Breakups

You tell us..do u still love him? i however don't think so..if u did u would have controlled yourself and acted like an adult. By cheating on him you proved that you have zero respect for him and that your either still in love with your ex (if that) or u want to have 2 much fun to be married to one man and be devoted

You might love your husband, but you don't respect him. Concern for the other person's happiness and well beign is an important element of love. How would you feel if your husband cheated on you?

What are the reasons that you decided to have an affair with an ex? You must have some dissatisfaction in your marriage.

Yes you can. There is different degrees of love. Obviously you are not getting all you need from your spouse. I understand completely why you turned to your ex. I too have done the same thing. Infact, I have been doing this for 2 years now.

I love my husband. He is the father of my children, a great provider, and so on. He is a great lover and so fort, but he lacks when it comes to being there emotionally for me. I get this from my ex.

My ex, I can talk to him about anything and everything. He can make me laugh like no one else. I can tell him my secrets, my dreams and my desires, and he wont make me feel bad. And we can make love like there is no tomorrow. He has a wife and kids, and I have a husband and kids. Neither one of us want to hurt anyone, so we continue this, hurting ourselves.

I love my ex and I love my husband. I get something from each one of them that I dont get from the other. I know this is wrong, but I dont want to hurt anyone for my own happiness. I know that doesnt make sense, but we plan on no one finding out. We dont want to hurt others.

Good luck

Look if you have to ask and you also committed adultery, I highly doubt it. What kind of love does that. We are all human and have wants and needs. If you need to be with your ex you should have not only had respect for yourself but for your spouse to tell them before the deed was done. If your relationship had been strong you would not strayed in the first place. Humans are creatures of habit and we form attachments to things in our life whether it be a person or an object and sometimes it is hard to leave things behind. Still there is no good excuse or reason for betraying the spouse and an heart felt apology is in order and you need to ask their feelings on how they want to proceed with the relationship and swallow what you created. This happens all the time, your not a horrible person just one that made a very poor decision. Life is too short to waste on the what if's and the we should have, make a clear path for yourself and stick to it, I promise there will be less strife in your life. Good luck.

Your feelings are you feelings and you are entitled to them. No one says that you have to stay in a marriage that you are not happy in. You must sit down and be totally honest with yourself before making a move you may regret. Write down what it is that is lacking in your marriage and see if you can and want to do something about it. If not then you be totally honest with your spouse and tell them how you feel before you act with the other. You file for a divorce and be fair about the distribution of things and move on with your life, if you think that's the best for you and everyone involved. I say it like that because if you realize after doing all this that the grass wasnt greener on the other side you may not be able to climb back over that hill.Think long and hard and come to a decision that you can live with, literally.

If your thinking it from the heart then its probably time

If your thinking it from the head maybe you should hold tight

Just my personal view, only you really know when its time for you to move on

some positive results were

*the new world was found

*new inventions

*route to asia was found strait from europe

bad results

*men lost

*waste of money

*explored wrong area

• Someone who interferes in someone else's life is called a 'meddler.'

Obviously.....

• You need to communicate with your girlfriend sternly that you do not appreciate her badmouthing you to her friends. In fact, tell her to move on as someone that loves you doesn't put you down to others. You can do much better than the girlfriend you have.

Turn and walk away and do not look back, people that hurt you over and over are selfserving, insensitive types who will only continue to hurt you. Rid yourself of the heartache and know that you can move on , life is too short to withstand all that misery.

You can ask her. If she hesitates or says no, then chances are she's not into you anymore.

* It depends why you broke up and if you broke up with her or she broke up with you. There is only one way to find out if she has any feelings for you and that's call her up; do not email her! See if she is dating anyone and if not ask if she would like to go out with you. If she refuses then you will know it's time to move on.

It means that the woman you dumped and treated badly finally realized that you are a jerk! She probably found a new man, one worthy of her attention. Chances are your penis is small, that's why you feel you need to treat women badly. Too bad for you! You think you are going to hear "because she still loves you and is in sheer misery and I want you all to know what a hot guy I am!" You're the type of jerk that really loves 'em and leaves 'em in a demoralizing way. Did you ever think for one minute that this girl could be so stressed out at the shoddy way you've treated her that it could end up badly such as possible suicide? Perhaps she has no one else to turn too and she misses you. Are you happy now? THE HEAD OF THE SNAKE ALWAYS TURNS AROUND AND BITES YOU ON THE BUTT! I hope you get yours real soon!

