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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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By trying to get her attention you are not only letting yourself down, but losing your dignity. It's truly time to move on no matter how much it hurts. There were reasons why you two are still not together (either she fell out of love with you or you did something to hurt her) and that relationship should teach you some valuable lessons if you are willing to really look at the relationship honestly and openly. Get out and see friends! You never know who you could meet while you are out, but if you just hang around the house or sit in front of the TV, you'll never know. There are over 4 times more women in the world than men ... so what's your problem again? Good luck Marcy See other women.
Does time apart and breaking up mean the same thing?
Yes. In rare cases, it really is "time apart" but mostly the person who wants it is really looking to break up. They want to ease into it as if it will hurt less.
Unfortunately, it sounds like she's hoping to keep you on the back burner, in case she doesn't find someone else she'd prefer to date. She will keep contacting you (especially if you attempt to stop contact) and asking to be friends so that you keep hoping she'll change her mind and want to be with you. What's she's doing is selfish; this isn't the "wrong time" for a relationship in her mind, she just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. The more you try to be her friend and hang out with her, the harder it will be for you to see your relationship with her in the past and move on. Don't hate her, but back off from being her friend---stop contacting her and avoid her calls. The less contact you have between her and yourself, it will be easier to see what she's doing and you will notice your feelings are less intense about the whole situation.
To apologize is the easiest thing to do if you want to beat your feelings. People find it so hard to apologize because they are so selfish or insecure that they doesn't want to recognize their mistakes. They keep thinking what they do is correct and the opposite person should apologize first, while on the other hand, the opposite person also thinks what they do is correct and they keep waiting for you to apologize to them.
The only way to do this is to beat your selfish feelings and don't ever feel like a loser if you have to apologize first.
At least, they will appreciate your humble apology first.
If they don't accept your apology, I'm sure they missed an opportunity to learn about something valuable in life.
I totally Feel you. This happens to me all the time with my ex. I would remind yourself of how you are too good for him everytime he calls or texts. Or give him a good breakup ringtone that helps you (I recommend "picture to burn") but stay strong and know there is someone else out there
Yes this could be true. People are different and as such they have different characters. In the process of mingling it is possible to have recalled your uniqueness in character which resulted in his confession.
How many more days or months until your birthday on January 26?
- As of November 26, 2010 you have 4 day left in November; 31 days left in December and 26 days in January 2011 making a total of 61 days.
Why do some men refuse to tell you it's over and just leave you hanging?
They are just playing games and sometimes are afraid to hurt you by the confrontation and at times hopes if they do nothing it will just magically go away - and most times it works for them somehow. Its not worth the effort to confront such a person or waste anymore of your time worry/wondering - move forward, you deserve better.
How do you win her heart and her trust bck?
By always being truthful to her and not going behind her back with some other girl even if she does not know her. You should always tell your girl the truth even if she gets mad at you she will know she can trust you at least.Girls always love the truthful guys in her life.
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You will have a hard time for a while. And it depends how much you hurt her. Most women will have the anxiety of facing what happen. Our emotion is the one that help us go through to what ever is going on in front of us. And when it comes to solving a problem we look at two different ways, one will be emotion, and the other one is trust. When trust is been betrayed, the person who got hurt and it seems its your wife or girlfriend, will be more aware and careful to what they wanted.
Give her some space to breath, don't force her to tell you that she has forgiven you even she is not ready. What you need now is a lot of courage and patience if you really love her..
When you move without thinking about it. It is called a what?
I'm not sure but i think it is called an involuntary movement.
I believe the word you're looking for is spontaneous.
Revenge Tragedy is a technique used in plays. It involves the leading character avenging the death of a loved one. The most famous Revenge Tragedy is William Shakespeare's 'Hamlet'.
It's hard being a parent and watching your children in pain. Sadly, there is very little you can do for him. You might try keeping him busy. But that is only a distraction. Best of all, you might try talking to him about it. Remember back to when you were young. It will be awkward, but it will be worth it.
Some say that a 13 year old cannot fall in love. All that means is that those who say it didn't experience it. The pain of a lost love is no less real for a 13 year old as it is for a 30 year old. Let you son know this.
When you talk to him, don't fill him with empty platitudes.
- Time does not heal all wounds, it only provides distance.
- He will not get over her eventually. If he truly loved the girl, he will never get over her. She will just become less immediate.
- There may be other fish in the sea, but your son was not fishing, and the girl doesn't have gills. No one can replace that first love.
- Someone else may eventually come along, but as long as he is has her in his mind, he will not be ready to see the next one.
- He doe not need to forget her. He does need to remember her and what she did. He needs to look at it and understand it and why she did it. Not so he can grow to hate her, but so he can love her but know who she really is.
