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Manners and Etiquette
The rules of social conduct, and procedures for interaction in polite society and official life. This is grease that makes the wheels of human congress turn smoothly. From the formal addressing of an envelope, to where to seat people at a dinner party, from the correct way to answer a business phone to the intricacies of wedding planning, we will try to find answers to all of your quandaries and do so in the most mannerly fashion possible.
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There was not an authentic Medieval Code of Chivalry as such - it was a moral system which went beyond rules of combat and introduced the concept of Chivalrous conduct - qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women. The Medieval Code of Chivalry was understood by all but a Code of Chivalry was documented in 'The Song of Roland' in the early Medieval period of William the Conqueror.
The 'Song of Roland' describes the 8th century Knights and battles of the Emperor Charlemagne and has been described as Charlemagne's Code of Chivalry. The idea of the Code of Chivalry were emphasised by the oaths that were sworn in Knighthood ceremonies. These sacred oaths were combined with the ideals of chivalry and with strict rules of etiquette and conduct. The idea and ideals of a Medieval Code of Chivalry was publicised in the poems, ballads, writings and literary works of Medieval authors. The myths of Arthurian Legends featuring King Arthur, Camelot and the Knights of the Round Table further strengthen the idea of a Medieval Code of Chivalry. The Arthurian legend revolves around the Code of Chivalry followed by the Knights of the Round Table - Honour, Honesty, Valour and Loyalty.
Medieval Code of Chivalry - the Oaths made during the Knighthood Ceremony
The entry into Knighthood was highly ritualised which started with a Night Vigil in the Chapel of the Castle
- The Knight swore an oath of allegiance to the lord and swore the following oaths:
- Never traffic with traitors
- Never give evil counsel to a lady, whether married or not; he must treat her with great respect and defend her against all
- To observe fasts and abstinences, and every day hear Mass and make an offering in Church
The Public ceremony of Knighthood followed a deeply religious ceremony with blessings from the Church to go forward and protect the church by the use of arms.
Medieval Code of Chivalry - the Crusades
The Church sanctified wars fought on behalf of the Church which were called Crusades. Every Crusader had to swear "to defend to his uttermost the weak, the orphan, the widow and the oppressed; he should be courteous, and women should receive his especial care". This further enhanced the ideals of the Code of Chivalry.
The Song of Roland - Charlemagne's Code of Chivalry
A Code of Chivalry was documented in 'The Song of Roland' in the early 11th Century Medieval period of William the Conqueror. The 'Song of Roland' describes the 8th Century Knights and battles of the Emperor Charlemagne and has been described as Charlemagne's Code of Chivalry. The duties of a Knight were described as follows:
To fear God and maintain His Church
To serve the liege lord in valour and faith
To protect the weak and defenceless
To give succour to widows and orphans
To refrain from the wanton giving of offence
To live by honour and for glory
To despise pecuniary reward
To fight for the welfare of all
To obey those placed in authority
To guard the honour of fellow knights
To eschew unfairness, meanness and deceit
To keep faith
At all times to speak the truth
To persevere to the end in any enterprise begun
To respect the honour of women
Never to refuse a challenge from an equal
Never to turn the back upon a foe.
Medieval Code of Chivalry - the Rules of Courtly Love
The following rules of Courtly Love were written by the 12th Century Frenchman, Andreas Capellanus. These 31 rules describe the pure romance of love but also describe love for another man's wife. This 'Courtly Love' is illustrated in the fictional story of Sir Lancelot and Queen Guinevere. But these rules of Courtly Love led to the downfall and execution of Queen Anne Boleyn, the wife of King Henry VIII - who lived his entire life putting in to practise the 'Rules of Courtly Love'.
