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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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It's possible that he still has feelings for you but has chosen to pursue a relationship with someone else. However, it's important to establish clear boundaries and communication with him to ensure that you are not being strung along emotionally. Take care of your own emotions and well-being in this situation.
How to help someone get over an ex?
You're really a very good friend or possibly a prospect at a later date regarding a relationship with this person. Whatever, it's nice you care enough. Unfortunately, when there is a painful breakup it's much like grieving over the loss of a loved one that has died. In ways the ex that was in your friend's life has died. They no longer are part of them. It takes time and patience, but trust me when I say that in time they will get over it, meet someone else and all will be well again for them. Just hang in there and listen or take them out for a bit of fun. They may sit there looking sad and disinterested for awhile, but eventually they will come around and be their old self again.
It's normal to feel regret after ending a relationship. Take time to reflect on why you feel this way and consider if there's a chance to communicate your feelings with the other person. Remember to focus on self-growth and learn from the experience regardless of the outcome.
Why would your boyfriend suddenly move out to be on his own?
Constantly arguing or a clingy partner can frustrate the other partner enough so that they leave. The partner may also want to have their freedom back (especially when younger) and explore the world more to give themselves a chance to know what they want to do in life and what they want out of life. It is certainly evident that neither of you bothered to communicate in your relationship and this could have been the straw that broke the camel's back.
How can you make your wife leave?
I do not mean to be abusive with you, but frankly it sounds like you are being abusive with her. Get a grip and tell her the marriage is over, and then you leave. If you don't want her with you, you have to ask yourself why you are still there.
Sticking at home isn't a good way to meet someone. I never personally dated guys I met in bars, so it sort of makes things tough. You could volunteer for something in your age bracket as many people meet while volunteering. Be patient and don't be in such a rush. Going through a break-up is also a learning experience as to what we want and don't want in a relationship. I married at 22 years of age and my ex was abusive and eventually became physically abusive and I left three and a half years later, divorced him and never looked back. I dated, but just off and on and found it more rewarding going out with my female/male friends more times than not. I was eventually introduced to my second husband by one of my good male friends. We've been married 35 years. Here is something I heard, typed out and put on my fridge: Forgive the person that hurt you because if you don't they still control you! No one is worth ruining your life over. Get angry! Realize that the other person has moved on and it's time you did too. Do you go to school? Well, if you do you can over-hear some guys talking to each other, and usually you'll hear them talking about there phone numbers or coming over. That's exactly what I did and I got a boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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How do you show a girl that the relationship is worth is all the pain and tears?
I am in this right now i can't trust my boyfriend cause he is a real big flirt but he does every thing to keep our relation ship together cause he supposely loves me so much but we have been friends for 2 years and dating for a month on sat. but any ways if you could do what ever is causeing the pain as in if you cheat and say your not going to do it again don't actually spend more time with her do something romantic some time tell her that you love her... hold her and and kiss her and tell her you love her in front of familey and friends cause most girls think that their boyfriends don't love them when they ignor them in front of their other guy friends it makes us feel like we are just something for you to go to instead of an person you supposely want to be with for a while.
I need not tell you that narcissists are chameleons and can charm the devil himself if they want too, yet turn around to their spouse and be brutal and cruel. Narcissists are selfish, egotistical, controlling to a point of mind-games and it can even turn into physical abusers. YOU have been mentally abused and you've been walking on egg shells for years. It's normal to have the feelings you do. No matter whether you ex husband was narcissistic you had some good times at the beginning and therefore good memories. You may have had children together and that is a bond no one understands, but it's there. You are in the "blame mode" and that's normal. You wonder how things could have changed so drastically and it had to have been your fault! Not true! You should get a medal for putting up with this guy and it's a wonder you lasted this long. Thank him from the bottom of your heart (just literally) that he insisted you split-up ... he did you a favor! You have invested a great portion of your life in this man and sometimes good relationships turn sour. I was married to an abusive/physically and cheating man for 3 1/2 years. The sad part about it is I saw these traits in him before we got married, but being young I really thought I was "the one" and I could change him. Let me tell you, that was the best lesson I ever learned! I finally got the courage up to leave him. I found an apartment (never lived on my own before), decided to stop seeing the friends my ex and I had chummed with, made new friends and got a new job. I must admit it was tough for awhile and I would cry myself to sleep many nights. I felt like an old rag that had just been thrown into a garbage can and I wondered what was wrong with me???? Later I wondered where my brain cells were! LOL After going through all that I realized that those feelings I had were like losing a loved one to death and indeed I was mourning a death ... the death of a marriage. In time I stopped blaming myself and realized that we don't have control over others and we can't change people if they don't want to change. It isn't always our faults, although in society we are often led to believe part of it had to be our fault. Not true! What you are going through is very normal and try going with the flow. When it gets you down, get busy! Throw yourself into work, meet new friends and try to have a little fun. You are worth something! Go get a new hairstyle and buy a few new clothes just to make yourself feel better. Get a new outlook on life. Give yourself a chance to know who you are, what your strengths and weakness' are and I can tell you, you'll be pleasantly surprised. You got along just fine before you met your ex and you can do it again! Good luck & God Bless
