Children and Divorce

If the parents are fighting all the time or give each other the silent treatment it's not a fun house to live in. They might not be divorced at that point but you can feel the family is gone. When divorced the child still have both parents but now they are happy.

The best scenario is to have two parents that maintain an active interest in the children. Children need contact with their parents, it's unfair to them to be put in the middle of an adult relationship that is strained.

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Correct her since that is not good behavior. If she don't change she will be punished. Changing this behavior usually take some time though and you have to be persistent and not give up.

first of all you have to do probably the hardest part: realise that she's going through a tough time (as you are) because she doesn't know whether to be a mother figure to you or blahblahblahblah, so there's the possibility everything will calm down in time.

ok now that's out the way, you should always be able to feel safe and confident knowing that you can tell your dad anything, this isn't the case with all families but this is a time when you and your dad need constant contact with each other.

the way I've dealt with this situation in the past (with my dad's new girlfriend) was to get him alone and tell him that his new girlfriend is really horrible to me, even though I'm sure she was nice to my dad, she was horrible to me (I'm pretty sure she didn't want a child in the way of the relationship she had with my dad).

it's very likely that you are the most important thing in the world to your dad, I'm not saying he'll get rid of her, but it's very likely he'll do whatever he can to sort it out

good luck x

Both parents have equal rights to their children regardless of a breakdown in a relationship.

No matter how long it has been since it happened, you have rights to your children and should begin the process of getting a court order in place to get access to your children.

They are put in institutions like orphanages.

Yes, children from a previous family that either has the same mother or father are considered step-sisters or step-brothers and of course that makes them relatives.

It should have been clarified in the divorce settlement. But if it wasn't, then the one paying child support should be the one to claim them. If neither of you are paying child support due to joint custody, here are a couple of options:

One of you can claim half the kids, the other claim the other half. If you have three kids (can't claim half a kid), then one year one of you claim two kids, the other claims one, then alternate the next year.

You can claim all of the kids, then alternate each year. One year you claim all of the kids, the next your ex claims them.

Custody rulings have nothing to do with who files for the divorce first.

Eating can be a way to cope with stress and depression. In that respect a child may use food as comfort and gain weight during and/or after her parent's divorce. The same effect can result from living with parents who fight constantly and do not get divorced.

Has the bio dad always wanted to be part of his kid's lives or did he sign off so your ex could adopt them in order to get out of the responsibility? You may have to fight this in court if the reasons he wasn't granted or didn't want custody in the first place indicate that he is not going to be a responsible parent now.

As for your ex...what kind of complete jerk is this guy. He adopts your kids and while you are married they have grown to know him and love his as their father and now he just wants to dump them along with you? How could he do this to those kids. I would fight what he wants to do with every fiber of my being and then make sure he is ordered to pay child support...and also make sure that he is only allowed supervised visits with your kids.

That is dependent on the court orders, but generally yes.

Depends, can be shared btw both, one could have custody and the other just vistitations, or one could have custody and there other has nothing.

Yes, she can legally keep any insurance on him that she is the policy holder (owner) of. However, she cannot apply for any new insurance for him, and if the policy goes "inactive" she may not be able to reinstate it.

Probably because he's having a hard time dealing with it, which doesn't mean he's having second thoughts. Stop thinking about how uncomfortable his silence makes you feel, think instead of what he might be living. The things he might have heard from his wife, from his children. The tension at "home". Divorce runs with a lot of pain for a lot of people, even when the marriage was already broken, even when the word "divorce" had been said thousands of times. Use some empathy. Stay by his side, share his silence. Give him time to manage his inner problems.

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No it isin't true that single parents go to college for free.

Another answer to this question is that just about anyone can go to college for free IF they meet the right eligibility requirements for various forms of financial aid. It is NOT easy, but it is possible. The Pell Grant from the U.S. Department of Education is one such example. At the time of this answer, the maximum amount of money that a person can receive from the Pell Grant is over $5,000 IF the person meets the requirements. $5,000 will pay for a lot of classes and books at the right school, like a community college.

The house goes with the legally married woman if the woman has children. If not, the house goes to the children over 21 or oldest child. If their are stepchildren in the picture the house goes to legal children. If children with second wife then the house goes with firstborn kids.

You have to call 911 or go see them, look on a website but you might have to pay, one ohter way is to go to the police and tell them there first and last name

but i dont know what my dads name is!

In cases like this the mother is always considered first for custody, unless for some reason she is not fit to handle her duty as a parent. They will then look into the fathers situation to see if he is fit. Now if the mother and father of the child were never married then the father does not have rights to that child unless he goes through a process called legitimation. Legitimation is just the father claiming the child in a court of law which would then give the father rights to that child and the child can inhereit from the father. You do not have to go through legitimation if the parents were married. Hope this helps.

If things between a married couple have become so difficult that one of them wants a divorce, trying to simply fix communication to head off the split has a low probability of success. Learning to communicate with a spouse who wants a divorce usually won't work. It takes a bit of time to learn to communicate. Learning to communicate well takes longer. And it sounds like time has already run out. The barriers to communication may very well be up. And the clock is ticking. It's the bottom of the ninth, and you've thrown your best game, and you're losing. Time to go to the bull pen. Many couples enlist the aid of a third party, a counselor, at this point to see if things can be saved. The caring and perceptive marriage and family counselor can help a couple pick the best path forward in situations like this. And the path might end up leading to divorce. Accept that it is possible. And for no other reason than because it is. But do not sell the services of a professional short for any reason. You're in over your head, and this is what they do. They help. If you are willing to go to counseling, good. But now you have your hands full getting her to go. You've got to sell the idea of counseling to your spouse. A sincere plea is about the best you can do. Leave all your anger, fear, resentment, excuses and whatever other negative stuff that can get in the way outside the door. And don't let it sneak back in. Make a calm, heartfelt case. The stakes are high. This is might very well be your best shot. Good luck.

he has 13 year old son

and a 17 year old daughter

The question you are asking is the right one, the only problem is, are you sure an answer is what your ready for? This is kind of scary, not to long ago, I found my self being asked the same question. but the only thing that helped me is, just talk to your wife, be honest, and trust that what ever is on her mind, when she is ready, she will tell you. Respect of open, honest talk, can sometimes hurt, or cause a ugly mess. I can honestly say, that for me I would explode when it was I in that same situation, unable to really express my thoughts or trust that my partner would even understand, not saying its the same for you or your wife, just be patient, loving and respect that what ever is on your wife mind and she really feels sucure and see's that you are patient and truly not just her husband but her best friend too, she will then come around, that's my personal belief because I was once just like your wife and now my relationship and my stress level is fullfill, happy and stronger then ever patients and willing to listen and understand is one of the things women grasp and cherish.....