and what they are.

physical abuse

verbal abuse

putting you under pressure

emotional abuse

for signs of it: constantly checking to see where you are, not wanting you to hang out with friends of the opposite gender, wanting you to check in with them constantly, saying you are not allowed to do something, not wanting you to go anywhere without them, trying to make you completely depend on them (financially, emotionally, etc.), making you feel guilty for things you shouldn't, yelling at you one second then apologizing seconds later, trying to intimidate you into doing what you want, and many others.

It depends. If, at the time of death, the child was functioning as a source of narcissistic supply to the narcissist - then the narcissist will mourn and grieve. Otherwise, he is likely to remain indifferent (though he may pretend otherwise in order to maintain his standing in society and his relationship with the other parent).

I'm kind of curious of the reverse of this question. My abuser's mother comitted suicide right after an argument with him. He seemed distant and indifferent at first, but then it hit him and he left me the day before my birthday for a while so he could drink/do drugs/date a different girl in peace. Then he came back to me and picked up the abuse. I've since left him, but I just thought the question peculiarly similar to my own situation.

# Animal abuse

# Child abuse

# Elder abuse

# Spousal abuse

# Emotional abuse or psychological abuse

# Physical abuse

# Sexual abuse

# Spiritual abuse

# Verbal abuse

* Human rights abuse

* Legal abuse (Vexatious or malicious litigation/prosecution)

* Drug abuse

* Internet abuse

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abuse

The answer depends on what you define as abuse. The list is most likely quite endless. And some people thrive in situations where others crumble. Sorry for the lack of a good answer; but with what little information I have on your perspective and why you need this information, this is the best answer I've got for you.

http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/topics/crime/child-abuse/welcome.htm

Yes, the criminal justice system is not designed to make justice it is designed to be fair, although it isn't always. It's run by humans you know. The criminal justice system has three elements, legislators to make the laws; police and prosecutors to collect evidence and present at court; and the court process set up to make a decision. These are tools, justice in this system is up to the willingness and abilities of these people (humans).

If abuse or harm of a child or dependent person is suspected the police or Department of Children and Family Services should be contacted. Some professions are mandated reporters and are legally required to report any suspected abuse.

you cant if the doctor you trust put you to sleep and assaults you you stand no chance................I wish I had an answer for this but as pathetic as it sounds my Mother has done this to me for years and it took a lot of misguided and counseling and searching to even identify it but after reading the stages and realizing what was happening I'm still in the same predicament and fighting to get out of it. I married a physically abusive man short term that only made me that more of controllable I've been unable to have a relationship with anyone other than my children for 13 years because every positive relationship was so out of the norm and uncomfortable it terrified me and all i can do is get angry with myself because I'm still under her control I have to accept the lies no matter how blatant i can't express an opinion without being accused of something wrong with me and trying to be argumentative and aggressive. I've sought counseling and psychiatric help for years and came to many frustrating brick walls because the term and process of ambient abuse is unknown by virtually every counselor out there. They don't know how dangerous it really it is how profoundly it can effect you. Soon you do it to yourself they don't even have to be there. I"m going to school but still financially dependent and of course the closer i come to finishing the more volatile and let's pull the rug out before she stands on her own two feet it is. If there is a solution out there I wish I knew it and had the strength to implement....my isolation has been so profound I'm absolutely terrifed of intimate relationships you can identify the problem you think that would lessen it. It just deepens my frustration because I can't talk about it get out of it and it is almost impossible for anyone to understand they will just think I am ungrateful. I couldn't even describe the violent outbreaks the few times I tried to just stand my ground without raising a voice maybe just not backing up or pointing out a blatant lie without going along with it or a false memory i know didn't happen. If anyone knows of a solution or how to bring about more awareness on the subject I would love to know. Ironically my abuser identified what she was doing for me bringing up the term gaslighting....I went to look it up, I can't tell you the profound shock most of the time I would know it was her and then I would almost instantly doubt myself and tell myself it was me

if you see anyone getting abused then you need to find out the name of that person and the person who is abusing that person. then report it to child services. no one should be abused.

Men who are abusive remain abusive. If they move on to another woman they are charming, and a chameleon (meaning: they change their colors to suit their needs.) It's like the "spider and the fly." Abusive men are extremely crafty and will appear to be the nicest guy you've ever met until he has you right where he wants you. Usually abusive men will alienate the woman from her family and friends and move to another section of town or preferably another city. They want complete control. They can't cover all their tracks and here are a few hints: Although it may seem charming, a man that orders your meal without asking you what you would like to eat or let you make your own choice is a controlling man. The way he talks about other women. He could say something as innocent as, "See that woman over there .... she's fat and ugly, but you .. wow! You're a babe!" Most women will consider that a compliment, but if a guy really cares about you and is not in the market for controlling you he would only have eyes for you and never make such a remark as the example I just gave you. Always boasting and bragging about himself (you can bet 1/3 of it is the real truth.) Feels uncomfortable even after he meets your family and starts to prefer not coming to your parents house; not to go out with your friends or have some of your friends over. Usually abusive men are loners and may have the odd buddy around, but they are not usually popular. Don't get this confused with a shy guy. Over-whelms you with his own masculinity, yet seldom asks about your hopes, dreams and feelings. Marcy The thing is he will be still angry at the past partner about losing control. Therefore the new person gets this added onto the nightmare

