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Manners and Etiquette
The rules of social conduct, and procedures for interaction in polite society and official life. This is grease that makes the wheels of human congress turn smoothly. From the formal addressing of an envelope, to where to seat people at a dinner party, from the correct way to answer a business phone to the intricacies of wedding planning, we will try to find answers to all of your quandaries and do so in the most mannerly fashion possible.
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How should a new student introduce him or herself in front of the class?
You can also add any special interests or hobbies. This may encourage some people to reach out to you and bring you into their social circle. If you are in Public school, dress neutrally til you see what the prevailing style is in your new place[ only if you care ] .
How do you tackle bad neighbors?
The answer so depends on what makes him a bad neighbor. If there are issues with law breaking (loud music, parties), you can contact the police. If there are drugs being bought and sold, note the license plates and pass them on. If there are health issues (garbage, too many animals) the county should be able to help. If the neighbor is just not likeable or is cranky, try to avoid them and keep whatever it is that bothers them about you (messy yard, too many cars, kids) under the radar as much as you can. Treat them with respect and perhaps you will get at least that back. If you try to get to know the person, be nice, sincere, and honest. Don't do anything to tick him off, and whatever you do, don't get him riled up! Try to be nice to him, see where it goes from there. He could be a really nice guy, but just secretive about his ways. Be as friendly as you can, or as friendly as he'll allow you to be. Send him gifts, and make sure they know you appreciate them as a person. Make them feel welcome, and don't be shy about it. Keep at it, and you may even gain a new friend!
Technically, yes, being that Canada is in the continent of America. However, they are not US citizens (colloquially known as Americans).
To recap, Canadians are Americans in the sense that they come from the continent called America (more specifically North America), but they are not USA people.
Answer:
Equally to the above, someone from Brazil, or Chile, or Peru, is American as well; they are South American.
Traditions for those from the United States to claim themselves as the only 'americans' has evolved over time, possibly due to the limited exposure US residents have to geography, social studies, and world-media through local and state controlled public schools.
Schools, following curriculum established by an individual state, rather than nationwide curriculum standards, have often been, and remain, woefully inadequate and lacking in education modules which encompass studies outside of the shores of the US. Evidence of this has been occasionally presented in comical terms through comedians such as Jay Leno, where local americans were asked to identify where the US was on a world map, or locate where a certain state was located as well as placing drawing pins on countries they felt the US should target with bombs.
Dona
In Spanish, Senora is more the equivalent of 'Mrs' or madam, and Dona is a title of even more respect, often given to the grande dame/matriarch/Lady of the house, neighborhood, or town. (Both Spanish words should have tildes over the N's, but Wiki does not seem to have non-English special characters.)
Why do some people blackout and others do not?
Blackouts can occur when a person's blood alcohol level rises rapidly, impairing the brain's ability to form new memories. Factors such as the rate of alcohol consumption, tolerance levels, genetics, and overall health can influence whether someone experiences a blackout or not. Individuals who drink at a faster pace or have a lower tolerance for alcohol are more likely to blackout.
The word cyclical means to go in cycles. Pair it up with nature and you are looking at patterns and developments that re-occur on a regular basis in nature. For example the life CYCLE of a plant is the same over and over with other plants of the same species.
A woman's menstrual period is cyclical since it occurs approx every 28 days.
Anything that re-occurs naturally in nature on a regular basis is cyclical nature.
What should you wear to a military funeral if you are separated?
You may wear your uniform if you are a retiree. If you belong to the VFW or AmVets, etc, you may wear your post jackets and caps. Others, any dark suit will be fine.
Why are some people shy and others not?
Some people may be "shy" or lonely because they might have an anxiety, social anxiety, depression, some other type of disorder, or a combination of. These disorders may affect their ability to socialize or live well. People who feel they may have symptoms of a phycological disorders should seek consultation and\or treatment from a professional(such as a doctor or phycologist) A.S.A.P. These disorders can be treated with different types therapy such as cognitive therapy, exposure therapy. They can be treated with medication. Or a combination of therapy and medication. Lots of people are quick to say someone is shy when in reality the "shy" person may have a physcological disorder which probally could and should be treated A.S.A.P
If you desire more information on this subject there are many books availble on mental disorders. There is also lots of information on the internet.
Again, if you feel you may have any symptoms of some type of mental disorder(anxiety, depression, or other), I urge you to seek help from a professional who can help you to live better.
A group of best friends are sitting at a round table in a restaurant. They're discussing a hot topic. One of the friends is sitting in the corner not talking. Most people would say this friend is timid, inhibited, and/or passive.
They would label this friend, "shy."
However, couldn't this friend be someone who is tired of talking when no one is listening?
Couldn't this friend be someone who has no need to prove their knowledge of the subject matter?
Couldn't this friend be sympathetic enough not to insult the intelligence of others?
