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Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
An abusive relationship is a relationship in which a person is victim to the use or threat of being physically or psychologically abused. Here you can ask questions about abusive relationships such as how to spot it, and how to get yourself or others help.
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How many women in the US are abused each year?
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, an estimated 1 in 4 women experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post-traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc., in their lifetime.
Why are men generally the abusers in relationships rather than the victims of abuse?
There are two sets of reasons - cultural/social and psychological.
In male-dominated, chauvinistic, or misogynistic cultures and societies, abuse is condoned rather than condemned. Additionally, those mental health disorders associated with abuse - for instance the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)- are more prevalent among men.
Men are also still expected in some societies to be the dominant one in the relationship. For men who have problems with anger any "defiance" is seen as a problem that needs to be fixed and it usually comes in the form of physical abuse.
Throughout human history there has never been much punishment for men who abuse their women. Men have always dominated. Men were the absolute authority in the home and were the only family member with legal rights and any existence in the outside world- outside of the home. Abuse of women was minimized, justified, expected, ignored and promoted at church. In medieval times it only brought the attention of the local authority if there was serious crippling injury or death. Otherwise, it was just a regular part of every day life.
Many men abuse women because they still think they have the right to abuse them. Men who abuse do not respect women and often despise them. Men who abuse have a misconception about masculinity, and perhaps an insecurity as well. They continue to abuse even though they know it is no longer their right to abuse and it is against the law.
It is reported that one in three women is in an abusive relationship. It can begin as early as high school. Common problems among abusive men are poor communication skills, no desire to compromise, blaming others for they way they feel or their lack of success in life, a desire to control and the need to feel powerful when they are often undistinguished in the outside world.
Some men feel proud and justified for "keeping their women in their place". Others are shamed by their own behavior and wish they could stop. Many blame their victims for their own lack of self control. Abusers are more authoritarian and demand unquestioned obedience to their authority. They believe that women are inferior and they come from all walks of life. Men who operate on a higher economic and educational level may be better at hiding it.
Some facts:
- Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States.
- 85% of domestic violence victims are women. (Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003) Men can be victims, but it is rare.
- Battering occurs among people of all races, ages, socio-economic classes, religious affiliations, occupations, and educational backgrounds.
- Women in rural areas are at greater risk
- A battering incident is rarely an isolated event.
- Battering tends to increase and become more violent over time.
- Many batterers learned violent behavior growing up in an abusive family.
- 25% - 45% of all women who are battered are battered during pregnancy.
- Domestic violence does not end immediately with separation. Over 70% of the women injured in domestic violence cases are injured after separation.
What is intra-individual differences?
Intra-individual differences refer to variations or discrepancies within an individual across different domains, like cognition, emotion, or behavior. These differences can result from factors such as biological changes, acquired skills, or varying experiences over time. Understanding intra-individual differences can provide insights into how individuals adapt and grow within themselves.
Did Cave men and women have luggage?
It is unlikely that cave men and women had luggage in the modern sense. They carried belongings by hand or with the help of simple tools like baskets, animal hides, or basic containers made from natural materials. Personal possessions were limited and practical for survival needs.
How come some people could never admit to their faults or mistakes?
We are all guilty at some point in our lives for not admitting to our faults or mistakes and it's simply the emotional situation we are in at the time. If the person is an abuser they don't often realize they are doing it. The fallacy that the abuser has come from an abusive family and it is a learned emotion is not always true (although a high percentage indicates this is true.) Some abusers come from a very good family and often the abuser was simply spoiled and given all the rights to their every whim. Abusive people need psychiatric help as they don't feel in control of their own lives, can feel they are hard done by and generally hate the world. The only way they seem to strive in their own little world is by abusing their mate or children as it makes them feel as if they have the power. In an abuser's mind they can't abuse the whole world, so they choose a piece of the world which is their homelife. If people simply won't own up to their faults or their mistakes they have gone through life blaming others. They have ceased to mature. We all makes mistakes and we all have faults and it will take the rest of our lives to try and make ourselves a better person. Some faults are so minute that it doesn't really matter if we change them, but if our mistakes or faults are hurting someone else close to us or even hurting the public then we need to do something about it. Marcy Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
Why is Duncan Fairhurst so mean?