If you are talking about things she's telling you she did with her boyfriend then that's crass and tell her to knock it off. What we leave behind in our past as far as other relationships is in the past and should be left there. Smart people don't gossip about past lovers. It's really no ones business. If you are talking about finding tapes made of the two of them having sex then this would be a shocker, but still, it's personal and that was then and this is now. When some couples are in love they may find it kinky to tape themselves and watch it later, but it's not too smart to do this because if you split-up then you have that tape floating around out there some place and it can often get into the hands of a sleazy porn agent, or worse yet and most popular pasted all over a website. If you find sexual devices such a dildos or other sexual paraphernalia this too is not uncommon. If you don't care for this type of sex then you have every right to communicate with your girlfriend and tell her what you expect in a sexual relationship. We all march to the beat of a different drummer. In other words, don't do things you wouldn't feel comfortable with. As a couple living together you have a right to discuss this if you have found out something that is really bothering you. If you just feel uncomfortable or jealous, then be smart and leave all of this in the past. She's with you, not her ex. Good luck Marcy Well, if the things you're talking about happened before you were together with her, then it's really her business. If you're implying that the events happened in the past but while you and she were together, then you first need to be absolutely sure they did, in fact, happen. Then you have to decide whether you're going to live with it or confront her to try to work things out. It is water under the bridge. If she lied to you and told you she was a virgin or whatever, then that is a different issue. It is her lie that you should confront her about. The past is over, she did it before you and her were together, you should not fault her for it. It's inevitable that you'll find out some things about your girl once you've spent a little while together. If she's started mentioning things she got up to with past boyfriends, it's a sign worth taking note of. It can mean two very different things, both quite important.
If she's telling you this stuff for no real reason, bringing it up on purpose, comparing you to a previous boyfriend or something like that, then it's probably something you should talk to her about. It tends to mean the stuff she's talking about is stuff she likes that you don't do (or don't do properly) or that she's trying to make you jealous. If she is trying to make you jealous, that's not always a bad thing - often it's just a test, to see how strongly you feel.
On the other hand, it might be that the stories come up in the course of a conversation, in which case it's a fairly good sign that she's telling you, because it means she's confident that it won't scare you off, which means she's comfortable with you. If this is the case, then part of her reasoning might be to try to get you to do the stuff she's talking about, or to try to beat it. Only go for this if you're ok with it - after all, you don't want to be getting intimate when all you can think is 'she did this with that other guy'.
Generally though, it's no great worry. Living with a girl, you're going to discover all sorts about her past. Tell her if it makes you jealous - she'll like that, because it shows you care, and she'll most probably do her best to avoid talking about it, and/or reassure you about it. Listen for hints about stuff she likes - see if there's anything she likes that you haven't tried yet. A word of warning, though - if you're going to try something that she did with an ex, mention it to her first. If she said she liked it when she did it with an ex, but hasn't tried it with you, it's likely there's a reason, like a particular memory she would rather forget, or the fact that she just associates it strongly with a certain person. You don't want to be suddenly reminding her of her past when you're trying to get intimate.
Overall, remember that the stuff she's talking about is past-tense. She did do those things when she was with another guy, but she's not with that guy any more - she's with you, and there's a reason for that. == ==
How do you work things out with someone who has hurt you?
The shortest answer would be - Open Honest Communication!
Both people involved should be interested enough in the relationship to take this seriously. No distractions, just two people laying their cards on the table.
First, though, it would likely be necessary for you to explain that your feelings are hurt in a way which does not cause a negative reaction. If your sentances begin with 'I Feel...' Then you are on the right track!
If the person who hurt you doesn't seem to CARE, then you should probably ask yourself if the relationship is worth it.
Be an adult about it and honestly seek to obtain a very healthy and emotionally mature form of communication. That's the key.
A simple rule I have started to follow is "Always know where you stand with everyone, and make sure everyone knows where you stand with them". So you will need to make you feelings known to this person. Put your thoughts on paper and evaluate your feelings over a few days or weeks and keep writing what you feel.The danger of the other person not caring what you have to say is a terrible possibility, but again one you will have to face it , just so you know. It is not necessary to always be on good terms with everyone for the rest of your life.It is very important to surround yourself with people who truly love you and care about you. People who have hurt you and have the potential to hurt you again, will only bring you down. You need eagles flying with you.Look for eagles.
