Cheating

Actually, he is trying to excuse his seeing someone else by saying it is your fault. Time for yourself does not mean breaking your vows in any sense. If he wants the marriage to work, he could take up playing with the kids, home improvement or golf. You don't need to know where he is all the time, but he should want you to have an idea as to where he is and expected return. It is just manners that you share in the family.

You must be pretty, and get alot of attention when you go out. An outgoing person I would persume, and he does not like sharing the center of attention with you, although you don't try and get it, you just get it no matter what cause that is who you are. Some men are just really insecure and I am assuming you thretten him in some way. As to why he doesn't come home not sure but I have always found if you have to ask is he cheating you already know the answer.

If you cheated on your husband then that means you did not love him in the first place. If you truly loved him, you would not have cheated. So in the end, basically your actions are irreversible.

I want to get my husband password in his email so I can read about his cheating emails and divorce him.

Not all married man have one night stand. But for some they can only do it when they are in travel, like business or sometimes when they have a lay over in a different state or country...

Because you must believe in each other. Otherwise a relationship cannot stand.

Just because you have a dream that he is cheating on you does not mean that he is, however, it does mean that the thought of it is heavy on your mind. It is a miserable way of life to worry about such things. If he is cheating on you, eventually you will catch him, but if he isn't and you continually badger him with accusations it is going to cause huge problems as well. Believe in yourself, and life will be much better for you.

* Your husband will not admit cheating is wrong because you are enabling his behavior. You are still there! Cheating is disrespectful, selfish and cruel and you should gather up all your strength and let him know you've had enough of his cheating and kick his fanny out the door and file for divorce. Move on as there is someone out there that is better suited to your needs. Life is too short to waste.

I have an engagement ring and a wedding band, but my husband requested he didn't want a wedding band. Men can work in jobs where wearing rings can be dangerous (getting caught in machinery) and it doesn't mean he's cheating on you. He doesn't wear a band, and because of the work I have to do sometimes I only wear mine when going out. Means nothing! If he doesn't want to wear it don't make him, but, if you like yours then wear it and don't use it to try and make a point with him. I highly doubt it has anything to do with him cheating on you. MarcyMy husband has been a muscle car/stock car/collector car mechanic for over 30 years. He ALWAYS wears his wedding ring, course its just a small gold band. The only problem he ever had with it was little beads of welding flux stuck to it, and he buffed them off himself with his grinder/buffer at work. If MY husband didn't wear his wedding ring, EITHER WOULD I...............IF IT'S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE.............. My husband builds yachts and is around many acidic properties and fiberglass and his wedding ring wouldn't last a week under those conditions. He use to work in a saw mill years ago and it was a stipulation by management that no rings were to be worn after an employee got his ring caught in a piece of machinery and lost his finger. Some men don't like jewelry and my husband is one of them. He received a beautiful gold ring with a diamond in it from a yacht company he previously worked for and he never wears that either. The only thing he wears is his watch. I can deal with that. I don't always wear my wedding band or engagement ring either. Doing housework, gardening, etc., I like to keep my good rings in good shape. I also fear if I take my ring off before doing a chore I'll lose it again! LOL I think the person asking the question shouldn't make a big deal out of it and if she doesn't want to wear her ring either then don't. That simple. Some people believe if their husband doesn't wear a wedding band (means diddly anyway .... they can take it off at anytime) means they are cheating. That's not always true. My first husband was also a mechanic and drag raced on the weekends. He wore a wedding band and it never stopped him from cheating and that's why I divorced him. My second husband has never owned a wedding band and has never cheated on me (and I've never cheated on him.) Go figure!

Sounds like you have some personal insecurity about your husband's fidelity. This may be because he has cheated in the past, or it may be your own fears that have no foundation in fact. In either case you and him apparently have trust issues that you need to work out. Maybe a marraige counsellor could help you with resolving these issues.

