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Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
An abusive relationship is a relationship in which a person is victim to the use or threat of being physically or psychologically abused. Here you can ask questions about abusive relationships such as how to spot it, and how to get yourself or others help.
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How do Pakistanis treat women?
Obviously, in a country with 180 million people, the entire country will not treat women exactly the same way, but there are some general trends and most of them are negative. Crimes against women are quite common, including but not limited to:
Sexual Violence: Rape occurs quite often and Pakistanis often blame the rape victim for the rape, leading to public shame for the victim and mass underreporting. Women who fail to submit or call out their attackers may have their faces burned off using acid. Additionally, marital rape (when a husband wishes to have sex with his wife when she does not wish to and forces himself on her, is legal in Pakistan and cannot be challenged in court.
Trafficking: A number of Pakistani women are trafficked to the Gulf countries like UAE or Qatar to serve as prostitutes in those countries.
Bride Burning: In some parts of Pakistan, a man unhappy with the dowry he has received from his wife's family will douse his wife in kerosene and burn her to death.
Domestic Violence: Domestic violence is completely legal in Pakistan because of the Qisas and Diyat Ordinances. Domestic violence encompasses everything from beating to mutilation and chemical burns. Human rights groups estimate that 80% of Pakistani households have some form of domestic violence.
Clothing Requirements: In some parts of Pakistan that are more traditional or under Taliban control, women are required to wear the hijab and may be beaten or have acid thrown at them by the "Morality Police" for "immodest" dress.
Illiteracy and Failure to Hire: Women in Pakistan only comprise around 20% of the workforce and have only half the literacy figures as men.
However, on the flip side, women are not prohibited from seeking public office and there has even been a Woman Prime Minister of Pakistan, Benazir Bhutto. She was later assassinated in 2008.
What would happen if you slap someone on the face?
if the person you slap, your face will probably turn red. ( If you are a girl, then you probably stomp out of the room)
Do girls get upset if a man look at her breast .and what did she feel?
I'm a girl myself, and for most girls it sure feels disrespectful. Specialy if he just stares at them. Most girls won't tell you right away, but they can tell you are looking at them.
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I could never tell you what to do in this situation, but I will do my best to advise you. I do not know why were not supposed to discuss your relationship, but that already sets off a red flag. If you are in a healthy, happy relationship, you do not have a problem talking about it; and there is no reason to keep it a secret. I would go ahead and talk about it with your mom, or whoever you feel comfortable with. Let them know that this is something that you were not supposed to discuss, but you came to them anyway because of how important you feel this is. They will appreciate you coming to them, and they will listen to you.
You should never stop seeking knowledge about yourself. That's what life is all about. Learning and living.
Why do some men refuse to tell you it's over and just leave you hanging?
They are just playing games and sometimes are afraid to hurt you by the confrontation and at times hopes if they do nothing it will just magically go away - and most times it works for them somehow. Its not worth the effort to confront such a person or waste anymore of your time worry/wondering - move forward, you deserve better.
What is the difference between marriage and living together?
A marriage is a legal union between two persons.
A couple living together only is not legally married, some countries and states recognizes this situation as a common law marriage.
What is the number for domestic violence?
If you are asking for a phone number...
There is the National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
It's website, www.ndvh.org, has this to say:
"Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 170 languages through interpreter services. If you or someone you know is frightened about something in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224."
Yes.
9-26-104. Removal of disability of a minor.
(a) The circuit courts of this state or the respective judges thereof in vacation shall have the power to authorize any person who is a resident of the county and who has reached his or her sixteenth birthday to transact business in general and any particular business specified in like manner and with the same effect as if such act or thing were done by a person who had attained majority. Every act done by a person so authorized shall have the same force and effect in law and equity as if done by a person of full age.
(b) Letters testamentary, of administration, or of guardianship may be granted to any such person, if otherwise entitled by law to have or hold such fiduciary trust, with like effect as if granted to a person over the age of majority.
