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Look I dont mean to act like a parent but that guy is waaaayyyy to old for you, I know it may suck to break up with him, but a guy who is 28 should be dating some one in a closer age, as should you. Its technically illegal, but also, why waste your time dating some one who has already experienced some of the most wonderful times of your life, Im 20 and 28 seems too old for me. I reccamend not telling your mom and trying guys your own age or a few years older. this is so true it could turn itto something realy bad if you keep dating and it is prettymuch illegal break up with him and FAST!!!!!!

by hypnotising i thing By divorcing her, then seeing her on a regular basis. Otherwise she is still your wife.

Wow, does this sound familiar. You know, I too went through almost this same thing, only I waited until after my child was born to "tie the knot" and I was older when all this occurred. Every marriage is going to go through it's ups and downs, but one thing should remain the same: commitment. You made a vow, a promise to love, and honor your wife FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIVES when you got married. Believe me, somedays I wish I could throw all that out the window as well, but you shouldn't. Marriage is not just some legally binding tax deduction or a stronger way to say "I love you", it is a commitment to each other that when you need someone to lean on (like now for instance) your wife will be there for you, and vice versa of course. I would suggest that you carefully think about what attracted you to this 3rd wheel in the first place. For me it was the fact that she made me feel loved, and like I was this super special guy. Once you identify this "X factor" you need to avoid it from all possible future 3rd wheels. A good way of doing this would be to discuss things openly with your wife. She will probably get mad, upset, and hurt, but be a man and own up for your feelings before you do something stupid. After discussing your "X factor" with your wife, find out if it would be possible to have your wife incorporate it for you. With my example, if my wife treats me extra special once in a while, then I no longer feel like the grass is greener elsewhere. See what I mean. It would also help to think about what first attracted you to your wife and see if you can expand upon that. Something attracted you to her initially or else you wouldn't be in this situation. If your only attracted to her behind closed doors, it may be time to branch out and expand your knowlege of Who she is. My wife is a very "quarky" person, who enrages me to the point of exhaustion, but she more often than not is a beautiful person who cares for others first and herself, well, that's usually my job, lol. Seriously though, DO NOT CHEAT!!! Once you walk down that road there is NO TURNING BACK. The saying is true: Once a cheater, always a cheater. That doesn't mean that you will always cheat, but you will always have the mentality that you do when you did. You will always be paranoid and carry the guilt for a very long time. It will hurt both of you to the point where repair, may be impossible. This is all the advice I can offer. I am still in the same struggle you are my friend, but take heart that your fight is not alone, there are many other couragous men out there that have similar questions/struggles. The answer is always the same: You made a commitment before God the Father of all creation (if your a believer like me), stand and deliver upon that commitment! God Bless.

obtuse

Yes. My husband is Filipino, and I'm a latina. :) I love him more than anything.

Alone, grooming of the pubic region has no further meaning. Many men groom for cleanliness, or to make their organs appear larger. He also could be trying to do "something different" to spice up the bedroom life.

If you think your husband is cheating then there should be other indicators beyond simply grooming.

Answer: I think when a husband, or any guy for that matter, shaves his pubic hair, it's a sign that he wants to receive oral sex or more oral sex. It's a courtesy so she won't have to confront a face-full of pubic hair when doing oral sex on him

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Can you, I don't know what kind of law Tennessee has when it comes to adultery but you can ask a lawyer who specialize marriage or divorce and he can tell you about the do's and the don't. I hope this help.

No. Because they can never admit to being wrong or needing to change. They choose denial and will switch blame to another in order to avoid consequence. They prefer deceit and play it as a game. Deceit and betrayal are ways in which they can dominate and control another. They play like they are a god. Offering an impression of building you up or supporting you so they can deceive you into thinking they are on your side. Right with you..then tearing you down in order to feel they control you. They are toxic and dysfunctional and only bring falseness and chaos to those around them. They will try to tear you down and ruin you.

He's just not that into you

Are you saying you have his pass code to get in on his cell phone and you want to read his messages? Bad girlfriend.

then quite frankly don't! go out and do what make you happy, sooner or later your bound to find a great guy that will love you for you.

Dont get back with him, he will only mess you about again and again and you will be the fool to take him back. End it with him before he hurts you again x your better off without him

it depends if your doing something its just another way of saying hi and what are you doing in one word

• You already know the mistake you made ... some married men can have affairs and many will come up with an excuse they can't leave their wife and children. The truth is the married man wanted a fling with a single young woman. Whether married or not he has responsibilities to you and your child so get in touch with him and tell him he is responsible for your medical care and also child support. If he backs off then seek legal counsel (some lawyers will give you an half an hour to a hour of free advice) to be sure you do get the medical care for your unborn baby and child support. Don't feel sorry for this man as he used his wife and you!
  

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yes you can its okay to be dating a person a yet be attracted to another. but if you are also seeing the other person while dating one person it can be calssified as cheating but it all depends on your dating style and if your partner is aware of it. for instance if you two agreed that you both can see other people then its okay, but if you both didn't agree that seeing other people is okay then seeing other people is cheating.

