Cheating

A good revenge for a cheater is to tell his or her parents to convince them to their kid that cheated to be grounded for a long time. How well you know this person? Whatever hurts the most: loss the job, loss the family, a possession. Be creative. Remember, revenge is a dish that is better served cold. Plan it well.

If your boyfriend has custody of the daughter and needs her mother's help and she has come from out of town, then it's acceptable for them both to work together during this difficult time for the sake of their daughter. This is something you are going to have to accept. However, you do have the right to ask him where this leaves you in his life. Phone him, meet with him somewhere so you can sort this out. Good luck!

Forward where? Out of your husband's life by divorcing him, or trying to fight the war with your husband's mistress? All you need to know is the true facts that he's actually having an affair and if you've caught him then you have to decide if you love him enough to sit down like two adults and communicate both your feelings and why your marriage has been reduced to his cheating. If you aren't happy with his excuses then you need to stand on your own two feet (you are in control of YOU) and at least get a separation before divorce. Separations are often a good idea if the couple is having marriage problems, one of the mates has made a mistake, or there are children involved. Separation lets each partner have head space to rethink their actions and often one or both of partners realize how much they miss each other once the chips are laid on the table. Making decisions while angry seldom works out and it can cause a lot of regrets in the future. If you don't know for sure he is cheating then get a girlfriend and follow him one night. That's how I caught my first husband cheating. The rest is up to you. There is no need to know all the particulars of the woman he is seeing and instead of being angry at her, be angry at your husband!

by not betting on sports, the cheating is discouraged and therefore less of it. Also, if the rules are stricter, it leaves less room to cheat.

Because he is a narcissist. The most attractive men are the ones who display the "dark triad" of personality traits (google it, basic rundown is narcissism/self-absorbed, sociopathy/uncaring, and machiavellianism/the end justifies the means).

Incidentally, attractive men are both attractive and men, attractiveness making it easier to stir sexual interest from women and manhood, well... We like getting laid.

Narcissism as part of that means he's a very big fan of himself, and wants life to bear testament to how awesome he feels he is. Life in the States says "More is Better;" over time he may (subconsciously) perceive those behaviors as having "conquered" you, what you do for him as "normal operations," and may forget how good he has it.

Core principle, regardless of his or your personality: Happiness is not being constantly on cloud 9, it's a series of spikes that stick out above the baseline level.

AKA: Don't spoil him.

Now, before anyone goes on a "men are evil" rant, women are the same way. Early in any relationship, I pretend I don't know how to cook or do laundry, despite being a great cook (imo) and folding like I did at boot camp. If she knows I cook she'll want me to as a sweet gesture, and down the road if I don't do it she'll think something's wrong--Because it's "what I've always done."

Long tangent short, people take things for granted.

To fix it, you need to break the cycle, make him want you more than her, bust his bubble a little, and be strong and confident--Don't cling, and don't try to "check his status" with each step you take, as your motives should be a little mysterious. Weird as it sounds, getting involved in organizational activities (especially things you're good at, you can grab some status in there and "be a leader") could be a big help, as it'll make you "bigger game." Not saying become a "soccer mom," (not that anything's wrong with that) but pull some sway to 1) make him respect you more and 2) remind him without saying that people know you're married and the community will think he's a joke, a loser, and a liar for making a large commitment and then breaking his vows to run around with some other woman.

If he starts getting mad that you're not staying in the kitchen, don't worry, it means the plan's working and he's trying to get you back to being "conquered." He's not a "bad guy" for this, he's just used to a cycle and people resist change by nature.

IF HE BECOMES ABUSIVE, LEAVE.

I say again.

IF HE BECOMES ABUSIVE. LEAVE HIM.

Don't stick around and try to "change him," you will fail. Over time your view will distort and you'll just let it happen until one of you snap and something bad happens.

This is the last resort of the weak-minded, and means his love for himself and his own ways is far greater than any feelings or regard he has for you, his wife. Prep your phone for fast access to 911 if he starts to threaten your life, health, or safety, even if he makes it seem like he's joking about it. If he's making you feel uncomfortable, you're not wrong for feeling that way.

That was a sidenote, shouldn't get to that point, but it's worth stating since you never know who's who and fear of embarrassment can drive people insane.

Regardless, that's the big picture of why narcissistic guys usually cheat when they're treated like kings, it's a common problem with common factors playing in. I've been that guy before, but I grew up a little, lol.

If that didn't help, read below for a hug and a feel-good talk that puts it totally out of your hands.

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I don't think this is a question that can be answered by anyone else but him. I know that everyone has been hurt before, you just can't let it get you down to the point that you don't attract anyone else. "What goes around comes around." Always remember that. I am sure that if you did everythng possible to keep him and he still "stepped out" on you then there was nothing you could have done, so have peace in knowing that. "Everything happens for a reason." Keep that in mind as you harbour all the feelings that he has placed upon you. Pick up a bible and read some. Life is simple you sound young and resilient. Don't let him see you down and out. This is a time of opportunity for you, not a time of self pitty. I am not being hard on you at all, just trying to get you to think right. Don't dwell on rejection, that will get you no where. Keep your head up and don't give in. I am sure you would rather have this happen now instead of later. Good luck!

i think when i look at another woman it may not even be qualities she might posess but maybe a little recognition on her part . sort of to reconfirm that i could still attract someone else . and if she is pretty so much the better.

Go and get tested for any std's or aids ..... then take him for everything hes got to help with the kids then kick him to the curb oh ya and let the media in on it he will squirm a little but you will feel better and move on with your life ....

Only if I am the lover. What are you, stoned or stupid?