Listen
People don't listen. It's rare for one to speak before another breaks through one's sentence with a rebuttal. If, by chance, one gets a complete thought out, others hear the words but only absorb parts that suit them.
Shy people hate to talk in vain. They would rather use the time and energy for constructive things and constructive people.
Learn
People talk a lot so everyone thinks they're intelligent. For them, it's never enough to know they are intelligent. They must prove it.
Shy people are content knowing they are intelligent, and have no need to prove their intelligence. They wonder if other's mouths get tired of babbling on about things. Their ears get tired of listening to the babble.
Understand
Ever hear of the phrase, "If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all?" This is the motto of all shy people.
They would rather be silent instead of using demure insults or obscene language to get their point across.
Conclusion
So, you see, shy people have been misunderstood for decades. The next time a shy person is quiet, ask them, "What are you really thinking?" They may answer truthfully. They may answer with "nothing," in keeping with their motto. After this revelation, don't you wish you were shy?
((information taken from http://goinside.com/99/10/shy.html))
It is quite hard to explain why people are shy, there is no real way to explain. It is also part of being human, I am shy but I dont let it bother me too much.
Your friend is in some trouble - how can you convince her to keep faith in herself?
Build her confidence.
She is obviously feeling very low, and doesnt think much about herself and she needs a good friend by her side.
Build her self-esteem.
Tell her what she is wearing or how she did her hair looks very nice.
Tell her that you belive in her so she should belive in herself.
Nonverbal language makes up what percent of communication?
Conservatively speaking, anywhere from 60-90%, depending on the situation and the individual. Either way, it's the majority of communication that is non-verbal. Dr. Albert Mehrabian, author of Silent Messages claimed that 7% is conveyed through words, 38% through certain vocal elements, and 55% through non-verbal elements (facial expressions, posture, gestures, etc.)
Someone who is always-consistantly lying.. Everything that comes out of their mouth is a lie. I would know, i dated one!!
Why do some people blame others and claim to be victims?
People who continually "pass the buck" or blame others suffer usually from a sense of worthlessness, or low self esteem. Sometimes this may be a direct result of improper or negligent parenting, whereby these were never able to establish a sense of self-importance which eventual translates into deprivation on some level or another. Sometimes these individuals may be missing a parent do to divorce, a death of a spouse or a parent who "ran-off" and never took the time to nurture the child. The remaining parent may be irresponsible, and fail to do their job also. Never the less, there comes a point in every man and woman's life where they have to come to grips with these unfortunate life experiences and take responsibility for themselves. While it may be easy to point a finger at those who refuse to be held accountable, at the same time we must recognize the huge deficit or loss that lead to this behavior. Striking a healthy balance may lead to avoidance or walking away!
While we must remain objective concerning these, we must also refuse to feed into this behavior. By doing so, we actually assist the "blame-passers" in continuing their assault on others. Eventually these individuals can wreck others lives because they remain bitter, unaccountable and below the surface broods an anger like a ticking-bomb waiting to go-off. Usually these manifest a passive-aggressiveness that initially helps create a mask or facade they hide behind. Often blaming others for their inability to change, they not only become "blame-passer's", but "life-wreckers" as well. Many times they pass on this illness to their own offspring. In there refusal to be held accountable, they develop a selfishness that denies others the chance to grow. Their children often become replica's of themselves. They destroy families, children, and have only one goal: "PASS-IT-ON".
From these avoidance may be the most effective management tool. Not sowing into their sickness, may allow their fire to be put out. Usually they look for other victims, being victims themselves, and through this unhealthy-co-dependency, their legacy lives on. Having many dark moments of secrecy and self-betrayal, thet cannot be trusted, as their perception is mostly cloudy even on a clear day. Like a ripe disease this virus attacks the weak, the innocent and strikes at the very peace of those around them. Always, looking for someone else to pay the price of their own ineptness, their own self-loathing--they lose relationships and trade healthy friends for those who are of the same jaded nature.
Their stubborn refusal to take responsibility will eventually mean the loss of a spouse due to unfaithfulness, the loss of a job, and family members who end up turning away. Always being hunted and playing the victim allows their ego's to be stroked and coddled. When others are forced into playing their game--this actually gives them the fuel to believe in their lies. From such an encounter, if one has the ability--reveal this behavior and refuse to sow into it. If these rise up in anger--walk away and avoid until the time comes when they face their sickness.
Does the rose represent the United States of America?
The rose is the floral symbol of the United States of America. It was declared to be the floral symbol on November 20th, 1986 by Ronald Reagan.
History of table napkin folding?
Napkin folding first started in the middle ages under the rule of Louis XIV. During the last century it became more popular and common around the world.
How big does a round table have to be to seat 8?