I. Marriage is no real excuse for not loving.
II. He who is not jealous cannot love.
III. No one can be bound by a double love.
IV. It is well known that love is always increasing or decreasing.
V. That which a lover takes against the will of his beloved has no relish.
VI. Boys do not love until they arrive at the age of maturity.
VII. When one lover dies, a widowhood of two years is required of the survivor.
VIII. No one should be deprived of love without the very best of reasons.
IX. No one can love unless he is impelled by the persuasion of love.
X. Love is always a stranger in the home of avarice.
XI. It is not proper to love any woman whom one would be ashamed to seek to marry.
XII. A true lover does not desire to embrace in love anyone except his beloved.
XIII. When made public love rarely endures.
XIV. The easy attainment of love makes it of little value; difficulty of attainment makes it prized.
XV. Every lover regularly turns pale in the presence of his beloved.
XVI. When a lover suddenly catches sight of his beloved, his heart palpitates.
XVII. A new love puts to flight an old one.
XVIII. Good character alone makes any man worthy of love.
XIX. If love diminishes, it quickly fails and rarely revives.
XX. A man in love is always apprehensive.
XXI. Real jealousy always increases the feeling of love.
XXII. Jealousy, and therefore love, are increased when one suspects his beloved.
XXIII. He whom the thought of love vexes eats and sleeps very little.
XXIV. Every act of a lover ends in the thought of his beloved.
XXV. A true lover considers nothing good except what he thinks will please his beloved.
XXVI. Love can deny nothing to love.
XXVII. A lover can never have enough of the solaces of his beloved.
XXVIII. A slight presumption causes a lover to suspect his beloved.
XXIX. A man who is vexed by too much passion usually does not love.
XXX. A true lover is constantly and without intermission possessed by the thought of his beloved.
XXXI. Nothing forbids one woman being loved by two men or one man by two women.
source: ancientfortresses.org
Wrote by: Linda Alchin
Which of the following is not an example of nonverbal communication?
Pausing to let an important point sink in
How do you address a countess?
You address a count and countess in an invitation as: (example) Count John Doe and Countess Jane Doe. If the names are different because of their culture it may be: Count Raoul Sanchez and Countess Maria Christina Martinez. In Spain and some other countries it is etiquette to put all full Christian names before the surname.
What should you say to someone who is suicidal?
This is a question I actually feel somewhat qualified to answer. I can tell you that platitudes like, "But you have everything to live for" and almost-superstitious kneejerk reactions like "Don't say that!" are no help at all. I've received both, and have learned to keep suicidal thoughts to myself. The fact is suicidal thoughts are different from being "a suicidal person." People should first try to determine whether a person is depressed and thinking about suicide or is actually planning to commit suicide. Obviously, one situation is more urgent than the other, but I believe the first thing to emphasize in both cases is the need to WAIT. Circumstances change, sometimes on their own and sometimes through intervention and assistance. Perspective and mood can change as well, sometimes for the simplest of reasons, sometimes for no apparent reason. Acting on suicidal thoughts is premature. If one waits before acting, he or she can always decide to act at some future time. "What's the rush?" is the way I've always thought about it, and I'm still around at 57- sometimes much to my astonishment. From childhood, thinking about the possibility of committing suicide, ending it all, has been a kind of contingency plan if it all became too unbearable, a safety valve. For young people in particular, I think the WAIT AND SEE approach is best, followed up by any practical or medical and psychological help the person might want. I think that if I weren't so curious, so afraid I might miss something interesting- or something that just might change things for the better- I would have committed suicide long ago. The young and healthy have many possibilities in their future, even if they can't see that from their present vantage point. Life does have a habit of coming up with surprises, both good and bad, for both young and old. You can simply ask any suicidal person to have some patience, wait a while, and see what's up ahead before ending this lifetime. Nancy Well first of all. I would say hi and ask how you are. So Hi and how are you? I am doing ok. Your "question" when I first seen it caught my attention real quick. I have been in your shoes if it is you you are talking about. I want to tell you people say things like "It will get better" and "it is not worth it". If you do not mind I would like to kinda share my story. Right now I am 28. When I was 10 we were living in Illinois and my grandpa was real sick, we went to the hospital to be with him, and not too long after we got there he had died. Well we all went home, come to find out while we were at the hospital our house had burned down. My parents decided that we were going to move to Ohio to be closer to our other grandather. I did not want to move. That was the beginning of my depression. We moved to Ohio, by this time I was 11. I had a lot of problems with the kids that I went to school with because I was different and new. The town we moved to did not like anyone new. So throughout school the depression was a lot worse. Then when I was 17 I met someone from another town and we started to date. We were together about a year and the relationship was very abusive, and I stuck with it. I was hoping it would get better. I had turned 18 and the man I was with was called me and proceded to tell me on my birthday that he did not want to be with me anymore, that he was with someone else. My birthday is in January and we were engaged to be married in Febuary. So I just lost it. I went nuts and then I went in the cabinet and took a bottle of aspirin with the amount of 250 pills. I took them all. The people where I was at knew something was wrong with me. They called 911 amd then of course they took