Breakups

Fear of his mortality, immaturity, hormones... who can tell? It's a common enough story that it makes one wonder if it's an inherent behavior pattern among some of the lower forms of the human species.

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Your husband probably in love with his mistress. Or he is afraid to loose his mistress to another man. Married men usually pick the other woman esp. and this woman doesn't have much responsibilities like a wife have at home. And the worst scenario is he doesn't love his wife anymore.

My experience is a bit different from your's, my husband fell in love with his mistress and yes he protected her in front of me. But like an "old myth says" what comes around goes around.

If you are broken up, you need to forget about your ex and focus on yourself. Move on with your life.
* Moving on with your life is good advice. How do you do that? Some suggestions are to get into an exercise program, improve your diet and/or health habits, get involved in some hobbies, volunteer for a community service, and take some classes of interest. Not only are these activities good to help keep your mind off of what is troubling you, but also, you might meet new people. As a result, you may make new friends and maybe, even develop a new relationship.

Sure, he could be serious about it even though he is drunk, but you need to wait till he is sober to talk to him about it. Save all the messages (from you to him and from him to you) so that way he can't say he doesnt recall saying something. Your chances with it are 50% yes and 50% no. Talk to him about it when he is sober though, so you know he is being for real about everything and its not the chemicals messing with his mind.

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if you feel that a person is with you because they came out of a relationship, and know that you'll say "yes", then you're a rebound

* No, of course you shouldn't just wait devotedly. However, if you're fine with a mutually sexually unfaithful relationship, then that's what you should suggest to him. After all, from an intellectual point of view, sexual fidelity doesn't make much sense anymore. (If precautions are taken.) Why should you mind if the one you love has some fun, and it doesn't hurt anyone in any way? (Unless you're coming short yourself.)

This works only if both are very liberal-minded and non possessive people.

On the other hand, sex with the one you love should always be more pleasant (though less exciting) than with some stranger.

So infidelity doesn't make any sense either, except for excitement.

* NO. Absolutely do NOT wait for him. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Also, do not give yourself to someone you haven't got a permanent hold on. If he cries for you to want him, but wants others to want him too, then too bad. He has to choose. If he can't, then choose for him. Leave, and find someone worth your time. A man who can be stolen away for any reason, is not worth taking back. * No, it's not realistic, and he has one heck of a gall expecting you to wait. Don't! Tell him you need to spread your wings and sow a few wild oats yourself! That will get him thinking! He's full of it; afraid of commitment and he should have never had a relationship with you or anyone else so quickly after leaving his ex. Unfortunately, the truth is, you filled a lonely need in him both spiritually and sexually. If he thinks that's love he'd better live a little more life. If he loves you, then he should be completely happy and be talking about a future with you. Please, don't hang around waiting for this guy and just take it as a lesson learned. We all have to learn lessons in this life. * Absolutely not! If he's very young then he has a right to do this, but if he's 28 or older he should have sown these oats already and he's playing games with you. "Sowing wild oats" is an old term so I think this fellow isn't so young. Don't fall for it! Tell him, "Go ahead and sow those oats, because that's what I intend on doing as well. We might as well get it over with, but I'm not making any promises of being here when you get back from sowing those oats!" Watch his face and the quick turn around. For some reason men think they have the corner market on what they want to do in a relationship ... they're in for one big surprise! * You should have broken up with him five seconds BEFORE this conversation ever took place! If you don't have the courage to do it alone, find a therapist to help you. Go to a CODA meeting. Call Dr. Laura. Or do all three. == == * If he just wants to go "do it" with other people, he obviously doesn't care for you. If you "wait" for him, you may be waiting forever; or, when he does get bored with other women and come back to you, it's only a matter of time before he gets bored with you and wants to leave you for other people again. For info on relationships, see www.StudiesOfLove.com

Women simply get tired of telling their boyfriend or husband over and over again what is wrong and it seems to fall on deaf ears. It appears from your post you weren't listening to her and now, you have simply worn out your welcome. It takes two to have a relationship and no one wants to babysit someone else. There could be a chance down the road for the both of you to get back together, but it's going to take sometime for you to grow up and if you don't understand what she didn't like about you then ask! I agree that friendship isn't the best way to go and it will only hurt you. I really don't understand why ex boyfriends/girlfriends (seems to be more the women that go this route) want to be friends. When you don't get along then both of you should simply move on. Try talking to her one more time and ask her what it is about you that wears her down and then tell her you will work on improving yourself. In order to do this you are going to have to really work at it, and you won't be going out on any dates with her. If you were meant to be together then you will be. Good luck Marcy

Paranoia. It happens all the time. Little things are said that he doesn't even think about, but may hurt you or make you think. It usually happens when a girl overanalyzes a situation. Just sit back and enjoy the ride. Try not to start problems that have no root, but if something really seems to be wrong, ask him if everything's going okay with him, if something's wrong -- but don't push it.
There could be any number of reasons. I suppose you could look at your past experiences in this matter--has it happened before to you at this point in a relationship? Are you having any second thoughts regarding him that you don't want to consider? Finally, taking this lightly, is there anything he is doing that is causing you to worry (ie. not showing up, being late without reasonable excuse, lack of closeness)? If none of these are present, just enjoy the times you have with him, and let the relationship evolve. Breakups do happen, but not to relationships that progress through good and bad times alike.

