Cheating

You shouldn't lie then you wouldn't be in this mess!!!

Having an affair with a married man, leaves some kind of dirt on your conscience. Everyone knows it's wrong. No matter what the circumstances are. He is just married to someone else.

He loved or loves his wife, then there's you.

In the middle unfortunately.

You don't have to be responsible for letting the wife know of her husband's terrible mistakes, though unless you are quitting this affair with him.

Otherwise telling the wife about it just because you want to 'see' her hurt is unfortunately not spiritually or intellectually productive for your growth in this world.

If he confessed then I guess he loves you more than the other woman and thus ended it for your sake or maybe he doesn't want to pay alimoney. Either way since he broke your trust for 4 years, then its best you be a little carefull and I doubt he'll blame you for it. So hire a private detective Or bug him (as in put a tracing unit in his car or jacket) like in Veronica Mars:) but then you'll be constantly monitoring his movements (with no time to do the things you want to do). So either trust him and play the part of the loving wife who wouldn't question his loyalty or hire a private detective or you bug him. This is strictly my own opinion, but, I'd leave the relationship. Your husband had a 4-year relationship behind your back and I doubt he came clean with you on his own. Marriage is suppose to be about honesty, loyalty and trust and he's broken all those vows. Why waste time worrying and tracking down your husband; sit him down and tell him it's over and you at least want a separation. Perhaps that will give both of you time to think things over and if he doesn't realize he's in love with you then file for divorce. I was married before to a husband that cheated more than once and I filed for divorce immediately, but we owned no property together and there were no children involved.

It depends how bad the situation is with his wife. A man who wants to cheat can show lots of sign, but if you knew this man for a long time, your the only one that predict if he is cheating on you. I could give you all the sign and what to look for in a man if he is cheating, but it's you that can say if he is or not by his behavior and action..

Either kick him to the curb and realize that she doesn't need a cheating scumor if she really loves him. try to work things out and possibly see some type of counseling. May I assume that your husband is presently involved in an affair? May I also assume that your husband had a number of affairs? If this is the case, then I would suggest the following question to him: what is lacking in our relationship that makes you look outside of it for fulfillment? You need to talk, talk and talk more! If he tells you that you do not fulfill his sexual needs, ask him what those needs are. But be warned beforehand: some men feel that their sexual needs can only be fulfilled by new experimentation. If you're hooked to this kind of man, kiss him goodbye. All of us want to get a some personal fulfillment out of our relationships. Yet never forget that you are also entitled to get some of your needs fulfilled. So, talk to him and see what he has to say. Read more about 'mutuality' in relationships in Meyer's "Marriages, Shack-ups and Other Disasters." Also visit Kpopp's website for more information.

You don't say if you still are in love with him.Well anyway be honest with him.You both probably loved or still love each other.Don't you think if he means that much to you he deserves to know the truth.He might even suspect that you cheated on him and telling him lets him decide to move on with or without you.He will be hurt but I think he will be hurt more by lying to him.Someone said it's better not to know,but they've probably never been cheated on.And it's better to be honest.Marty

If you even have to ask that question it's kind of obvious that you don't love her! Spend more time with her and show her how much you care. if you don't feel comfortable with her any more you need to tell her how you feel. Communication is really important in a marriage.

If you are newlyweds you might have gotten married to fast. If it is a long term marriage you may be a bit bored. try to spice up your love life. It'll probably help a lot.

Hope I helped!

• It depends on the individual. Youth 'sows their wild oats' meaning they are free; young; energetic and the world is their oyster. So both young men and women can either be faithful at all times to a mate or some may just feel the need to 'sow their wild oats' while young. Both men and women that are older can over-come cheating, but both are generally set in their ways if they cheat more than once. A small percentage will learn that cheating never pays off and may have lost their mate for good and lost the respect of their children and therefore their next relationship the man or woman may never cheat again.

Just an observation about the post that mentioned at first they might go on about how much they do NOT like the other person. I have found this to be true. Often when someone is attracted to someone they can try and not like the person by trying to convince themselves and those around them just how undesriable they really are. You 'feel' it in your heart. But you KNOW it in your spirt. Ask him and look in his eyes, you know when he's lieing. I agree, we do 'feel' it...our 'gut feel' really works...we get this nagging feeling that something is not right, or unusual...you see this in his many actions. He would talk about an officemate...first he would criticize her, like how bad her hairdo is, how she looks and walks like a man or a horse, how very few friends she has in the office, how she could dare to go somewhere alone without her family...then later on he would appreciate her, like how good she did in her tasks, how fair her complexion is, how good a wife she is to her husband (yes, if she's married!), that despite the fact that he knew she kicks her daughter when she's angry and how impolite her children are!...later on you would catch some text messages between the two of them which are not like the types a boss would send to or receive from his employee. You would 'feel' that something so unofficial is going on between the two of them. You would listen to brief conversations on the phone and hear how sweetly he calls her name and how low his voice would be. He would keep his phone inside his pocket all the time, or with him inside the bathroom when he takes showers--when he used to just leave it around, now he keeps it! Then you would then hear from other people that the two of them are spending much time with each other in the office, oblivious to many people walking in and out or pass them. Change in lifestyle, yes, he becomes conscious of his looks and his clothes and you get to learn from the girl that they share the same health regimen..oh, it goes on and on and on...he may deny it and even fly in rage that you're "accusing" him of it...but what is in your heart?