There is this man from England called Duncan Fairhurst, who from the ages of 4 to 14 was sexually abused, by his own father of all people, who worked for a book company for a while. The abuse got so bad that Duncan tried to kill himself, and that's why his Dad stopped abusing him. He started abusing another boy after that. He was arrested and sentanced to 52 years in prison for abusing his son. There is a book about Duncan's story, called Our little secret.
You answered your own question "Controlling Man!" Why wouldn't he keep you feeling incompetent of doing things when he knows this is the way he can push your buttons so you'll work harder at doing some of the things he should be doing when you'll do it all for him? Think about it! Nip the in the bud and tell him like it is .... "You start sharing in some of the responsibilities or that's the end of our relationship!" It takes two to have a relationship and the responsibilities that go with them. If you aren't working then you should pay bills, do the shopping, but, if you are both working then he should be sharing some of this with you. Let him pay the bills and you do the shopping.
What are some examples of sadistic humor or actions of someone you should avoid?
Some examples of sadistic humor or actions to avoid include laughing at others' misfortunes, causing harm or distress to others for amusement, or showing a lack of empathy for others' feelings. It is important to be mindful of how our actions and words can impact those around us and to treat others with kindness and respect.
Where can one find a grieving mother's poem for her dead son?
A Grieving Mother by Francis Duggan
The patriots celebrating the war has been won
But the grieving mother weeps for her dead son
Who died a young hero in a war far away
His twenty third birthday it would be today.
Out of the young war dead war heroes are made
This morning she did not go to watch the parade
Instead she placed flowers on the grave where her son lay
And knelt on the grass for awhile for to pray.
She sees her son's death as a waste of a good young life
He never had the chance to make the young woman he loved his wife
He surely would have made a wonderful dad
One of the joys in life that he never had.
Today had he been alive he'd have been twenty three
Her son was a brave man none braver than he
She wept at his grave whilst through the streets of the town
The patriots did proudly parade up and down
What do you call a person who easily gets offended and does something back?
*what would i call a person who easily gets offended and does something back? i would call that a person who's overreacting.
*I would call that person touchy and vengeful.
Where is the center of gravity for men and women?
The center of gravity for men is generally lower in the body compared to women. In men, the center of gravity is typically located around the lower abdomen or pelvic area, while in women, it is slightly higher around the hips or lower back. This difference is due to variations in body composition, such as muscle mass and fat distribution.
Why does the domestic abuse make kids kill other kids?
Experiencing domestic abuse can lead to a range of detrimental psychological and emotional effects on children, such as trauma, aggression, and a distorted sense of relationships and power dynamics. These can contribute to an increased risk of violent behavior, including harming others, though it is important to note that not all children who experience domestic abuse will exhibit violent behaviors towards others. Early intervention and support for children who have witnessed domestic abuse are crucial in preventing such outcomes.
Why is an abuser mad at you years after you dumped him?
Abuse is about control over another person. If he isn't able to control you and feels that he should have the right to do so he will be angry and attempt to intimidate you into having control over you any way he can. Many abusers feel that they are in total control of the relationship and the other person. Their partner or spouse is there to provide for the emotional and sexual needs of the abuser. The abuser uses the partner/spouse as a source of supply and control. The abuser believes he (or she) is entitled to do the abusing, the cheating or the dumping, not the other person. When the partner/spouse leaves the abuser, the abuser is angered at the loss of control. They become more of a scapegoat for the abuser's anger and resentment. There's nothing you can do about it but to avoid the abuser totally or as much as you possibly can. Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
Condition of staying the same?