Fear of his mortality, immaturity, hormones... who can tell? It's a common enough story that it makes one wonder if it's an inherent behavior pattern among some of the lower forms of the human species.
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Your husband probably in love with his mistress. Or he is afraid to loose his mistress to another man. Married men usually pick the other woman esp. and this woman doesn't have much responsibilities like a wife have at home. And the worst scenario is he doesn't love his wife anymore.
My experience is a bit different from your's, my husband fell in love with his mistress and yes he protected her in front of me. But like an "old myth says" what comes around goes around.
How do you stop worrying about your ex being with another person after you break up?
If you are broken up, you need to forget about your ex and focus on yourself. Move on with your life.
* Moving on with your life is good advice. How do you do that? Some suggestions are to get into an exercise program, improve your diet and/or health habits, get involved in some hobbies, volunteer for a community service, and take some classes of interest. Not only are these activities good to help keep your mind off of what is troubling you, but also, you might meet new people. As a result, you may make new friends and maybe, even develop a new relationship.
Sure, he could be serious about it even though he is drunk, but you need to wait till he is sober to talk to him about it. Save all the messages (from you to him and from him to you) so that way he can't say he doesnt recall saying something. Your chances with it are 50% yes and 50% no. Talk to him about it when he is sober though, so you know he is being for real about everything and its not the chemicals messing with his mind.
Is it true that some women are scared to call there ex because he might not want to talk to her?
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Yes, that is sometimes very true.
if you feel that a person is with you because they came out of a relationship, and know that you'll say "yes", then you're a rebound
Should you wait for someone who wants to break up temporarily so they can sow their wild oats?
* No, of course you shouldn't just wait devotedly. However, if you're fine with a mutually sexually unfaithful relationship, then that's what you should suggest to him. After all, from an intellectual point of view, sexual fidelity doesn't make much sense anymore. (If precautions are taken.) Why should you mind if the one you love has some fun, and it doesn't hurt anyone in any way? (Unless you're coming short yourself.)
This works only if both are very liberal-minded and non possessive people.
On the other hand, sex with the one you love should always be more pleasant (though less exciting) than with some stranger.
So infidelity doesn't make any sense either, except for excitement.
* NO. Absolutely do NOT wait for him. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Also, do not give yourself to someone you haven't got a permanent hold on. If he cries for you to want him, but wants others to want him too, then too bad. He has to choose. If he can't, then choose for him. Leave, and find someone worth your time. A man who can be stolen away for any reason, is not worth taking back. * No, it's not realistic, and he has one heck of a gall expecting you to wait. Don't! Tell him you need to spread your wings and sow a few wild oats yourself! That will get him thinking! He's full of it; afraid of commitment and he should have never had a relationship with you or anyone else so quickly after leaving his ex. Unfortunately, the truth is, you filled a lonely need in him both spiritually and sexually. If he thinks that's love he'd better live a little more life. If he loves you, then he should be completely happy and be talking about a future with you. Please, don't hang around waiting for this guy and just take it as a lesson learned. We all have to learn lessons in this life. * Absolutely not! If he's very young then he has a right to do this, but if he's 28 or older he should have sown these oats already and he's playing games with you. "Sowing wild oats" is an old term so I think this fellow isn't so young. Don't fall for it! Tell him, "Go ahead and sow those oats, because that's what I intend on doing as well. We might as well get it over with, but I'm not making any promises of being here when you get back from sowing those oats!" Watch his face and the quick turn around. For some reason men think they have the corner market on what they want to do in a relationship ... they're in for one big surprise! * You should have broken up with him five seconds BEFORE this conversation ever took place! If you don't have the courage to do it alone, find a therapist to help you. Go to a CODA meeting. Call Dr. Laura. Or do all three. == == * If he just wants to go "do it" with other people, he obviously doesn't care for you. If you "wait" for him, you may be waiting forever; or, when he does get bored with other women and come back to you, it's only a matter of time before he gets bored with you and wants to leave you for other people again. For info on relationships, see www.StudiesOfLove.com
Women simply get tired of telling their boyfriend or husband over and over again what is wrong and it seems to fall on deaf ears. It appears from your post you weren't listening to her and now, you have simply worn out your welcome. It takes two to have a relationship and no one wants to babysit someone else. There could be a chance down the road for the both of you to get back together, but it's going to take sometime for you to grow up and if you don't understand what she didn't like about you then ask! I agree that friendship isn't the best way to go and it will only hurt you. I really don't understand why ex boyfriends/girlfriends (seems to be more the women that go this route) want to be friends. When you don't get along then both of you should simply move on. Try talking to her one more time and ask her what it is about you that wears her down and then tell her you will work on improving yourself. In order to do this you are going to have to really work at it, and you won't be going out on any dates with her. If you were meant to be together then you will be. Good luck Marcy
