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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
How do you tell your ex you still like them?
Listen carefully to their speech for a week or so to find the ideal thing they want to become and encourage them positively to achieve it without prompting.
They will know that you care about them from your behavior because you believe in their dreams.
That is a key principle in the art of seduction.
Good luck.
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You see me and this guy like each other but he doesn't want to date :(
so i decided to tell him I don't like him anymore
and we were really good friends but now he won't talk to me
and i still LOVE him.....YES PEOPLE-- I LIKE LOVE ETHAN PORTER!!
I sould try the answer above
but PLEASE put answers to the situation above
How do you make him leave his wife?
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How do you let someone go that loves you and you love them back but right now you want someone else?
Tell them how you feel. If you have to let them go, then do just that. Keep in touch though. Tell him or her that you will miss them. If your a guy, let a tear roll off your cheek so she knows you care. If your a girl, do the exact same. I hope I helped.
Much love - Kimberlay
What are signs that let you know that your ex girlfriend misses you?
good signs? Well if they always talk to you.... If they hang out with you like all the time still and if maybe their friend dares them to go hug you and they say sure! then that's probably a couple of good signs!
Why do you fall out of love with your husband?
you don't want to be around him anymore/ find joy around him , and you start to fall for another person.
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When you fail to practice loving him, you will inevitably fall out of love with your husband. You decide to be concerned with his welfare, build a life together with him, make love to him, be your best "you" with him. Enjoy all you can and ignore the small irritants. Make loving him a priority.
By the way; men get the same answer when they ask, "When do you know you are out of love with your wife?"
What makes a good relationship?
Trust d added: A good friendship is similar to a good marraige, it consists of shared giving and taking, trust, love, concern and companionship.
Giving and taking is a shared activity. One or the other should not give or take more than the other, this helps to build trust and good will towards each other.
Trust is important for any relationship in that without it one or the other will feel the hurt of a word not kept or a wrong done to them and when they feel this hurt they need to be able to go to the other person and discuss it objectively so that an undstanding can be reached. If an understanding cannot be reached the relationship will not survive and grow stronger. Love is a factor that comes with the concern and caring for another, when you love someone you share the concern for each others welfare. Caring is about knowing when you are needed by a friend and when your are not needed. Companionship cements the relationship by helping to create memories of time spent together. This is important because good memories and bad memories are what a person relies on to make choices for the continuation of a relationship.
If a man has a child with a woman can he take the child away from her if not married to her?
no you can't i dont think the child always stay with the mother unless you can go to court about it.
How do I get my son to break up with a girlfriend?
why? but i guess that isn't for me 2 answer.
if they love each other and it makes ur daughter happy why would u want to break them up? she will soon find out and that will make ur daughter and Ur relationship not nice.
but if he is hurting her in any way u should talk to her personally. if i was ur daughter i would want u 2 come up 2 me. she should trust u. point out y she should leave him make her umderstade family comes first. tell her how much this hurrts u to see her upset but its for the best. trust me i Know it will help as much as u think it wont.
ANSWER;
If you are the mother, I'd like to know why you wanted your daughter to break up with this boy. Do you know something that your daughter didn't know? I am a mother of 3 beautiful teenagers, and I had found out from a hard way that no matter how must we love our kids, we can't never protect them to everything they do. Our children needs to experience the hurt, the pain, the disappointment, and the crying thng. All we can do for them is be there and support them when they're loosing something in their life. Mother's responsabilites is to pick up the pieces of their heart. We can't just ask someone to do our dirty job so our children will stop. do think about it.
Why is your ex always so mean to you?
sometimes even though it's not right exs tend to be mean sometimes this means they like you still or are hurt because you broke up with them however it can also mean that they don't like you and they arn't a good person or who you thought they were.
my ex is sooo mean. we break up after a year and a half then he moves away. We have no contact for two hole months before he sends me a text one night. We talk all day everyday for over a year. we make these great plans about marraige and kids. then out of no where he starts being a jerk. cussing me then apologizing the next day. now we are not talking.
i have no idea why exs act like that but the best thing to do is remember you guys broke up for a reason. CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD! dont try to make them jealous (even tho it makes yourself feel great at the moment) just get away from him or her. Ignore them. dont post things on myspace or facebook that even relates to them. post something about your life! like "goin to the lake with friends, goin to have sooo much fun text me(:" cause if they see that they really dont matter to you anymore, that will hurt them more then anything.