Like what I wrote in my first one, yes it is. emotional affair is worst than anything else when our spouse have the affair. Emotional affair does not contain sex between the married man and the other person but you can be sure that they do fantasize it and talk to each others how it will feel if they can kiss or touch one another...

A pap smear does not detect chlamydia. A pap smear can not detect chlamydia, and a negative Pap smear does not indicate that you don't have chlamydia. So, yes, it's possible to have a Pap test for four years and not know you have chlamydia if your health care provider didn't do a specific test for chlamydia.

Did your health care provider actually test for chlamydia in the prior four years? First check with your health care provider, and then you can try to figure out how you might have contracted it, if in fact you had a negative test as soon as a year ago.

because he hanging aroud other girls instead of his wifey witch is you and he respose to spend time with you and if you find out he cheating go to his face and say it's over

No, it is not. Adultery is defined by the statutory law of most states, and does not involve purely "impure" thoughts of activities in which you would like to engage with someone other than your spouse.

It is important though, to analyze the feelings, analyze the relationship in which you are involved, and the repercussions of "acting on the feelings". Most frequently, you will conclude that the complexity of extricating yourself from a current relationship, unless physically or emotionally abusive, is not worth the seemingly "greener grass" that you perceive with the other person.

Well in Mayan society, the male would generally cut out his appendix and consume it in front of his wife. This would dispell any bad feelings.

maybe it's not you, she could have problems as well, the best thing to do is talk to her

Do the right thing. If she is wrong, have the courage to tell her so and explain with all your love why she is wrong, and if she is right, don't try to prove her wrong and thank her for showing you what's right.

Sure, if he values your friendship.

keep it to yourself, and forget about it.

This is a really hard one to figure out and you will not win no matter what you do and here is why:

If you sit down and tell your girlfriend her boyfriend is cheating on her she won't believe you. She will make up (denial) in her own mind that you are either interested in him or you're jealous.

If you say nothing and she will find out her boyfriend is cheating on her, then she will be angry with you for not saying anything.

Personally, I feel it's always the wise thing to be honest. If your girlfriend doesn't want to face facts, then she can't turn around and blame you.

Friendships and relationships are based on trust. Be honest with her, but please pick the right time and the right place to tell her.

Good luck.

Marcy

I think you need to tell your friend. it will be better to keep an honest friend like her than some cheaters. you need to tell her, if she doesn't believe you, then catch him cheating on video and show it to your friend. you know its the right thing to do. hope it goes well for you. Nick

Sounds to me you are his mistress, so you are no better than the other woman. What goes around comes around. This guy is a jerk, why get involved with him yourself and you are hardly in a position to run to his wife and tell her anything. You're more interested in the fact that you thought you were greater than his wife and snagged him and now you've found out you're just a knotch on his belt, but a word of advice ... these guys that cheat on their wives will cheat on their mistress'. I know, my ex did the same thing. I just sat back, pulled out the popcorn and enjoyed the show! Get rid of him and it's time you took a good hard look at yourself and started to change some of your philosophies in life and got your dignity back. Your motives in this case aren't as much concern for the wife, as they are a way for you to get revenge on her husband. The best thing for you to do is to keep out of their marriage--you have no idea what his wife knows or does not know, and she'll be curious as to how you know so much about her husband's doings. If you still feel compelled to tell her (I still wouldn't suggest it) send her an anonymous note or phone call.

It depends on where you meet them

That she is angry and you should consider why before being stupid.