me to the er and pumped my stomach. After that I had become even more different. I was very angry all the time. Instead of doing anything to anyone, to make myself feel no mantal pain, I decided to start cutting myself and I was drinking and doing drugs all the time. Then I became pregnant. And that made me stop everything. The person I got pregnant by is now my current husband. We have been married for almost 10 years now. There are times that I still think about it. There are times I wish I could do it. But then I think about my kids and then my husband. Then I realize even though things are bad there are people out there who need me. Maybe they might not need me right then but they will need me as time goes on. I do not know your story, but I can almost guarantee that if you do not do it then maybe not now, but there will be a time when you are happy that you did not do it. I know stuff hurts and sometimes it can be real bad. The story I told you is just a very short and not fully detailed. There was a lot more to add but I did not think that would would want to hear every detail. I am not sure though. If there is anytime that you would like to talk to me you can email me or send me an im. My email is tbenner@columbus.rr.com and my yahoo is plathora_chienne1 and aim is Treasa381 Like I said if you ever want to talk I am here to listen. Sometimes all someone needs is a friend, or sometimes just an ear. If you need that, then I am here. Please feel free to contact me. I hope to hear from you soon. Treasa "What should you say to someone who is suicidal?" Simple. How can I help you? Do you need for me to listen to you? What do you need or want? Best Wishes What should you say to someone who is suicidal? My heart breaks each time i think over my discoveries. I've had dreams and flashes of the terror you must of suffered. There is so much you could comfortably shared with me, and so much loss of time and unnecessary pain could've been avoided. My brother has made several suicide attempts. I have alot experience dealing with the matter and in a united family effort can help you overcome this; given first if it's true. Dear God, I had no idea just evil religious people are, yet claim to be above those of us who manage very well outside of their walls. I am waiting for you. ANSWER If someone might be feeling suicidal play the song 'Dont Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin this might work because the first week it came out the suicidal rate dropped massivley If someone is suicidal, first of all. Keep your eye on them. Make sure they don't get worse. Secondly, you should really just make small talk. Sometimes they really get annoyed if you keep trying to make conversation. But if you don't talk to them at all, that's even worse. Just take it slow.
What does the yellow roses with the red tip on it look like?
Well, I'm not sure, but I think they look like...yellow roses with red tips. :)
How can you poop in your pants?
drink alot of something or laugh alot then you will have to go then you just stand and pee
(optional) do the poty dance and then pee pee your pants
Giving offense; causing displeasure or resentment; displeasing; annoying; as, offensive words., Giving pain or unpleasant sensations; disagreeable; revolting; noxious; as, an offensive smell; offensive sounds., Making the first attack; assailant; aggressive; hence, used in attacking; -- opposed to defensive; as, an offensive war; offensive weapons., The state or posture of one who offends or makes attack; aggressive attitude; the act of the attacking party; -- opposed to defensive.
How might you use nonverbal communication to let a friend know that you are upset?
The only time you would use nonverbal communication to let a friend know you are upset is if you are with a crowd of friends or in a public place and you can either frown at them; shake your head in a gesture and way ahead or give them an unseen poke in the arm to let them know to simmer down if they become embarrassing. The best communication of course if verbal communication to let your friend know you are very upset and why and that should be done privately between you when no one else is around, but it's important you do so.
Tom was admired for his originality, spontaneity and creativity.
What traits does a person have when he is able to hold such loyalty of the people?
- Well honesty for starters and to care about others.
- A person that stands behind what they believe in even if they must stand alone; honesty; really understanding what individuals are going through no matter what their race or economic situation. They do the best they can to personally touch those that are loyal to them by giving them their time. Being wise enough to stand back and look at a complicated situation before making a judgment call on that specific situation. Having the wisdom to know what individuals are trying to pull the wool over their eyes and to keep their enemies even closer than their true friends, yet have faith in peace in the world or at least the corner of the world in which they live. This is what has made great leaders (small or great) in the past and not all of them are men! To listen and not always listen to one's own voice and realize other's have wisdom to share. To be wise enough to shake the old apple tree every so often and see what rotten apples hit the ground and then get rid of them!
How to deal with daughter-in-law with no manners or respect?
if you dont think that she has manners or respect, teach her how you want her to act. show her that you are her step mom and you have the athority to tell her what to do and how to act. maybe she wont listen, but you need to show her that you do it for the best
As a mother-in-law, unfortunately you do not have the authority to actually enforce changes in her behaviour, however it is my experience that if you lead by example, and reward any efforts and improvements she makes, she may well change her ways.
Try to remember, she is your son's wife, and subsequently his problem. Manners are making a comeback in the "real world" and if your son is upwardly mobile, it will become necessary for her to change. Otherwise, as my grandmother taught me, manners are for people you do not like or do not know, so be extra polite to her.