Staying the same refers to maintaining the current state or situation without any changes or developments taking place. It implies that no alterations, improvements, or regressions occur in the circumstances under consideration.
What year was criminal domestic violence a felony?
what year was criminal domestic violence a felony?
Can physical abuse be prevented?
Yes, physical abuse can be prevented through various strategies. These include raising awareness and educating individuals about the signs and consequences of abuse, promoting healthy relationship dynamics, providing support and resources for victims, implementing laws and policies to protect individuals from abuse, and promoting bystander intervention to prevent abusive situations from escalating.
How many battered women press charges against their abuser?
Not enough!! The thing that most women are afraid of when pressing charges is that their abuser will come after them. It is very difficult to get away from one because the abuser get to your self esteem , self confidence, the abuser breaks every obstcale that would cause his/her behavior to become known. The other side of this situation would be that the law does not do enough to protect the ones getting abused. One thing that should be changed in these situation is the fact that the abuser has to do something in order for a restraining order to be effective. When the law is called, they iether take too long to get there or the abuser is gone before the police arrive. I also believe that when it is shown that women have been in an abusive relationship, and they take the law into there own hands, there should not be a strict sentence imposed upon them when they go to court. Folks, enough is enough and this is why the children of such relationships become violent sometimes. This comes from my experience with this type of relatonship.
What can you do if someone is mean over and over besides hacking her account which is illegal?
Second, dealing with people who are mean and do bad things is never easy. You can't control another person's actions. You can only control your own. The best responses to someone doing something bad to you or others is to attempt to stay away from the person and avoid letting them know that they getting to you. Do not retaliate. Retaliating is likely to result in making the situation worse.
Of course, if the bad things they are doing are physically or sexually hurting you or you are being bullied, the suggestions above are not enough. In those cases, you should tell someone, especially if you are a child or a teen. Tell your parents and let them help you. If for some reason you can't tell your parents, tell another adult that you trust. If it is happening at school, tell your teacher or counselor and also tell your parents. If the situation is not stopped, either tell the teacher and/or your parents that you need more help or tell another adult who can help you.
What do you call it when people abuse the power they have?
When people abuse the power they have, it is commonly referred to as abuse of power or power abuse.
How long does it take for spousal abuse charges to get to court?
It really depends. I live in Missouri. I finally found the courage to stand up for myself against my soon to be ex-husband a few months ago. Charges were brought against him within an hour and he was arrested and charged within a few hours. He went to court for arraignment within 48 hours. Missouri doesn't stand for domestic violence. It is a little harder when it is your husband/wife, but it's not hard. In Missouri, the state takes over as the petitioner, which makes it easier for abused women to have their abusers convicted.
Uma Thurman is an American actress and model. She gained widespread recognition for her roles in Quentin Tarantino's films, including "Pulp Fiction" and "Kill Bill" series. Thurman has also appeared in other notable films like "Dangerous Liaisons" and "Gattaca."
What are the differences in non-abusive arguments and abusive arguments?
What do the early warning signs that a romantic relationship might become violent include?
Some early warning signs that a romantic relationshipship might become violent are:
- Pressuring for sex even after you say no
- Blaming behavior on alcohol or drugs
- Attempting to control you
- Jealous or possessive behavior
How do you handle an abusive boss?
It depends on the nature of the "abuse". If the boss is hard on people, demanding, arrogant, loud, etc. you can a) live with it, b) talk to the boss explaining that his or her methods are de-motivating and ask for more respectful treatment, or c) quit or ask for a transfer. If the boss is truly abusive in an illegal way - physically or sexually, you should follow company procedures for such a situation. If there are no company procedures, document and report the instances to his or her supervisor.
What is Uma Thurman famous for?
Uma Thurman is a very famous actress. Her acting career skyrocketed after she has had the lead role in several films produced by Quentin Tarantino. Since then she has starred in many Hollywood movies.