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He is texting and calling her. Also, if he "goes out", he might be visiting her

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If your husband is dying to get back to his mistress, then ask him to sign the papers so that way he wouldn't hurt you anymore. Also you will not catch anything from him sexually. Not sure if you still love your husband, but if it was me, I will also help him pack his clothes and I will change my lock in the door so he can't get in anymore...

Any guy (no matter what his age) that impregnates a girl and then bails out on her isn't a man at all and has a wide yellow streak up his back. He may be shocked and worried about you being pregnant, but this is still no reason to cheat on you. If he can't stand by you now you can't force him to stand by you during your pregnancy or after the baby comes. He's a rat, so kick him to the curb and get full custody of your child if you can. Good luck hon. here's the thing ive been with my bf for over a year now and im 3 week and 3 days away from having his child but yesterday i found out he s cheating on me with another girl what do i do? i cant trust him but he said it meant nothing and when he was given a choice he choose me but i think it was just for the baby. and when i asked him what he did with her then he said kissed her, then he said he regrets it now but it didnt seem to bother him that he had really hurt me. he said she didnt mean anything to him but he was on about sleeping with her when he went up to hers but i found out the day before and he never went. i really dont know what do to cuz i still love him i just cant trust him once they cheat they can and will do it again its just a matter of time. what should i do plz if anyone can help. Hi hon I posted above you. Being pregnant makes your hormones go all over the place and now you are under stress. For now don't make any decisions on what you want to do, but try and focus on your baby. After you have had the baby and things calm down, then decide. Trust me when I tell you this guy is pure rat (not that I have anything against rats in the animal kingdom) but he's sneaky, playing head games with you and is the lowest form of male there is. Here you are pregnant with his baby and he's seeing another girl instead of being by your side when you have doubts, fears and wonder what is in the future for you. I have met many young single moms and they have done just fine. Later on they have met a wonderful guy and got married. So, your future is not over yet. Kick this guy to the curb after you have that baby and see if your parents can help you out or get assistance from the government. I can promise you that you will meet someone worthy of you and your child. Hang on! If you need further help or just need to ask questions feel free to post again. Good luck & God Bless

Answer Getting involved with a married woman can cause you a lot of problems. If her husband were to find out you could find yourself looking down the barrel of a gun or worse as some husbands don't take kindly to other men having affairs with their wives. You could really fall in love with this woman only to find out that she's been using you for sexual purposes and will never leave her husband. Be wise, while it may sound exciting to have another man's wife, how would you feel if it were your wife fooling around? Get your own girlfriend, unattached and have a happy life instead of having to look over your shoulder wondering if the married woman's husband has found out, and is out to get you.

Well this question is simple to answer. My wife had an affair after our twins were only a year old. She wasn't happy in our marriage and it happened. I truly loved this woman but the only way it could have worked was if she wanted it to. It takes both sides. It was a very difficult time for me. It still is. We are divorced now and not because I wanted it. It is possible but takes an extreme amount of effort from both sides. I wish I got that effort from her but I didn't.

My husband moved to Georgia, with the intention that I also would be moving there with him. I recently found out that he has a live in girlfriend. In the state of Wisconsin if that happened the women could be arrested for prostitution. Is the law the same in Georgia.

Yes. Unfortunately. There are also many men leaving pregnant wives or ones with newborns. Getting a man to marry you doesn't guarantee that he will be around forever.

First of all, you should be strong when they hear their boyfriend or husband cheated on them.

when you heard that a guy is cheating on you then you need to talk to him about it, because it may just be a bit of a misunderstanding and sometimes, all it takes is a simple one-on-one talk, then, you need give him a second chance because everyone deserves it and it also shows that you really trust him, and if he still cheats, then break up with him. You gave him a chance and he blew it, he also violated the very important foundation of every relationship to work---trust.

When a man is hiding such a thing it is because he knows you would not approve of it. Whether it may be because you are jealous if he talks to other women or whether he actually has something to hide you must confront him and tell him how this makes you feel. Unfortunately he will obviously see these women still due to work but if he takes your feelings into consideration he should not and will not hide talking to them. Depending on the situation as well if he is cheating you may have to make some decisions that are best for you (and if you have children).

Of course it is, there is never a good or justifiable reason to cheat. Its better to just get out of the relationship your in then to cheat on the person.

Usually is because of the wife actions. Lets say the guys wife gets off work at 8 and she gets home 10.if it happends many times a week. It means something is going on. Or the way she acts around and she didnt use to do before..

Yes. Obviously, physical cheating is sex and emotional cheating is like watching porn or fantasizing about someone other than you. A person can do both at the same time and both hurt just as bad. There is no way to determine which one hurts worse, it is different for everyone.

Emotional cheating seems to be the one that sticks around and causes future problems. If a spouse goes out and has sex mindlessly with someone after getting drunk, it is something a couple can work through because it wasn't like the spouse did this after months of pursuing the mistress.

I might add that most physical cheating starts with emotional cheating and usuall involves emotional cheating when comitted.