Cheating

Mary Karr's "The Art of Men (I Prefer Mine al Dente)" touches on her experiences with relationships and exes, but it is not specifically about seeking revenge on an ex-mistress. The book explores themes of love, loss, and self-discovery through Karr's witty and candid storytelling.

Beowulf is an epic story of revenge and vengeance. The entire stiory is driven by the character's need to right the wrongs done against them by killing their foes. This cycle of revenge is began by the monster Grendel who is descendant from Cain, the first murderer who killed his brother out of revenge for not being favored by God. Grendel hates the mead hall the Danes have built and their nightly singing partying, thus he takes his revenge by terrorizing the Danes. Beowulf arrives in the kingdom to kill the monster Grendel for attacking the Danes and also seeks to make a greater name for himself through battle. Beowulf mortally wounds Grendel and so the Danes have their revenge. Grendel's mother, however, is so wrought by her son's death that she takes her own revenge by killing the thane and dear friend of the Danish King. This cycle of revenge is ended once Beowulf seeks out Grendel's mother and kills her for her act. The cycle of bloodshed is renewed years later by a thief who steals a piece of treasure in the form of a goblet from a Dragon who had been protecting his great wealth for centuries. The dragon exacts his revenge by burning down the countryside in search of the thief and part of the kingdom of the Danes is destroyed in the carnage. Beowulf is once again called upon to take revenge for the Danes by killing the dragon. The dragon and Beowulf fight and both are killed in battle. In the end, all those that had been involved in the cycle of revenge since the very beginning of the story are dead. Thus is the theme of the story, that all who partake in revenge shall suffer as did all those who fought in the story of Beowulf.

In Sonnet 130, the narrator expresses that his mistress' speech is not as melodious or flattering as traditional poetic descriptions would suggest. Instead, he appreciates her honesty and authenticity, valuing her realness over superficial flattery.

Cheating is subjective and depends on the boundaries set by you and your partner. Some may consider kissing another person, even on the cheek, as a breach of trust and fidelity. It's important to communicate with your partner about what is acceptable behavior in your relationship.

Someone who is in love with the idea of being in love. A Petrarchan lover derives it's meaning from the Italian poet, Petrarch, self-proclaimed father of the Renaissance. Petrarch's unrequited love for a married woman, Laura, inspired poems where Petrarch catalogues Laura's physical beauty. Some examples would include declarations such as, "Her eyes are like XXX, her hair is like YYY, her lips are like ZZZ." In English, the most popular charicature of a Petrarchan lover is Shakespeare's Romeo. At the beginning of Romeo and Juliet, Romeo is seen cataloging the physical attributes of Rosiline, his unrequited lover.

if they are guilty usually defensive. if they are not guilty hurt about the accusation

However, If certain men get accused of doing something that they are not doing, they respond defensively out of frustration of the other partner not trusting them.

People of any gender can lie for various reasons, such as wanting to avoid conflict, protect someone's feelings, or because they feel insecure. It is important to consider the individual's unique motivations and circumstances when trying to understand why they might be dishonest.

Yes, you should forgive, but only in the sense that if you don't forgive both of them they still control your life which is filled with hurt, feelings of betrayal, anger and resentment (and well it should be, but only for a time.) I am so sorry this happened to you and I blame your husband! He knew it was wrong, and your niece is probably much younger than him and he should have had more control. I think he has broken the bond of respect, honesty and integrity in your marriage and it's up to you, but I doubt I would want to stay with my husband if he betrayed me with a family member. Everyone can make a mistake, but what he did was unforgivable. I don't know if you have children, if he was always loyal before now and you want to give him another chance and it's totally your decision. Remember, usually when people cheat on their mates in this sneaky manner they will usually do it again. I was married before and my husband was not only verbally abusive and it turned into physical abuse, but he cheated on me a great deal. We were living in a trailer up North (construction work) and a young girl I knew at the time (she was just 17 and I was 22) was being beaten by her step-father and she got away from him one night and came banging on our trailer door. Of course I took the poor girl in and she lived with us for over a year. Right under my nose my husband and this girl had an affair. I did find out accidentally, and that was the straw that broke the camel's back. I didn't blame her so much as the jerk I'd married because he was considerably older than her! I was hurt, felt betrayed, was angry, felt I was stupid for not seeing it coming (one can never guess on this sort of thing) and had a hard time forgiving, but I did. I had the girl move out and my hubby and I tried again until we moved back to Vancouver, B.C. Nothing had changed as I soon found out and he kept on cheating. I left him and never looked back. I met a wonderful man and we have will be married 34 years this August. This is your decision, but, as you know your husband carrying on with your niece is taboo and the word is going to leak out to family members. If it were me, I'd kick your husband to the curb, kick his butt out the door, file for at least a separation until you can think clearer and then hopefully, later, file for divorce. Good luck hon Marcy

