Breakups

you may be able to payback someone but once they got something from you you can never get "even" since you already lost what you lost. The best thing to do at this point is say screw it and forget about it. Fix a tall one and kick back. trying to get even will only make you look unbecoming to him. be strong and cry all you want alone, but don't let him know the torturous pain he has caused. I was involved with a true N for 2 marriages, yes I gave it my all with the same N.twice. When he has called, I asked him why he calls me, and he says because you are so healthy emotionally. He has done enough damage to my heart to last a few lifetimes, but I always appeared strong. never called him. He was married once before I married him, and when that ended, his ex tried the revenge thing, and he never called her and says he can't stand her. He has said to me that he has such a tender place in his heart for me. He may not really mean it,but he said it, and there may be some respect there. Of course, not on my part. my ex N has no idea what I have been through because of his cruel actions. I will keep it that way. I have a saying on my fridge (when I get angry at someone and feel I want to get even) and it says "IF YOU CAN'T FORGIVE THE PERSON THEN THEY STILL CONTROL YOU!" That is so true! I live by this rule and simply move on. I know if I try to get even I'm scraping the same bottom of the barrel as they are in and I don't want to let myself down. These type of people hang themselves without anyone's help and here's another quote I have lived long enough to see come into action "THE HEAD OF THE SNAKE WILL TURN AROUND AND BITE YOU IN THE BUTT!" Meaning those who do dirt to others will get theirs 10 fold. Trust me, they do! I was married before to a cheater and physical/mental abuser and got out of my marriage after 3 1/2 years. I just wanted freedom and to get rid of him. Finally I accomplished it. I learned later from one of his brothers that although he had married one of his mistress' he never got over me and really wanted me back (I wouldn't have taken him back if he'd had thousand dollar bills pinned to his hide) and his brother talked him out of it simply because he didn't feel his brother deserved me and there was no hope my ex would ever really change. I got the satisfaction that indeed the head of the snake had bitten him on the butt! LOL Get busy! Get out there with friends and laugh like you've never laughed before. Live like you are going to die tomorrow and enjoy those around you. One day you will meet someone like I did that will love you with all of their heart and you'll know that feeling when it comes along. I've been married to my 2nd husband for 34 years and I wouldn't trade him for the world. Good luck! The best way to get back at them is to remove yourself from their lives! Then, they have to find another avenue to get their supply, and abusive needs satisfied. "Now, wasn't that easy?"

He's keeping you on a tight rein because he wants his cake and eat it too. He wants to see whom he pleases, yet wants to hang out with you so he know what you are up too at all times (involving who you see or date.) Tell him to take a hike! This guy isn't for you. If you allow this behavior you will never be free to meet the right type of guy for you.

teens hate their parents, so there are no advantages.

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it means that he doesn't consider that his house but yours or he doesn't like that house and perfires a different house

Katie Price was in a real bad mood all he time with Peter. Peter tried to explain everything to Katie but she wouldn't listern. Peter had really had enough so he split up with her.

Hope this explains everything to u!!

Only if he still has feelings for you otherwise he'll be just relieved.

Always with the jealousy tactics -- tsk tsk. Generally not a good idea to do that -- occasionally, it works, but they're your ex for a reason. Most likely, they'll either be irked that you moved on so quickly, relieved, or be jealous, but a lot of guys don't step back up to the plate just because they're jealous -- especially when it'll look to them like you moved on.

forget him and move on with your life or he will hurt you again

This has happen to me. I like you had my heart broken by my husband over two years ago. It hurt me mentally and emotionally and I didn't think I could get over it or ever trust him again. We had that face to face talk,I told him if he couldn't be honest and truthful about everything then there would be no use to even get started. He said he loved me and I told him I loved him so we had our long hours of talking. I still after all this time have a small problem with once in awhile thinking about how bad he hurt me but we've stayed married and it seems the marriage is stronger.

Yes it's possible. Sometimes we don't pick the correct mates to fit our lifestyle and that's important. Example: If you are ambitious and going after a career and your partner is happy being where they are, but not career orientated then you start to lose communication skills and don't have much in common as far as discussing things about your work. Sometimes people never 'stop to smell the flowers' and are so busy (bad to do) that they neglect their partner and lose track as to why they fell in love with them in the first place. It would be wise of you to take time out of your busy schedule and rethink how you feel. You can't be busy and resolve personal problems at the same time. Sit down with your partner and get their side of the story. If you feel you no longer love this person or they don't have the same ambitious qualities you do then you need to choose a partner that does.

• When you date someone and have a relationship and your boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with you then that makes them your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend. 'Ex' means the relationship is over. When a couple gets married and then divorced it because 'ex husband' or 'ex wife' meaning there is either a separation and divorce and that person is no longer in your life.
  

The real question is can you handle that kind of pain...do you want to feel like that for much longer. IT depends on how he breaks your heart if he cheats ....than no dont waste your time anymore with him. I look at it this way...look at all the good things in your relashinship and how much he makes you happy..than compare it to the bad in your relashinship and how he makes you feel awful...see which is more...if its mostly good..than fight for the good..if its bad than move on. If he cheats on you though and dousnt appritiate the good thing that he has than id suggest finding someone else who will appritiate and love you for who you are. Hope that helps!!!

He still wants to be friends with you.

• Yes, you made an excellent decision not to get back with your ex girlfriend. She is immature; cheated on you without remorse as to how much she hurt you and when she broke up with her boyfriend or he broke up with her she is basically left alone and is hoping you will be there to pick up the pieces. Be smart and lose contact with her and start dating other young women until you meet the right one that was meant for you.

Hi....i WOILD SAy THE FLAWS OF AN OUTGOiNG PERSON WOULD BE A MESSED UP STUCK UP ATTUIDE AND SOMEONE WHO IS DISRESPECTFUL AND iGONARANT

no guys want what they can't have

Question is: Is he interested in you?

Sometimes. If you aren't getting a typical male speciman. But that's very rare. Other than that, probably not.

Forget about punishing him. Leave him, for your own good - he shouldn't be relevant at all. If you've already left him and are looking for revenge, my suggestion is: let go...

If so it will be noted in the decree

Sometimes we can talk ourselves into something when we really want it. Really look at the situation and the reasons you are not together in the first place and then decide if it is worth putting your life on hold for - especially if it is something that may not happen.

Jealous (my definition): When one wants something someone else has, be it a job or a material possesion or even a person, and feels very envious towards that person and may even feel dislike towards them. Coveting something someone else has.

Return, reappear, reoccur, retreat.

If he wants you back that means he want to do sex

You don't have to be married to see a 'marriage counselor'. Trust is a very important thing in any relationship, therefore it is very important that you work on that aspect. If you truly love eachother, you shouldn't have any problems doing what it takes to be together, even if it is talking with a counselor. Make an appt. asap.

Prism ...it breaks up light into different colors.