• Revenge is not good when it comes to trying to get back at someone you broke up with or another person that broke you and your mate up. Revenge is not sweet at all and if one seeks revenge they waste their energy; miss many things in life and can become dysfunctional and may end up with a nasty disposition of their view of others in general if they let revenge eat away at them. There is a saying here in Canada ... 'the head of the snake will bite you in the butt.' This means that if you do things that are nasty or wrong you will pay the price and as long as I've been around I've seen it happen often. Lie, cheat, steal, etc., and you will pay the price. When someone does you wrong turn away and let them hang themselves with their own rope because they always do.
  

no u shouldn't go with him ...if you were a true friend you would NEVER go out with Ur friends ex boyfriends ....even though she is over him.

Even if she has a new boyfriend it will hurt seeing you two together and if you really are her best friend, put her feelings before yours.

no you should not he is moving on you should to

You don't. Learn from that & move on.

You can apologize to her and ask for another chance. Explain to her that you made a mistake in leaving her and that you want her back. Don't smother her or try force her to forgive you - it's ultimately her decision. Depending on how badly it ended, she may or may not decide to give you a second chance. And in the event that she does take you back make sure to treat her right and take things at her own pace. Remember that things may not be perfect or like "how it used to be" since she may have to build up trust in you again.

Akira Says:

I think you should let things run there couse that might seem like a stupid thing to say but if he does do what you say then that proves that he was not right for you and you were not right for him and it might hurt to see him go but its for the best and if I have learnt anything then to just stay friends you should not say anything to him of the reason that he might not want to break up and you will make him feel untrusted so just wait and see soon you will have your awnser.

Usually it depends on the girl. Sometimes they only dump you because they have won the game and got the bait (you) or they are scared you are going to break up with them so they break up with you to be in control. After a while they usually learn see what they have lost, unless they think that you cheated or if you were a jerk to her. But that's my opinion (ps Im a girl)

understanding based on the context of the question itself, it means she's not interested... which includes anything intimate (we can't go to Rated PG details)...

anyway, i hope your relationships (past, present, future) will not be based mainly on how you enjoy the "it" thing...

None.

Unless you enjoy being abused and beaten, there is no potential. He will attack you sooner or later. He has the potential to kill you. If you read this and think : " Oh, no, he's so sweet and caring, etc etc", you are in for a bad surprise!

No one gets a five year sentence for "hitting a woman." It was a whole lot worse than that. (Not that hitting anyone is acceptable). More likely he inflicted serious injuries and is a repeated offender. The easiest way to predict future behavior is by looking at past behavior. I don't believe any type of abuser can be rehabilitated. Like wild animals, the potential to attack is always present. IMO, anyone who gets involved with one is "living on borrowed time."

Most abusers are serial, repeated offenders.

None at all. You may as well be the woman that he was incarcerated for hitting. My ex-boyfriend had assult charges pressed on him for punching his mom in the nose and breaking it. He was emotionally abuse towards me, and he would hit things (thankfully not me, though) when he was angry. The point is that if he hit one woman, there's a very good chance that he'll hit you, unless he willingly saught theropy and benefitted from it.

It depends on the choices you make during life.

Feelings are always going to be hurt in a break up, unfortunately. But you can take away some of the pain by not talking to them afterwards. That will only make the pain last longer.

no this saying means people dont change and that's not true

One month is not a long time to be going out with someone. People cannot fall in love instantly. Most need time to get to know a person, and let the relationship grow.

If you like each other be happy about that.

Stay with him and let your relationship grow naturally as it should.

The fact that he has been honest with you is a good sign.

Perhaps he doesn't let his feelings get carried away too quickly to avoid getting hurt in the future.

Have faith in the relationship.

If you are love with both girls then that's a problem. But really spend some time with both and whatever one you can feel like yourself with, then you know that's the one.

Wait a week or so, and if you still don't like the person start to hang out with other people but tell your "best friend" first, and if they continue to try and be your friend you just tell them to stop it in a calm and friendly voice. They'll understand.

Or you can just think of them as a friend not a best friend.

Or you could tell your friend that you don't like them anymore as a friend and that you need to move on.

The best thing to do is ask yourself "why" you don't want to be their best friend anymore. Becoming some one's best friend isn't a agreed thing, it just happens. You should figure out why it just isn't happening for you anymore. Is it something you can talk to your friend about?

Such as, has your friend started a habit where they tuck their hand in their pants? Or has started cussing a lot? The thing about best friends is that the smallest change can start a fight because best friends are like siblings who aren't related.

If it's not, then you should handle it like you would breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend, calmly and supportive.