A minimum of 76" to 80" wide, to give servers ample room to serve, and guests ample room to eat without keeping their elbows to their sides. It's OK to have a " kids table" for the 8 and unders. Kids are more aware of the social order nowadays, and I think any older than this would resent it.
- Snobs have no appeal whatsoever and it's useless in society. Snobs are classified as thinking they are better than others; self absorbed; ego maniacal and others never get to know the real person. When a person is a snob they think they are better than everyone else and can be hurtful to others. Snobs are boring! A good personality with good wisdom and sense of other people's feelings goes a long way in all aspects of society. Don't get confused with a shy person being a snob. Some people are uncomfortable in certain situations. Try talking to them and you'll soon find out if they are just shy or are a true snob.
Snob appeal is widely used in advertising , by suggesting that if you own this car, or that designer's clothes. or live in an exclusive area, these things will somehow make you better than others. People who succumb to snob appeal are generally shallow , materialistic, and often insecure.
What do you call a good mannered person?
People with good manners stick out above others that don't. No matter how laid back some of us can feel good manners are a must! You just never know when you are going to need them. You can be yourself around your family and friends, but when it comes to the workplace, doing personal business, at high end parties, eating at fine restaurants, etc., then you'd better have good manners. It's called ETIQUETTE! These are some topics people should know about manners a the right conduct: * http://www.answers.com/topic/politeness-niceness - a courteous manner that respects accepted social usage * http://www.answers.com/topic/urbanity-1 - polished courtesy; elegance of manner * http://www.answers.com/topic/graciousness-1 - excellence of manners or social conduct * http://www.answers.com/topic/chivalry-gallantry-politesse - courtesy towards women * http://www.answers.com/topic/deference-respect-respectfulness - courteous regard for people's feelings * http://www.answers.com/topic/civility-1 - formal or perfunctory politeness ----
When senior father dies does junior son become senior?
I think when they get the junior or senior added to their name, it's permanent, except it's not written on their birth certificate.
Is it proper to wear a Law Enforcement or Military Dress Uniform to a civilian's funeral?
Yes, you can - as long as you are not part of an official military burial detail or honor guard.
However - in respect to the military service of the deceased, it would be honorable to wear your uniform.
How do you address a Lady when writing?
* If you have just met this lady and do not know her well you can still call her by her first name or, if you are dating you could say 'Dear Jane' and continue on from there. If you both are new to the relationship then sign it 'Fondly Yours' and sign it with your first name only. If this lady is just an acquaintance and elderly then you should address her as: Dear Mrs. Doe
What do you call a person who refuses to spend money even if it is necessary?
- People who constantly penny pinch even when there is no need are generally called 'misers' or 'cheap.' The cause may because they had little money while growing up (came from a very poor family) or, they have a psychological problem where they have a need to hoard their money.
Is Success is all about human relations?
Someone once told me,
at the end of your life when you are old, fragile, perhaps sitting in a wheelchair, nursing home, or on life support, what will be important to you?
Will it be what you've accomplished at your job?
Sure, it's great that you drove the Revenue of your company to all time highs or that you've spoke publicly at seminars around the world, you were great but that is over now- you are not associated with your job anymore so was it worth skipping the ballet recital for a meeting?
Will it be the money you've made? so what your wheelchair is made of white gold and your trips to the hospital are traveled in a hummer? that won't bring you a deep fulfilling happiness
Will it be all the Knowledge you've acquired? will the massive hours of studying, and research keep your heart and soul warm at night?
NO.
Success will be the genuine love you feel by the people that surround you, If you spend the time to hang out with friends, help your neighbors, bond with your family and children, take the time out to ask your mailman or gardener how their day is going then , at the end of your life when people are visiting, calling, surrounding and spending time with you -
that is when you feel in return the warmth you have cultivated and nurtured for yourself and others for so many years, this is to have succeeded
What is the proper way to butter and eat bread?
- The proper way to butter and eat bread is to take a knife and place it in soft butter (hard butter will tear the bread) and cover the bread with butter up to the crust of the bread; then one can either cut the bread in half or eat it as a whole piece. Etiquette, when out in public dictates that one should cut the bread in half.
What is a American style table setting?
Good Manners
Waiting until everyone is seated and served to begin eating
Putting the napkin in your lap
Placing the knife across the top of your plate when not in use
Pushing chair up close to table
Chewing with mouth closed
Thanking the host/hostess for the meal
Poor Manners
Belching or other gas passing
Elbows on table
Reaching across others for food
Discussing anything that comes out of any hole of the body
Slurping
There was not an authentic Medieval Code of Chivalry as such - it was a moral system which went beyond rules of combat and introduced the concept of Chivalrous conduct - qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women. The Medieval Code of Chivalry was understood by all but a Code of Chivalry was documented in 'The Song of Roland' in the early Medieval period of William the Conqueror.