Can you wear a long black tie and cumberbund?
Absolutely, matching your cummerbund to your tie is always important and you can't go wrong with black on black. But if you feel the neck tie is a little too long and obstructs the cumberbund you could always throw on as black bow tie, which is also a good look.
Should bridesmaids buy a wedding gift?
The bridesmaid can give the bride a gift on the wedding day. However, sometimes brides will have a bridal shower, and if so, then that is when the present can be given.
Why is it considered rude to arrive on time when it comes to social functions?
It isn't rude to show up on time, but some people feel that arriving 10 to 15 minutes late is a courtesy that allows the host(ess) to finish up any last minute details. Any later than that starts to fall into the rude zone. Showing up early is sometimes considered rude too, as it catches people unprepared. If you are wondering if they might need some assistance setting up, it is always better to call and ask first.
How do you write a sympathy letter for the loss of my sister in-laws mother?
* Grieving is an individuals journey alone and there is nothing you can say at a time like this to mend the sadness and loss your sister-in-law is going through, so buy a nice card with a simple or elaborate verse and before you sign your name put 'if there is anything I can do please just call me. I am here for you.' MEAN IT! After a week to ten days have passed you could phone your sister-in-law and ask how she is doing. Let her talk and express how she feels and just listen.
Essential features of comedy of manners?
- William Wycherley: The Country Wife
- George Etherege: The Man of Mode
- William Congreve: The Way of the World
- Richard Sheridan: The School for Scandal
- Aphra Behn: The Rover
- Richard Steele: The Conscious Lovers
These are all examples for the Comedy of Manners, also called Restoration Comedy or Comedy of Wits. When King Charles II was restored to the English throne in 1660, the theatres enjoyed their newly gained freedom after a theatre ban of several years. Plot and language in so-called Restoration Comedy, also known as Comedy of Wit or Comedy of Manners, are set apart from other comedies through the specific use of Wit which forms the basis of Restoration comedy. Wit cannot be regarded as a stable concept, however, and its definition and use evolved over time. It started out as a philosophical concept, but quickly found its place in comedy and a further distinction between true and false Wit took place.
See the related link below for a detailed analysis of the importance of Wit in the Comedy of Manners and how the concept changed over time:
What does pathetic appeals mean?
Pathetic appeals means "Pathos " or feelings. EX. A charitable appeal shows pathetic children to move you emotionally to make a donation. In drama, a pathetic appeal is one that shows and/ or provokes emotion .
How do you tell someone you're not interested?
Get them alone and tell them that you like them but you don't want to have a relationship with them, do it gently though. If they are a friend tell them you don't want to damage the friendship.
How do you sign a sympathy card to an employee?
As a business executive, manager, or supervisor, acknowledging your employee's sorrows is a polite and beneficial act. However, over-asserting your concern may make the employee feel embarrassed, particularly should the death have do do with anything unseemly such as a criminal act, suicide, etc.
A simple communication, which encompasses all of the employees, might be:
Dear John,
We are saddened to learn of the passing of your mother. The loss of a parent is one of the greatest challenges we can experience in our lives.
If there is anything we may do to make these days ahead easier for you, please do not hesitate to let me know.
You remain in our thoughts
Sincerely.
An alternate, where you prefer not to address the specific of the situation might be:
Dear Laura
I recognise that this is a challenging time for you. I wanted you to know that if there is anything I might due to assist you during this period, please do not feel hesitant to contact me at any time. Even if it's just the need to chat with an impartial and confidential ear, I would be pleased to provide time.
We never know what challenges we will face in our lives. Sometimes, just finding that small ray of light ahead is all we can cling to. But the journey is always better when we know there are those around who care.
You remain in our thoughts (and Prayers)
Sincerely,
Sadly, No, Love is something you must constantly work on. like a painting, you start with a canvas.(the guy or girl) but with each stroke of paint you add.(A date or time spent with that person) it builds into whatever you hope it could be.(a relationship) but remember that there are two painters adding to the same painting. Either one can screw it up.
When a guy calls a girl sister does that mean he just sees her as a friend and not romantically?
* There are two terms for 'sister.' One is an old slang term used up until the 1950's. Example: 'Listen sister, I had this taxi before you.' If a person has a friend of the opposite sex and they refer to them as 'sister' then yes, that means that person is endearing to them; thinks of them as a sister with no romance involved.
Why are nextdoor neighbors so rude?
my neighbours smoke so much that i have to wear a gas mask when i want to go outside......and the kid that lives opposite has a peer huge chin so i have to be careful for that too.