How to live if there is nothing else left for what to live?
Go crazy, annoy people, tell jokes, make friends, and just go nuts
Contact your local mental health hotline and ask to talk to someone. Trained counselors can help you through this period of time in your life. It will not cost you any money.
What does it mean when you think about someone randomly?
Thinking about someone randomly could be a sign of a strong emotional connection with them or it could be your brain processing memories or emotions associated with that person. It's common to think about people we care about, even without a specific trigger.
How do get over someone you have loved for three years straight?
You could do therapy. I hope I helped!
Nice answer. but maybe, just maybe, this is a serious, and challenging question. Personally, there is no set answer, easy or hard. You loved them, and you are obviously hurt. I think it all depends how long you have been apart, along with a few other questions. Relax. Why did you break up, and is it truly for the better? It can be a hard question to ask yourself, but it might help. Also try to recognise the things that you didn't like about the other person, and try to find someone to talk to. A good support might help you. Also, think of ways to stop the possibilities of this happening again. But remember, don't live your life on those grounds. Try to get this person out of your mind and heart, and try not to judge others on their behalf.
* Whether it's a woman or man doing the crying it is nota sign of weakness. Some people cry when angry; hurt or have lost a loved one. Crying for every human is a good thing as it relieves tension and cleanses the eyes and that's what tear ducts are for. Men in particular have sometimes been brought up that 'men don't cry,' but those rules have changed in modern times and many people believe that a man who has never cried isn't a total man. It shows that a man has compassion and is secure in themselves and know if they cry they are still strong men. To cry constantly over every little thing is not healthy and it could mean the person is depressed or stress out.
How are melancholics similar to cholerics?
Melancholics and cholerics are similar in their strong-willed nature and tendency towards being goal-oriented and ambitious. Both personality types can also exhibit high levels of productivity and are often driven by a need for achievement and success.
What are things you cant forget?
Birthdays, your name, anniversaries, Christmas, Valentines, mainly dates. People also won't forget any traumatic events or serious illnesses either, like a fire burning down their house, an explosion, the swine flu, and so on. You usually won't forget your family, either.
How do you pronounce Melancholic?
The word "melancholic" is pronounced as muh-LANG-kuh-lik. The emphasis in the pronunciation is on the second syllable.
What should you do if your boyfriend gets mad at you and its breaking your self esteem?
It's important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about how his behavior makes you feel, set boundaries for respectful communication, and consider seeking support from a therapist or trusted friends/family to help rebuild your self-esteem. Remember that your worth should not be determined by someone else's behavior or words.
It's important to communicate with your boyfriend to understand his intentions. If he's asking you to lie to others, it may be a sign of manipulation or disrespect. Trust your instincts and consider discussing boundaries and honesty in your relationship. It's also important to reflect on his behavior to determine if there are underlying issues like compulsive lying or a desire to manipulate others.
Why are men afraid of being alone?
You cannot generalize this as there are men and women that are "afraid" of being alone. It can be an emotional issue, traumatic issue, stemming from childhood, or lack of self-esteem/independence which cause a co-dependence need etc. - everyone has there own reasoning or personal explanation. Whatever the case may be they would need to first address the issue, possibly seek counselling if need be and take the time out of relationships on their own and gain the independence required.
Advantage of being determined?
There are many advantages to being determined. The chief of these is that, regardless of what you do, there will be obstacles that get in your way. Determination will help you overcome these obstacles and succeed.
Why are men so complicated or should you say more than women?
Gender is not a determining factor for how complicated someone may be. People, regardless of gender, are complex individuals with various experiences and emotions that contribute to their behavior and communication styles. It's important to approach individuals as unique beings, rather than making generalizations based on gender.
if u want the best way then here it is: you should hang out with the friend u want to steal. but the idea is to not do it so obvious.
i mean like 4 me, i would take advantage of everything and just act cool or act like the person Ur going to steal.
for example's hang out with that person u want 2 be Ur bf.
oh, and when u steal that person, make sure that Ur not being obvious 'cause if u do, then the person u want to steal best friend could take advantage of you that quick without u knowing.
How do you hook someone up with someone else?
This is a very tricky thing to do and should not be done if you do not have experience. but what you do is you
1. make sure both people like each other.
2. tell them both they have a secret admirer
3. send something from one of them to each other and vise versa
4. then got them to go to the movies but they dont know each other is going and volia
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