Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

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Call someone you trust to help you.

Psychology is a fairly new profession, as people with mental disabilities have been tabooed for most of history. Of course even in this day, there are still taboos against the study of the mind, due to a narrow minded thinking, that they are just crazy and can't be helped. This makes some topics in psychology difficult to breach, and also are far too small understanding of the human brain effects it too.

An abuse of authority is to have contempt for a policy or order. Abuse of authority has its cause when a need of the person cannot be fulfilled because of the policy made by the authority. The abuse of the authority may arise due to the dislike of a leader or the person in authority. Abuse of authority may be due to the personal disorder or the anomaly that one has in his character to do just the opposite. An abuse of authority may arise due to ignorance. A person acts spontaneously according to his perception or need. But that action really contradicts the established law.

What precautions can be taken for the protection from the abuse of authority?

1. Instruction and information. A wide information should be given though the free notices, advertisement and posters attached in public squares, Radio and TV broadcasting.

2. Inserting the instructions in the language text books or the relevant text books.

3. Printing the manuals and making it available in .libraries and book shops.

4. Conducting the seminars to people from each age group.

5. Conducting camps, asking the volunteers to propagate door to door

6. Observation and fraternal correction, - Must inform the person about his action and instruct properly on the consequences.

7. Sending the "Show Cause" notice and asking for the justification

8. Imposing fine for transgressing the law

9. Filing the case in the court and dealing with the case and punishing accordingly.

One should keep in mind that while taking or adapting a measurement to protect from the abuse of authority, must not lack respect to the person, but the wrong should confronted and dealt with a dialogue and baring the responsibility to set right for the wrong or damage caused.

The person can be punished by not giving promotion in the salary, by de promoting, or giving a transfer or imposing the fine. To rectify the fault or the abuse one can be asked to ask pardon in public and impose heavy amount of money. But these measures may not bring a change in the attitude of the person.

A most right thing to do would be to take up some measurement not to hurt the self esteem of the person and to bring a change in the attitude. In certain enterprises it may be a trial to give responsibility to the person who abuses the authority but the one who deals with the person who abuses the authority, must be mature otherwise by trying to punish the culprit one may gain only hatred and the revenge.

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Get a Protection from Abuse Order and have her evicted. Simple as that!

Yes, it is normal. The abuser makes his victim think she has done EVERYTHING wrong, is useless, powerless, and not fit to live on her own out in society. She's stupid, she's ugly, fat, etc. The abuser breaks down the inner self of the victim. Of course none of it is true, but the victim is so use to hearing it she begins to believe it herself. Oddly enough some victims actually look up to their abuser as mentors and feel the need to please them. Of course this will never be, because the abuser is the one who is truly mentally incapacitated. He needs to have his environment under his total control and since that's not likely to happen out in society, the only place it will work for him is in the privacy of his home and that involves YOU. You can't change an abuser and to try and stay and think you are going to get respect from an abuser (when the abuser doesn't respect himself or anyone else) is a waste of your life. Run! Get out of this environment. Live life with a "if I don't feel good most of the time around a person there is something wrong and I need to deal with it and move on with my life" and you'll never go wrong. Friends, family, employers can abuse you mentally as well. Some of society believes women who stay with abusers are weak women and thus, they don't always respect them, but the opposite is true. Abused women are NOT weak. They are TRAPPED! Until recently there have been few laws that have protected abused women, but things are slowly but surely getting better. There is more protection out there and the Women's Center does work with the police in nailing the butts of abusers (be it man or woman.) I hope you think about this and realize that you won't win in this game of abuse and that you deserve better. I hope you make that call to the "Abused Women Center" and take their programs and become self sufficient and independent and have peace within yourself. Good luck hon Marcy Normal? No. Common? Yes. It's a tactic for control. Its part of the roller coaster. Treating you with respect knocks you off guard and makes you question your sanity. And its working, isn't it? Think about the question you asked. You used the word "abuse" and the word "respect" in the same sentence. How odd is that. If he respects you he wouldn't be abusing you. The abuse is real. The respect is an act. ~ T

first of all they will gain trust so that u confide in them and ur thinking that u can reli on them, then they will try get u alone if say your a kid or teen or even adult then that's whe they will abuse you. but say it is an abusive relationship they will take a situation say if the boyfriend saw you talking to another male he would use that. they will most likely bring it up and get really angry and abuse.but just remember this really only applies to the abusers and wot they do, not everybody else.

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If you have ever seen the inside of a state or federal institution you would know they are designed to make you crazy and keep you that way. Yes, people go crazy from being locked up. Wouldn't you?

It"s like high pressure steam and an air compressor on the same piston rod, one drives the other and the pressures increase. Things can go over the RED Line very easily.

Statistically, the odds of an abuser changing are low. So the short answer is yes, those with a history of abuse will likely abuse their subsequent partners. However, there are key indicators you can watch for in a person who is taking an honest interest in changing their abusive behavior:

1) They acknowledge that they are abusive, and that it is their responsibility, and not the fault of anyone else that they are they way they are.