What does it mean when you dream about kissing a dead ex-girlfriend?
This dream indicates that you remember the love and affection you had for this ex rather than the problems that led to your break-up. It does not mean that there is anything spooky going on; it only reflects your own emotions.
What to do if you have sleeping with a friends ex?
After my husband and I divorced the first time, we continue to have sexual relationship which led to our second marriage and boy was that the biggest mistake ever. What a lesson I learned, because I still loved my ex husband I did not have a problem with having sex with him because it WAS great. However, in the long run, I had to pay a serious price and if I could do it again, I would have NEVER slept with my ex.
How do you get someone you like to break up with their boyfriend or girlfriend?
Im just a kid but i say what you do is, send i wanna break up with you letters to the boy you like at the end of the school day every day. Don't forget that at the end of the letters when you write the from part, put the boys gf's name and if you keep it up he'll break up soon. If his gf is like, reeealy obnoxious and up herself help him to notice that. It's more honest than the one above. Also hint in that you like someone but don't tell him who it is. This can make him jelous and if he already likes you he is more likely to breakup with his gf to see if you are still free. Most of all be yourself!!! Crack a few jokes, if your in highschool ask if he wants to go get a coffe, hot chocolate, ANYTHING!!!!!!! after school. If he sais yes YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If no keep on trying
How do you know if the love is gone?
Love is gone when you try to treat each other with respect but nothing works. Sometimes when people are ready to move on they stay together for other reasons and all they seem to do is hurt each other. If you are trying to be kind but all you do is fight, maybe it is time for a serious talk about the future.
With clear focus one would be able to see, that love is something that doesn't leave you, its always there. Love is a survivor AND carries ON in triumph through IT ALL and has a way of righting you when you are wrong but always has your back, no matter what. If somone feels love is gone perhaps they should question if it was really ever there at all? TRUE LOVE TAKES TIME TO GROW.Tis like a garden in that you reap what you sow.
Love is gone when you no longer see any good in your partner; when you feel negative energy when in their presence; when the idea of intimacy with them revolts you; when being alone is a more attractive option for your happiness. If you can still see the good...work it out...nurture it.
If you ever find yourself asking this question, or asking 'Am I in Love?', then you aren't, but it isn't gone. It can't be. It just means you've grown a bit and realize that what you thought was love wasn't. When it is, you very suddenly know - you don't think, or wonder, or ask your friends what they think. It's an epiphany that you'll never doubt. If things go up, go down, shatter to a thousand pieces, build to a crushing pressure where you knowsomething has to give, and you still never wonder about this, then it's love. Everything else is just; comfort, shared experiences/goals, and good sex - or some mix of the three.
Is it hard to break up with your first boyfriend?
ALWAYS, the first cut is the deepest. (Metaphorically Speaking)
The first is always going to be the first and you probably have experienced a lot of first things with them.
Breaking up with someone is never an easy thing to do.
Of course the longer you are together, the harder it will be.
Should you wish an ex-boyfriend happy birthday?
Depending on how the relationship ended, wishing an ex-boyfriend a happy birthday can really go either way. Sending a SIMPLE "Happy Birthday! Hope you have a nice day." text message, quick e-mail or facebook post can be very mature and appropriate. However, long texts, e-mails, or even phone calls can send the wrong message and potentially put you in a bad light or an uncomfortable situation.
Is my ex over me when he is back with his ex?
It really shouldn't matter to you whether your ex will last with his ex that he went back to. Unless you still have feelings for him there should be no reason for this. I would suggest that you just continue on with your life and don't about what your ex is doing.
How do you break up with a guy without crushing him?
It's not possible to break up with someone and not hurt them. A teacher once explained that you are going to hurt people by breaking up with them and other people are going to hurt youby breaking up with you.
How can you get your belongings back from an ex boyfriend?