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If he had sex and it was fun he wants to do it again. Like eating chocolate - it's not good for you but you want it. But if it was chocolate or your husband, you'd give up chocolate. So maybe it wasn't fun enough for him to leave you. I'd say if you intend to keep him - and that's entirely up to you - after a month or so, maybe you guys need to start having more sex or something. Spice it up -dress nice, go on dates, maybe make him see you're not a doormat. Flirt with a cute guy or something. *Don't* sleep around - two wrongs do NOT make a right - but if he sees that other guys think you're hot, it'll be good for your ego and maybe make him a little jealous, kick him into realizing he has a nice thing at home. Basically, if you're gonna keep him (and I'm not sure I could) you need to put it behind you and get aggressive about making your marriage a better place to be - more sex, less complaining and fighting, more independence for you. Get a job or a hobby or something. Get out and hang with friends, do some exciting stuff. Change it up.

Look for signs such as being secretive with phone, sudden changes in behavior, overly protective of phone, or receiving suspicious texts. Have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend to address your concerns and clarify any doubts. Trust your instincts and communicate openly to maintain a healthy relationship.

because you will end up not learning and could be jailed or dismiss from college it can also tarnish your image as a person

No, it's not okay, it's still cheating.

Look at it this way. There's friendly nice people on earth right? But there's also dangerous, mean and hateful people as well.

I believe it is the same. There are good, kind and friendly aliens, then there are mean, dangerous aliens.

Probably he's saving some for a surprised birthday gift. Or in other cases, he's running low on cash for his personal needs, to buy other stuffs. It's very unlikely that that money is used on another woman.

There's no correlation between the two.

That said, if he is self-medicating his PTSD with alcohol, or another drug that acts as a dis-inhibitor, then there would be a likely increase in behavior that is impulsive or inappropriate.

How older married men finds a young mistress

• If this is a long distance relationship then that statistics are low where the two remain and boyfriend and girlfriend. Humans need to touch or see the person they love and emails simply don't cut it. You have no way of knowing if your boyfriend is cheating on you and he may feel you might be cheating on him. Perhaps you could phone him and discuss this problem with him, but he could well lie to you. It is wiser to have a relationship with someone you find attractive that lives near you and you can see each other several times during the week. There is a special person out there for you, but it takes patience to wait until you do meet that person.
  

It is important to consider your own happiness and the reasons why you broke up with your ex in the first place. If your current boyfriend is treating you well and making you happy, it may be best to stay with him. However, have an open and honest conversation with both your ex and current boyfriend to communicate your feelings and make a decision that aligns with your own values and emotions.

Dealing with someone who is struggling with depression and trust issues can be challenging. It's important to be patient, understanding, and supportive. Encourage your boyfriend to seek professional help, such as a therapist or counselor, who can provide guidance and assistance in managing his depression and trust issues. Additionally, open and honest communication, reassurance, and consistency can help rebuild trust over time.

Engaging in an affair is generally not illegal, as it is a personal choice between adults. However, in some cases, actions like adultery can be considered grounds for a fault-based divorce, depending on local laws. Legal consequences may vary depending on the jurisdiction and specific circumstances, but generally, it is up to the individuals involved to address the situation through communication and seeking appropriate legal advice if necessary.

• When someone cheats on you it means they don't love you and you should tell this guy to hit the bricks and don't look back. You can do much better than him. If you stay with him under these conditions you will miss the chance of finding that special person that should be in your life in the future.

Get a lawyer now. In some states I think you could be as responsible as your husband for the mortgage. Don't forget to divorce the creep and take him for all he's worth. Maybe you can even force them to buy you out of this house of theirs or sell it and share any proceeds with you. Community property baby.