2) They admit that they WANT to change, and that they know the process of change is very difficult

3) They undergo a violence/abuse assessment, delivered by a professional who focuses on these things. The abuser is willing and wanting to follow the recommendations of the assessment.

4) They voluntarily enter programs specifically oriented around addressing abusive and/or violent behaviors. These group programs generally are extensive, and may run from a minimum of 16 weeks to 52 weeks in length. Jointly, they should also attend individual counseling that is specific to the challenges they have in addressing their behavior and emotional challenges.

5) The process for change is hard, and can be long. How long depends on the individual, their readiness for change, and ability to integrate the change.

6) The individual will tend to this change in an ongoing process which may be lifelong.

The process for changing abusive tendencies is intense, very difficult (because it is rooted in learned behaviors that likely spanned significant portions of their childhood), and due to the extraordinarily low level of community support due to the morally reprehensible nature of this behavior, the individual will find the path to rehabilitation difficult to maintain despite their initial best interests and convictions.

In a world of 6 billion people, there are women who enjoy having their male children abuse them. They are an extremely small minority of women.

It depends how a person is sticking their nose into another person's business. If a person is depressed, an alcoholic, on drugs, or hanging around with a bad crowd and we care about that person, then no, it's not abusive. If one doesn't like the way a family member or friend is doing something (there is no danger to the friend or you) and you weren't asked for your opinion then yes, in ways it's abusive and certainly annoying. What makes you or anyone else think their way is the right way all the time? It's OK to agree to disagree. We all have our own opinions and that's a good thing. We can learn from each other. Happy New Year Marcy

YES, definitely! The verbal abuse is probably a result of a shortcoming in the husband, or to his mind, anyway. It probably has nothing to do with his wife..This is why evaluation and therapy is so paramount to getting to the bottom of all this pain, if you both love each other enough to commit to it. And..Don't forget God ! ! Good luck to you both....

Answer Negativity effects everyone. It's not healthy to live in a negative relationship or anything like it as it will one day lead to depression or worse.

Yes, drugs were abusing her. Sincerely, Name Internet User

I can understand why you are angry and hopefully you mean simply, "he runs home to mama when the going gets tough" and that they aren't having sexual contact. Many women go through this. If you have considered trying to get to know your mother-in-law and made an effort to have her over on occasion and she is still like this then your husband has never grown up and has been smothered by his mother so much he can't think with the brain God gave him. You knew he was like this before you married him; all the signs were there. It's time you took back control. If his mother is meddling in your marriage constantly it's time to sit down with your immature husband and set the records straight. If he doesn't like what you have to say, then pack his bags and send him back home to mama! I am dead serious on this one. If you really love him, then you are going to have a struggle even after you set down some hard and fast rules regarding his mother. It doesn't sound like you have his mother over very often and you may have good reason, but my theory is always "get close to your enemy and get to know them." You might be mildy surprised to learn that you haven't let her adjust to not having her son around that often. Especially if his mother is a widow. It's frightening to be alone and afraid and she relies on her son. You may not like it, but for centuries the oldest son in most families became the head of the household and she may feel this is how things should be. Try having her around for the occasional dinner or evening and try to get to know her. If she is abusive, smothering your son and not being nice to you and your husband is too spineless to say anything to his mother, then you speak up and don't allow her back into your home. Whether we like it or not we marry into 2 families in most cases. It's an adjustment for the daughter's and son's family and although some parents can take it in their stride there is always that "empty nest sydrome." Good luck Marcy

First off, by leaving, you are removed from immediate danger of being physically hurt, or even killed, by your abuser. You may feel you know the person who abuses you well, you may feel that he would never take a weapon to you or attempt to kill you. Unfortunately, you cannot always predict an escalation in abuse. It is true that there are cases requiring a restraining order or order or protection to keep yourself legally safe from an individual, even if you have moved. However, while the abuser may be intitially more threatening or manipulative (begging for forgiveness, promises to stop the abuse, go to counseling, etc.), he may tire or resent trying to get control over you and decide to move on to another victim, especially if there is some amount of physical distance between you and him.

Intense violence is when somebody beats up or kills another person so hard.

• Many abusive partners are controlling and use either verbal abuse (calling the victim names; taking away their self confidence and alienating them from family and friends) to physical violence (hitting; kicking; giving the victim any wound on their body; split lip; missing teeth; black eyes or broken bones.) Often the abuse goes unreported and some abusive partners will actually take their victim into the hospital for treatment, but the victim can be fearful or brain-washed into thinking they can't get along without their abuser and will lie to protect the very person who abused them. If the abusive person is forced to leave their victim alone by a court of law or imprisoned there is still a high risk that the abuser feels their partner (victim) is still their property and may well go after the victim once again. Unfortunately, some abuser will feel 'if I can't have them then no one else is' and murder is involved. In a few cases the abusive partner will just walk away and not enter the victim's life again.

The Duke of Ferrara in Browning's â??My Last Duchessâ?? is a vain, privileged man who views his wives as trophies. He is harsh, exacting and does not allow his wives even the freedom to express joy or blush. His vanity would never allow the possibility that he, rather than they, had any problems or even that these women might want to cheat on him.