Yes it is because they are an abusive nature. They treated you like garbage, yet in their own twisted way they did care about you. Abusers are about control and even though he may be running all over town he doesn't like the idea of another guy having you and sure hates the thought you may have become independent and found someone you actually love. He's keeping an eye on you! If this abusive ex keeps turning up in too many places and bothers you in anyway it's called "harrassment or stalking" and you can never be too careful. There isn't much you can do if he turns up at a public place, but if he phones you, turns up where you live or bothers any of your friends you can nail his butt! Be careful! NEVER underestimate an abuser or a person of a quiet nature. They may fade off into the sunset and leave you alone, but many can come back and harm you and some, will even become so enraged they can attack and kill. Still waters run deep! I suggest you change where you hang out if they are place you both use to frequent. Good luck Marcy

Woman stay in abusive relationships for a number of reasons. These reasons could be fear, paranoia, worry, love, hope, and most of all they think the person will change. If someone is abusive they can change but you can't make them. Only they can change and some woman mistake the good moments for change. Some men tell woman they will change or they didn't mean it or even make them think they are over-exaggerating or even imagining it. Abusive relationships can be any type from physical to emotional to verbal. Women sometimes stay for fear of what might happen when they are in a new life. They might not want to leave because the situation is so familiar to them. They might be afraid to leave. They also might have children and don't want to subject them to a life without one parent present or the life of running and hiding. But leaving is not running or hiding. It doesn't have to be. If a woman or even a man is in an abusive relationship they might feel like there is no help or they can't leave or they have no where to go. It depends on the situation. Are you in a situation where you need help? There are people who will help.

Violence is not always bad. Nor is it always good. Violence is one of those things that is always dependent on the situation in which it is being applied. For example, members of the police and the military are taught to use violence to stop criminals and vicious terrorist organizations all over the world. Those situations are perfectly appropriate and healthy for using violence. Martial arts students are also taught to use violent means to defend both themselves and others from a person who wishes to hurt them, their friends, their family, or other innocent persons. All of these mentioned situations demonstrate that those who would use violence to harm others can only be effectively stopped through violence as well. Talking and negotiation will solve nothing before they are stopped. Hitler was stopped through an insane amount of violence. Necessary, healthy, applied violence. That is why violence can be a good thing in specific situations.

Why would you call someone who is "emotionally and verbally abusive" - your "friend"? Abusers cannot be friends because they lack empathy and the ability to truly love someone else or relate to others!

To sexually abuse a child means that an adult uses a child for sexual stimulation. It involves presuring a child to take part in it. 90 precent of child sexual abused know the person who did it to them. Most of all sexually abused child will end up abusing their own children. 1 in 3 girls are abused before the age of 19. Also 1 in 5 boys are abused before the age of 19.

domestic violence affect families in so many ways, families are a reflection of their parents. the parents have to give an example of respect to their women, thats why theres so many violence in our country, because kids feel lonly and get influence by other cultures very easly,

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Maybe you have someaggression or anger that has built up over time and hasn't been resolved in some way. Just something for thought.Regardless of what is going on with that dream, I do not think this kind of dream is normal and I think there might be something unresolved with you that needs to be addressed for your own good. Hopefully, you will never act on that dream.

I wouldn't use that for a divorce reason etc...but I would seperately sue my husband in a heartbeat... Extremely cruel and warped behaviors..that have had horrible results....and caused extreme emotional damages... These pukes have got to own up to this sick warped crap...and sueing is darn good idea....in My Opinion!

Girls usually go back to guys that treat them like dirt because they are really hott or it is their first love. Most girls don't really know that they are being treated badly at all. I have been in one of these kind of relationships before. It was my first love and he treated me like trash. I only stayed with him because he made me feel special and cool. I didn't think that I would be cool anymore if I wasn't with him. Most girls feel this way or they think that nobody else would go out with them so they stay in their bad relationship. Even if they like someone else they might stay in their relationship because they think that the other person won't like them or that all relationships are like this. THEY ARE DEAD WRONG! Relationships are supposed to be fun. Don''t be caught where you don't want to be or catch anyone where they don't want to be. AND for all of you guys out there...don't ever hurt a girl.. physically or emotionally. Girls take what guys say REALLY PERSONALLY and they take it straight to heart.

Abusers and their victims form dyad's of codependency. It takes two to tango and an equal number to sustain a long term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux", "shared psychosis", and the "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets two of a myriad of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair.

Being a great believer in common sense and having been in the same situation for many years, I think the answer here is very obvious. Would you allow your self to be abused by someone who didn't matter to you?

YES, THE ABUSED CAN AND OFTEN DOES LOVE THE ABUSER. THEY KNOW THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD PERSON.

See "Stockholm Syndrome".

It's not genuine love - it's a psychological yearning based on fear and control. There is no sound reason to really love an abuser - you can have compassion for them - but not the kind of love that motivates you to stay in a relationship with someone who treats you like crap.

Children who witness spousal abuse are being terrorized. The effects of such witnessing are every bit the same, and then some, if they were the ones being physically abused. See the link supplied for more information about witnessing abuse.

If the carjacker is threatining you out, go out at that moment and if he just drove away, wait for him to get out of sight, and call the cops, tell your exact car, for example, "I have a dark grey, 2003 Pontiac Montana minivan, with a black bumper, a bug deflector, mud-guards, tinted windows, and the model is "Sport", and it has a bumper sticker". If the jacker points a gun at you, sits in the car, and says "Drive or I'll blow you head off", drive immediatly and do not resist or secream. Then, stop where he wants and if he gets out, nail the gas and go away as fast as ever, but do not go to a place like a forest, desert or any abandoned place, you know he might kill you.....So, at any cost, do what he tells, at least not anything bad like a drive-by or killing anyone, or if he wants the keys to the car, give them, but then call the police as fast as you can. Cheers.......

If you mean as in read Books i can give you a few answers:

1. enjoyment

2. to fill time

3. to broaden their minds

4. to be different

5. because they are made to