Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

there are many reasons why and recently iv'e had the same problem but ive come to realize that it is because he is afraid to lose you. he thinks that you might leave him for someone else better than him in general <3

People are not objects. You cannot "get them" out or into anything, let alone a relationship. You can help her/him acknowledge that s/he is the victim of abuse, offer unconditional support, and assist with practical details.

Oh honey, let me spill the tea for you. Tracey Thurman was a badass queen who survived domestic violence and took her ex-husband and the police department to court for failing to protect her. Her case led to the landmark Thurman v. City of Torrington decision, which held that police can be held liable for failing to protect individuals from harm. Tracey Thurman may have been through hell, but she came out on top like the fierce warrior she is.

start a relationship with god. go to church. speak with your family. get support. join a group. you need to know that you are not alone and that whatever problems you are having that make you start to feel violent there is help out there. just reach out to some one. you would be surprised at how much better you would feel with a healthy relationship for you to vent and get advice. god is always there for you and the great thing about him is he does not judge you or hold grudges. just find someone you can relate to and ask for help. remember the first step is admitting you have a problem.

Abusers are absolutely about control. They know every move they make and are basically artists at their trade. They know they can't control society around them so they prey on the weak such as parents, the elderly, spouses and children. A male abuser seldom has the guts to face a man one-on-one, but will induce injuries upon a defenseless woman or child. They also seem to know how to give "mental torture." Think of this: A victim of this abuser is use to either hearing cursing, yelling and they just can't please the abusive spouse no matter how hard they try. The victim may be beat up badly at times and suddenly .... silence! It's nerve-racking and the victim just never knows when the silence will end and the abuse will begin again. They are literally standing on a time bomb. An abuser is actually a very weak individual. They may have come from an abusive environment, but there are a few that are just plain mean to the bone for various reasons. There are some men (or women) that feel society hasn't given them the breaks they deserve and all their hopes and dreams of either being famous or having loads of money or even something such as losing their job escapes them and they blame everyone but themselves. Abusers seldom do well in their jobs because they are not mentally stable and have to be careful 100% of the time while at work as to how they SHOULD think and act. They are smart enough to know that the boss won't let him/her get away with their childish behavior in the workplace. This is actually harder on the abuser and by the time he/she gets home all hell breaks loose. Abusers know exactly what they are, but can't seem to grasp the idea of where to go for help. It's like a druggie or an alcoholic that first has to admit they are one, then go for the help. The abuser will blame others for the way they are and seldom seek professional help. Abusers can often grow tired of their spouse they are abusing and will leave to go onto their next victim. You would think this would be a blessing for the victim he left behind, but in fact, the victim misses the abuser because they were told how to act, think and had no control over their own lives. Now they feel deserted, don't know how to respond to the simplest of things out in society and have no idea of how to get a job so they can get back on their feet. They have had their self confidence and dignity ripped from them, and they feel ashamed. Little does the victim know that no one blames them for the trouble they are in and that there is a lot of help out there. In British Columbia the R.C.M.P. work closely with the Abused Women's Centers here and there is an Abuse Center in most American towns and obviously cities. If in doubt, just phone your local Mental Health and they will direct you to the proper help. Also little does the abuser know that he has not left a victim behind, but a very strong individual who has learned to survive through some of the worst scenarios a human should never have to go through. It takes counseling and time for the victim to see just how strong they have been and are going to remain. The abuser will never be happy in any relationship and is actually caught in his/her own web of violence and will lead a long and lonely life. What goes around comes around!

it changes daily life by the way they react, also it causes problems for that person.

If you have some good evidence and you know that his lying to you, approach him and tell him what you have. Ask him why he needs to lie.

there are many ways to stop physical abuse. Firstly, you must get away from the situation, any way possible. There is always help out there and many numbers to call. Do not be afraid that the person who is abusing you will come after you, if you call a hotline, someone will protect you. The police are the first people you should call if you need help immediately.

There is no need to make them paranoid. Children are at far greater risk of abuse from family, friends, and trusted authority figures than they are from strangers.

Simply explain to them that if something feels wrong, it quite likely is, and always to be wary of - and never to trust - those who say something like, "This is our secret." If anyone suggests that telling others about a "secret" will result in harm to you, your family, your pets, and so on, this is something you must immediately tell your parents or other trusted adults.

Good secrets are, for example, what we're getting Dad for his birthday. Bad secrets - which must never be kept secret - involve things which make you uncomfortable or frightened, whether on your own behalf or that of others.

Tell the children there is nothing they can't talk about, and that they'll never get into trouble for telling the truth, no matter how bad it might seem or whom it might involve.

Once children feel empowered to resist anything that feels bad and to report it, you've gone a long way towards making them abuse-proof, and encouraging them to help friends who might be at risk.

Just keep the conversation calm and casual; something you can discuss on shopping trips or over dinner. You could begin a conversation with, "We've got a secret," and go on to discuss a surprise gift for someone, and take it from there to bad secrets.

There is no need to make children scared of the possibility of abuse, or to go into details of your fears. Nervous and frightened children are more at risk of abuse than confident kids.

I am in sadness, in pain, I am in sad loss from you, I miss you, I can't stand being apart from you, I am depressed because you are not with me, there are MANY words- too many to list them all- to express that you miss someone.