He's not he's talking to you and have a wife at home. It's comfort he's bored but want to keep safe on familiar grounds. Let me get this straight. You're taking the word of someone who is lying to, and cheating on, his wife. ALL married men say they are "comfortable" with their wives. They also like to say things like, "she ignores me" or "she doesn't appreciate me" or "we never have sex." You have to also understand something. That passion that you first get when you meet someone is hard to sustain. Especially after 17 years. Passion may go but love is still there. That's not convenience. That's normal. f he were that miserable, he'd be divorced. In his plan for cheating, do you HONESTLY expect him to tell you he loves his wife and still has sex with her? No. He's trying to get something on the side and playing with your mind to get it. You're being used. And think of what you're doing to his wife. ~ T

First off I think it stinks when people cheat. Think how you would feel if your husband was chasing around with another woman. It would hurt! I have no idea what is wrong with people that cheat. If you don't love your spouse then get a separation and file for divorce and then you can see anyone you like. Sometimes people are confused and over-whelmed and meeting someone else can accidentally happen to some degree, but when you know things are getting serious or you want them to get serious it's time to be honest with your spouse. There are just no excuses! You'll never know what this man you are having the affair with truly feels for sure and my policy is ... if he'll cheat on his wife, he'll cheat on you and the same applies to you. The fact is, you are both still with your spouses. It can only come down to one thing .... you two want to have fun, fantasize about being together forever, loving "the chase" (convincing the other person you should have a more permanent relationship) and to hell with the good old comfy slipper of a mate sitting at home trusting in you. It sucks! I was married before and my husband not only cheated on me, but his mistress too. This happens a lot. Cheating isn't something anyone should have to put up with. It's self indulgent, based on ego, and a slap in the face to your mate, not to mention just being plain chicken --it! Also, by cheating it gives the cheater the confidence that if their affair doesn't work out they still have someone at home they can depend on. Nice eh? I know I sound harsh, but when my first husband cheated on me and I found out about it, but still wanted to give him another chance when he begged me for it, I felt like cheating and finding someone that would just love me for who I was, but I never did cheat. Instead I separated and filed for divorce and I moved on with little money, so I'm not buying into it when people say they can't afford to leave their mate. I still had my dignity in place and I do care how I act and what I think. Two wrongs don't make a right. Marcy He has feelings for you. He cares for you. I dont know how much he cares about you though. Obviously you are giving him something his wife isnt. And he is giving you something your husband isnt giving you. Maybe your time, your support, you love, I dont know. Does he tell you he loves you? Tells you there is a future for you? I just know Im in the same situation you are. The man Im involved with is my first love, I have become incontact with again after 22 years. He makes me laugh, I can tell him anything, I tell him my secrets, and we have made incredibe love. I want him in my life more than a daily phone call, but he cant, he wont. He wont hurt his kids. But we have something between us. Some call it wrong, and it probably is, but I cant let him go. I let him go 22 years ago and never stopped thinking of him or loving him. We fight some, not a lot, and at times I feel like its time to say goodbye, but in the end, neither one of us can say goodbye. We have a connection, a deep love, but wont hurt others to make ourselves happy. We are not out for self gratification. We are not out to hurt others. Will he leave his wife for you? Probably not. Most affairs dont turn into divorce and then marry the mistress. Are there children involved? Many times the cheating spouse wants both worlds. He is getting something from the wife and mistress, but he carries guilt and doesnt want to hurt the wife and children. Or maybe he is just bored and needs some excitement in his life. I dont know your circumstances. It maybe like mine, so involved that no one can truly understand how we feel. I didnt just meet him at work, at a bar, I met him years ago, my first love, my first, and because of circumstances out of our control we ended years ago. A painful past. No two sitations are the same. But emotional affairs are affairs. Affairs of the heart. And most emotional affairs turn physical. Good luck to you.

I have no idea why some young women are so desperate to have a man in their lives and would believe everything I heard off the lips of a guy such as this. Don't judge his ex because I have no doubt she could tell you a lot of unpleasant things about him. Don't believe everything you hear! This guy is a waste of skin! It's easy to give his version of what happened and he's not even a man when he'd cheat on the mother of his child and she could well have been pregnant and lost the child from the sheer stress of his selfish attitude. This guy jumps from woman to woman and when things get tough or he doesn't like the situation he just skips out on her and the child. Nice guy! He'll do the same with you and don't say you haven't been warned. With the way this guy operates I wouldn't throw water on him if he was on fire!