Hi Thirdeye Thanks for giving out more personal information because it does help. I can see why you would be worried, but, if you have had a good marriage up until now, then you are going to have to do what the rest of us do .... trust your mate! Once our mates leave for work (that includes ourselves) then they are in full control of their own lives and we are just going to have to take th risk that they are honest and can handle these types of situations. There are always jerks out there that go after married women or ANY woman for that matter. Please give your wife some credit! When I worked with 8 other men most of the flirting was harmless and in good fun, but like anything else in life there is always some jerk that takes it further. No doubt this guy has a reputation, but it's HIS reputation that's rotten and he's the one that has disrespect from at least the female employees. This doesn't mean your wife can't handle herself and that she hasn't ignored his advances. Through the course of my life when guys hit on me I would turn it into a joke or ignore their advances and they'd soon get bored and move on to some other woman. I NEVER told my husband about this only because it was part of my daily life working with men and I knew I could handle myself. Think of it this way: What if your wife came home every day and said, "John, this guy keeps hitting on me and he won't leave me alone. He's a real jerk!" What would you do? You couldn't really go to her place of work and sock the guy in the nose (uncool) so you have to trust her in handling this. If your wife has been honest with you up until now in your marriage you have no reason to fear any man stealing her away from you. Most women are a lot smarter than you think. I would suggest that instead of accusing her say something like, "Look, I know guys can be jerks, so if you have any problems with him just feel free to talk it over with me." She always has the opportunity of slamming a sexual harassment charge against him to the Manager of the company she works with. In fact, ask her this question, "I'm curious to know with the reputation this jerk has why the female employees let him get away with what he does?" See what her response is. Marcy I found out guys were flirting with her at work from people she works with. I am not a verry jellous person and I do my best to give her the benefit of the doubt. but i asked her on 4 seperete occations and she told me no one had been flirting. my mother works with a guy whos wife works with my wife and they told my mother that they were flirting and tring to break up her marrage. and the guy that is doing this has apperently developed a reputation for doing this as a hobbie. I confronted my wife and told her I was going to be open and honest and I tld her what I herd and then after all that she told me yes that guy had been hitting on her. I feel that the dishonesty of it is what really hurts. what do you think? thirdeye

It is safer to have just one relationship at a time. People get jealous.

if he is prepared to leave her for you, that would sound great but when he meets someone else he will also be prepared to leave YOU! even if he says but i would never do that he probally said that to the last girl. never daten a guy who has a history of cheating the have one chance and onece it gone they can never get it back by a 13 year old who knows what she on about If he did it ot her.... He'll do it to you.. Besides that... How will you ever feel good about it knowing how you got. It's a double edge sword. If your already asking this question then you already know the answer. THE ANSWER IS YES''' if he will cheat with you he will cheat on you.PERIOD

Be careful of all of the opinions that you get here. Don't base your life on these peoples answers. Every situation is different. Every relationship is different.

You know in your heart if this person is in love with you. You know in your heart if this person is in love with his wife. You know in your heart if this person is planning to spend his life with you. Follow your own heart.


If you believe in the relationship, and you believe that he truly wants to leave his current relationship to spend a lifetime with you then go with your heart. If you believe that he is simply screwing around and just after you for sex or fun, then leave it. Bottom line is you know in your own heart what this relationship is. Follow that and not some people on the internet.


Many people in your situation end up living a long, happy and beautiful life together.

Yes it is wrong for you to cheat on your husband even though he has cheated on you. Two wrongs never make a right. Please don't lower yourself to his level. No one should stay in a relationship such as this, and once someone constantly cheats on you then you can never trust them again. It would be advisable for you to decide for yourself that you leave this person. If you are unsure of yourself please seek out psychologic advice to help you make your decision. Good luck Marcy Though very tempting, revenge is a never ending cycle. Let's say you do go and cheat on your husband and he finds out. he may just use it as a further excuse in his mind to continue cheating. For the lack of a better term, do the two of you continuously try to one up each other? He is wrong for cheating on you. As Marcy said, don't sink to his level. If he is, in your words "constantly" cheating. You do need to serious think about this relationship. I'm sure there are other details involved that you have not mentioned that would not qualify me or anyone else to tell you what to do. Take care of yourself and be strong. Best of Luck!

Michael

• Most married men who cheat love the idea of the excitement and pleasure they receive from their mistress, but in most cases it is short lived. Married men often lie to their mistress so you are not really sure what feelings he had for you. Generally married men never marry their mistress.

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As long as he didn't break any of your marriage vows I can't see why there would be a problem. The fact that he kept it from you is maybe because he thought you would over-react so he thought to possibly keep this information from you. If he had of slept with the girl in question then I'd say you had something to complain about, but since this doesn't seem to be the case, I'd let it go if I were you.

Any time something is keep from you by your spouse,there is reason for question. If nothing is going on he should have told you from the start that they were communicating in that fashion. I would ask him to distance himself from her if it makes you uncomfortable.

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I'm so sorry but it is, and maybe his already have deep feelings for this younger woman, like what the man I married..

• It is obvious that the husband is not happy in the marriage and has not been mature enough to communicate any problems to the wife so they can be worked on together. Obviously he feels guilty and is staying because his wife begged him too. The wife mustgather all the strength she can and sit down and discuss the marriage problems openly with her husband and see if together they can't perform damage control. If he is not willing to do so it's best to let him go as he will leave eventually because he is obviously not happy. Either that or he may end up having an affair if he is not already.
• either he will leave or she will leave him, they may both end up unhappy if they just stay in the situation if they cannot solve it, and cannot do anything about it, really

You should tell him to get lost.