He/she can be charged with Bigamy which is a felony. That is a lot of trouble. (and three mothers-in-law)

I believe its called - coming to you live

Im coming to you live like I do every night from the heart of your radio, I play A little sad , and I play A little glad,

When he walked in on her and her lover he heard himself saying the last words that they ever heard, "CHORUS"

I love that song!

that means there are things he wants to keep from you so its a high possibility. but that doesn't mean he is

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From my own personal experience, your husband is hiding something from you. It could be telephone numbers or some pictures but his the only one that knows. My reason for saying it might be telephone numbers, my husband was hiding a few personal tel. numbers from 2-3 women he met on a dating site he was in. There's 2 special numbers he kept and was very important to him, I saw it from his phone statement.

I was naive because I trusted him but when I put things together it all add up. I know that he uses his cell but I never seen it for at least 2 1/2 months. So I will say that your husband has some explanation to tell you. Don't keep your mouth close, but use it by asking him or else it might be what you are thinking. Don't wait..

Any! Cut him off! If you know for sure he is cheating then kick his hide out that door! This is no game! He is risking not only his own health, but yours. Some of the diseases are AIDS, HIV, Genital Herpes and Gonorrhea is back on the rise again.

If you've firmly asked him to leave you alone and he refuses, you can visit your local police department to have a restraining order issued. Depending on the scenario, this will prevent him from calling you or coming within "X-many" feet of you. That generally does the trick. His failure to comply with this order could result in his immediate arrest.

Your question is not very clear. Why in the first place are you trying to stir up trouble with his ex-girlfriend? All this does, is leads to arguments with your boyfriend. Why bring on more problems for yourself and your boyfriend. His EX is an EX for a reason. Do you want to be the next EX? That girl called back because she thought her ex-boyfriend is still interested in her. That is why she called back. Don't be dumb. Leave the ex-girlfriend alone. You don't want your boyfriend to be talking to her and having any contact with his ex. All you are doing is bringing up old memories for him. You want him to concentrate on you and not her. Be smart and concentrate on the two of yous relationship. If you feel he is contacting his ex-girlfriend, then confront him about it. If he lies and if you know he is lying for sure, you cannot trust him. One lie will lead into other lies and heartaches. If he truly wants to be with you, he should delete his ex-girlfriend's number from his cell phone. Since he hasn't, this tells me he is still interested in her and does contact her. Be aware. probabily because you texted her from her Ex's phone.

If you had asked "Is a man more likely to cheat on you if he cheated on an ex-GF," then it would be fairly safe to answer yes, even without the data to back it up. But your question is almost like asking, "Is a man more likely to steal a car if his car had been stolen once," or "Is a man more likely to kick your dog if his ex-GF kicked his dog."

Some will--but getting involved with a married person is incredibly stupid. In all probability, it won't end well. Married people still check out and find themselves attracted to other people besides their spouses. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as they don't act out of that attraction. If the married person is actively flirting or encouraging the advances of a particular person, it's a behavior that probably will lead them into having an emotional and/or sexual affair with that person. It's a trainwreck waiting to happen.

Let him? As in ALLOW him? He's not a minor child; he's your husband. You are not in a position to deny or give permission to him. He's an adult who may behave how he wishes, however well or poorly that may be. Having said that, he should not have female friends, at least none that he visits or socializes with alone. It's simply inappropriate, given his history.

it can only come from the heart and not the head finding the right person in these days and time, is the hardest thing to do. comuacation it the biggest reson for failers, remember when you have found the right person you will know, it will be the one you think of when you wake up threw out the day and just be for you fall a sleep.........

Not necessarily you should maybe communicate with your fiance and tell him what you are feeling this is probably the best way. Every human being has little things they don't tell their mate and it's not on purpose but simply because it's not consequential. As long as you are honest with each other about serious things in your life then that's what counts. Stop worrying so much!

Trust and good communication are two of the most important things in a relationship and it even tops good sex. If you have neither of these two you don't have a decent relationship and it will only deteriorate. I think you know in your heart it's time to kick this guy to the curb and move on. If you stay you will always wonder. Remember, when someone loves you they don't lie, cheat or make your life miserable. Aim for the stars girl!

I think it's time you gave your head a shake and realized if this man really loved you he'd have divorced his wife at least 8 1/2 years ago. Get some pride girl because all this boils down too is your a "kept woman!" He has no intentions of marrying you and don't buy these excuses: "My wife will take everything I own and the kids too"; "We are business partners and a divorce could really hurt me financially" or, "My wife is sick and really needs me." You have lost your pride and the good brains that God gave you. Kick this loser to the curb and get out there and meet a single or divorced guy. Remember, "The head of the snake always turns around and bites you on the butt!" This means, what you sow you shall reap. One day you may be married and you could be at the receiving end of a husband who is having an affair! call annonsmally and just tell her you have been having an affair with her husband. It does not matter if he knows you told her or not he is in the wrong by what he is doing! Make things right

On the face of it there are two possibilities: * 1 Either he is a habitual abuser and is looking for an excuse to get violent. * 2 Or he is really convinced that his partner has cheated on him and he has abused her. You know him and are in a much better position than me to decide which of these two it is - or whether it's something different.

It means he'd been cheating on you and was enjoying the benefits of having sex with two women until you dumped him. Don't go back to him. He's not worth it and doesn't care about you the way you deserve to be cared for. Two people are in a relationship. You continued sleeping with him even though there was no formal relationship anymore. If he can get you to do what he wants -- and you willingly do it -- then why should he be faithful? If you treat sex as a focal point in a relationship, you're almsot bound to lose it. You deserve more honesty and respect, both from yourself and from your partner. As for him, cut him loose; he onviously isn't able to be trusted and is unworthy of your time. it seems like your boyfriend really didnt want to be your boyfriend. he just wanted you to be there in his time of need and pleasure.