The 'Song of Roland' describes the 8th century Knights and battles of the Emperor Charlemagne and has been described as Charlemagne's Code of Chivalry. The idea of the Code of Chivalry were emphasised by the oaths that were sworn in Knighthood ceremonies. These sacred oaths were combined with the ideals of chivalry and with strict rules of etiquette and conduct. The idea and ideals of a Medieval Code of Chivalry was publicised in the poems, ballads, writings and literary works of Medieval authors. The myths of Arthurian Legends featuring King Arthur, Camelot and the Knights of the Round Table further strengthen the idea of a Medieval Code of Chivalry. The Arthurian legend revolves around the Code of Chivalry followed by the Knights of the Round Table - Honour, Honesty, Valour and Loyalty.
Medieval Code of Chivalry - the Oaths made during the Knighthood Ceremony
The entry into Knighthood was highly ritualised which started with a Night Vigil in the Chapel of the Castle
- The Knight swore an oath of allegiance to the lord and swore the following oaths:
- Never traffic with traitors
- Never give evil counsel to a lady, whether married or not; he must treat her with great respect and defend her against all
- To observe fasts and abstinences, and every day hear Mass and make an offering in Church
The Public ceremony of Knighthood followed a deeply religious ceremony with blessings from the Church to go forward and protect the church by the use of arms.
Medieval Code of Chivalry - the Crusades
The Church sanctified wars fought on behalf of the Church which were called Crusades. Every Crusader had to swear "to defend to his uttermost the weak, the orphan, the widow and the oppressed; he should be courteous, and women should receive his especial care". This further enhanced the ideals of the Code of Chivalry.
The Song of Roland - Charlemagne's Code of Chivalry
A Code of Chivalry was documented in 'The Song of Roland' in the early 11th Century Medieval period of William the Conqueror. The 'Song of Roland' describes the 8th Century Knights and battles of the Emperor Charlemagne and has been described as Charlemagne's Code of Chivalry. The duties of a Knight were described as follows:
To fear God and maintain His Church
To serve the liege lord in valour and faith
To protect the weak and defenceless
To give succour to widows and orphans
To refrain from the wanton giving of offence
To live by honour and for glory
To despise pecuniary reward
To fight for the welfare of all
To obey those placed in authority
To guard the honour of fellow knights
To eschew unfairness, meanness and deceit
To keep faith
At all times to speak the truth
To persevere to the end in any enterprise begun
To respect the honour of women
Never to refuse a challenge from an equal
Never to turn the back upon a foe.
Medieval Code of Chivalry - the Rules of Courtly Love
The following rules of Courtly Love were written by the 12th Century Frenchman, Andreas Capellanus. These 31 rules describe the pure romance of love but also describe love for another man's wife. This 'Courtly Love' is illustrated in the fictional story of Sir Lancelot and Queen Guinevere. But these rules of Courtly Love led to the downfall and execution of Queen Anne Boleyn, the wife of King Henry VIII - who lived his entire life putting in to practise the 'Rules of Courtly Love'.
I. Marriage is no real excuse for not loving.
II. He who is not jealous cannot love.
III. No one can be bound by a double love.
IV. It is well known that love is always increasing or decreasing.
V. That which a lover takes against the will of his beloved has no relish.
VI. Boys do not love until they arrive at the age of maturity.
VII. When one lover dies, a widowhood of two years is required of the survivor.
VIII. No one should be deprived of love without the very best of reasons.
IX. No one can love unless he is impelled by the persuasion of love.
X. Love is always a stranger in the home of avarice.
XI. It is not proper to love any woman whom one would be ashamed to seek to marry.
XII. A true lover does not desire to embrace in love anyone except his beloved.
XIII. When made public love rarely endures.
XIV. The easy attainment of love makes it of little value; difficulty of attainment makes it prized.
XV. Every lover regularly turns pale in the presence of his beloved.
XVI. When a lover suddenly catches sight of his beloved, his heart palpitates.
XVII. A new love puts to flight an old one.
XVIII. Good character alone makes any man worthy of love.
XIX. If love diminishes, it quickly fails and rarely revives.
XX. A man in love is always apprehensive.
XXI. Real jealousy always increases the feeling of love.
XXII. Jealousy, and therefore love, are increased when one suspects his beloved.
XXIII. He whom the thought of love vexes eats and sleeps very little.
XXIV. Every act of a lover ends in the thought of his beloved.
XXV. A true lover considers nothing good except what he thinks will please his beloved.
XXVI. Love can deny nothing to love.
XXVII. A lover can never have enough of the solaces of his beloved.
XXVIII. A slight presumption causes a lover to suspect his beloved.
XXIX. A man who is vexed by too much passion usually does not love.
XXX. A true lover is constantly and without intermission possessed by the thought of his beloved.
XXXI. Nothing forbids one woman being loved by two men or one man by two women.
source: ancientfortresses.org
Wrote by: Linda Alchin