She can apply at the local courthouse and see what happens. It is up to the judge.

speak to someone at the Children's aid society, or to the police, local hospital, and have the abuse documented. It all depends if she has sole custody or it's joint custody or even if the two of you are together. It is beneficial that if nothing can be done immediately that at least it's documented. Maybe threaten her that if it doesn;t stop you will go to the authorities. She needs help and it must stem from something in her past, that she would keep the cycle of abuse going. She may not want to be abusive but it's all she knows. She definitely needs councilling to reverse this behaviour, and learn some new techniques. Raising a child right is the hardest thing one will ever do. Kids really can try your patience and you constantly have to find new and creative ways to discipline them. I was hit and abused when I was a child and unfortunately that was common back then. When we know better, we (should) do better. In our city, we have a local Health Department that would be able to answer this question and steer someone in the best direction. If it's life threatening then go to the police immediately.

According to the Family Violence Prevention Fund, one in every three women worldwide are victims of sexual, physical, emotional, and other abuse during their lifetime. That adds up to about 1 billion abused women around the world every single year. http://www.stopvaw.org/Prevalence_of_Domestic_Violence.html

It all depends! If you mean to literally have sex, then it depends on self control. If you know the person well, like your bf/gf, then talk to them. If its someone you just met, then wait. Self control. That's all it takes.

It hurts when you love someone because when you truly and deeply care about someone with all your heart, you can't help but be worried about them all the time, and it hurts because you never want to lose them and you're afraid that you will, even if they assure you that you won't.

if your girlfriend is getting abusive. then just end the relationship; because once a person starts to be abusive towards their significant other than they are not going to stop. It may be because she likes the feeling of power that she gets from hitting you or that she comes from an angry backround. Either way it is best to just stay away from her until she stops being abusive.

unless the person is willing to and desiring to change or at least improve you must LEAVE, and to everyone: the sooner you end it the less severe poast-breakup blues will be. as soon as you notice he or she treats you bad, drop em. unfortunately for some people their partners dont show true colors until after marriage or after a long while. The best way to end this type of relationship is to leave. He/she will most likely never change. All you can be responsible for is your own happiness. Take control away from the abuser and take control of your own life! Get help from a trained professional if necessary. How does one end any relationship, abusive or not? By leaving the other party (in this case, the abuser). Lots of tips here: The verbally abusive partner is trying to control you with fear. Verbal abuse in many relationships is only the beginning and physical abuse will become part of the process also. The verbal abuse is supposed to weaken you by causing fear, shock, numbness, and making you keep busy doing things to keep the verbal abuse from happening. Your abuser becomes the object of an obsessive desire to 'stay safe' in the relationship. This can form a dependency where without this constant object of your thoughts and actions you feel lost. You can't stay but you can't leave either. Maybe tomorrow it will get better. Start by making a written list of the things that are said to verbally abuse you. That is a type of taking back control. Then write how you feel and where you feel it when you read the list. Then take the list to a good professional and begin the process of changing yourself in order to leave. Just end all contact.

In the United States, there is something called the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System, abbreviated NCANDS. In 2006, they estimated and reported 1530 child deaths from abuse. This is approximately two fatalities per 100,000 US children. But this is a difficult number to assess. Why? Although with more social censure for abusers along with mandatory reporting for hospital workers, teachers, etc, many cases are certainly still going unreported. As an aside, included in this statistic is not only violent deaths, which together make up a greater percentage of child fatality than the more obvious, slower and sometimes even sadder, neglect. Things have gotten better, true, but the war has surely still to be won.

the reason why people make fun of you because of they are jealous. the reason why you say something back because you be mad

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I am not sure what "meaningful" means - but many narcissists have long term relationships with their sources of supply (not necessarily with other narcissists).

When someone yells at you, or calls you names, or continuosly tells you how stupid you are, or anything like that. If someone is constantly yelling at you or putting you down it is emotionally abusive... They just don't PHYSICALLY abuse you. When someone is putting you down and making you feel bad or lonely or used and not uplifted by verbally downgrading you, keeping sex from you, keeping love from you, or physically hurting you. An emotionally abusive relationship sometimes can be called "abandonment while s/he's still there." Being ignored, put down, constantly corrected, not listened to, kept down in self-esteem so that you feel you cannot survive without your abuser. He takes your faith in your own ability and often makes you dependant on him for all needs. They keep you down so that you can't leave, which many of them are afraid of. I am a survivor of physical and emotional abuse, along with a lifetime of mother abandonment - a bare minimum of attention, while favorites took place in a family of 7 kids. Emotional abuse is the worst kind. I have survived many forms of abuse and the emotional abuse takes the longest to heal (years or decades) and does the most damage. Head games fall under this category too. They try to make you feel like you are crazy by telling lies or pretense in other ways. Or even by telling you that you didn't do or say something you know you did. They make you doubt your own stability in order to keep you, while punishing you for problems within themselves. Sometimes they aren't aware of these huge holes within themselves or the reality of their own cruelty. Telling them does no good in my experience. I have left many abusers, because no matter what you think you can do to "Fix it" you can't - and they are most often not willing to take part in improving the relationship. They need help. TLMaccalus

That is verbal abuse. When things are going good between you both, tell him that it hurt your feelings when he say these things. If he love you he would say that he would not do this.

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