Assuming you have already asked "nicely", you can point out that you will have to change the locks, and the "ex" will be responsible for that cost. Still not returned? Change the locks.
If the changing of locks required a significant cost (say, over $100 dollars),
send the "ex" a bill and a demand for payment, via certified mail, return receipt requested. When demand is ignored, make second demand, including warning of collection fees and lawyer's fees, and court costs, if you have to pursue the money any further. You can figure out the rest...
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Can you love someone again after you fell out of love?
Yes, it is possible for a person to fall in love again, after a previous love. The real question to ask oneself is- "was it just infatuation?" Time heals all wounds, some just take longer than others.
AnswerI personally believe that if you truly love someone that it is highly unlikely you will fall in "true" love woth someone else. You may love someone else however it will never be the same. You always will still think about that person it will never fully go away. Your heart has "blown its load" and anybody else from that point on will only get a small piece of your heart. WHen you truly love someone and you end up with them than it WILL last if its not true love than the word is abused in a sense b/c its a DEEP fealing that I believe can only be acheived once in a lifetime...That's my personal opinion, and I have been through it so that's my experience. AnswerI don't feel it is easy to forget ones first love and love again...its more like a compromise as human being is a social animal and can't survive in isolation. But loving someone again with same enthu and same feelings and same freshness is almost impossible. Coz in true love one has given all him/her emotions and shared certain moments that it is really hard to feel the same again with someone else. It is more like a terror ....but has to be accepted as God has its own ways. Life is too strange and people come into your life in your youthful years with strange freshness and leave you all stale and messed up not to be used again . -(Answer];;-I Believe Yhu Could..IHave And Now im Truely Happy With Him..It Took Meh A While To Love Him..Because i Didnt Want To Get Hurt..But ITs Possible..Be Careful Though..*-Cookiee;;
What percentage of exes are still friends?
It depends on maturity of both. There is no fix percentage of becoming friend after break-up. If both willing to left the past as only memory and willing to accept new relationship status (friend), it shouldn't be a problem.
Break-up is a common things in life. And be open-minded will increase the percentage of becoming friend after a break-up.
Live by yourself and sometime break-up is a good sign of new living style. At least you can choose again or being chosen again.
Good luck!
- Love is about loving someone more than yourself and any good relationship is about making some serious decisions in order to be together. With most problems there is always an answer even though that answer may not be exactly what you or your partner felt it should be. However, if you truly love someone then sacrifices will have to be made throughout a lifetime and if you can't come to some agreement on this problem then it is better to part ways. Between the two of you someone is not telling the truth because if you love someone more than life itself both would be willing to make it work.
How can you be sure you have not been permanently damaged by a relationship with a narcissist?
You are not safe with a narcissist, so you need to make sure it is over. The longer you stay, the more likely your children will show the same behavior in their relationships. Going from verbal to physical abuse can be a close thing. You need a team to support you as you make the move; the most dangerous period is while you are planning to do this. Mind you, you may have to move to another city or state to escape.
Healing the relationship is difficult to impossible until the person gets real and has practice behaving. You cannot fix the person. For one thing, an abused person just does not have the expertise and emotional boundaries to make a difference. Also, It is very common for them to revert to bad habits upon returning to the person they abused in the past--even if a few years have passed and their behavior has been consistent.
A good book to understand the issue is The Verbally Abusive Relationship. It does have some hints to help; but you do need to be very honest about the depth of your issue. You also have to realize that you are not to blame in any way.
Based on the guide "Back from the Looking Glass" Living with the personality disorder that causes abuse.
I think that the advice to leave and have no contact is dangerous. This is a very good way to provoke someone to violence. If they have a home and children with you they will feel that they have nothing left to lose and as narcissistic people do tend to blow things out of proportion and have tantrums this can be very dangerous. I knew a woman who was murdered by her husband in front of her small children after leaving him and refusing contact.
If you want to heal your relationship our guide will help you to do that and we know many people who have had success with this. If you want to leave and never see the person who you believe is narcissistic and keep yourself safe and get closure well then I suggest that you do this;
Be very clingy and needy and agree with everything they say while being very boring and make sure that you give them no time to them self or space, keep apologising a lot for everything, and act very fake. After about a week or two of this they will decide to leave. Let them think it is their idea, act sad about it but don't fight them. After that (and you can do this while you are getting them to decide to leave too) complain a lot whenever you talk to them, tell them that you are sick and that the kids need braces and that the house has termites. They will quickly lose interest in you and then you are free. This way you will know that it is over, especially when you see them with someone else.