Hi, not necessarily, he could be doing it to make you jealous. Question: How easy was it for you to find out that he was chatten up w/someone?
And if it is rebound; then remember the key word, "rebound" not very many rebound relationships last...Plus if he's hounden other chicks already, then whats stopping you? (Not chicks though.. ).
I have a saying... Salavee #%^&*@!
Movin on up! Good luck! Silverlighting

Yes, it is very possible. In fact, in most of the cases, the former boyfriend/girlfriend fails to not be attracted to their previous love interest. It is human nature. After an intimate relationship with someone, you cannot absolutely forget them, and at some level, still maintain that liking, but it doesn't make a difference and ceases to affect you the way it did at one point.

If your ex still likes/loves you then try to become friends again. If he/she's got a girl/boy friend then I guess that their is lots of girls in the world. But if you really badly want her then try to be there for him/her when they suffer from a break up.

Dump him baby, Maybe you get lucky and you meet me someday. That depends on what you want out of the relationship. If you are comfortable with a relationship that is not serious, then stay in it and enjoy it. If you want something else out of the relationship, then tell him and move on. There are nicer ways to end relationships than "dumping" someone. Perhaps it is possible for you to remain friends while you both move your separate ways. Good luck.

it is not concidered "cheating" if its just hanging out, but it is very wrong, and you should let your boyfriend/girlfriend know that you are doing that.

Well I Was In The Same Situation About 2 Weeks Ago And I Just Told Him I Like Him And After A Few Days Of Texting I Got Back With Him

Well tell him how much you've missed him and say that you want him back. if he wants you back he will say yes. It doesn't matter if you lost your virginity to him.

You don't need him. Your hormones are fooling you and making you think you need him because you love him. I don't see what's stopping you from asking him out, though. Either way, if it doesn't work out, there are other guys. I realize you just want him, but when you meet them, you'll want them.

There will be many times in your life when closure will not be given to you by another or certain circumstances in every day life and it is up to you to come to terms with it and deal with it the best you can. When the person who does the breaking up gives you no reason it does not necessarily mean you were the cause of the break up. Sometimes an individual can fall out of love with their partner and don't know why; some prefer dating more than one person; or others may feel they have met someone more suited to them. You have to stop blaming yourself and start getting out with friends and back into the dating scene again. Individual's lives can go down many strange paths in life and that's because they haven't gotten to the end of the right path yet to meet that special someone that should be in their lives. As much as your heart may ache this person was not meant for you because there is another waiting for you in the future and you will meet that special someone and will be happy once again.

My guess is that you are having trouble getting over him because you are in shock that he turned out to be a fraud and are hanging on to the good times. When these types of men are good they are so very very good. They know how to be the man of your dreams, to make you feel like they totally adore you and accept you as you are. The truth is they are extremely critical and intolerant of flaws, but just hide this character trait in the beginning. When we begin to see the flags, be it months or even a year later, we keep going back to the better times and wanting to believe that is really who he is. It's the worst kind of abuse because these men totally take advantage of our love without any regard for our feelings. As I'm sure you know, they have no empathy. I think you are still involved in that struggle between instinctively knowing you are better off without your ex, but still hoping he will change and it can work out. Who wants to believe they spent so much time with a man so selfish and incapable of love.

I now realize I have dated a few toxic narcissists, though it was the last long term relationship that set me back so. We dated 2.5 years and honestly it took me two years to move on. I now realize these types of men go for attractive women yes, but also those they see as vulnerable and insecure. You will begin to see your break up as a blessing once you build up your confidence and feel good about your life without a man in it.

Best of luck to you. New Answer- I too feel the same,i think is because the lack of empathy and how they totally cut you off with no consideration and no remorse and we just dont believe that a person can change and lose all their feelings for us so fast...Now i know why:is because those feelings werent real like we felt they have no idea what love is...

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If this is a valid concern, something that you feel is likely, you need to bail out immediately. If you are waiting for a good time to leave, you may end up a homicide. There is no "good time" to leave someone who may kill you except right now. If you have reason to believe that you may be killed, you need to report this to the police (along with your reasoning), and to any friends and family you trust. The word needs to be "on the street" immediately. Are there any incidents of violence or threats up to now? And if so, are there any reports on file or any witnesses? Collect this information and get it to some people you trust, and ASAP. == At the first psycho sign you get, dump him in public. If it's private he might kill you. also, if he is an abuser and says he will change, do not believe him. He won't. Dump him. Like now!!! It's over.

Why would you care? You dumped her! Don't let your ego get in the way ... you probably did her a favor. She doesn't respond to you because you hurt her and hopefully she gets the picture about you the first time around. Marcy She is probably worried that if she responds at all she will go the whole way and thump you.