Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

As written in my book, "Walking Your Path of Peace"

It is important that you look at the history of a relationship. We already know that a relationship is the ability to relate. If we cannot relate there is no relationship. In looking at the past we can pretty much see on an individual basis if a relationship is worth upholding or if it is better to dismiss.

To put it more complex, people typically have a geometric pattern in their lives. If they get away with something over and over, chances are it will continue to increase.

Can this person relate to you? Can you save it or are you holding on to it for comfort? Domestic violence.... Since the first time has it gotten worse? If so this geometric procession will continue on it's path. Questions to be asked of yourself. This will answer your question.

If you are the abuser, go find someone that you can relate to. Let go of this relationship, it is over.

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I think it's because people get attached to them and find some type of dependency on them because they are giving them some sort of attention (even if it is the bad attention) and we all want to be needed so some people that are being abused might think that the other person needs them to let out their anger or whatever, so the person being abused feels needed and we all need to feel needed and loved, so you find the wrong type of attachment and them you gain some sort of attraction to your abuser.

Get changed with the door closed. You went to bed clothed but woke up naked, what did you do about that? Did you ask your roommate if he had any idea of what happened. Where you drunk when you went to be. You must be sure before accusing someone of touching your balls at night. Lock your door when you go to bed at night. Set up a video camera in your room while your gone or home asleep. Sit down and have a talk with him before something happens that you will regret. This doesn't sound like a good home situation since you sound so very uncomfortable about it. You have options: move out or talk to him about it. Definitely lock your bedroom door.

• Other words for long are 'lengthy' or 'elongated.'

Abusing was part of what made them felt good. It was a way of asserting power over you and that is an addictive feeling. Most people like to have control over something in their life but some people like to have control over someone else which is wrong. They will eventually give up but dont allow yourself to be put in a position where you feel threatned and in danger. If it gets bad report it to the police. Good luck!

no. often the only reason why people are seemingly so cofidant and\or arogant and brag is BECOUSE they feel so inferiore and\or unconfident. people take down other people only to make themselvs look better because they feel threatened by the other person and\or inferior so they try to make the other person look bad so they look good.........sorry I'm being confusing aren't I? lol sorry hope it helped a little bit anyways....

No they are actually full of fear about how fragile they are.

if you or the child are in any danger, you should stay away from the abuser or tell the authorities

Yes, some can. These people are actually in great mental anguish and I've seen men put their fist through a window or bang their head on a wall. Some have hit walls with their fists so hard they have broken bones in their hand. Women who abuse are great throwers of objects; will cut themselves (superficial cuts) or even go so far as to cut their long hair in chunks. They will hit, slap, and bite if given half the chance, not to mention kick like a mule. Until these abusers get help (they usually will deny they need help) then it's best people stay away from them. Marcy

Of coarse it does murder is the result of a violent act and even if murder was not intended as the result of an act of violence people can get inadvertently killed. However a violent outlook on life is but a short step away from a murderous outlook.

discrimination that is obvious.

Because even though you did what you did out of fear, you still did, and are therefore accountable for it.

yes it is. when your boyfriend is possessive, it means he will find a way to little by little shut you out from the real world until you find yourself all alone, with no friends and no one to turn to. if you are with someone who is possessive, get out now.

the most born at one birth is 9 , like twins triplets ,quadlets(i think that's how you pell) and octuplets...

If you are isolated in a relationship, you shouldn't be in it. You should try other relationships and other people - not all are the same!

Stretch.

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If it were me (and this is just me) i would either laugh it off or make a joke Dont let people like that get to you!!!!! I know how annoying it is to have rumors spread about you, I've had it happen to me. What I did, was ignore all of the people who mentioned it. Show people that you are not a horrid person by talking to them, and showing them the good side of you. If it gets too serious, then report it to an adult, and they'll be very sorry! Don't tell an adult unless they are making up something personal or rude about you. Try not to freak out, this will make the rumors seem even more true to some others.