Based on the book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited":
"If the narcissist has the power to provoke emotions in you � you are still a Source of Supply to him ... If you are an old Source of Narcissistic Supply, first, get over the excitement of seeing him again. ... Then, simply ignore him. Don't bother to respond in any way to his offer to get together. If he talks to you � keep quiet, don't answer. If he calls you � listen politely and then say goodbye and hang up. Indifference is what the narcissist cannot stand. It indicates a lack of attention and interest that constitutes the kernel of negative NS."
Here is more input:
- No one is just a narcissist -- that N guy in your life is or was a person you cared about -- I think its best to admit that however difficult that might be -- you really loved someone, for a reason, you saw them as loveable and they were loveable, but they were human, imperfect and hurt you...maybe you invited the hurt in some way or let them hurt you, played the victim...sometimes we unconsciously arrange things so that we fail in our intimate relationships--because a relationship is work, thinking about someone else not ourselves--we want the good things the easy things about a relationship but when it becomes a challenge--of course, for some of us, maybe we cant live in anothers shadow, maybe we have to be ourselves, maybe we need a kind of solitariness--the problem with a romance sometimes I think is that we are swallowed up in it--I was swallowed up by someone for years, was ecstatic with him for years, but we were/are constantly in and out of it because you really cant live like that--I think that I was in love with love, still am, i think a lot of people look for romantic love--for the high--but then you have to work out the details and the devil is in the details.
- Tell them to "Grow Up" rather sternly! Then,walk out and don't look back.
- When you remove them completely from your life. No calls, no emails, absolutely no contact.
- Narcissists appear tough to the victim, but threaten them with someone else who might harm that physical beauty or ego and they just might move on to another conquest.
- You have the power to lock them out of your life. Do it.
- Ignore him completely. He will not bring any good into your life. All these types want is to destroy you. They are very calculating and will settle for nothing other than to see you with no integrity and self esteem. Do you want him back? If you are considering getting back with him just remember he will lead you down the same dead end roads. That's all they do.
- Narcissists do not have relationships or experience other people the same way that non-narcissists do. While it may be difficult for some to overcome the need to make excuses for the N. ("he's only human, just like you...") or to idealize the interaction ("you loved him, he loved you..."), the fact remains that the N. did not experience you or anyone else as a human being. To an N., other people exist only as objects that either can provide narcissistic supply or not; if not, they move on.
How do you do break up with your longterm boyfriend?
First of all you must be honest and upfront. None of the hiding behind cell phones and not returning his phone calls. Please don't even thing of texting and/or e-mailing your desire to break -up. Telling him "I just need my space for now" is a poor excuse which if he truly is in love with you will give reason for him to hang on. Secondly, if you are breaking up with him because you are interested in someone else or possibly already seeing someone else, you've already gone too far. The correct thing to do is end #1 relationship first.
So begin by telling him in person whatever your "truth" is. I need to end this relationship because"....." I am sorry for your pain".
And by the way, since you are ending the relationship with him do not attempt to soften the blow by saying "it's ok, we can still be friends". He doesn't need you as a friend right now. He needs to recover and regroup from the pain you are causing by the breakup.
Mommy Dearest
How do you know your ex boyfriend is trying to make you jealous with your friends?
That's easy. If he is constantly walking past you with his new girl and making eye contact with you and not his girl, then he's trying to make you jealous. If the new couple starts sitting by you and acting all cutesy, then yep hes making you jealous. And if out of the blue hes not spending as much time with his new girl as he is you then he probubly is more intersested in you. But usually he still wants to be friends if he sits next to you, unless his girl isn't with him most of the time when hes sitting next to you. That's different! Otherwise sorry he's not trying to make you jealous. If you have a question on something I forgot and yu wanna know if hes makin you jealous or not just send me a messege.
~*PeAcE*~