(c) The order of removal of disabilities may be made by the courts, or the respective judges thereof, in term time or in vacation.
(d) (1) The circuit courts of any county in which a nonresident minor of the State of Arkansas owns real estate, or any interest in real estate, shall have jurisdiction to remove the disabilities of minority of such minor where the person has reached sixteen (16) years of age, as to such real estate. This may be done to enable the minor to sell and convey the real estate, or any interest therein, which may be owned by the minor or to mortgage or otherwise dispose of the real estate, as fully and effectually as if the minor was of full age.
(2) The order of removal of disabilities may be made by the courts, or the respective judges thereof in term time or in vacation, and, if made in vacation, shall be entered at large upon the records of the court. (e) After the filing of a petition to remove the disability of a minor, the court shall fix a time and place for hearing the petition. At least twenty (20) days before the date of the hearing, notice of the filing of the petition and of the time and place of the hearing shall be given by the petitioner to any parent or legal guardian of the minor who has not joined in the petition. The notice shall be given in the same manner as is provided for summons under the Arkansas Rules of Civil Procedure.
Since humans are so complicated psychologically (we are all different) this is a tough question to answer. What can make one person fearful may not make another fearful. The obvious fear factors would be someone chasing, stalking or trying to harm you. Threats of murder, rape, abuse. Some people are afraid of heights, elevators, the dark and yes, even loneliness. Some people can be fearful dealing with a lengthy illness and most of us have some fear of dying by an illness. The long and short of it is, we all want to survive no matter what we may feel at this moment, so, if for any reason (even a gut feeling) we feel fearful then our survival instincts kick in. It has been said that there are no heroes (some heroes will even admit this) but survival instincts that kick in and also survival for your fellow man (saving someone's life.) These are called "adrenaline rushes." There are a low percentage of people that are "adrenaline junkies" and will risk life and limb to "get the rush." They consider it a rush to escape death over and over. Most of us try to play it safe and just want to get on with life and don't need these adrenaline rushes in our daily lives. Marcy
Why does he say hurtful things when fighting?
we do that just to get woman mad. Dont take it serious....
What percentage of men have hit a woman?
Your question is impossible to answer because men do not call a registry to report every time they hit a woman. Domestic abuse is a terrible social problem all over the world. The reality is that in many parts of the world it is not in violation of any civil or religious law.
My guess is that you are having trouble getting over him because you are in shock that he turned out to be a fraud and are hanging on to the good times. When these types of men are good they are so very very good. They know how to be the man of your dreams, to make you feel like they totally adore you and accept you as you are. The truth is they are extremely critical and intolerant of flaws, but just hide this character trait in the beginning. When we begin to see the flags, be it months or even a year later, we keep going back to the better times and wanting to believe that is really who he is. It's the worst kind of abuse because these men totally take advantage of our love without any regard for our feelings. As I'm sure you know, they have no empathy. I think you are still involved in that struggle between instinctively knowing you are better off without your ex, but still hoping he will change and it can work out. Who wants to believe they spent so much time with a man so selfish and incapable of love.
I now realize I have dated a few toxic narcissists, though it was the last long term relationship that set me back so. We dated 2.5 years and honestly it took me two years to move on. I now realize these types of men go for attractive women yes, but also those they see as vulnerable and insecure. You will begin to see your break up as a blessing once you build up your confidence and feel good about your life without a man in it.
Best of luck to you. New Answer- I too feel the same,i think is because the lack of empathy and how they totally cut you off with no consideration and no remorse and we just dont believe that a person can change and lose all their feelings for us so fast...Now i know why:is because those feelings werent real like we felt they have no idea what love is...
How do you avoid being killed by your husband?
