I think that if you are seriously afraid for what he might do, then you need to tell an adult that can help you when you tell him that will give you a safe place to go. Second, I went through a similar situation only I was engaged and 20. My mom was NOT happy to say the least, but now, I can barely get her to give me my son back she loves him so much. It will be hard but nothing melts a heart like a granchild. You need to get your priorities straight and figure out how to set a good example for your child and teaching them to have sex when they are mature enough to handle a child is the best start. I say that because I am supporting myself and my child with the help of my husband without my parents help which is what you need to figure out how to do. Finishing school is the best thing you can do, even if you have to take help from your parents or another adult, just don't let them treat you like a wounded puppy. Work for your help and earn their respect.

You should start on birth control at least a few months before having sexual intercourse to be sure it has taken effect. See your gynecologist, and if you dont have one, get one.

I heard from a friend who started taking birth control that you need to take it about three months before you get married (or start having sex).

I would say a few month, except Depo-Provera. Depo-Provera works five minutes after you get the shot, so you're good to go. If you are getting married soon, you might want to consider using condoms for the first few weeks. Please ask your doctor if you are on the pill about how long you should wait. I was told to wait three weeks when I was on the pill.

I took the depo shot a few days after i got married, i didnt take any contraceptives in advance and used condoms for the first few days of my marriage. The depo worked great allright, 24 hours after i got the shot my doctor said i was good to go. If your wondering depo is a shot normally given every three months and is told to be 99% effective, during my 3 months i never took any extra precautions and i didnt get pregnant. Though it worked wonders, it also had its side effects, i had an increased appetite and gained at least 15 pounds and i lost my sexual drive. You really need to ask your doctor whats best for you, everyone's different. Also i have the pill now and was told it was safe after the first week of using it consistently, meaning everyday at the same time. Make sure if you use the pill to also use a condom with the pill within the first week or so to be on the safe side. So far so good.

Remember a pill is no good when not taken consistently and if you cant remember to do it everyday then your best bet is some other form of birth control.

I don't mean to offend, but it is fairly obvious none of the responding people have any medical sense. Combination pills, that is, birth control pills which have both estrogen and progestin analogues in them (i.e. Yasmin) are effective almost immediately. Combination pills when taken at ANY POINT in your menstrual cycle, are effective 7 days after starting them. If you take them within the first five days of your period, they are effective immediately. There is absolutely no reason to take the pill for months before having intercourse. More information can be found at: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/starting-pill-19264.htm

That is very risky. If you forget the pill a single day, the risk is probably fairly small; but anything above that will greatly increase your risk of an unwanted pregnancy.

Ok I have several questions: What do you guys do during the week nights? How long have you been together? Has he made an disparaging remarks regarding your appearance? Does he go out to the bars with the guys on the weekend? What did you both used to do on the weekend when you were not pregnant? i am not sure at this point if it is indicative of cheating or just rudeness since you are pregnant and are sitting home alone while he is out having fun...

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I can't tell you if he is or not, but what you're going through never happened to me when I was pregnant with my first one. It was me who don't want to leave the house then because I don't feel sexy anymore knowing my stomach, but my doctor told me that it's natural for a woman to feel that way because of our hormones. But for a husband to feel this way, it does gives you suspicion, but maybe you can talk to your husband. Tell him how he makes you feel, and ask him why. You don't deserve this from him. It supposed to be your happy moment, but his making it less that!