Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

Positive attention is unavoidable. Just be yourself and enjoy yourself. But if you are attention for the wrong reason, you can help yourself by stepping down on such activities.

when your partner is in love with you, you believe he is the world and when you feel that you deserve him, then obviously you deserve the world.

Probably because you're finally realizing that what your abuser was doing was so manipulative and wrong- that they were basically using you as a rag doll. I've been out of my abusive relationship for a month and a few days now and I still feel that rage. Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.

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Because I am unsure of myself and have to try to force my ideas and opinions on others.

Dont really have a valid answer but my guess is - sometimes people do anything possible to bring the other person down to the level they are at as far as feelings are concerned. In other words, you hurt me so i am gonna hurt you back. I feel yuck so i will do something to make you feel terrible to. That type of thing.

People do things for different reasons, sometimes i try to remember - its the bully that's hurting the worse. Those are the people that are usually most disconnected within themselves. Those people make me sad - after i get over being mad of course! Just something to remember when you move on with life and must let go of things this person has done and is still doing. No matter what, love them anyway and move on with your life - it will all pass soon enough.

Sure she wasn't trying some sort of life saving procedure??

Well he should get that, if he hasn't it means he's insecure and afraid of loosing her or he likes being beaten up by her ( bondage) or its possible his mind mistakes bad things for good things...

Sometimes ppl don't realize what's happening to them until something really bad happens and at the rate she's going, he may just get it.

An argument that sometimes fools human reasoning, but is not logically valid.

Explain How a person acquire moral and ethical values?

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If you are the husband and you already knew about it, why didn't you confront her so she can explain herself to you. Confronting her is your best bet on telling her what you knew. Your situation is a bit similar to my story, but the only different is I didn't know what's going on for a while until I discovered his love affair. This man I marry do complain about the texting when it comes to a cell phone and I see his point until I saw his phone statement with lots of texting to this one number, and this is without calling her every single night without my knowledge till 3-4 in the morning. So if I were you I will talk to her..

It is always difficult for a step mother to discipline a step child, since the ineivtable complaint "you're not my real mother!" will be considered to render your efforts invalid. If the step daughter is hurting her father, that is something that the father should deal with. Your role would be to help your husband understand how to deal with his own daughter, rather than dealing with her yourself. Obviously he should not permit his daughter to hurt him, and should take any measures necessary to prevent that.

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you can tell after any dispute whether it be an argument or a physical fight.If at thee end you feel hurt,down,disrespected,or violated.you are in an abusive relationship

If he's in any way physically abusive, you move out and get a divorce. The sooner, the better. You cannot change him. If he's just annoyingly angry, you have a discussion with him( when he's not angry) about how it affects you and how it will affect your relationship. If he doesn't want to change, walk away. Therapy can help him with his behavior.

• Society does not accept a woman hitting a man, but, some people do not take it that seriously because the man is much stronger than the woman and can control the situation. Men being stronger can do far more damage to a woman if he chooses to hit her. However, laws are changing and if a woman hits a man with an object; bites; causes bodily injury then the police can be called in and she can be taken away in handcuffs. The boyfriend or husband has a right to press charges if he so chooses. It has only been the past six to eight years that society has realized that men can be physically abused from a partner. Men are generally brought up not to hit a woman and most don't so some women count on that fact and take full advantage of that. It is up to the male partner to stop this type of behavior and has the right to have her arrested (if very serious) or leaving her and few relatives or friends would blame him. Men shouldn't hit a woman and a woman shouldn't hit a man and that is how most of society sees it.

No she was never brought to justice by the law, she died of natural causes (heart related) in 1992 in and all 5 of her sons and her mother were the only attendees at her funeral, in which as i am led to understand to "make sure that it was over".

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Yess... that's they're way of expressing the hurt caused by the abuser in their time of rage. But to stay in this state is unhealthy. Allow them to vent, reassure your forgiveness and love and make happy memories.

There are several types of abuse...financial, physical, emotional/verbal and sexual. If someone stops ones movement, (example: hands on, or blocking one from leaving a room or residence). If someone uses someones money without consent and not for the benefit of the person the money belongs to. If someone yells, talks down to, or if someone does things or does NOT do things, because they are AFRAID of actions taken by that person than most likely their actions have become abusive already. Also I must add that sexual is abuse is more common than people realize, but if one is having relations because of fear of what might happen if they don't...or they are forced to participate against their will, this is abuse. If someone is harming a person physically, slapping, pushing, pinching, kicking, punching or grabbing, this is abuse.

If your experiencing any of these, than you are being abused, if you have asked for them to stop and they don't.

And if your a person, who is unable to stop controlling another person in any one of the above ways... your actions have already become abusive.

Man. While nature is potentially more powerful, it simply does. Man has the power of making conscious decisions on whether or not to hurt one another or whether or not to do things to hurt nature. Because it seems to be a priority of most people to hurt others, in whatever way, to get what they want (which is usually something stupid), people are definitely more cruel.

The illness is called "Münchhausen by proxy".