If this is a valid concern, something that you feel is likely, you need to bail out immediately. If you are waiting for a good time to leave, you may end up a homicide. There is no "good time" to leave someone who may kill you except right now. If you have reason to believe that you may be killed, you need to report this to the police (along with your reasoning), and to any friends and family you trust. The word needs to be "on the street" immediately. Are there any incidents of violence or threats up to now? And if so, are there any reports on file or any witnesses? Collect this information and get it to some people you trust, and ASAP. == At the first psycho sign you get, dump him in public. If it's private he might kill you. also, if he is an abuser and says he will change, do not believe him. He won't. Dump him. Like now!!! It's over.
Your son is no longer a minor and yes, you can boot is arrogant little butt out of the house. I have a feeling he won't go peacefully, so, if not, call the police and have him removed! I know a couple of people that did this and in fact, one was my brother with his eldest son. His son was bossy, taking over the household and my brother was fearful of him because my brother is 5' 11" tall and his son is 6' 5" tall and out weighs my brother by 60 lbs. My brother and his wife asked their son to move and he refused, so they called the police, had him removed in handcuffs and a restraining order put against him. It's hard for a parent to do this, but a must as the parents should have control over their children and the children should never be verbally or physically abusive towards their parents if respect has been given that child. It took three months and I am happy to say that not only did their son come back and apologize, but he found his independence and is living in his own apartment and does come to visit and is much easier to get along with.
Let your son know you love him, but his behavior is unaccepted. It is possible your son could be doing drugs which can cause explosive temper tantrums and delusions of grandeur. It's time to cut him loose and let him be responsible for his own mistakes because that's how all of us had to learn in life. Hopefully he will get the picture. Let your son know when he has learned to respect himself, then he'll respect others and when and if he wants to come home he's to have respect within your home and until that time he is not welcomed back.
I know this is a difficult thing for a parent to do, but it's called 'tough love' and you don't put your foot down now he will only gain more power in your home and also ruin the lives of his other siblings not to mention making your life miserable.
Are some people just born abusive?
Current thinking is that abuse is learned behavior.
For the purpose of trying to understand misbehavior in the human gender doctors/scientistics would like to blame abusive behavior on "learned behavior" within the family fold. This does not explain the other 1/3 that have had no abuse in their family. Now scientists are looking at genetic mishaps in the human brain.
Certainly if one can be born with diabetes, lack of appendages, and other maladies of the body why not genetic problems of the brain. After all, our brain is like a large circuit board (sort of like on a main electrical circuit board in a building) and thus, at least one of these lines could be short circuiting.
For the most percentage of abusive people it is learned behavior, but now scientists feel they will, in the future be able to control this behavior in not only abusive minds, but criminal minds. Sounds wonderful, but could we be opening a Pandora's Box?
How long does canibbis stay in your system for?
The amount of time that weed can stay in your system will depend on how frequent you smoke it. It may last for a couple of days up to several months or years.
The term "British abuses" can refer to various historical instances, including colonial exploitation, human rights violations, and acts of repression in territories under British rule. Notable examples include the brutal suppression of the Mau Mau Uprising in Kenya, the Jallianwala Bagh massacre in India, and the exploitation of resources and labor in various colonies. These actions often involved violence, economic exploitation, and the imposition of foreign rule, leading to significant suffering and long-lasting impacts on the affected populations.
What does it say is a persons duty when faced with a ongoing abuse?
to tell someone as soon as possible. Notify authorities, do something to stop it.
Would an abusive man dump you just to punish you then want to get back together?
Yes. It's about control and an abuser takes all confidence away from the victim and makes the victim feel they have to count on their abuser to survive. He's playing mind games with you and these people are so mentally sick they actually enjoy the power you allow him to have by acting out in this behavior. The next time he leaves tell him not to let the door slam him on the butt on the way out. If you have to change your phone # or even move (easier said than done I know) get rid of this guy.
There are Abused Women's Centers all over and they can help you get your life back together and give you the tools to stay away from this guy and also not to pick another abuser.
you suck!!
Husband is innocent how can he fight against domestic voilence case?
he again said he did nothing wrong I made him mad and that gave him the write to tear my house apart