The chances are extremely high that a woman who has been abused will by-pass good men and end up with another abusive man. I work for an Abused Women's Center and I really could never understand this behavior in women until I talked with many abused women (of all ages.) Then I began to understand: For years these women were brain washed and constantly controlled into believing they were nothing .. lower than a snake's belly. They were repeatedly told they were stupid, ugly, useless, couldn't cook (even though the food was cooked just fine) and everyone thought they were stupid and ugly. Many women were mentally abused, but some were savagely beaten and that was certainly a terrible sight to see. Most of us have talked about it, heard about it, but until you visit some poor woman in a hospital with her jaw broken, both eyes blackened, teeth missing, and broken limbs the message doesn't seem clear until you have experienced this. The first feelings I had was a rage where I wanted to take the man that did this and beat him with a baseball bat, but of course we have to let the legal system do something with these misfits (and not much is done I might add.) To my surprise over 89% of women go back to the abuser or find another abusive mate. Just like a sexually abused child they will always run to their abuser and not the person that is loving and good to them. These women also need to constantly please their abuser, but never succeed. I began to ask questions of these women and ask why. I wasn't condeming them, but trying to find the key to stopping them from making these same mistakes over and over again and fearful that one day it could all end with their own death. Several told me that they couldn't function out in the real world which they had been alienated from for so many years. They lived in fear, had few friends around (abusive men usually will keep his wife or girlfriend away from family or friends or threaten their mate with the beating of their lives if they say a word.) The constant mental abuse had taken their toll and they had a lack of confidence and truly believed all the things their abuser had said to them. Some go to court and some of these abusers do prison time, but it's not long enough and seldom does the abuser get psychological counseling to help straighten them out. Many of these women have children and it's difficult to start out with nothing, try to pick up on their education or get a job and then they have to worry about day care and on and on it goes. Many of these women were tired years ago from the constant abuse so have little energy to go forth in life. If a woman has the courage to go to a Women's Center there is all sorts of help. Their is Legal Counsel, care for their children, psychological help for both, a start to finding a job, and programs to boost these women's egos so they realize they are indeed very important in life and are survivors. We call it "Empowering!" We NEVER teach these women that all men are bad, but help them be more selective and not get into the same old patterns they have lived under for so many years. Some of these women make it and come back to volunteer because they are so grateful for having a good strong life and many have met good men and settled in to a peaceful and loving lifestyle with their new mate. It can be done! It takes courage. Any woman that takes this much abuse is a very strong woman and obviously a survivor so all she has to do is direct that strength in a more positive fashion so she can have a good life for her and her children if she has any. Women aren't sitting back any longer taking this or watching other women take it, and many of us fight in different ways to protect these women. Women get right up the noses of government to make the laws stricter so these so-called abusive men (I used the term "men" lightly here) get good hard time in prison. Believe it or not child abusers and men who beat women have a very rough time in prison by other inmates. So, if you or any friend you know is going through this get them to a Women's Shelter and they will help out a great deal. There is always hope! Marcy

That would be Heavenly! You could try to live in this seeming state of bliss and suffer through the boredom. This is not blissful and can cause as many problems as if a mate argues with another. Such people dislike confrontations (they could have come from a family background of arguers) and become "tone deaf" and let us not forget "wife deaf!" Arguing never solves anything, but it is a part of life and sometimes people just have to blow. It's important that after a couple argue they should go their separate ways for an hour or two to cool off and then come back and talk things over and it's called COMMUNICATION. Being in a relationship is about learning from each other. I am full of passion and can get a little hot-headed at times and my husband is laid-back (almost to a fault), but he learns from me to make a stand when something is wrong or unfair, and I have learned from him to think before I say something. Yes, after 34 years of marriage we have our arguments, but we have learned to stand back and cool off and then we sit down and discuss the problem like two adults. People who never seem to get mad, are extremely calm at all times are "controllers of themselves" and it's simply not healthy. They harbor too many feelings inside (they never express themselves) and this can cause diseases such as heart disease in especially men and some women. It may also lead to something more deadly in the future such as person exploding into a rage because of all the pressure and self control over their feeling in the past. We all need to find a way to deal with stress and arguing is not the way to go.

Yes, they do. Why wouldn't they? They still need to attract someone to abuse, if that is their desire. Even if they have someone to abuse, they may still flirt. Have a care not to think that men who flirt are abusers. They may or may not be. As regards men who flirt, only one thing is sure: they flirt. Want to know more about them? That's one of the things that flirting is. It's a lure to bring in someone for closer (mutual) inspection....

First the saying is

Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country.

If you wanted to change it to "hood", then you still have it absolutely backwards and from a selfish view. The correct way would be

Ask not what your hood can do for you, but what you can do for your hood.

his not worth it .................his wasting your time js try ur level best to move on!